Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[VertigoKnight]

Sounds like they have low self esteem or low options.

A lot of brehs are taking what they can get.

Could never be me.

A lot of men have it and I'm saddened that a lot of black men seem to have it.

But I'd rather be alone than ever settle for a woman looking like that. Much less be seen out in public with her. I know some men don't care, but other people will see the type of woman you are out and about with and judge you accordingly. Especially other women.

What do I look like if I work out and take care of my health and my significant other has let herself go or even worse is already over huge and only getting bigger.

Was at the beach yesterday and that's always an interesting place to people-watch. The chick I went with was looking good as hell in her one-piece.
toned and in shape and within herself she always wants to look her best for herself.

That's a mindset I love. I don't have to tell you to look your best it's hard-wired into her already.

 

[Ahadi]

A lot of men have it and I'm saddened that a lot of black men seem to have it.

But I'd rather be alone than ever settle for a woman looking like that. Much less be seen out in public with her. I know some men don't care, but other people will see the type of woman you are out and about with and judge you accordingly. Especially other women.

What do I look like if I work out and take care of my health and my significant other has let herself go or even worse is already over huge and only getting bigger.

Was at the beach yesterday and that's always an interesting place to people-watch. The chick I went with was looking good as hell in her one-piece.
toned and in shape and within herself she always wants to look her best for herself.

That's a mindset I love. I don't have to tell you to look your best it's hard-wired into her already.

Completely agree. She has to match your mindset. She should be thinking to herself

“I want to be presentable for not only myself , but for my man”

I could be a friend, colleague, whoever, you wan to make your man look as great as possible.

As for others judging you, it’s the truth. It’s the difference between others respecting you and extending your value. I’ve been in situations where I was with a good looking & the world looks at you as if you’re even more special lol.

(Complimentary appetizers, or bottle of wine, free entry / skip the line, upgrades to first class, ppl walking up to you and saying “you’re a great looking couple”(especially if you’re both black), guys walking up to you wanting to be your friend, handing over their business cards, etc)

You’ll be respected more with a nice car than with one that is half-decent / broken down.

 

[International Playa]

I got catfished brehs,

Shawty been using old pics on hinge, when we met up for the date she was obese, bbw. I just stayed & went through with the date. Convo was good, date ended & she suggested a second date

How do I let her down gently without being an a$$hole

 

[RaspberryFitted]

I got catfished brehs,

Shawty been using old pics on hinge, when we met up for the date she was obese, bbw. I just stayed & went through with the date. Convo was good, date ended & she suggested a second date

How do I let her down gently without being an a$$hole

If you agreed to the 1st date, then she obviously wasn’t that much of a catfish. You wasn’t obligated to go thru with it, nor are you obligated to go on a 2nd.

 

[MikelArteta]

A lot of men have it and I'm saddened that a lot of black men seem to have it.

But I'd rather be alone than ever settle for a woman looking like that. Much less be seen out in public with her. I know some men don't care, but other people will see the type of woman you are out and about with and judge you accordingly. Especially other women.

What do I look like if I work out and take care of my health and my significant other has let herself go or even worse is already over huge and only getting bigger.

Was at the beach yesterday and that's always an interesting place to people-watch. The chick I went with was looking good as hell in her one-piece.
toned and in shape and within herself she always wants to look her best for herself.

That's a mindset I love. I don't have to tell you to look your best it's hard-wired into her already.

might just be they needed that PR. I know a few black brehs who were working at resorts in cuba/jamaica and wifed up a fat white whale to get to Canada.

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

I just realized I was 10 the first time I interacted with a Latina my age and 16 the first time I saw one that wasn’t fat.

The girl I met when I was 10 barely spoke English, was only there for a month, and I’m 90% sure she got deported

The lady I met when I was 16 was 37 years old with a kid and wasn’t even from here, she was from Georgia. That was also the first and only non-Mexican Latina I’ve talked to.

I know tons and tons of Latinos though, I work with one and a few are my neighbors.

On a side note, I saw a bunch of Indians this weekend while I was out on Mrtyle Beach. I think the half white ones I see online kind of had me convinced id see a lot were dimes.

 

[Ahadi]

Women who leave stuff at your place

 

[Lurkio]

this is something I’ve learnt recently…getting her Snapchat is better than getting her number…

Young brehs reading this shoot for her Snapchat… u can txt her on there plus u see what type of person she is by what she posts…and if it don’t work out it’s gonna recommend girls that are near you

 

[Dance_Like_A_Fiend]

this is something I’ve learnt recently…getting her Snapchat is better than getting her number…

Young brehs reading this shoot for her Snapchat… u can txt her on there plus u see what type of person she is by what she posts…and if it don’t work out it’s gonna recommend girls that are near you

Wait, I thought it was Tiktok and WhatsApp.

 

[Tres Leches]

I got catfished brehs,

Shawty been using old pics on hinge, when we met up for the date she was obese, bbw. I just stayed & went through with the date. Convo was good, date ended & she suggested a second date

How do I let her down gently without being an a$$hole

breh just tell her you had a nice time but didnt feel a connection

 

[VertigoKnight]

I got catfished brehs,

Shawty been using old pics on hinge, when we met up for the date she was obese, bbw. I just stayed & went through with the date. Convo was good, date ended & she suggested a second date

How do I let her down gently without being an a$$hole

Tbh she straight up deceived you. How people do this shyt with no shame.

What was the first date? A coffee meetup or food?

 

[The ADD]

I learned to deal with rejection but when its somebody i really like,who i had my eye on 4 awhile. I still get that "not good enough feeling". I don't know if its because its somebody I'm invested in or because that was the only female I was talking to

Sounds like you hyped it up in your head more than anything:

• Really liked
• Had my eye on 4 awhile
• Invested in

Need more details but reads as if you played it slow and then got shot down

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

Tbh she straight up deceived you. How people do this shyt with no shame.

What was the first date? A coffee meetup or food?

First and last time I got deceived was when I was 17 years old. Extremely obese, chain-smoking cacette who lived by herself in a different city. I was stuck in her apartment until morning, dodging her attempts to initiate sex

She made me rub her arm tho.

Then she had the nerve to call me a few days later like we was cool. I hung up the phone and never talked to her again

 

[International Playa]

Tbh she straight up deceived you. How people do this shyt with no shame.

What was the first date? A coffee meetup or food?

Yup, it was the first date, it was a board & Arcade games spot, something quick & cheap.

That's why first dates should be very cheap & minimal investment. You can quickly ended it if its not going as expected.

 

[The ADD]

Yup, it was the first date, it was a board & Arcade games spot, something quick & cheap.

That's why first dates should be very cheap & minimal investment. You can quickly ended it if its not going as expected.

I kept it at coffee or drinks. Even quicker and less investment for both.