take this part and flip it around. In a nutshell, if you had her attributes and she had your attributes, do you think she would even look in your direction?
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take this part and flip it around. In a nutshell, if you had her attributes and she had your attributes, do you think she would even look in your direction?
MeekMillBarber
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It was the a** bruhs.. The ass was just so damn fat i couldn't help but want to smash.. Problem was i started actually liking some of her personality traits and liking her. Yet i can't figure why i can't figure why's this one the one i can't get to change it up and conform to my expectation and standards.
Kenny West
Veteran
So your not letting your girl go to the club with her friends
Im not wifing a club rat in the first place. Contrary to what the media feeds you, there are women who don't like the bar and club scene.
Kenny West
Veteran
Ya..fat ass and average face I'm guessing. Precisely the gameplaying type. I got a weakness for fat asses myself, I see where u coming from
Tres Leches
Empire Business
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
You must be a darn fool to not beleve tv dont influence women. All the way from Oprah to (insert reality show) TV has been brainwashing women since beginning of time.
im not talking about going out 3 times a week but once in a while is acceptablerapdonttweet
Pro
Is this chick your girlfriend? From what you describe she's just someone you've had sex with and gone out with a few times. You've got to actually have the relationship talk before you can consider her your girl. Sounds like you're just a casual fling. If so, you've got no rights in regard to what she's doing with other dudes. Females can and will date multiple guys before they find the one they want to have a serious relationship with.
Now if she is your girlfriend, its worse in a way. The fact she's canceling dates to go out with friends means she values their time more than yours and you aren't a priority. The fact she's flirting on social networking sites means she gets off on male attention. Matter of fact, unless its facebook I'd be suspicious of her even being on a social networking site in the first place. You've already brought up these issues and she's blown you off. She doesn't respect you and its time to either move on or settle for her being a casual fukk that you will probably share.
That's a broad you don't take seriously in the first place. She's an attention whore who is flirting with tons of guys. If you're getting mad at what you're seeing on her public space on facebook, you'll be livid if you ever got to see what's going on in her messages. She's one of those who is chopping it with you and a whole bunch of other dudes at once. That whole friend stuff is an excuse for her to make time for other men. If you really got it going on like you say, you'll drop her and keep it pushing. A big booty ain't nothing to a boss. There's too many women out there to be dealing with a little woman that wants to play games. Man, being single and having your peace of mind is even better than that.
if a chick isn't educated (meaning have at least a bachelors degree),regardless of how cute she looks, it'll be very difficult for her to get me all sprung over her. u goto learn to spend ur energy on chicks who can actually add value to ur life.
a chick like the one ur crushing on is a liability.
Sierra Mist
Banned
I need to chill sometimes. 
Suspect: Girl i'm dating for the past month and a half.
Case: We were at a Superbowl party last weekend and there was a Deion Sanders commercial where he's running amok and playing on the field and doing cool shiit (i forget the brand/commercial name).
Any who, my girl points out:
Her: Wow, that's amazing, i didn't think he was capable of doing such feats.
Me: Well, you do know that he's in impeccable shape cuz he USED to be in the NFL/MLB.
Her: Yeah i know. He had surgery in his knees. I know he used to be a ball player.
Me: :surprised face: How the hell did you know that?
Her: They showcased it on that reality show he had on the Oxygen network.
Me: :sad cam face:
The reason why i reacted the way i did (discretely of course) is cuz i try not to fukk with women who watch these blasted "reality-based" programming; the propaganda can't be healthy to a woman's psyche as it creates unrealistic expectations and distorted ideas on what's to be included in a relationship (i.e. shiit that i can't live up to).
I know that may be a stretch like armstrong... but it made me nervous when she brought that up. Granted, we're still in the infantile stages of this union we got, but i fear the worst; the drama, the fussing/fighting, entitlement, attitude, etc. (mind you, she's a white girl but still, they're anatomies may differ, but their physiologies share the same DNA).
*sighs*
Hope i'm just reaching and my concerns are only trivial because everybody watches tv and is influenced differently.
I'll be realistic and keep my shoulders back, ears alert and eyes undisclosed.
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Case: We were at a Superbowl party last weekend and there was a Deion Sanders commercial where he's running amok and playing on the field and doing cool shiit (i forget the brand/commercial name).
Any who, my girl points out:
Her: Wow, that's amazing, i didn't think he was capable of doing such feats.
Me: Well, you do know that he's in impeccable shape cuz he USED to be in the NFL/MLB.
Her: Yeah i know. He had surgery in his knees. I know he used to be a ball player.
Me: :surprised face: How the hell did you know that?
Her: They showcased it on that reality show he had on the Oxygen network.
Me: :sad cam face:
The reason why i reacted the way i did (discretely of course) is cuz i try not to fukk with women who watch these blasted "reality-based" programming; the propaganda can't be healthy to a woman's psyche as it creates unrealistic expectations and distorted ideas on what's to be included in a relationship (i.e. shiit that i can't live up to).
I know that may be a stretch like armstrong... but it made me nervous when she brought that up. Granted, we're still in the infantile stages of this union we got, but i fear the worst; the drama, the fussing/fighting, entitlement, attitude, etc. (mind you, she's a white girl but still, they're anatomies may differ, but their physiologies share the same DNA).
*sighs*
Hope i'm just reaching and my concerns are only trivial because everybody watches tv and is influenced differently.
I'll be realistic and keep my shoulders back, ears alert and eyes undisclosed.
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You don't dump her immediately, but you need to keep all of that in your mind. See how she reacts to those shows. If she is constantly watching that and she is remarking things like, "That's my girl," etc., you better start really doing your homework on her. If her favorite shows are shows like Sex and the City and things like Bad Girls Club, that's a red flag. There is something in those shows that the woman really finds entertaining and it's up to you to figure out what it really is. If a woman really enjoys shows where women are acting scandalously and you even notice her mimicking some of the behavior, you better bail out. People ARE influenced by what they constantly watch. The extent of that influence depends on their own personal character and principles, but if they are constantly watching moralless drivel, you seriously better start doing a deep assessment of who you are dealing with.
when i was in college this btch i was dating had sht on her myspace sayin sex and the city was one of her favorite shows, and that she saw herself as a mix between 2 of the characters on there. i of course wasnt familiar with that shows characters at all but after googling i was like
after googling, i find out this btch basically said she saw herself as a combination of the biggest whore on the show and the dykey redhead.
i kept seeing her cuz i liked her sex but after a while she wanted to "get serious" and i was like
i dont have time for a serious relationship i have to focus on school 
when i was in college this btch i was dating had sht on her myspace sayin sex and the city was one of her favorite shows, and that she saw herself as a mix between 2 of the characters on there. i of course wasnt familiar with that shows characters at all but after googling i was like
after googling, i find out this btch basically said she saw herself as a combination of the biggest whore on the show and the dykey redhead.
i kept seeing her cuz i liked her sex but after a while she wanted to "get serious" and i was like
Man you did the right thing bruh. Looked at the signs and avoided a trainwreck. Many women are VERY influenced by television. I mean if the trend on television can play a large factor in determining the kind of men women like according to their SKIN color, obviously it can influence their lfiestyle choices. I remember in the 80s hearing about the dark-skinned cats getting mad at the light skinned cats because being like was 'in' when you had cats like debarge, prince, and al b. sure doing it. A lot of women gave extra points to light skinned cats because that was what was popular. Then the 90s came and dark skinned was the 'in' thing in the media and all of a sudden light skinned cats had it harder because they had this rep for being soft because dark skinned men being tough and lightskinned men being weak was what was being promoted. Obviously not every single woman bought into it, but enough bought into it for it to be noticeable.
Now you put a woman in front of a show that shows very realistic depictions of living... a show that shows everyday women living and engaging in sexual relationships with all kinds of different men and how fun it seems, a lot of women will subconsciously start to absorb that material and think, hmm, that looks like something I should try. And you have to especially watch what the woman responds to on those shows and the characters they relate to. If she sees herself as relating to the highly slutty one on the show, then there's something about that girl that she sees in herself, which is why she relates to her. "Ohhhh that's my GIRL right there! She be pulling the finest dudes... GO GIRL!" If you have a show with all different sorts of characters, and she relates to the more quiet, laid-back and faithful one, then you can take something positive away from that. When we watch television we like the characters that we really relate to, feel like they are like us or we just really like something they are doing.
If you're with a woman who watches the show a little bit, but only when she's bored, that's a huge difference between a woman who is a huge fan of the show and can really relate to it. What about a show that shows promiscuity and how fun it is or shows women acting up is so attractive to this woman? Is it merely because it's sort of a circus that is just entertainment or is it because she really enjoys the characters and relates to them? Cats will gain A LOT of information about a woman if they look at the small signs and use that information to paint a picture.
What I want cats to understand is that you can NOT ask women things about themselves up front if you want the most honest answer. It's sort of like an interview. People that go to interviews don't go there attempting to answer the questions in the most accurate way possible. They go there to paint themselves in the best light. It's the same thing when a woman is feeling you and you start grilling her. She goes into interview mode and starts telling you exactly what she thinks you want to hear. You're the dude that she wants to be in a long term relationship with? You start asking her direct questions and she will answer in a fashion that paints herself in the best light possible that will be conducive to you seeing her as relationship material.
Cats constantly receive and believe in what I call 'ho stories.' Ho stories are misleading stories that are outright lies or half truths that a woman tells a man to paint herself in the best light possible. Some examples you may have heard is, "Well I've never done this before." "All my past boyfriends were dogs. I just want a nice guy now." "He tricked me! I didn't mean to do that! He seduced me!" "We need a break. I just feel we need time apart." There's a ton of others, but those are some of the more familiar ones, and you know if a woman tells you that, she's not being truthful. Ho stories is what a man is going to get a lot of times if he asks women questions outright, so a man has got to know how to ask round-about questions and piece together the facts without being direct. Sometimes women do become much more truthful around you when they are relaxed and feel you are 'nonjudgmental' and you're that cool dude to just hang with, but if she wants to get in a relationship with you, you got to beat around the bush so you can avoid them hoe stories.
One example is along the course of of a conversation, you ask a woman something along the lines of, "What is one thing you would do if you knew no one would find out about." What she tells you will give you some viable information as to who she is. For example, if she responds, "I'm not into sneaky stuff, so there's nothing much that I really need to do in secret." That's a positive sign. If she says like "Oh, I'd do this freaky act with someone I'm not supposed to," or she says she'd be a groupie for some rnb guy or rapper-- That's a red flag right there. That's just a minor example, but cats really need to learn to extract information from a woman's mindset in a roundabout way because more times than not, that's when she is being truthful. Another sign to watch for is when mami pops up with those, "What would you do in X situation" questions... like "what would you do if I went to the club?" "Would you be mad if I was talking to another guy?" "What would you do if I just up and left?" You know, those random questions that a woman asks out the blue and claims they are random questions and that she is just playing or just wants your opinion... those questions will give you a ton of insight into a question she has been pondering over for a long time. Another way to get information is to ask about a movie you've both seen and ask her about what characters she likes, and when she tells you, ask her about what she likes about that character or how she relates to that character. Another really nice technique to use is to take a situation from a movie and then ask her what she would do if she was in that situation. "Oh have you seen X movie? Word? bla bla bla.... that movie was cool... if you were in Tish's situation where she had two men she was just really feeling, what would you do?" If she tells you something like I'd keep one on the side and make the other one mine, that's a red flag. Basically, what you are doing is getting into her mind and seeing how she would respond in certain situations without her really thinking it's HER that's on the spot and her coming to you with a ho story.