#1 seems impossible to get past. It’s also only been three months. 30 years with that in that back of your mind doesn’t seem realistic.
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Armchair Militant
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On these dating apps, how do you brehs usually open?
If #1 is as big as you say it is you're basically delaying the inevitable, she sounds better suited as a side piece if you don't plan on taking it to the next level with a Wasian
Homegirl sounds damaged..
Drinkin a Lil Henny and poppin pills are 2 different monsters...
That's way worse than dating out..
TBH you can’t control #1, you could have an all black family and he / she could end up with a. White girl or guy. Making yourself happy is the #1 priority and not thinking about anyone else.
But you have to be strong and proud of her. If not, then let her go.
Is she willing to drop the rave / party drugs? That could be a condition you bring up in order to promote her to the next level of your relationship.
VertigoKnight
Veteran
I'm sure every breh wanted to end up with a black woman. But how much is that expectations of what you feel your family/friends want vs your own happiness? And these days my own happiness is paramount.
When I moved countries I honestly never thought I'd end up dating so many Asian women. Mostly because there were little to no black women here and it was a choice between white, Asian or Indian / Pakistani women.
Out of those three I've found I really get along with Asian women we share the same outlook and values.
I will say finding a woman of any ethnicity who you feel a proper connection with and who you and her just get along is hard in this day and age. shyt is really rough out here. A ton of very damaged women and I'm gonna say men as well. who have done nothing to help themselves. Having a self aware woman who wants to and understands how to talk things out is a boon imo.
Reality
Make your own luck.
I appreciate the perspective brehs.
I go back and forth on if I can truly happy like this. In a different world, or not knowing history, I think I could. When I'm with her, I don't think about it at all. It's moreso when solo.
Anyways, thanks brehs. Gonna sleep on it and make a call soon.
Yeah, it's the potential grandkid shyt that's the biggest thing of all IMO. Without kids in the picture, I just leave my money to black family and any other noise is just that.
Yeah...hard to say if it is or isn't yet.
To her credit, outside of rave environments, it's only weed. She's also a nurse practitioner so she does her shyt in the most surgical way possible. Fentanyl testing kits, etc. If she didn't work in healthcare it'd be a bigger red flag. I don't get any indication of dependency or anything.
Yeah, I'm going to bring it up. Not sure how to approach it beyond "When are you going to stop this shyt? It doesn't seem like something you should be doing at 40." or "I don't like you being high around other dudes." I think we communicate well enough to talk through it though.
I go back and forth on if I can truly happy like this. In a different world, or not knowing history, I think I could. When I'm with her, I don't think about it at all. It's moreso when solo.
Anyways, thanks brehs. Gonna sleep on it and make a call soon.
Guide her. Don’t be passive with it. Tell her in order for both of you ti move forward is we need to do this, this & this.
Everything Zen
Pro
I 110% get where you're coming from with #1 but I feel like #3 is much more of a concern, tbh. As a successful black man in this day and age, the number of women you are likely to be on the same frequency as, is incredibly low and that's irrespective of race. On the other hand, the number women that don't drop bars at raves n shyt... is actually quite high.
yeah, honestly now that i think about the most recent fulfilling conversations with girls my age were asian women. the attractiveness part is the only thing because i need a lil meat on the bone, but I'm about to start saying fukk it
MollyGalaga
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So this year:
I've been thinking about "stepping out" this summer , these hoes are still a headache & I don't want to deal with them but I wanna have fun
Im just rolling with everything now.
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ah well
Code:
Lost the weight I've wanted to lose
Been in the gym more
School taking care of itself & im On track to graduate in December
Better job otw
Money is decent yet still being worked on via better job
Mad creative projects on deckI've been thinking about "stepping out" this summer , these hoes are still a headache & I don't want to deal with them but I wanna have fun
Im just rolling with everything now.
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ah well
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Virtuous_Brotha
Superstar
If there's nothing interesting to point out in her profile it's a usual how you doing I hope your day is going well for me,hope some of the experts in here can give some pointers
MollyGalaga
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there's no right or wrong open
if the app lets you send photos then use that to your advantage. Not of yourself, think of how people use them to respond to posts on here/social media. An excellent photo says a thousand words.
but again, no right or wrong. Some girls don't mind a WYD, some don't mind you asking about their pictures/profile.
I like gifs cause its less wordy and more visual, people barely like to read
Babymama Magnet
All Star
Need some knowledgeable opinions on this situation i find myself in
So i'm dating this gorgeous woman for about a year now late 20s, no kids great body, the type i envisioned i could settle down with
...and many aspects of our relationship is good, we get along, we're always laughing, she listens and adjusts to issues that we've had in the past and she holds similar values to mine.. we seems to have the same goals in mind.
...and all that is great apart from one thing... the sex
Sex for the most part is ok to slightly below good but never great. Boring and conservative is the word that i would use. It just seems like she doesn't fully enjoy the act of sex as much (especially compared to other women i've been with) and views it as something thats part of being in a relationship. Best way i can explain it is more of a chore then a hobby
So we discussed it the other day and she basically explain that shes not really into foreplay like that and she can be lazy which she's trying to work on but she does enjoy sex
...Honestly she comes across as the type of women that because she can easily get male attention she's never really needed to put effort into her sex game.
My main concern is if this is whats already happening a year into the relationship this definitely gonna get worse in the future. I done already told her that i wouldn't settle being in a relationship where im only getting sex once a month.
So i'm dating this gorgeous woman for about a year now late 20s, no kids great body, the type i envisioned i could settle down with
...and many aspects of our relationship is good, we get along, we're always laughing, she listens and adjusts to issues that we've had in the past and she holds similar values to mine.. we seems to have the same goals in mind.
...and all that is great apart from one thing... the sex
Sex for the most part is ok to slightly below good but never great. Boring and conservative is the word that i would use. It just seems like she doesn't fully enjoy the act of sex as much (especially compared to other women i've been with) and views it as something thats part of being in a relationship. Best way i can explain it is more of a chore then a hobby
So we discussed it the other day and she basically explain that shes not really into foreplay like that and she can be lazy which she's trying to work on but she does enjoy sex
...Honestly she comes across as the type of women that because she can easily get male attention she's never really needed to put effort into her sex game.
My main concern is if this is whats already happening a year into the relationship this definitely gonna get worse in the future. I done already told her that i wouldn't settle being in a relationship where im only getting sex once a month.
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She might not be into sex with you. You don’t bring out her inner freak.
Lazy women aren’t lazy. They just aren’t into you.
A year with bad sexy is crazy.