Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[winb83]

I need some advice . How do you guys feel about ur s/o goin to the club and grinding on other guys . serious question . i need guidance

If that happens or if she even ask to go to the club Its over. just drop her.

club activities are something one gives up when in a relationship and its disrespectful to even bring it up after that point.

I would let my girl go to clubs and dance....At the end of the day it's just dancing. You start setting those rules on your girl and she wants to cheat....I see it all the time. Be secure and let her have her fun.

Being in a relationship doesn't mean a girl can't have her fun and hit the club and dance.

As men we have our habits that girls don't like too. ie: going to strip clubs......Can you imagine if you girl told you, you couldn't go to the strip club for your homie's bachelor party because you're in a relationship? Or you just can't go one night with all your single friends........This is one of those things you have to concede. Sometimes you just have to trust that your significant other isn't cheating. If you catch wind she is, throw her in the bushes but these small issues like this, don't sweat it.

there's a difference between being secure and being a fool. what you're suggesting to to play the fool and call it being secure. people in committed relationships have no business in a club. when you and your s/o get serious certain things you just give up for the sake of a relationship and that's one of them.

^^^^^this. You shouldn't completely try to lock a chick down. When dudes start tryna do that, femaes tend to rebel

when a woman displays traits and behavior you find undesirable you don't try to lock her down you just acknowledge you and her aren't on the same page and move on. the goal is cooperation with a person on the same page as you not getting somebody that isn't on the same page as you to do your bidding.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

there's a difference between being secure and being a fool. what you're suggesting to to play the fool and call it being secure. people in committed relationships have no business in a club. when you and your s/o get serious certain things you just give up for the sake of a relationship and that's one of them.

A relationship isn't prison or the end of your life. You still should be able to meet new people, go out for a drink, go out to dance. Normal human beings go to the club/bar to have fun, to drink & dance & get away from the stress of work. Most people don't want to sit in the house all the time. Going to the club occasionally is one thing being on the scene is another. The club is even good for networking....you never know who you're going to meet. Where are you from that you have such a negative view of the club?

 

[rapdonttweet]

If a woman is watching stuff like Bad Girl's Club and Sex and the City, I'll say you have to watch out because it gives you an indication into the sort of things that attract her. But then again, it's tough because so many women like those trash shows.

Doesn't mean a damn thing in my experience. My sisters watch that shyt, all of whom are married. My girlfriends who have been the epitome of good girls have watched that shyt. It's entertainment, not something they model their lives after. They could be watching it just to see people fukking up.

Cmon my dudes, there are much clearer signs to figuring out a woman's character than worrying about what tv show she watches. That's just going overboard.

 

[kevm3]

Doesn't mean a damn thing in my experience. My sisters watch that shyt, all of whom are married. My girlfriends who have been the epitome of good girls have watched that shyt. It's entertainment, not something they model their lives after. They could be watching it just to see people fukking up.

Cmon my dudes, there are much clearer signs to figuring out a woman's character than worrying about what tv show she watches. That's just going overboard.

There ARE better signs. Obviously it's not the be-all, end-all of judging a woman's character, but it's something I include in my assessment of her. Some women are strong enough to resist the messages being pushed by those shows, while others give in and allow that stuff to affect them. That's why I look at it as a PORTION of character assessment, because some women DO look at shows like that and feel like that's a viable lifestyle to live.

 

[kevm3]

In regards to the whole club thing, let me be real. You can't 'space' morals into a woman. All the whole distance thing is going to do is determine how fast you push her away. If you're all up on her, you're going to smother her and she's going to want to get away from you. If you're 'cool negro', that lets her do whatever, that's exactly what she's going to do-- whatever... but none of that made her go to the club or cheat on you. That's just something that was in her character.

Let me tell you, a woman will use any and everything to justify whatever it is she feels like doing at the moment. If she's one of those women that loves going to the club and you give her her space and let her go, she'll go and she'll cheat on you because 'you don't care' or you're 'too nonchalant'. Now if you are all up on the woman, she will still go to the club, claim you are too on her and use that as a reason why she cheated... Regardless of the amount of space you gave her, she went to the club and dealt with other dudes because that's what in the world she wanted to do.

What you REALLY need to do is learn the type of females to accept and not accept in the first place. If you want to be in a serious relationship, I'd advise against wrapping up a woman who regularly goes to the club. IF she goes every now and then such as when her long time homegirl comes back in town and they just want to get out, that's one thing... but if she's in there regularly, man you got a problem on your hands. There's nothing in the club that is in any way conducive to a relationship and she's hitting that joint up because she wants attention other than yours. Don't accept these type of women in the first place. The problem comes when you start dealing with some woman who regularly goes to the club, ya'll get cool, you decide to hit her with that exclusive contract, and then you start trying to change what she does. If you're patient, you will find out a lot about what a woman does and whether she is relationship worthy, but a lot of men want to rush into a relationship because they meet a pretty woman and want to 'wrap her up.' That's where cats make a lot of mistakes and end up having a lot of problems in their relationship.

 

[rapdonttweet]

There ARE better signs. Obviously it's not the be-all, end-all of judging a woman's character, but it's something I include in my assessment of her. Some women are strong enough to resist the messages being pushed by those shows, while others give in and allow that stuff to affect them. That's why I look at it as a PORTION of character assessment, because some women DO look at shows like that and feel like that's a viable lifestyle to live.

Do you model your life after the males in the tv shows you watch? I would hope not, for most people its just entertainment...

IE I listen to rappers spitting about the bytches they fukk but I'm a good dude looking for a serious relationship. Same goes for these trashy shows and the females that watch them. Its just entertainment. Whether a woman is a hoe or not doesn't have to do with the tv shows she watches.

 

[kevm3]

Do you model your life after the males in the tv shows you watch? I would hope not, for most people its just entertainment...

IE I listen to rappers spitting about the bytches they fukk but I'm a good dude looking for a serious relationship. Same goes for these trashy shows and the females that watch them. Its just entertainment. Whether a woman is a hoe or not doesn't have to do with the tv shows she watches.

What I do has little to no reflection on what others do with their life because we may or may not subscribe to the same principles. When Camron came out with all that pink, I never got into wearing pink, but a lot of men actually did. It's the same thing with television. Some people can watch it and take it for entertainment, while others actually start parroting some of the behavior on the show. I've actually heard of girls throwing 'sex and the city' parties. There are women out there who are very susceptible to the influences of television, which is why I use it as part of character assessment. If she watches the show every now and then and thinks nothing of it, that's one thing, but if she's a huge fan of the show and cheers on what those women do, her mindset starts becoming questionable to me.

 

[rapdonttweet]

What I do has little to no reflection on what others do with their life because we may or may not subscribe to the same principles. When Camron came out with all that pink, I never got into wearing pink, but a lot of men actually did. It's the same thing with television. Some people can watch it and take it for entertainment, while others actually start parroting some of the behavior on the show. I've actually heard of girls throwing 'sex and the city' parties. There are women out there who are very susceptible to the influences of television, which is why I use it as part of character assessment. If she watches the show every now and then and thinks nothing of it, that's one thing, but if she's a huge fan of the show and cheers on what those women do, her mindset starts becoming questionable to me.

And I guarantee you that the majority of Camron fans are bumping his music because they like it, not going out and wearing pink and emulating him. Now if all you know about someone is that they listen to Camron, can you make assumptions about whether they like to wear pink? Of course not. And it would be just as silly to judge a female by a tv show she watches.

Now if a female goes around saying the women on Bad Girls Club are an inspiration to her, that's something entirely different. But if we're just talking about watching the show, there's nothing you can learn from that.

 

[kevm3]

Another thing that is very helpful to do is to take inventory of yourself. Get a sheet of paper, list your weaknesses and strengths... list your successful manuevers and your unsuccessful manuevers. Once you start getting a picture of how you've been dealing with women, then you start formulating alterations in your behavior and style in certain aspects in which you came weak... Recognizing what you did well also will pay benefits since you will be able to replicate successful behaviors. It always pays to give yourself a realistic assessment of your successes and failures and to look at ways in which to improve yourself.

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[Abstract83]

What i can say about club chicks is u need to just observe. Its some women who love attention. If she grindin on every single dude thru out the club with some hoochie shyt on she might be a little lose. And if u met her in the club u should just get ur one nite stand on and bounce. I wouldnt go to the club to find wifey. Not saying it dont happen though. But if ur girl is really really into u she would model herself after u. She would carry some of urs traits and how u do things. Not be exactly like u but learn to carry herself better. She wont be so quick to go clubbin without askin u to come. If she go with her friends then u do u. Dont just sit at home chillin lol. As long as she lettin u know where she's at etc u should be good. Gotta have some trust. I go to strip clubs on occasions or i might bring her. U gotta have that trust. And u cant change a woman u just gotta be really picky when it comes to choosin. And let her have some space but respect u at the same time. Break down the rules of what u condone and what u dont condone in the begining. If she not down then bounce. U gotta find someone that matches u. Someone that want the same goals when it comes to u.

 

[TRUEST]

A relationship isn't prison or the end of your life. You still should be able to meet new people, go out for a drink, go out to dance. Normal human beings go to the club/bar to have fun, to drink & dance & get away from the stress of work. Most people don't want to sit in the house all the time. Going to the club occasionally is one thing being on the scene is another. The club is even good for networking....you never know who you're going to meet. Where are you from that you have such a negative view of the club?

nah u need to reexamine the words you're using. meeting new people is how people get tempted. which is why, like winb83 said, if a chick is trying to be in those environments, its best to throw her in the bushes and keep it moving.

there are people out there who think its not cheating if they break up with their current significant other to go immediately fucck someone else. yes it is cheating. how the fucck did u manage to meet someone else while in a relationship, if ur ass wasn't putting urself out there to meet "new" people in the first place?

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[DaRealness]

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And she's British too? Maybe I should find out where she's at, use my charms and pretend to be well off just to marry her, then initiate a divorce and take half.....























































...oh I forgot, I'm a guy so that wouldn't work.