Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

I didn't even get a chance to look at that smokeu thread. Cats better come with more composure in 2012.

 

[kevm3]

Here go a few more
1) Deal with women that find YOU as the entertainment, not the place you are going to.
Don't deal with women that 'want to be taken places.' Deal with the ones that enjoy themselves no matter where you take them. There's a huge distinction between the two. If a woman really likes you, you could be standing right next to a trash bin and she'll be right next to you. You go to a restaurant that she's been to 10 times before and she really ain't tripping because she's immersed in your company. The one to avoid is the one that starts complaining that she's been here before and you need to take her somewhere new. You ain't here to impress her. Ya'll are here to enjoy each other's company. That's it. Women that expect you to impress her are not impressed enough by you and you will never be more than the sucker boyfriend... you take her out all the time, you might enjoy her company every now and then... but best believe she got another guy that's getting all of that for free and best believe she'll peel if he offers her a long-term contract.

2) Don't let a woman charge you for her attention or time.
This ties in with point 1. If she demands you take her out to dinner or you buy her this or that in order for her to continue dealing with her, let her go and keep it pushing. When it comes to dealing with women who are around you, the only options of her being with you is that she either likes you or she likes something you have. Never deal with women who like something you have, whether it be money, a fly car, fame, etc. The best women are the ones who you can be anywhere and just have a natural conversation with and enjoy each other's company. No additives or preservatives needed. This also ties in with the point of don't try to keep a woman, learn how to be kept. If she is demanding gifts and dinners, don't try to keep her by appeasing her. Let her go. The woman that is really digging you won't charge you, but will be focused on doing what it takes to keep you around.

3) A huge part of the game is knowing which type of woman to deal with and which type not to deal with.
This is pretty much one of the most important points you have to understand and master. Not every woman is for you, and the type you should deal with have to come at you in a certain way, as we mentioned in point 2. A lot of cats look at a woman and they've already made up their mind that this is the one for them. This is the woman they will pursue. Wrong mindset. The way to handle it is you look at a woman, you think she's fine, but you do an interview and investigate whether she's the type of woman that will fit into your life. You don't just add a woman into your life and rearrange your life to make her fit. YOU'RE the leader. She has to fit into what you're doing.

4) Stop being apologetic for being a man and stop wishing that you don't have to handle a man's responsibilities.
Men are initiators. If you don't initiate things with your actions, you will simply not have success with women. We can sit back and complain that women need to initiate, but it won't happen. It's not in their general nature. You, as a man, must think, "If I want it, I need to go get it." You simply must stop being afraid of letting your intentions being known and of initiating. When you do get that woman, you got to be a man. You can't be crying, telling her all your business and all of the things we discussed in a thread. You have to be a MAN before you're anything, including her friend.

5) Mentally deal with women like you are trying on clothes
If you approach and get to talking to a woman and she's not feeling you, instead of looking at it as the end of the world, simply thank her and just imagine her as being a shirt that didn't fit... you just saved a lot of time and it's time to move on to find the next one you try on might fit you better. The only failure that exists is 1, if you never try, or 2, you stop trying.

 

[kevm3]

6) You probably don't have because you haven't asked.
A lot of men are scared to ask women for things because they are scared they will run off. If a woman likes you, she wants to do things for you. Now don't ask completley outlandish things and don't abuse this privilege, but women like doing things for men they look up to.

7) Never try to hold out of gratitude. Always hold out of attraction.
You're not going to keep a female by doing things to make her thankful to you. We can easily go back to that thread about simping. You are 'always there' for your woman, you're buying her clothes, paying her rent, etc., and what do you expect? You expect gratitude. But what do you receive in return? You receive the fumes from her pulling off with a dude who has done nothing for her. Stop trying to make a woman thankful for the things you've done for her as a way for her to keep you. The essence of simping is attemping to make a woman be grateful to you and exchange her gratitude for love or sexual favors.

Instead, NEVER allow yourself to be obtained... In other words, never allow her to figure you out or control you. Never let your presence become too common. The natural way to do this is to focus on attending to your business, priorities and hobbies. Stay looking and smelling great. Make sure your conversation is great. Realize women always want what they can't have. Attention is like crack to a woman, but if you give her too much, she will look from attention elsewhere. Make sure you pay attention to her, but never to the extent that she can have your attention however she wants it and whenever she wants it. These among other rules are principles of attraction. This is why women are attracted to men who are typically uninterested in them... because they naturally exude that nonchalance, they don't freely give her all of their time, etc. ATTRACTION is for MATES. GRATITUDE is for FRIENDS. Realize that.

 

[MikelArteta]

Ignore women, I've gone in binges where I've just totally ignored women like they don't exist and it infuriates them.

I'm exiting the elevator first, I'm not holding doors, they are ghost.

Hold your head high and win.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

props brehs
im really soaking up all this knowledge

a thread like this would of been deleted in sohh
smh

 

[KEEPITTRILLA]

how do i make a bytch leave me the fukk alone without changing my number

 

[Turbulent]

6) You probably don't have because you haven't asked.
A lot of men are scared to ask women for things because they are scared they will run off. If a woman likes you, she wants to do things for you. Now don't ask completley outlandish things and don't abuse this privilege, but women like doing things for men they look up to.

7) Never try to hold out of gratitude. Always hold out of attraction.
You're not going to keep a female by doing things to make her thankful to you. We can easily go back to that thread about simping. You are 'always there' for your woman, you're buying her clothes, paying her rent, etc., and what do you expect? You expect gratitude. But what do you receive in return? You receive the fumes from her pulling off with a dude who has done nothing for her. Stop trying to make a woman thankful for the things you've done for her as a way for her to keep you. The essence of simping is attemping to make a woman be grateful to you and exchange her gratitude for love or sexual favors.

Instead, NEVER allow yourself to be obtained... In other words, never allow her to figure you out or control you. Never let your presence become too common. The natural way to do this is to focus on attending to your business, priorities and hobbies. Stay looking and smelling great. Make sure your conversation is great. Realize women always want what they can't have. Attention is like crack to a woman, but if you give her too much, she will look from attention elsewhere. Make sure you pay attention to her, but never to the extent that she can have your attention however she wants it and whenever she wants it. These among other rules are principles of attraction. This is why women are attracted to men who are typically uninterested in them... because they naturally exude that nonchalance, they don't freely give her all of their time, etc. ATTRACTION is for MATES. GRATITUDE is for FRIENDS. Realize that.

this is something that should be recited by fathers to sons. lots of gems in this thread and we should make ceremonies and rituals to teach these lessons to our sons.

i'm about to forward this thread to my little cousin...

 

[MikelArteta]

how do i make a bytch leave me the fukk alone without changing my number

Ignore
Post the text msgs on fb

She will get the point as well


An attractive 18 year old girl has a 10% chance, per year, of losing her looks during ages 18 through 25. She has another 10% chance during the age ranges 26-30 and 31-42. Eighty percent of women will spend 54 years unattractive. Rent, if you must; never buy

 

[KEEPITTRILLA]

ignore dont work

 

[kevm3]

You got one of those real clingy types. You just got to ride that one out and whenever she asks to hang out, chill or all of that, just kindly say no thanks. Ignoring her will probably make her go harder like you said. Just continually being nice and turning down her advances should make her get it eventually.

 

[iMajor]

Patience isn't a virtue you should have with many girls except your wife, daughter, sister, mother...etc

 

[Captain Crunch]

Real talk, for those who come from single mom households, think about the interactions you saw your mother and father have and apply that to if you have a child out of wedlock.

You'd be surprised that the way your mom dealt w/ your pops, is PROBABLY the SAME way many other single mothers deal w/ their child's fathers. My pops pretty much confirmed that, when I asked did he slept w/ my moms after I was born(something Reincar posted about not dating single moms, because the father will hit that occasionally), when he said yes I was like

Fortunately my mother didn't rape my father in Child Support and I had both parents in my life , but most of the stuff other single moms did... my mom did.

So fellas, w/ Father's Day coming up, don't hate your pops.. unless you know for a fact he's a dirtbag. Because you may have never saw your pops/not saw that much.. because your mom prevented him from seeing you. Also if you have kids out of wedlock, peep game from other single parents(ask/observe uncles, aunts, friends, etc).

 

[MikelArteta]

Real talk, for those who come from single mom households, think about the interactions you saw your mother and father have and apply that to if you have a child out of wedlock.

You'd be surprised that the way your mom dealt w/ your pops, is PROBABLY the SAME way many other single mothers deal w/ their child's fathers. My pops pretty much confirmed that, when I asked did he slept w/ my moms after I was born(something Reincar posted about not dating single moms, because the father will hit that occasionally), when he said yes I was like

Fortunately my mother didn't rape my father in Child Support and I had both parents in my life , but most of the stuff other single moms did... my mom did.

So fellas, w/ Father's Day coming up, don't hate your pops.. unless you know for a fact he's a dirtbag. Because you may have never saw your pops/not saw that much.. because your mom prevented him from seeing you. Also if you have kids out of wedlock, peep game from other single parents(ask/observe uncles, aunts, friends, etc).

This is true, also Being raised in a single mom household you are raise to view men how she wants you to, and yep I tell everyone that baby dad can hit whenever he wants .

Remember fellas ESP those raised who need knew their dad you only know one side of the story and women lie. You don't know if your mom cheated etc

 

[Captain Crunch]

@ Reincar
Good point, the funny thing is you gon see a lot of people like "Shoutouts to my deadbeat dad" or "Happy Father's Day to my moms".

It's sad to see how black families got destroyed over the past 20 years or so, especially since it's more beneficial for mothers(CS, Section 8, EBT, various other benefits) to NOT have the father around the child.

 

[You_Ugly_on_Skype]

Now, the most important thing about a man is your mindset. As Jesus says, a man is what he thinks. The questions you ask yourself in your mind and the statements that you accept mentally will determine your outlook on life and will vastly affect your life's outcome. Now check this... A lot of men's first thought in life is, "What can I do to get more women? What can I do to impress this certain woman? Where do I need to take this woman to eat? How do I talk to her?" Those are the WRONG questions to ask. Stop worrying about 'what the woman wants.' That's just an utterly nonsensical question to ask in the first place. For one, there are billions of women on this earth and none of them are exactly the same, so none of them like the same things. There are women that have a whole variety of tastes and preferences. Second, you as a man are supposed to be a leader. Your concern shouldn't be what do women want. It should be what do YOU want? But let's answer that question. Do you know what heterosexual women really want? They want a MAN.

The real questions you, as a man, need to ask are, "What am I trying to get out of life? How do I solidify my financial and general living status? What restaurants do I like to go to? What movies do I like? What are my favorite social venues? What are my principles? What are my morals? What kind of woman do I want in my life? What kind of woman will I not accept?"

If you go to the mall and pick up a shirt and the first thing out your mind is,"Will the hunnies like this?" you are doing it all wrong. You pick up a shirt and decide whether or not it looks fly to YOU. If YOU dig it, cop it and put it on. That is LEADING. You are the one in the front making decisions. Leadership simply comes down to making a choice. Will you be the one in the front to make decisions about your life or will you let someone else?

Develop your own personal style. Decide what restaurants YOU like. Your concern should not be whether or not some woman likes it or not. Find YOU. When you really start finding you and settling in, you will start developing CONFIDENCE. Why? Because you will then know exactly what you want and what you like and you will be able to pursue it much more effectively. Confidence is an emotional feeling based upon certainty of success. What can you really be more confident about than yourself since that's the one person you can really know? You will also have to make the choice to mentally value yourself. A lot of guys say, "Well if I take this girl to this place, she might not like it." That is placing HER preferences above yours. Wrong move. As a man, you can't read a woman's mind and women themselves usually don't know what they want, so how can you be confident if your whole mentality revolves around attempting to predict what a woman wants? That's the blind leading the blind. You simply have to CHOOSE to put your own worth way ahead of some woman's preferences.

Now, the more you've figured yourself out, you simply will find a lot of the problems you had with women will evaporate, because you now know what kind of woman to retain and what kind of woman to keep far away from you. You won't have to ask what to say or where to take her. You will take her where you want to go, or on occasion, you ask for her suggestion. If she doesn't like or appreciate it, cut her off and keep it pushing. Why in the world would you accept someone who is unappreciative and doesn't have anything in common with you? The question you ask yourself in your mind while interacting with her wouldn't be, "Is what I'm doing impressing her?" You would simply choose a venue you felt like going to, and if she really liked you, she would follow you.

THAT'S the key. Putting yourself out naturally is the key and choosing to deal with the women you naturally like you for you and who embody your list of qualifications is the key. Learning to cut off unappreciate, drama-filled women and deciding not to change your approach or who you really are is of utmost importance. If some particular woman doesn't like your routine, find one that does. Don't simpathize with her and try to read her mind and figure where to take her. A woman either likes you or she doesn't. If you want longevity out of a woman you simply have to be yourself and find one that likes you for who you are... because the longer you deal with a woman, the more she will find out about the REAL you. The better quality of a man you become, naturally, the better quality of women you will attract... Thus the key question becomes, "In what aspects can I improve myself as a man?", and not "What can I do to impress this particular woman?"

This made me audibly say "fukk YOU bytch" really loud at my desk at work in remembrance of this on chick i was dealing with.