Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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you need to check her ass... she know what she did is dead wrong and she is shti testing you. Just keep a mental note of what you did.

This is what I would do... I would pull back a moderate amount.. not a lot, but moderately. Do more things on my own and respond back slower and when I feel like it and kill the convo when I got what I needed to say. If she text back with something definitive, don't respond. Just be like "yep, got it" (but don't acknowledge her in a text - just don't text back in other words). Also do this >>>> Let her know, since she doesn't value your time like she should by ditching you, then you would have to be more mindful of how you spend it.

Again, you don't want to pull back entirely, but make your availability to her scarce in physical and text form....

She'll get the picture.

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After more consideration.... she's a selfish a$$hole

She wanted you to chase her... and in a sense, she was trying to stunt on her sisters on how she has you twisted around her finger by having you get up and move to where she is at.... Even her sisters notice how she did you... that's wrong as hell.

Bruh, no lie, I'd dump her ass (that's just me though).

That's what he should do. He shouldn't have worried about ruining the couple's night by leaving either, his girl already "ruined" it when she pulled that nonsense.

As if what she did wasn't bad enough, she then had to later rub salt in the wound by taunting dude with "are u mad" text messages.

I don't know how old dude and his girl is, but fukk a "shyt test" and immature games, this isn't school.

When people show you who they are, don't get into any arguments or try to figure out why they did what they did, it doesn't matter. Just bush them and move on. Even if they don't like it, people respect it when you respect yourself.
 
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Older woman I know says I don’t got much time to live the player lifestyle. I’m not even 21 yet:mjcry:. Any validity to this brehs? :patrice:
:usure:...Don't listen to these chicks out here. Remember this as an iron rule, what women tell you and what women actually do are two different things. Always pay attention to actions not words.

You got decades ahead of you to live the player lifestyle. If i can lay some wisdom down for you, this is the point in your life where you should focus on getting your shyt together. that means your finances, professional skills and physical and mental health. once you have all those things figured out then the women will come easily.

I kid you not, I'm in my mid thirties, at my fittest and getting wealthier & getting women is like the easiest thing in the world now. more so than my twenties. when they find out what i do for a living these women practically end up asking me out.

women in their twenties are easier to smash without commitment:blessed:. women in their thirties are easy to smash as well but want commitment right away:martin:
 

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:usure:...Don't listen to these chicks out here. Remember this as an iron rule, what women tell you and what women actually do are two different things. Always pay attention to actions not words.

You got decades ahead of you to live the player lifestyle. If i can lay some wisdom down for you, this is the point in your life where you should focus on getting your shyt together. that means your finances, professional skills and physical and mental health. once you have all those things figured out then the women will come easily.

I kid you not, I'm in my mid thirties, at my fittest and getting wealthier & getting women is like the easiest thing in the world now. more so than my twenties. when they find out what i do for a living these women practically end up asking me out.

women in their twenties are easier to smash without commitment:blessed:. women in their thirties are easy to smash as well but want commitment right away:martin:

exactly dudes need to use their 20s to grind and build themselves. Dont nobody want to be i their 30s and 40s still working hard lol. Take care of that your 20s and life becomes a cheat code after.
 

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Had this chick that I really don't take that seriously who has a lot of personal relationship issues going on in your life ask if she can come over out the blue as if I'm supposed to be available whenever.

It don't even matter if I'm not doing anything. I like not doing anything. It's relaxing. I don't always feel like hosting people.

What it really is, is she's going through it with her main dude (as she always is) and trying to latch on to me. And he's a piece of work himself.

But that's what happens when you not properly trained from a young age to know what type of man to go for, or how to act. Cuz she's messy and immature herself. In a lot of ways.

:yeshrug:

Don't be her emotional tampon.

if you trying to keep it 100, just tell her you only have energy for friends with benefits, nothing more nothing less. That lets her know you ain't with the foolishness. She either drop them draws or find another simp to cry to.
 
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Definitely not looking to marry. That’s why I gotta be in the game hard asf the rest of my early 20s and late 20s. Girls my age be calling men in their 30s “old nikkas”:huhldup:.


shyt, girls in their 20's with stretch marks from hell look disgusting... Women in the their 30's went head first I to the wall and begging to be married.

I'm may be an old nikka, but every single woman I dated always pushed marriage on me by month 3
 

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Don't be her emotional tampon.

if you trying to keep it 100, just tell her you only have energy for friends with benefits, nothing more nothing less. That lets her know you ain't with the foolishness. She either drop them draws or find another simp to cry to.

I used to hit but she's a headache so I don't want to do it anymore and give mixed signals. She's confessed before that she wants to be my lady but, I'm not with it.
 

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:usure:...Don't listen to these chicks out here. Remember this as an iron rule, what women tell you and what women actually do are two different things. Always pay attention to actions not words.

You got decades ahead of you to live the player lifestyle. If i can lay some wisdom down for you, this is the point in your life where you should focus on getting your shyt together. that means your finances, professional skills and physical and mental health. once you have all those things figured out then the women will come easily.

I kid you not, I'm in my mid thirties, at my fittest and getting wealthier & getting women is like the easiest thing in the world now. more so than my twenties. when they find out what i do for a living these women practically end up asking me out.

women in their twenties are easier to smash without commitment:blessed:. women in their thirties are easy to smash as well but want commitment right away:martin:


yup i remember in my twenties i was in a few relationships and i remember times when i was single even getting a date sometimes was something I had to work for. Now I'm 35 and has been easy as pie. Especially if you have no kids and have a decent career its easy as pie.
 
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yup i remember in my twenties i was in a few relationships and i remember times when i was single even getting a date sometimes was something I had to work for. Now I'm 35 and has been easy as pie. Especially if you have no kids and have a decent career its easy as pie.
This is so true. forgot to mention in my last post, don't have any kids in your early 20s. I've seen that one decision mess up so many of my friends from high school's trajectory in life. a lot of them had kids early and now live that struggle life working dead end warehouse jobs telling me stories about b@tches ain't shyt while ignoring the fact that their choices where the primary cause of their current status in life.
no accountability:martin:.

It's funny though, as a man in his mid 30's with my finances and life sorted out, when i tell these women i have no kids I always get these series of looks from them.:dwillhuh::ohhh::gladbron::ooh::leon::steviej::steviej::steviej::shaq::shaq::shaq:
 

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This is so true. forgot to mention in my last post, don't have any kids in your early 20s. I've seen that one decision mess up so many of my friends from high school's trajectory in life. a lot of them had kids early and now live that struggle life working dead end warehouse jobs telling me stories about b@tches ain't shyt while ignoring the fact that their choices where the primary cause of their current status in life.
no accountability:martin:.

It's funny though, as a man in his mid 30's with my finances and life sorted out, when i tell these women i have no kids I always get these series of looks from them.:dwillhuh::ohhh::gladbron::ooh::leon::steviej::steviej::steviej::shaq::shaq::shaq:

yup. Brehs need to get their money right, career, and fitness/health and from 35 on they will be on God Mode.
 

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This is so true. forgot to mention in my last post, don't have any kids in your early 20s. I've seen that one decision mess up so many of my friends from high school's trajectory in life. a lot of them had kids early and now live that struggle life working dead end warehouse jobs telling me stories about b@tches ain't shyt while ignoring the fact that their choices where the primary cause of their current status in life.
no accountability:martin:.

It's funny though, as a man in his mid 30's with my finances and life sorted out, when i tell these women i have no kids I always get these series of looks from them.:dwillhuh::ohhh::gladbron::ooh::leon::steviej::steviej::steviej::shaq::shaq::shaq:

yep i remember you in toronto as well my brehda :salute:

even just having a decent job between rent or mortgage in this city you're paying a lot now add on child support? And if you did have a kid early you're correct you prob are working a dead end job

its no coincidence the older you get the first questions these chicks ask is what do you do and if you have any kids

plus being in your mid thirties you can cavort with chicks in their 20s and even chicks in their 30s or 40s :picard: if you want

I remember one of the "flyest" cats in my hs in scarborough dude had all the girls on him and ish in hs knocked up a chick , i remember years later when my work went to mr greek for lunch dude was my waiter

not like im saying im better than a waiter or looking down at the position
 

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yup. Brehs need to get their money right, career, and fitness/health and from 35 on they will be on God Mode.

Yup and thething is you should do all of these things for yourself screw women

I've always been skinny but even now at 35 my metabolism is slowing and i'm the biggest I ever weighed in my life . Getting your money right leads to less stress in life and allows you to buy things you want and to travel the world.


Even career finding something you love and enjoy thats not to taxing. I work at a hospital and porters gotta lift like 250 lb fat patients and custodians are cleaning barf and blood for like 20 a hour. God bless their heart and they should be praised but if i took another path in my life that could have been me and i'd have prob have a tracy mcgrady type back at the moment
 

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Yup and thething is you should do all of these things for yourself screw women

I've always been skinny but even now at 35 my metabolism is slowing and i'm the biggest I ever weighed in my life . Getting your money right leads to less stress in life and allows you to buy things you want and to travel the world.


Even career finding something you love and enjoy thats not to taxing. I work at a hospital and porters gotta lift like 250 lb fat patients and custodians are cleaning barf and blood for like 20 a hour. God bless their heart and they should be praised but if i took another path in my life that could have been me and i'd have prob have a tracy mcgrady type back at the moment

of course. I mentioned health because too many black men before us die prematurely because health is not a priority for them.

Also traveling, knowing who you are as a man and what you want makes you way more well rounded.
 
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yep i remember you in toronto as well my brehda :salute:

even just having a decent job between rent or mortgage in this city you're paying a lot now add on child support? And if you did have a kid early you're correct you prob are working a dead end job

its no coincidence the older you get the first questions these chicks ask is what do you do and if you have any kids

plus being in your mid thirties you can cavort with chicks in their 20s and even chicks in their 30s or 40s :picard: if you want

I remember one of the "flyest" cats in my hs in scarborough dude had all the girls on him and ish in hs knocked up a chick , i remember years later when my work went to mr greek for lunch dude was my waiter

not like im saying im better than a waiter or looking down at the position

:gladbron:Yo i had an encounter just like this. A dude i knew back in my high school days at Silverthorne collegiate was knocking down girls left and right all four years of his high school days. dude was the flyest and most charismatic guy i knew in high school. everybody loved to hang around this guy.

Years later when i was travelling on business, i met this same dude at Pearson airport doing baggage handling work. After talking to him, found out that he had about 5 or 6 kids (cant remember the exact number but it was quite a bit) by a few different chicks and he pretty much indirectly admitted to wasting his 20s by partying and chasing women. Dude seemed to have a "defeated by life" mentality:francis:. it was like meeting a completely different person.
 
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