Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Thehawk]

You gotta control you hoe, snoopdobub g

 

[kevm3]

We have 10,000 articles with women telling men to 'man up', which is essentially provide some sort of traditional benefit which involves taking care of her financially, paying for her dinner or embracing some manly characteristic. In return, men need to tell women to start womaning up and learning how to be submissive to men, take off a man's coat, how to make a great sandwich and other traditional womanly traits. If you want traditional benefits you got to be a traditional woman.

 

[BillBanneker]

Been reading this topic for a few days before I decided to finally post. Picked up a few gems through the reading.. So heres my story.

Been talking to this girl since last year February on a social site we flirted a lot but never took it past that till july when we exchanged numbers. Fast forward we talked for a few months didn’t see each other due to the difference in schedules, me chilling with my friends and other chick and her always chilling with her friends every free moment she got but we talked daily had a good connection. I would say we didn’t see each other till one night late September when I was drunk and just sent her my **** pic and she came over 2am. We f***ed that night she came back next weekend we f***ed again. Didn’t see each other for about a month and change cause I was working on this career move. Seen each other 2-3 times in the November and dec and smashed again. We had our first date early jan because I wanted to go to this spot my friends been talking about so I just took her along for the ride. Date was actually great we talked learned a more about each other and just got a chance to vibe.

Problem is there’s been times we was suppose to see each other and it get cancelled because her friend’s always got something they want her to go tag along with so she’ll cancel and go. Spoke about it that felt as if it fell on deaf ears. Now as of late we have nothing to talk about so communication has been low compared to how it use to be. Been a few time’s I’ve logged onto social sites and I see guys writing her flirtatious comments not to say she’s flirting but more she’s entertaining it by responding even if it’s just a “lol”. Already said what I think and feel about it let her tell it she doesn’t consider that flirting. I also feel from what I see that she post’s certain things for attention almost as if her life solely revolves around social network, attention, thirst and the approval of others on these sites. The effort she puts to her friends and social sites would be a hell of an effort towards me and her actually building something. Something else I’ve spoke about. At this point I’m tired of talking especially when nothing is making a difference.

Me- Handsome guy, ambitious, no kids, good place in life and everyone who knows me knows I’m working hard to step into a even better place soon. BMW 650, own place.

Her- Decent face, nice body, unemployed, not in school…

you're trying to cuff her? Why do guys do this to themselves.

 

[TRUEST]

Man you did the right thing bruh. Looked at the signs and avoided a trainwreck. Many women are VERY influenced by television. I mean if the trend on television can play a large factor in determining the kind of men women like according to their SKIN color, obviously it can influence their lfiestyle choices. I remember in the 80s hearing about the dark-skinned cats getting mad at the light skinned cats because being like was 'in' when you had cats like debarge, prince, and al b. sure doing it. A lot of women gave extra points to light skinned cats because that was what was popular. Then the 90s came and dark skinned was the 'in' thing in the media and all of a sudden light skinned cats had it harder because they had this rep for being soft because dark skinned men being tough and lightskinned men being weak was what was being promoted. Obviously not every single woman bought into it, but enough bought into it for it to be noticeable.

Now you put a woman in front of a show that shows very realistic depictions of living... a show that shows everyday women living and engaging in sexual relationships with all kinds of different men and how fun it seems, a lot of women will subconsciously start to absorb that material and think, hmm, that looks like something I should try. And you have to especially watch what the woman responds to on those shows and the characters they relate to. If she sees herself as relating to the highly slutty one on the show, then there's something about that girl that she sees in herself, which is why she relates to her. "Ohhhh that's my GIRL right there! She be pulling the finest dudes... GO GIRL!" If you have a show with all different sorts of characters, and she relates to the more quiet, laid-back and faithful one, then you can take something positive away from that. When we watch television we like the characters that we really relate to, feel like they are like us or we just really like something they are doing.

If you're with a woman who watches the show a little bit, but only when she's bored, that's a huge difference between a woman who is a huge fan of the show and can really relate to it. What about a show that shows promiscuity and how fun it is or shows women acting up is so attractive to this woman? Is it merely because it's sort of a circus that is just entertainment or is it because she really enjoys the characters and relates to them? Cats will gain A LOT of information about a woman if they look at the small signs and use that information to paint a picture.

What I want cats to understand is that you can NOT ask women things about themselves up front if you want the most honest answer. It's sort of like an interview. People that go to interviews don't go there attempting to answer the questions in the most accurate way possible. They go there to paint themselves in the best light. It's the same thing when a woman is feeling you and you start grilling her. She goes into interview mode and starts telling you exactly what she thinks you want to hear. You're the dude that she wants to be in a long term relationship with? You start asking her direct questions and she will answer in a fashion that paints herself in the best light possible that will be conducive to you seeing her as relationship material.

Cats constantly receive and believe in what I call 'ho stories.' Ho stories are misleading stories that are outright lies or half truths that a woman tells a man to paint herself in the best light possible. Some examples you may have heard is, "Well I've never done this before." "All my past boyfriends were dogs. I just want a nice guy now." "He tricked me! I didn't mean to do that! He seduced me!" "We need a break. I just feel we need time apart." There's a ton of others, but those are some of the more familiar ones, and you know if a woman tells you that, she's not being truthful. Ho stories is what a man is going to get a lot of times if he asks women questions outright, so a man has got to know how to ask round-about questions and piece together the facts without being direct. Sometimes women do become much more truthful around you when they are relaxed and feel you are 'nonjudgmental' and you're that cool dude to just hang with, but if she wants to get in a relationship with you, you got to beat around the bush so you can avoid them hoe stories.

One example is along the course of of a conversation, you ask a woman something along the lines of, "What is one thing you would do if you knew no one would find out about." What she tells you will give you some viable information as to who she is. For example, if she responds, "I'm not into sneaky stuff, so there's nothing much that I really need to do in secret." That's a positive sign. If she says like "Oh, I'd do this freaky act with someone I'm not supposed to," or she says she'd be a groupie for some rnb guy or rapper-- That's a red flag right there. That's just a minor example, but cats really need to learn to extract information from a woman's mindset in a roundabout way because more times than not, that's when she is being truthful. Another sign to watch for is when mami pops up with those, "What would you do in X situation" questions... like "what would you do if I went to the club?" "Would you be mad if I was talking to another guy?" "What would you do if I just up and left?" You know, those random questions that a woman asks out the blue and claims they are random questions and that she is just playing or just wants your opinion... those questions will give you a ton of insight into a question she has been pondering over for a long time. Another way to get information is to ask about a movie you've both seen and ask her about what characters she likes, and when she tells you, ask her about what she likes about that character or how she relates to that character. Another really nice technique to use is to take a situation from a movie and then ask her what she would do if she was in that situation. "Oh have you seen X movie? Word? bla bla bla.... that movie was cool... if you were in Tish's situation where she had two men she was just really feeling, what would you do?" If she tells you something like I'd keep one on the side and make the other one mine, that's a red flag. Basically, what you are doing is getting into her mind and seeing how she would respond in certain situations without her really thinking it's HER that's on the spot and her coming to you with a ho story.

Kevm3, you're a wise guy, but i have to caution you to refrain from spewing too much of this wisdom for the simple fact that it will get into the wrong hands.

see u goto understand that there ARE unscrupulous females reading this. they're lurking and aren't contributing to this thread. when they meet the good guys of this thread who follow ur type of reasoning, they'll know what to respond with (after having read all the gems in this thread) which in effect renders the gems themselves powerless.

these women aren't stupid. if a chick is saying all the right answers because she learned of it from a board like this, does that make her a good chick? no. there are just certain things girls should know to do if they're truly of a kind-hearted nature.

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[malbaker86]

One example is along the course of of a conversation, you ask a woman something along the lines of, "What is one thing you would do if you knew no one would find out about." What she tells you will give you some viable information as to who she is. For example, if she responds, "I'm not into sneaky stuff, so there's nothing much that I really need to do in secret." That's a positive sign. If she says like "Oh, I'd do this freaky act with someone I'm not supposed to," or she says she'd be a groupie for some rnb guy or rapper-- That's a red flag right there. That's just a minor example, but cats really need to learn to extract information from a woman's mindset in a roundabout way because more times than not, that's when she is being truthful. Another sign to watch for is when mami pops up with those, "What would you do in X situation" questions... like "what would you do if I went to the club?" "Would you be mad if I was talking to another guy?" "What would you do if I just up and left?" You know, those random questions that a woman asks out the blue and claims they are random questions and that she is just playing or just wants your opinion... those questions will give you a ton of insight into a question she has been pondering over for a long time. Another way to get information is to ask about a movie you've both seen and ask her about what characters she likes, and when she tells you, ask her about what she likes about that character or how she relates to that character. Another really nice technique to use is to take a situation from a movie and then ask her what she would do if she was in that situation. "Oh have you seen X movie? Word? bla bla bla.... that movie was cool... if you were in Tish's situation where she had two men she was just really feeling, what would you do?" If she tells you something like I'd keep one on the side and make the other one mine, that's a red flag. Basically, what you are doing is getting into her mind and seeing how she would respond in certain situations without her really thinking it's HER that's on the spot and her coming to you with a ho story.

some of the trillest sh!t i've read pertaining to women on this board is condensed into this paragraph bruh. Now that I think about it, my wife has never tried me w/hypothetical situations like the ones you mentioned but I have seen females do that to other men.

But on the flip side, you're doing the same thing to her w/asking hypotheticals as she's doing to you tho, but I see the light at the end of the tunnel with your method

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

This can't be life.

 

[George Gooney]

Disgusting...

 

[CrossBones]

Kevm3, you're a wise guy, but i have to caution you to refrain from spewing too much of this wisdom for the simple fact that it will get into the wrong hands.

see u goto understand that there ARE unscrupulous females reading this. they're lurking and aren't contributing to this thread. when they meet the good guys of this thread who follow ur type of reasoning, they'll know what to respond with (after having read all the gems in this thread) which in effect renders the gems themselves powerless.

these women aren't stupid. if a chick is saying all the right answers because she learned of it from a board like this, does that make her a good chick? no. there are just certain things girls should know to do if they're truly of a kind-hearted nature.

I think its still good, because no matter how much they want to conceal the truth, its not something you can ultimately pretend like isnt there. watching a girls attitude, and her actions will shed light into seeing what shes about.

watching a show for entertainment, vs watching a show in which you identify with, can be a huge difference. the trick here is to watch her mouth, and see if her attitude mirrors the characters on these shows. even a small amount of discussion, and indirect probing, like kev said, would tell a lot. also sooner or later those wretched, selfish, and spoiled ways will come from out of her, and knowing that she is into those shows ahead of times will give you that much of a go-ahead to axe her. no fixing her, no feeding into her drama, just letting that one go

as sharp as women want to be, those who are watching with their eyes and ears will be sharper. you can spot someone whos fronting if youre really looking at what shes doing and how she carries herself.

 

[CrossBones]

some of the trillest sh!t i've read pertaining to women on this board is condensed into this paragraph bruh. Now that I think about it, my wife has never tried me w/hypothetical situations like the ones you mentioned but I have seen females do that to other men.

But on the flip side, you're doing the same thing to her w/asking hypotheticals as she's doing to you tho, but I see the light at the end of the tunnel with your method

as much as it could work against us in that they know what to do to look better, it also works for us, because certain things cannot be faked. reciprocation, cooperation, and a comforting personality makes things go a long way. its not even a waste of time to be with a woman like that. it may even open up a few eyes and make females realize that they need to step it up and do what is expected from a "real woman," if they hope to be in a steady relationship that is about more than bargaining, and spending money/time to rent out her p*ssy.

its funny, but same as women have little tests for men, men should be inventorying, or at least taking some note of how she is handling herself on your dates. her just showing up, spending time with you on your tab, and playing coy isnt good enough. they want it to be that way, but it isnt. its as if shes feeling herself like shes the prize and you should be happy just taking her out, but that isnt going to cut it.

is she thankful, does she act like what you do is owed to her, is she constantly on her own time with you, is she always gossiping about her friends (who are trife, yet she wants to act like she isnt like them), does she have a lot of male friends, does she bad mouth her exes, is she involved heavily with social media for attention, how does she respond to your questions/personal stories, and is she generally just self absorbed, or does it seem like there is the possibility of her being more - just off the strength of what she does for you in appreciation, and how she interacts with your ideas/conversations.

like someone said earlier, you hold the door for the chick, is she even thankful? does she acknowledge you? does she just keep walking like shes the shyt? does she go brolic, and try to open the door for herself and hate that you opened it? is she openeing the doors for you?

theres a lot of things, but if we silently catalog her responses and attitude, we can see a lot from her, constantly. only so long fake hoes can pretend.

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[CrossBones]

these kinds of women need to be thrown out altogether. 2013, if they cant be a traditional women but want the traditional benefits, let them starve.

 

[gameover82]

....where is this man father

 

[gameover82]

If girls calls me a nice guy, i walk away from them and delete their number. I know what type of game they are trying to play with that bullshyt.

thats them scarlett words...I had to school a couple of females about that..they always say

whats wrong with a nice guy

me-yall dont want them

 

[sixsixtwo]

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