Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Over a year, will be two this summer.


Yeah man Im thinking about. Plus I got chicks im talking too on the side that are showing crazy interest.
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Unless shorty a literal virgin you getting finessed something serious. And even then the blatant lack of regard for your feelings does not bode well. If your gut is telling you something is amiss, your gut is rarely wrong about things like this. Take it from me, I was with a chick where it seemed like no matter what I did it wasn't right and eventually felt like I had to be perfect to keep her. Its fukking miserable. You got to leave these emotional succubus to someone else if you value your sanity.
 

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Brehs I need serious advice. How does one know when it’s time to let a relationship go?

I mean me and shorty not having sex cause she wanna wait till marriage which already is a big deal but I decided to keep things going cause I like her and she’s like my best friend. However recently shyt just been all bad, she even sent me a video of a podcast she did and was like if you don’t like it don’t say anything. I’m like so I can’t even offer a critical opinion or feedback. Am I bugging or should I just let her go.

one of yal gonna need to nut sooner or later
 

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Nah we never had sex tbh and she isn't talking wild on the podcast. According to her perspective it was just her and her friend talking and she did it as a favor to her friend, it's the friend podcast so she's like I don't need any criticism for something I just did as a favor or me and my friend just talking about the charity work I do. However it rubbed me the wrong way for her to say that in the text a second after sending it to me. She even got me a gift for christmas and was like if you don't like it don't tell me anything or act like you like it.

@Action Mike @TRUEST @DaRealness Thanks brehs for the advice. In light this info was I over reacting?

Unless your chick is very religious, she's playing you with the no sex thing. That whole wait til marriage shyt to "see if he's serious" is bullshyt, because when you both have a connection and she's hot on you like that, SHE will usually be the one to be jumping your bones and initiating it. Every body has physical needs and women love sex just as much as men, don't be fooled. She just isn't into you like that and I can almost guarantee she's fukking other dudes. When she doesn't give it up after marriage or she has some health problem she isn't telling you about, what then?

I'm gonna be brutally honest: I don't think she even likes you as a person and probably lowkey despises you. I don't know whether you have a lot of money or a great job or you have other stuff she wants access to, but she's wasting your time. Apart from the no sex thing, she just sounds fukking weird. Who buys someone a gift or does anything else and then says some shyt like "don't tell me whether you like that or not"? Huh?! :dahell: Who does that? That shyt just sounds odd. I've never heard that before.

I don't know either of you, but from what you've sad I can see the lifetime of misery a mile away if you stay with this chick. If you're trying to figure someone out or they make you doubt or feel unsure in any way, then it's time to charge it to the game. She's playing mind games. Even if she did give it up, I wouldn't even want to risk getting her pregnant and having that as the mother of my child that I'd have to deal with for the rest of my life.

I can't tell you what to do obviously, but last year was a lesson that life can change in dramatic ways. You really wanna keep spending that time with someone that will just add to all the crazy shyt going on?
 

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Unless shorty a literal virgin you getting finessed something serious. And even then the blatant lack of regard for your feelings does not bode well. If your gut is telling you something is amiss, your gut is rarely wrong about things like this. Take it from me, I was with a chick where it seemed like no matter what I did it wasn't right and eventually felt like I had to be perfect to keep her. Its fukking miserable. You got to leave these emotional succubus to someone else if you value your sanity.
According to her she is a literal virgin.


Unless your chick is very religious, she's playing you with the no sex thing. That whole wait til marriage shyt to "see if he's serious" is bullshyt, because when you both have a connection and she's hot on you like that, SHE will usually be the one to be jumping your bones and initiating it. Every body has physical needs and women love sex just as much as men, don't be fooled. She just isn't into you like that and I can almost guarantee she's fukking other dudes. When she doesn't give it up after marriage or she has some health problem she isn't telling you about, what then?

I'm gonna be brutally honest: I don't think she even likes you as a person and probably lowkey despises you. I don't know whether you have a lot of money or a great job or you have other stuff she wants access to, but she's wasting your time. Apart from the no sex thing, she just sounds fukking weird. Who buys someone a gift or does anything else and then says some shyt like "don't tell me whether you like that or not"? Huh?! :dahell: Who does that? That shyt just sounds odd. I've never heard that before.

I don't know either of you, but from what you've sad I can see the lifetime of misery a mile away if you stay with this chick. If you're trying to figure someone out or they make you doubt or feel unsure in any way, then it's time to charge it to the game. She's playing mind games. Even if she did give it up, I wouldn't even want to risk getting her pregnant and having that as the mother of my child that I'd have to deal with for the rest of my life.

I can't tell you what to do obviously, but last year was a lesson that life can change in dramatic ways. You really wanna keep spending that time with someone that will just add to all the crazy shyt going on?

It's funny you mentioned that, she is very religious (doesn't even curse) and has a health condition I know about that may make sex painful for her however she told me that was not the reason behind not wanting to have sex. She says it's cause it's what "God" wants her to do however without going into too much detail she would jack me off occasionally and she does get real horny around me so I don't think interest is a problem here. I mean we be getting so hot and bothered I sucked her titty in the park a few times. She just won't let get my dikk wet or rub her clit but she be horny, moaning and all that :mjcry:

Either way though I think I'm just gonna dead the relationship with her soon, I'll think about it cause when times are good it's good but too many bad times. The crazy shyt is this may sound weird but I don't even mind waiting for sex but everything else is fukked up in our relationship which doesn't make it worth it.
 

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According to her she is a literal virgin.




It's funny you mentioned that, she is very religious (doesn't even curse) and has a health condition I know about that may make sex painful for her however she told me that was not the reason behind not wanting to have sex. She says it's cause it's what "God" wants her to do however without going into too much detail she would jack me off occasionally and she does get real horny around me so I don't think interest is a problem here. I mean we be getting so hot and bothered I sucked her titty in the park a few times. She just won't let get my dikk wet or rub her clit but she be horny, moaning and all that :mjcry:

Either way though I think I'm just gonna dead the relationship with her soon, I'll think about it cause when times are good it's good but too many bad times. The crazy shyt is this may sound weird but I don't even mind waiting for sex but everything else is fukked up in our relationship which doesn't make it worth it.

how old are you breh lol
 

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According to her she is a literal virgin.




It's funny you mentioned that, she is very religious (doesn't even curse) and has a health condition I know about that may make sex painful for her however she told me that was not the reason behind not wanting to have sex. She says it's cause it's what "God" wants her to do however without going into too much detail she would jack me off occasionally and she does get real horny around me so I don't think interest is a problem here. I mean we be getting so hot and bothered I sucked her titty in the park a few times. She just won't let get my dikk wet or rub her clit but she be horny, moaning and all that :mjcry:

Either way though I think I'm just gonna dead the relationship with her soon, I'll think about it cause when times are good it's good but too many bad times. The crazy shyt is this may sound weird but I don't even mind waiting for sex but everything else is fukked up in our relationship which doesn't make it worth it.

If she really is religious and can't have sex before marriage, then she shouldn't be jacking anybody off either and putting herself in the way of temptation. :unimpressed:

Regardless, the scales aren't tipping more towards the positive, but the choice is yours to make. :hubie:
 

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If she really is religious and can't have sex before marriage, then she shouldn't be jacking anybody off either and putting herself in the way of temptation. :unimpressed:

Regardless, the scales aren't tipping more towards the positive, but the choice is yours to make. :hubie:

exactly breh lmfao. If you doing everything but entering her cooch and she talking religion she is a GOOFY
 

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exactly breh lmfao. If you doing everything but entering her cooch and she talking religion she is a GOOFY

It don't make any sense, but if both parties are cool with waiting then each to their own.

But there's no way I'm staying in a chaotic relationship where you can't even have the physical recreation that usually comes with it. :childplease:

Problems and challenges are a part of life, but my woman has to be my peace and safe haven. Dude's chick can't even handle constructive criticism on the smallest shyt. If she's like that NOW, then boy..... :francis:

But some people still have to learn the hard way despite the deafening alarm bells. :manny:
 

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It don't make any sense, but if both parties are cool with waiting then each to their own.

But there's no way I'm staying in a chaotic relationship where you can't even have the physical recreation that usually comes with it. :childplease:

Problems and challenges are a part of life, but my woman has to be my peace and safe haven. Dude's chick can't even handle constructive criticism on the smallest shyt. If she's like that NOW, then boy..... :francis:

But some people still have to learn the hard way despite the deafening alarm bells. :manny:

yeah. I think as brehs get older and established our patience becomes much lower. There were things i tolerated when I was younger that I wouldn’t dare do now but that is life and wisdom comes from experience.
 

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yeah. I think as brehs get older and established our patience becomes much lower. There were things i tolerated when I was younger that I wouldn’t dare do now but that is life and wisdom comes from experience.

Exactly. I try not to knock young brehs too much because better you make some mistakes now then when you get much older.
 

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Exactly. I try not to knock young brehs too much because better you make some mistakes now then when you get much older.

yeah. I just present my POV when asked and leave it at that. Life is the best teacher. Alot of young brehs get well versed on the theory of relationships but none of it matters if you dont apply the lessons. This is why lotta brehs can talk that “alpha” stuff when single yet the Simping Spirit possesses them when they get in a relationship.
 

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I got blue balls last night cuddlin on the couch but I had a good news year
 

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yeah. I think as brehs get older and established our patience becomes much lower. There were things i tolerated when I was younger that I wouldn’t dare do now but that is life and wisdom comes from experience.

I still have a baby face at 30 and stay in shape so I attract young thots all the time. They be shocked when I don't play into their goof ass games. I don't even consider it ghosting any more when I stop fukkin with ya. If you came correct I'd keep talking to you. Could I whisper some sweet nothings to sell them dreams to continue hitting? sure, but ehhhhh too much effort for 96% of these chicks out here.

another reason why I don't come at anyone sideways off lady issues initially, we all been there. Now if you keep telling them and they keep fukking up then you can go in :mjlit:
 

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According to her she is a literal virgin.




It's funny you mentioned that, she is very religious (doesn't even curse) and has a health condition I know about that may make sex painful for her however she told me that was not the reason behind not wanting to have sex. She says it's cause it's what "God" wants her to do however without going into too much detail she would jack me off occasionally and she does get real horny around me so I don't think interest is a problem here. I mean we be getting so hot and bothered I sucked her titty in the park a few times. She just won't let get my dikk wet or rub her clit but she be horny, moaning and all that :mjcry:

Either way though I think I'm just gonna dead the relationship with her soon, I'll think about it cause when times are good it's good but too many bad times. The crazy shyt is this may sound weird but I don't even mind waiting for sex but everything else is fukked up in our relationship which doesn't make it worth it.

Breh run :dead:

You got a chick who you on eggshells with, who cites religion as why you can't smash. Yet lets you suck on her titties :mjlol: And you been doing this for two years... :mindblown: I say this out of love fam. Have some self respect, this reads pitiful. Theres...conservatively 3.5 billion on google earth. Find one who isn't having you feel like shyt and go through these hoops to engage in normal ltr activities. This is just preposterous to me. If I'm not smashing by at least date 3 or so I move on, that girl is not into you like you think she is.

I behoove who from someone who was in a similar situation besides the sex part run. It'll hurt but you'll feel better believe me. I remember I came in here like 5 years ago on some sad shyt and the brehs specifically @TRUEST set me scraight...its all love in here usually and we just want the brehs to prosper. You treading down a pointless path with ol girl it sound like.
 
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