Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[internetexplorer]

You’re in love with her?

I do love her as a friend, but I can't lie, I'm catching feelings.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Like clockwork they come back around after you’re not phased that they want to “end” things

Exactly. No begging or pleading. Just let them go. They always come back round.

There absence for me always shows how much do you realistically miss them? Is it losing access to the p*ssy and the ego hit?

Or is it because you genuinely thought you and her could work?

The longer these former chicks are away I'm like I don't even miss you. If I'm being honest.

For me it's only 2 chicks. I genuinely miss from my life. Those 2 did everything for me and I took it for granted.

 

[The ADD]

Need some advice... Got a coworker who's 24, I'm 40, I but look like I'm 30. Anyways, she's beautiful, smart, funny, cool, she's dope! She asked me to go to the club with her and her female cousin a few months ago, and since then, we hang out frequently, and do all the things a couple would do, but our relationship has been completely platonic. Folks at work started questioning her about us being in a relationship, and hating on us being so close, which has caused us to become even closer friends.

The problem that I'm having is that I've grown to love her, and want to be more than friends. Obviously neither of us are in a relationship, but I know that if she were to get a boyfriend, I'd be salty as hell, and would probably stop dealing with her. Should I tell her how I feel?

You are too old for this unserious behavior

 

[internetexplorer]

You are too old for this unserious behavior

Unserious behavior? I was genuinely looking for some advice. I know what I need to do, but I also know what I've got to do

 

[Astroslik]

I do love her as a friend, but I can't lie, I'm catching feelings.

Have you had sex with her?

 

[The ADD]

Unserious behavior? I was genuinely looking for some advice. I know what I need to do, but I also know what I've got to do

You 40 years old playing friends with a woman (24 at that) and asking a message board for advice.

Unserious.

 

[Spades Of Aces]

You 40 years old playing friends with a woman (24 at that) and asking a message board for advice.

Unserious.

Let’s not be so harsh as he’s asking for some proper guidance in his situation. We tend to to forget that some aren’t too keen when it comes to dynamics of forming a romantic relationship.

 

[The ADD]

Let’s not be so harsh as he’s asking for some proper guidance in his situation. We tend to to forget that some aren’t too keen when it comes to dynamics of forming a romantic relationship.

He admitted he knew what he needs to do. It’s not harsh to say this to a 40 year old man.

 

[Spades Of Aces]

He admitted he knew what he needs to do. It’s not harsh to say this to a 40 year old man.

Sometimes we think we know what we need to do but at times we seek a bit more info to see if we are making the right decision. More like a second opinion for those whom are outside the situation

 

[The ADD]

Sometimes we think we know what we need to do but at times we seek a bit more info to see if we are making the right decision. More like a second opinion for those whom are outside the situation

This one is pretty cut and dry but you may see it differently. I’m usually pretty understanding but I don’t see a lot of room in the margins here.

Either way it’s a message board so he disregard my comments if they are too harsh

 

[Ahadi]

Not gonna lie, i did think about this.

From what i've divulged from her she's not done anything thats considered freaky or kinky, just good ol regular sex

But we talked about kinkying up the sex

A part of me whats to speak to her exes just to find out if the sex was just as boring (not bad) as it is with me.

No lol don’t ask the exes. Just see if there’s something blocking her or if it’s just a pretty privilege scenario. But after a year, idk how it’s going to get better.

 

[Killigraphy]

Need some knowledgeable opinions on this situation i find myself in

So i'm dating this gorgeous woman for about a year now late 20s, no kids great body, the type i envisioned i could settle down with

...and many aspects of our relationship is good, we get along, we're always laughing, she listens and adjusts to issues that we've had in the past and she holds similar values to mine.. we seems to have the same goals in mind.

...and all that is great apart from one thing... the sex

Sex for the most part is ok to slightly below good but never great. Boring and conservative is the word that i would use. It just seems like she doesn't fully enjoy the act of sex as much (especially compared to other women i've been with) and views it as something thats part of being in a relationship. Best way i can explain it is more of a chore then a hobby

So we discussed it the other day and she basically explain that shes not really into foreplay like that and she can be lazy which she's trying to work on but she does enjoy sex

...Honestly she comes across as the type of women that because she can easily get male attention she's never really needed to put effort into her sex game.

My main concern is if this is whats already happening a year into the relationship this definitely gonna get worse in the future. I done already told her that i wouldn't settle being in a relationship where im only getting sex once a month.

Start using toys on her and see if her tune changes. Can't tell you how many women I've put on with the magic wand alone. Have them blow you while they use it, make videos, etc. Women love to conflate (sometimes for the worse) so she'll see you as part of her "fun". You also need to be assertive, don't ask, tell her what you want, show her, etc. From my own very detailed experience, even the pornstars I've worked with, were never freaks starting out, they met actors and fukkboys who turned them out. Birds are far more agreeable than anything on this planet, be a leader to your own sexual escapades, and she'll do everything to please you.

 

[Killigraphy]

Aight, long post but your boy could use some extra input as I'm mulling some shyt over.

I'm at a crossroads...I've started seeing one of the women I was messing with exclusively after ~3 months of dating, and I'm conflicted because I honestly
didn't expect the strong connection being built.

On the one hand, I really enjoy my time with her and find our personalities balance really well. She's shown she's capable of being submissive...if we argue and she's in the wrong, she apologizes really quickly. She hears me out when we disagree, and has been open about me being the 1st person who's been able/willing to call her out on BS as a man because of how I communicate, and my life being together enough to hear me out.

The sex is phenomenal, she offers to cook for me, and offers help if I even passingly mention a problem. She also has a soft, emotional side despite being a direct communicator, which I find really attractive. Overall, I'm really feelin her and our dynamic on a personal level.

On the other hand, I have a couple of hang-ups...

1. She's not black - she's half Asian half white. She spent her pre-middle school life in Asia and has lived in CA since she's been in the States. As I've gotten older, I'd envisioned myself w/ a black woman, and this is throwing me for a loop.

I'm not sure if I want kids yet, but I know having grandkids who are mostly white would honestly ether my entire existence. The thought of being that cliche makes me sick. I also just don't like the idea of being another successful black man "dating out". She grew up poor, so I'm not disconnected with her in the same way I would be if she grew up privileged. This is connected to...

2. She's in her 30s...turning 32 in July. If I have kids, I want multiple, which means we'd need to fast track shyt. I really don't like that idea.

3. She does party drugs (molly, LSD) and is into the EDM/rave scene. I've met her party "crew" and heard about how she is when she's high (no red flags). I trust her but I'm not into that scene at all, and I don't the impression she's willing to dip out of it just yet. She was upfront with me that when we met, she was just looking to fukk, so the shyt makes me a little residually uncomfortable. Potential GF going to raves & doing drugs w/ me not in sight.


#1 is by far the biggest hang-up, honestly, and the only reason I would end shyt right now. All told I'm really feelin her, but I don't know how where being intentional vs. over-thinking shyt begins or ends. It's only been 3 months that we've been dating.

Every time I imagine ending things because this doesn't fit my life picture, I don't know the words to say because I know, based off our vibe/connection, she'll know it's bullshyt if I'm not transparent on the reason. On the other hand, dropping #1 as the reason would feel really, really shytty.

Ultimately, I don't want to waste her time...but I'm really not sure if I'm wasting her time yet.

What do yall think?

I'll help you out here, because I can't see any brother go through this bullshyt one more time.

If shes in the EDM/rave scene, trust me, even if you don't know me and we will never meet, she's not gonna be a good mother , let alone mate. And I'm sure she's told you everything to convince you from the fact that shes sucking on rando cocks during a laser light show....I've been there, I've seen the girls, guys like you fall in love with or the least want to take seriously. These are birds who are the pill are more often than not, the biggest trash bags. From nurses to rave girls...pump and dump, never kid/marriage material.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

This is how you look holding on to your ex She Must’ve Took His Phone: Dude Filmed Hanging On To The Side Of His Girlfriend's SUV On The Freeway! She Must’ve Took His Phone: Dude Filmed Hanging On To The Side Of His Girlfriend's SUV On The Freeway!

 

[VertigoKnight]

Need some advice... Got a coworker who's 24, I'm 40, I but look like I'm 30. Anyways, she's beautiful, smart, funny, cool, she's dope! She asked me to go to the club with her and her female cousin a few months ago, and since then, we hang out frequently, and do all the things a couple would do, but our relationship has been completely platonic. Folks at work started questioning her about us being in a relationship, and hating on us being so close, which has caused us to become even closer friends.

The problem that I'm having is that I've grown to love her, and want to be more than friends. Obviously neither of us are in a relationship, but I know that if she were to get a boyfriend, I'd be salty as hell, and would probably stop dealing with her. Should I tell her how I feel?

What do you think her reply to you will be if you ever tell her your current feelings for her?
And she tells you it's friends only.

Can your ego take that kind of answer and not go weird on her? I mean it can work but it probably won't last long. I had a much younger chick. Met her when she was 25 and I was 40 we lasted 2 years give or take but she wants to get married and I can't offer her that. So we mutually stopped seeing each other last month.

The difference though is I didn't work with her. Can't imagine shooting my shot then having to see her everyday.

Would be very awkward.