Became platonic friends with a non-practicing hijabi woman in the last month. She is very open with me. Telling me about her awful home life (lives with brother and another family member). Parents live overseas. Told me she has been sexually assaulted several times as recently as Thanksgiving, and it was by someone she knows but didn't go into anymore detail. Feel bad for the girl to be real. She's got a very unique personality. I gave her words of encouragement and asked if she wanted to meet for coffee since she's a Starbucks stan, but she has a board exam in two weeks and wants to focus on studying. And has since decided to isolate herself from ppl due to the trauma. How would ya'll go about checking in on her if at all?
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Squirtle
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Until she’s ready to meet up in person I would give her a bit of space, so shoot a text here or there to see how she’s doing. Don’t play the nice guy role too much though, all women will take that as a sign of weakness unfortunately.
Yeah, we haven't spoke since new years day. I'm not trying to pull her or anything just legitimately concerned. Our communication was mostly cracking jokes, but her going into isolation from several of us was sudden. Hoping to hear she's cool her after her board exam.
Squirtle
Supreme Chancellor
Oh well if you aren’t trying to get her, then it sounds like you are doing it right so far. Shoot a text here and there crack jokes. Honestly don’t even worry about being too much of a nice guy then, since you aren’t trying to bag it doesn’t matter.
@Arithmetic If she’s cute she knows well and damn good there are guys galore willing to help her. Once you’ve made it clear to her to hit up when her schedule clears up you’d have to be a certified loser to reach out again before she does.
Sounds to me she be the type of girl u come to find out has a new thugged out boyfriend who might be a woman beater. While you’re playing Good Samaritan trying to figure out ways to save her she’s getting tossed up and down in a motel room.
Snap outta that haze now.
Sounds to me she be the type of girl u come to find out has a new thugged out boyfriend who might be a woman beater. While you’re playing Good Samaritan trying to figure out ways to save her she’s getting tossed up and down in a motel room.
Snap outta that haze now.
Lol. You have it all wrong my dude. I understand that could be the case for some, but I assure you it is not the case for this girl. Like I mentioned, our relationship is platonic. It's really the other shyt that concerns me. And I suspect it's happening within her household. My girl was telling me to check on her the other day but I'm going to wait. I'll update the thread on what happens.
I think I need to quit dating and work on myself for a while. I've been feeling flabbyhead for a while now.
Definitely not looking to marry. That’s why I gotta be in the game hard asf the rest of my early 20s and late 20s. Girls my age be calling men in their 30s “old nikkas”.
Don't let the "old nikka" talk fool you...
I'm 33 and I been told I look 25..
Dont drink
Dont smoke
Some of these junkied/smoked out young nikkas cant even run from the cops
RealAssanova
Vagitarian
What’s her background?
And does she come across as those typa defenceless women? As in, the one that feels powerless because its happened soo many times that she feels its inevitable and thus lets it happen?
Sounds like insane baggage and potential headaches. Wouldn’t even entertain this woman.
exactly. Dudes need to stop tryna play therapist.
dude need to tell chick to see a doctor and leave it at that, if she doesnt want to then thats on her
Yes, she does come off as defenseless. She's Pakistani and very short. Her parents live overseas. Told me she only has one friend and before she met me didn't really have anyone to speak to about her trauma. She fractured her right hand recently after being provoked by a racist into punching a wall. In spite of this, her personality shines above others but beneath it she's going through some things.
breh she needs to see a shrink
Yeah, I suggested that and said she's been seeing one in a group setting. I'm just going to fall back, and let her update me whenever. Never really been in a situation like this.
if a woman isn't bringing you joy run 