This was after. I walked her to her car & saw a car seat. Then I started to ask the questions.
She didn’t have it on her bio, but I should of asked the questions, even if I’m not looking for anything serious.
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This was after. I walked her to her car & saw a car seat. Then I started to ask the questions.
She didn’t have it on her bio, but I should of asked the questions, even if I’m not looking for anything serious.
havoc
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Women will post the basic information online, and will wait to give you further details about themselves in person. It doesn't seem like you will be comfortable dating a single mother. You had the spirit of Kevin Samuel in you
But if you like the girl, keep an open mind, and get to know her well. You might find something great in the young lady.
VertigoKnight
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Highly doubt the amount of time it took to meet was a factor as you said she wouldn't have agreed to it in the first place. It's more about how the meeting actually went which was probably shyt given the silence
It definitely is a factor. 2 months is a huge amount of time. whilst you and her were taking it slow there were probably guys making a move quickly and going out with her.
But she smells like a chick who just wanted a texting friend tbh.
In 2022 u can’t move slow
Match/make plans right away
If shes not with it, on to the next one
Hard to learn hard way
Gut is never wrong. If you were a priority she would have been hit you up already.
Is he supposed to be a priority after one date with drinks?
And before anyone starts I’m not saying much more than one text for follow-up
Women will post the basic information online, and will wait to give you further details about themselves in person. It doesn't seem like you will be comfortable dating a single mother. You had the spirit of Kevin Samuel in you
Ehhh lol. I’m good on that. Too many women turning 18 everyday without baggage or BD fathers who have “motivation”
Plus for me, dating a woman like that is like a refurbished box fan, you’re giving me your price at 50% off cause you have a kid. I have no idea if you’d even pick me without kids.
VertigoKnight
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Yeah, brehs need to find balance.
Nobody owes anyone anything after just 1 date.
You are literally someone she's met for less than a few hours. The same goes for my thinking about her.
But I also know how it feels when you meet a chick and you get along really well in the chats and she ghosts when you finally meet in person.
Nothing wrong with double texting
He should..no harm
It's not worth it...
Homeboy may have chosen the wrong type of "date" for his personality and her interest level..
Lol had a lunch date with this stripper Saturday that managed to last until 4AM. Decent day/nite of debauchery 
Priority doesn't mean she should be obsessed or something but rather her circling back even if she has some stuff going on.
He messaged her what Wednesday? And she saw the ish and didn't think it was important enough to reply to, now if it was a dude she was incredibly interested in then that amount of time doesn't pass without a response. She's probably messaged at least one other dude in that time.
What's the point in a follow up here?
People have lives and are generally absent minded more than we want to realize
My bigger point is that if OP cares enough to consult a message board and track her IG then how is one single text too much? Dedicating time and energy to thinking about the situation but not making one last circle back doesn’t connect to me but that’s my $0.02.
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Aight, long post but your boy could use some extra input as I'm mulling some shyt over.
I'm at a crossroads...I've started seeing one of the women I was messing with exclusively after ~3 months of dating, and I'm conflicted because I honestly
didn't expect the strong connection being built.
On the one hand, I really enjoy my time with her and find our personalities balance really well. She's shown she's capable of being submissive...if we argue and she's in the wrong, she apologizes really quickly. She hears me out when we disagree, and has been open about me being the 1st person who's been able/willing to call her out on BS as a man because of how I communicate, and my life being together enough to hear me out.
The sex is phenomenal, she offers to cook for me, and offers help if I even passingly mention a problem. She also has a soft, emotional side despite being a direct communicator, which I find really attractive. Overall, I'm really feelin her and our dynamic on a personal level.
On the other hand, I have a couple of hang-ups...
1. She's not black - she's half Asian half white. She spent her pre-middle school life in Asia and has lived in CA since she's been in the States. As I've gotten older, I'd envisioned myself w/ a black woman, and this is throwing me for a loop.
I'm not sure if I want kids yet, but I know having grandkids who are mostly white would honestly ether my entire existence. The thought of being that cliche makes me sick. I also just don't like the idea of being another successful black man "dating out". She grew up poor, so I'm not disconnected with her in the same way I would be if she grew up privileged. This is connected to...
2. She's in her 30s...turning 32 in July. If I have kids, I want multiple, which means we'd need to fast track shyt. I really don't like that idea.
3. She does party drugs (molly, LSD) and is into the EDM/rave scene. I've met her party "crew" and heard about how she is when she's high (no red flags). I trust her but I'm not into that scene at all, and I don't the impression she's willing to dip out of it just yet. She was upfront with me that when we met, she was just looking to fukk, so the shyt makes me a little residually uncomfortable. Potential GF going to raves & doing drugs w/ me not in sight.
#1 is by far the biggest hang-up, honestly, and the only reason I would end shyt right now. All told I'm really feelin her, but I don't know how where being intentional vs. over-thinking shyt begins or ends. It's only been 3 months that we've been dating.
Every time I imagine ending things because this doesn't fit my life picture, I don't know the words to say because I know, based off our vibe/connection, she'll know it's bullshyt if I'm not transparent on the reason. On the other hand, dropping #1 as the reason would feel really, really shytty.
Ultimately, I don't want to waste her time...but I'm really not sure if I'm wasting her time yet.
What do yall think?
I'm at a crossroads...I've started seeing one of the women I was messing with exclusively after ~3 months of dating, and I'm conflicted because I honestly
didn't expect the strong connection being built.
On the one hand, I really enjoy my time with her and find our personalities balance really well. She's shown she's capable of being submissive...if we argue and she's in the wrong, she apologizes really quickly. She hears me out when we disagree, and has been open about me being the 1st person who's been able/willing to call her out on BS as a man because of how I communicate, and my life being together enough to hear me out.
The sex is phenomenal, she offers to cook for me, and offers help if I even passingly mention a problem. She also has a soft, emotional side despite being a direct communicator, which I find really attractive. Overall, I'm really feelin her and our dynamic on a personal level.
On the other hand, I have a couple of hang-ups...
1. She's not black - she's half Asian half white. She spent her pre-middle school life in Asia and has lived in CA since she's been in the States. As I've gotten older, I'd envisioned myself w/ a black woman, and this is throwing me for a loop.
I'm not sure if I want kids yet, but I know having grandkids who are mostly white would honestly ether my entire existence. The thought of being that cliche makes me sick. I also just don't like the idea of being another successful black man "dating out". She grew up poor, so I'm not disconnected with her in the same way I would be if she grew up privileged. This is connected to...
2. She's in her 30s...turning 32 in July. If I have kids, I want multiple, which means we'd need to fast track shyt. I really don't like that idea.
3. She does party drugs (molly, LSD) and is into the EDM/rave scene. I've met her party "crew" and heard about how she is when she's high (no red flags). I trust her but I'm not into that scene at all, and I don't the impression she's willing to dip out of it just yet. She was upfront with me that when we met, she was just looking to fukk, so the shyt makes me a little residually uncomfortable. Potential GF going to raves & doing drugs w/ me not in sight.
#1 is by far the biggest hang-up, honestly, and the only reason I would end shyt right now. All told I'm really feelin her, but I don't know how where being intentional vs. over-thinking shyt begins or ends. It's only been 3 months that we've been dating.
Every time I imagine ending things because this doesn't fit my life picture, I don't know the words to say because I know, based off our vibe/connection, she'll know it's bullshyt if I'm not transparent on the reason. On the other hand, dropping #1 as the reason would feel really, really shytty.
Ultimately, I don't want to waste her time...but I'm really not sure if I'm wasting her time yet.
What do yall think?