Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

So we went out last night.


Like a miniature snickers bar, i'ma keep this short and sweet.


We went out for drinks and dinner, and the sum of the matter of the outing;


*sighs*


It was a flying success. Our interaction this time was a little more fluid than the previous two meetings (3rst dates a charm :P). Towards the end of the night, i was anxious to plant the kiss cuz if it wasn't this night - it would be never.

After the bar, walking back to the whip, i had an unsurmountable swarm of butterflies in my stomach (this shiit either happens 1; In grade school or 2: you really REALLY like somebody).

But i went in for it, and you could her body was all game cuz of her body language...

Shiit was pure magic breighams.

Man, when we was in the whip, doing stuff, i pulled her shirt down and them nips. Oh lawd.

It had me all

Felt like a dream.

So we're going to a movie on Sunday and i'm feeling real good about this one.


And for the first time in my life (without jinxing it)...


I may actually have a real Valentine (that may not mean anything to you, but being 30 and pretty much single your whole life - this is quite symbolic to me).





Let's keep this thread alive and thriving.


I think more guys need to open up to their own engagements (if they're comfortable enough) and that way, we can learn and feed off eachothers experiences - it's essentially how we all grow and persevere in the dating realm.

A couple cats said i had to treat her like every other girl...

IF i did, i'd be losing out on something special.

(and if i'm wrong and i it goes awry cuz of how i approached it, let that be on me).

Until then, i'm all right tonight.


*cheers*


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Definitely enjoy your interactions with her and the lovely feelings, but always recognize that women are women and that the first three months are the 'magic months' where these women seem like perfect angels, flawless diamonds, and just sugar and spice. It won't be until she's comfortable until you really start seeing what she's about... so keep on enjoying your time with her, but never get too caught up on her to where you hype her up as some kind of rare angel that you can't do without.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Exactly, she got flabby and sick and got paid back for her actions and still has the audacity to be like, "What's up with it? Can I come back?" That's like there being a man on the street who is halfway starving and someone comes across him and, being a good Samaritan, offers him bread. Upon offering the starving man bread, the starving man pulls out a shank and stabs the good Samaritan and flees. Years later, the starving man is once again in dire straights, and having no one to help him, runs back to the good Samaritan. What do you think will happen this time? It's crazy how some women have absolutely no shame, but it just goes to show you the level of which they detest simps. They will use and abuse a simped out dude, deal with thugs and pop out 3 or 4 offspring that he isn't taking care of, and then attempt to return to the simp to find a provider... and if she has enough luck of 'locking him in', she will go right back to sleeping with the thug behind the simp's back.

Real talk, one of the worst things you can do is end up feeling sorry for some woman who is living out the repercussions from her own choices. That's how so many men end up getting into situations they wish they were never in, such as paying child support for ganother man's kids or having some woman stay over more and more and then become a permanent move in guest that he just can't shake.
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Just like dreamzeedream said, one of the ways a woman will get you is by playing the victim game. She tells you a sob story, you end up feeling sorry for her, and she uses your emotion of sympathy to wrangle favors and money out of you. What's sad is that people actually knowingly make a living like this. They know how to go from person to person sharing their sob story in order to get free meals, money or whatever else they want. There are people out there that go in with the intention of using sob stories to get free handouts. The victim game is very real.

thats wat she did,tried to use what we been through an the fact that we loved each other as reasons for us to be together but every thing u said was on point

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Definitely enjoy your interactions with her and the lovely feelings, but always recognize that women are women and that the first three months are the 'magic months' where these women seem like perfect angels, flawless diamonds, and just sugar and spice. It won't be until she's comfortable until you really start seeing what she's about... so keep on enjoying your time with her, but never get too caught up on her to where you hype her up as some kind of rare angel that you can't do without.

i think we should let him have his fun but dont forget what you told em

 

[kevm3]

All of these crops of women talking about they can't find a decent man... the mental make-up behind these women is:

they actually LIKE being treated like jump-offs and can't get enough of it until life starts laying the smackdown on them and they start falling off. They love dealing with multiple dudes who do whatever with them and who don't really bother calling them back because it's exciting and drama. Ever notice how they 'can't handle that lifestyle' anymore around the age of 30 when their looks start fading and they don't get as much attention? Around the time when it's no longer financially feasible or physically possible for them to get it in like they used to? Once they get to this phase, they start looking for the nice boy to latch on to to fulfill their emotional and finanical needs. In other words, they are looking for a rest haven so they can rejuvenate and get right back to whoring it up... Trust me, if you accept that role, she will be 'awwing' and 'you're so cuting' your butt right into emotional and financial bankruptcy. If you're a sucker with a big wallet, these types will marry you and confiscate your resources so they can live their whorestyle into perpetuity. Once they get those constant streams of payment locked in, they will divorce you and go right back to dealing with those negroes they supposedly detest.

Something crazy is I've heard women saying they want a 'seasonal man', aka winter boo... this man is essentially there to give her comfort for a few months or during a period such as valentines before she goes off and dumps him.

Real talk, a lot of women are straight up chameleons, so they will run the type of game by you depending on the type of dude they think you are. If they got the concept in their mind of you being a gentleman, she's going to play miss sweet, miss relationship with you. If you're this icy, fly dude, or wild, rugged thug, she'll open up that miss freak role for you. If she is playing miss sweet with you, you better be real careful, because she might be marketing herself to make you her emotional and financial provider. If a woman tells her you're her dream man/dream husband, you better watch out. That's exactly the kind of collar she's trying to put on you. You're supposedly her 'dream guy', but she isn't doing backflips to be with you is she? But if some fancy RnB singer came through town, she's looking like the roadrunner mozeying on down there. Women SAY they like gentlemen, but they respond to the boss/famed out/swagged out type of dudes.

Now, the point of this is to always recognize your position when you're dealing with a woman and to see if she's trying to put a nice guy provider collar around your neck. If you start noticing it, you better back-up and reassess what you're doing. You better tighten up your pursestrings and stop being so emotionally available unless you want to be used and abused. IF you hear a woman you're dealing with constantly say things like, "Awww, you're so sweet," you're going to have problems real soon.

 

[Wild self]

"Fewer young men in the US want to get married than ever, while the desire for marriage is rising among young women."


Sorry ladies, we're closed. Slowly, the manosphere is starting to have an influence on young mens lives. The next 20 years of western culture are going to be very interesting.

Men are waking up and soon gonna spit out all the games they play. That era of women getting free/ reduced shyt is long past gone and men will ultimately become once more.

 

[Jason B]

All of these crops of women talking about they can't find a decent man... the mental make-up behind these women is:

they actually LIKE being treated like jump-offs and can't get enough of it until life starts laying the smackdown on them and they start falling off. They love dealing with multiple dudes who do whatever with them and who don't really bother calling them back because it's exciting and drama. Ever notice how they 'can't handle that lifestyle' anymore around the age of 30 when their looks start fading and they don't get as much attention? Around the time when it's no longer financially feasible or physically possible for them to get it in like they used to? Once they get to this phase, they start looking for the nice boy to latch on to to fulfill their emotional and finanical needs. In other words, they are looking for a rest haven so they can rejuvenate and get right back to whoring it up... Trust me, if you accept that role, she will be 'awwing' and 'you're so cuting' your butt right into emotional and financial bankruptcy. If you're a sucker with a big wallet, these types will marry you and confiscate your resources so they can live their whorestyle into perpetuity. Once they get those constant streams of payment locked in, they will divorce you and go right back to dealing with those negroes they supposedly detest.

Something crazy is I've heard women saying they want a 'seasonal man', aka winter boo... this man is essentially there to give her comfort for a few months or during a period such as valentines before she goes off and dumps him.

Real talk, a lot of women are straight up chameleons, so they will run the type of game by you depending on the type of dude they think you are. If they got the concept in their mind of you being a gentleman, she's going to play miss sweet, miss relationship with you. If you're this icy, fly dude, or wild, rugged thug, she'll open up that miss freak role for you. If she is playing miss sweet with you, you better be real careful, because she might be marketing herself to make you her emotional and financial provider. If a woman tells her you're her dream man/dream husband, you better watch out. That's exactly the kind of collar she's trying to put on you. You're supposedly her 'dream guy', but she isn't doing backflips to be with you is she? But if some fancy RnB singer came through town, she's looking like the roadrunner mozeying on down there. Women SAY they like gentlemen, but they respond to the boss/famed out/swagged out type of dudes.

Now, the point of this is to always recognize your position when you're dealing with a woman and to see if she's trying to put a nice guy provider collar around your neck. If you start noticing it, you better back-up and reassess what you're doing. You better tighten up your pursestrings and stop being so emotionally available unless you want to be used and abused. IF you hear a woman you're dealing with constantly say things like, "Awww, you're so sweet," you're going to have problems real soon.

Most definitely. We as men have to mindful of how we present ourselves when dealing with women because women categorize men based on their behavior. A while ago, I came across an interesting blog post highlighting much of what you mentioned entitled "Suckers vs fukkers" Here is the post linked below:
MarkyMark's Thoughts on Various Issues: Suckers vs. F*ckers, by Outcastsuperstar

So, every man will have to make a determination on whether he wants to be in the "fukker" category or the "Sucker" category. Personally, I wholeheartedly would rather be categorize as the "fukker" if given the choice out of the two categories because the "fukkers" have the luxury of having women during their prime years before the "fukkers" kick them to the curb. The "Suckers" are obviously superheroes for damaged women,the very same women who will have NO respect for them and will cross them at every given opportunity.

The overall point is do not be a sucka and treat women how they REALLY want to be treated based on what they respond to, not what they say as to how they want to be treated.

 

[kevm3]

If ya'll notice, you always here several tales of some princess being stolen by the 'black knight', and the white knight comes in to rescue the princess. The real question is how do all of these princesses keep getting kidnapped? Why isn't the king, who would actually command much more of a ransom, getting kidnapped? How often do you hear stories of the princess living happily ever after and never getting kidnapped because she was smart and decided to chill in the castle with the white knight? The REAL story is that the princess willingly went with the black knight and when folks went looking for her, and saw she was with the black knight, knowing that it would be unacceptable to say she went of her own volition, instead cries, "I've been kidnapped!"

The white knight, quick to believe her virtue, rushes to tangle with the black knight. Although he vanquishes the black knight and returns the princess home, he gets little more than an unenthusiastic thanks and nothing more after being himself decimated from the conflict. The princess again rushes out to be 'kidnapped' by the black knight, only to have another white knight yet again rescue her and be wounded in the process. This is the real story of the knight saving the princess. How in the world does she keep getting kidnapped so much? Because it's not kidnapping. It's her willingly going.

How does this apply to real life? You have seen several situations where women willingly messed with loser men, aka our modern princesses, and then you've seen the white knights rush to their rescue, to fight the 'black knight.' Somebody ends up injured, if not worse and the princess is sitting back and giggling at two men fighting over here while simultaneously pondering the next black knight she will be taken by.

The Ice-T, Coco situation is a perfect example of what may possibly happen if Ice-T decided to send some goon after AP-9. Coco, of her own volition, went and slept with AP-9, but having his ego bruised, Ice-T might start a war with that dude, and in the end, a few negroes might end up taking a long nap, some may end up in the pen, and then Coco will simply smile and move on to the next negro.

The moral of the story is stop saving these broads who are willingly choosing to be kidnapped, and definitely do not fight over them. So many women will have sob stories for you about what their past few men did and how their evil baby daddies just impregnated them and left them with children to take care of. But they forgot to tell you about them screaming out how they love getting piped out by a 'real dude' or how they love how their baby daddy 'worked in them streets' and 'got that money.' A lot of men got the white knight nature in them because we don't want to see that damsel in distress, but she willingly allowed herself to be taken, and you will only look like a complete sucker after you come in and rescue her, allow yourself to get decimated, and watch as she rides off with a smile on her face, right back to more 'black knights'.

If you tell them about Jesus and all that cool, but Do NOT try to come in and get in a relationship while simultaneously trying to rescue these single mothers and women with screwed up lives. You will NOT have your actions be reciprocated by loyalty. You will only have yourself devastated by the onslaught of her problems, and when she looks at you all wounded and emaciated, she will stare down at you with a look of contempt as she plots on more problem makers to enjoy her time with and more problem solvers to carry the burdens and repercussions of her actions. These women will never learn if someone is always carrying the burdens and taking the repercussions of her actions for her.

So then, do NOT be a white knight and hold up your shield and swing your sword in order to:

1) Pay for her school loans

2) Give her cash so she can 'take care of her kids'. Somehow her hair is fine and dandy and she has a mighty fine pair of heels on, but just for some odd reason, she never has cash money to take care of her kids. In fact, in most instances, it'd be best to avoid women with kids in the first place.

3) Do not ever be baby sitter to kids that aren't yours

4) You do not owe any woman drinks, dinners, jewelry, perfumes or none of that. You give them of your own volition, and any attempts to shame you will be met with a sharp rebuke by you.

5) Never let a woman that isn't your wife drive your car around... that is unless you want your car to end up wrecked or you want her to drive it to another negro's crib and to let him push it.

6) Any attempts of her to finagle resources from you will be met with a sharp rebuke. If continued attempts are made, that is grounds for dismissal.

7) Realize that YOU are not Jesus, so stop rushing in to pay for her sins. You are not obligated to rearrange lives that women have willingly brought upon themselves... and attempting to do so will only have you looked upon privately with contempt and disgust. Oh, do believe that in your face she will be telling you how sweet and how nice you are, as you smile and she continues to drain you dry.

8) Do not fight other men over the disloyalty from your woman. SHE chose to be in the presence of this other man. She wasn't magically seduced or mind-controlled. She left herself open of her own volition, but wants to avoid punishment or relinquishing her benefits, so she'll make some sob story of how he gamed her or tell you 'nothing happened.'

9) Do NOT pay for her hair, nails or any other situation in order to 'upgrade her'. White knights that spend time upgrading women get upgraded on as she moves on to the next fella and all you did was make her look better for him.

Learn to eliminate the desire to rescue with women you choose to deal with unless you want to be used as a sacrificial lamb.

 

[Sierra Mist]

I swear she's too good for me sometimes.

 

[MikelArteta]

Most definitely. We as men have to mindful of how we present ourselves when dealing with women because women categorize men based on their behavior. A while ago, I came across an interesting blog post highlighting much of what you mentioned entitled "Suckers vs fukkers" Here is the post linked below:
MarkyMark's Thoughts on Various Issues: Suckers vs. F*ckers, by Outcastsuperstar

So, every man will have to make a determination on whether he wants to be in the "fukker" category or the "Sucker" category. Personally, I wholeheartedly would rather be categorize as the "fukker" if given the choice out of the two categories because the "fukkers" have the luxury of having women during their prime years before the "fukkers" kick them to the curb. The "Suckers" are obviously superheroes for damaged women,the very same women who will have NO respect for them and will cross them at every given opportunity.

The overall point is do not be a sucka and treat women how they REALLY want to be treated based on what they respond to, not what they say as to how they want to be treated.

Marky mark is a legend

 

[sixsixtwo]

Be A Skittles Man « Chateau Heartiste

Outcast Superstar: My Take On All Women Aren't Like That

 

[sixsixtwo]

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/13/fashion/the-end-of-courtship.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[rapdonttweet]

because you can and will never know what goes on in the head of another human being the risk is always there. it can't be eliminated. sure if you avoid hoodrats you've eliminated one subset of women you don't find desirable but whenever you go into a relationship there exist a risk that you can never eliminate. things happen you can't and won't ever know about because they happen when you aren't around. there are aspects to your woman you will never see and never know about. her best friend will know things about her you never will.

when it comes to yourself you know all there is to know but when it comes to another human being all you know is what you're exposed to and unless you are them you're never exposed to it all. you speak of judging character and all you can really judge is what you're exposed to which isn't the entire person. with all your character judging skill the risk still exist and will never go away.

You might as well be saying these things about your best friend or your own mother. You're not saying anything that can't be said about anyone else in your life. If you can't trust people, then go be a hermit someplace and leave the social interactions and relationships to the rest of us. I can and I do judge character, and I do it successfully.

you can either accept that or you can tell yourself you're better than the rest when it comes to judging character. you can tell yourself she's different than the rest of these women. the thing is you can tell yourself whatever you want and believe what ever you want but having a belief doesn't make it true or real. every sucker that ever got played, that ever got cheated on by a woman likely told themselves they could judge character, she was different, she could be trusted and ultimately they were wrong.

From the few posts of yours I've read, it seems to me you know next to nothing about judging a woman's character, so how could you be telling me it doesn't work? You're the guy resorting to snooping through a woman's phone to find info that I could find just by talking to her. You seem to lack the tools to communicate with women in an effective manner. Don't knock it til you try it.

i'm not saying live your life in fear of this but its something you should acknowledge because whether or not you'd like to believe it you aren't a special snowflake. there are billions of people alive and the chances of you developing a method of judging character that's better than the next man's is slim. the men that pick good women luck comes into play. it has to because they're making a decision that is in part blind because they don't know all the variables.

I already told you I've been the "next man." That's why I know I'm better than them. Because I've been one of them and I've elevated my game to the next level. I wasn't born knowing how to judge character, its something I learned through experience. I'll compare it to a condom again, luck has nothing to do with it. Its about stacking the odds highly in your favor.

"they're making a decision that is in part blind because they don't know all the variables" ---and this is why these other men fail. They don't gather the variables or takes the steps that I do before I get into something serious.

 

[Swing]

I can and I do judge character, and I do it successfully.

Speak on this breh

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Brehs lately I been running into "sorority" type women. Im not here to knock frats or sorors,but Im starting to notice a trend of behavior among women who are Delta's,Aka's.Upon talkng to these women,they seem to be more obsessed with their sorority then anything else.Bottom line most of them are in a way arrogant.