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For me, it means I’m not that interested. I’ll put it this way, when I’m feeling a dude, I just can’t help it, if he goes a few days without contact, I’m going to throw some bait to make sure he’s still interested. The goal is to stay on his mind, like he is on mind. Dating rules get modified and then later abandoned. When I’m lukewarm or not interested, I won’t ever initiate first. The caveat is that this depends on communication frequency. For example if you text every couple of days, there’s never a need for me to initiate first because I know based on how often you text me, that your going to reach out soon at some point anyway. In that case, if I like you, but don’t want to show my hand, i can hold off because I know your going to hit me up. But if 4 days have gone by and I haven’t sent you any contact, there’s no date planned, etc., and you have contacted me either? Chances are that I’m not really interested and your someone I’m talking to out of boredom, or when I run out of options. If I never try to see what your schedule is like, I’m slow to respond when you ask me out on dates, I never initiate contact, even when several days have passed without communication, and you have a feeling that somethings not right with it. Trust that feeling. If you feel like your doing too much, and not getting anything back, that’s your conscious letting you know—pay attention to that feeling and move on.
In general, of course it’s expected for the men to initiate first, but pay attention to how often y’all talk, how quick she responds, especially to dates, and throw tests in there every now and then. Let a few days pass without communicating. See if she hits you up. Fall back every now and then, and act like your not interested, almost scaring her into thinking that you not feeling her like she thought and see how she responds. If she hits you up with a silly text days later but doesn’t inquire about kicking it or plays a game when you try to set something up, your probably being used for ego boost. But if she’s hitting you up and trying to see what your schedule is like, and whatnot... I mean you have a feeling breh, trust it.
I could write a dissertation on what was said here. I believe this type of thinking is the reason why I'm not even interested in deal with the so-called dating world. I don't know if or when I will return to it. If a women dosent hit me up about another date or whatever ...I'm nonchalant so I could care wither a women text back or not. Especially if I'm the one that constantly entertaining you the women. I think now that im mid 30 I have no time or will to deal with the trivial things that women try to pull off . I'm not interested in giving you an ego boost ...I'm not interested in being entertainment to etc. I'm just grateful I can see past all the BS.