Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Turbulent]

Quick gem :

Accept them as they are. Don't try to fix them or make them loyal or honest. Stop trying to fit the square in the circle. Accept them as they come and love them as they are. I don't mean accept their disrespect or to all make them part of your life. What I mean is, if she matches your values make her part of your life. If she is a hoe, put her in the fukkzone but still love them as they are and for what they bring to your life. If she brings drama, dishonesty and disrespect, accept her as she is and let her go on her way but still it's all love.

As it comes.

 

[Abraxus]

Alot of hoes like this

mannn what the fukk is this?

 

[Abraxus]

Quick gem :

Accept them as they are. Don't try to fix them or make them loyal or honest. Stop trying to fit the square in the circle. Accept them as they come and love them as they are. I don't mean accept their disrespect or to all make them part of your life. What I mean is, if she matches your values make her part of your life. If she is a hoe, put her in the fukkzone but still love them as they are and for what they bring to your life. If she brings drama, dishonesty and disrespect, accept her as she is and let her go on her way but still it's all love.

As it comes.

This

 

[dizzy4111]

I got a situation right now that's breaking my heart. My closest friend is a girl I used to have feelings for years back, but they were never reciprocated so I kept it moving. She's like a sister to me though, I love her death. She's a little on the crazy side (I never use that term but just to give y'all perspective - diagnosed BPD, in therapy, all that. I've been in the trenches with her, we've been through a lot together, more than anyone else in my life by a mile). Aside from her getting too wild off molly and trying to fukk me on her bday last year she's never shown any inclination towards wanting anything more with me (she's still in the pro athlete phase of her life and I'm not that. She's beautiful, out of my league, simple as) and that's great, my feelings died out a long time ago. I just want to have a healthy friendship with her at this point.

I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with but I really do see a future with her) so we've all kicked it a few times. We could easily all chill together like we used to, new girl has no problem with that. Only when we started fukking did my friend switch up. Anyway, Friday comes along and my friend sends me paragraph calling me a scumbag, accusing me of choosing sides, I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. I've never seen her act like this with other women in my life so something seems different this time.

Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I got a situation right now that's breaking my heart. My closest friend is a girl I used to have feelings for years back, but they were never reciprocated so I kept it moving. She's like a sister to me though, I love her death. She's a little on the crazy side (I never use that term but just to give y'all perspective - diagnosed BPD, in therapy, all that. I've been in the trenches with her, we've been through a lot together, more than anyone else in my life by a mile). Aside from her getting too wild off molly and trying to fukk me on her bday last year she's never shown any inclination towards wanting anything more with me (she's still in the pro athlete phase of her life and I'm not that. She's beautiful, out of my league, simple as) and that's great, my feelings died out a long time ago. I just want to have a healthy friendship with her at this point.

I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with but I really do see a future with her) so we've all kicked it a few times. We could easily all chill together like we used to, new girl has no problem with that. Only when we started fukking did my friend switch up. Anyway, Friday comes along and my friend sends me paragraph calling me a scumbag, accusing me of choosing sides, I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. I've never seen her act like this with other women in my life so something seems different this time.

Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.

chick is toxic and you need to cut her off for your own safety

 

[dizzy4111]

chick is toxic and you need to cut her off for your own safety

Mannn I know. shyt has already gotten way out of hand on many fronts

 

[Turbulent]

I got a situation right now that's breaking my heart. My closest friend is a girl I used to have feelings for years back, but they were never reciprocated so I kept it moving. She's like a sister to me though, I love her death. She's a little on the crazy side (I never use that term but just to give y'all perspective - diagnosed BPD, in therapy, all that. I've been in the trenches with her, we've been through a lot together, more than anyone else in my life by a mile). Aside from her getting too wild off molly and trying to fukk me on her bday last year she's never shown any inclination towards wanting anything more with me (she's still in the pro athlete phase of her life and I'm not that. She's beautiful, out of my league, simple as) and that's great, my feelings died out a long time ago. I just want to have a healthy friendship with her at this point.

I started messing with a new girl around new year's and shyt is hitting the fan with my friend. A couple weeks ago she made look her in the eyes and promise she would always come before this other girl. My dumbass went along with it to keep the peace. She had me agree that Friday's are her night with me no matter what. Obviously this wasn't gonna go smoothly for very long. New girl wanted to spend the weekend at my crib recently so I told my friend I couldn't see her Friday. Keep in mind that these girls know each other from way back and generally have gotten along around me (new girl is also a friend that I just started getting serious with but I really do see a future with her) so we've all kicked it a few times. We could easily all chill together like we used to, new girl has no problem with that. Only when we started fukking did my friend switch up. Anyway, Friday comes along and my friend sends me paragraph calling me a scumbag, accusing me of choosing sides, I'm out of her life, blah blah blah. I've never seen her act like this with other women in my life so something seems different this time.

Lmao reading all this back sounds so stupid, goddamn. IDK I just needed to vent. Everyone in my life is telling me to cut my friend off (even her own mother) but shyt is hard.

I think the deeper issue is how you keep making excuses for her breh

 

[dizzy4111]

I think the deeper issue is how you keep making excuses for her breh

That's one of the issues for sure. It's so hard for me to cut the cord on someone I really care about.

 

[The ADD]

That's one of the issues for sure. It's so hard for me to cut the cord on someone I really care about.

Do you care about her more than yourself? Clearly she doesn’t

 

[VertigoKnight]

those of yall with female friends, how do yall keep them from falling for you but still continue to hang out?

The ones I've slept with I keep 100 with them. I like them, I enjoy their company, but I'm not there for a relationship.

Now that may not keep them from falling for you. But it also means she won't try and push it too far.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Might not go on this date. Only reason I was down cuz it’s a little pretty Asian girl and if I hit her with the “I’m just tryna smash” I’m pretty sure she woulda unmatched like the rest of them tinder girlsjust wanted to see how them relationship brehs live, wanted to live the SIMPle life for a while

If you just looking to smash you could still pull it off.

These asian chicks are very amenable to first date hookups if you play it smooth.

i.e don't be sleazy and see if you can get her back to your place or hers.

 

[Abraxus]

cut off energy vampires. If they wanna converse they will come to you. When they come to you and the convo is dry/boring/unproductive dead the convo.
Rinse and repeat.

This is my motto. Period. Same girl kept trying to come to me with her issues and problems I ignored her. like nah I’m good. Hits me out of blue and asks me do I want to take her to dinner. Again. One liner. Nope. Think she got the message.

 

[Apollo Creed]

This is my motto. Period. Same girl kept trying to come to me with her issues and problems I ignored her. like nah I’m good. Hits me out of blue and asks me do I want to take her to dinner. Again. One liner. Nope. Think she got the message.

the audacity of asking you to take her out vs framing it to spend time together.

 

[Krisrunner2049]

Date wasn’t awful but it sure showed that it was my first time doing some shyt like that. Asian girl lucky she was cute or I woulda dipped. Should I hit her up for a second date? It was a bit awkward in the first half ngl brehs

 

[Ahadi]

Date wasn’t awful but it sure showed that it was my first time doing some shyt like that. Asian girl lucky she was cute or I woulda dipped. Should I hit her up for a second date? It was a bit awkward in the first half ngl brehs

Walk us through lol