i need advice from men..
i met this guy off of Bumble, he was pursuing and putting kinda pressure on me to meet up and hang out, even though I was hesitant also because i’m financially strapped. he insisted anyways and offered to pay. and realized i probably shouldn’t be on a dating app since i’m trying to heal from my ex and our abusive relationship that was traumatizing to me. We made plans to hang out then i explained my situation to him and he appreciated my honesty but still encouraged me to at least give it a chance and told me not to over complicate things.
So we met up at a local bar, had a few drinks. We hit it off really well in my opinion, he was kind, a gentleman, funny, easy to talk to. He worked in finance on wallstreet and left that to become a golf pro. Were kinda opposites in terms of upbringing. But still had a lot in common. Anyways, about 12 he asked me if i was up for learning black jack because he mentioned he’d teach me prior to meeting up.
We ended up playing black jack until like 3:30-4 am, after we sat in his car and talked for awhile.
We flirted, kissed. etc he wanted to take it further and go back to his place and “watch a movie” but i stopped that and knew what it was he wanted. And i wasn’t trynna to sleep with him as casual sex isn’t my thing and i hold myself to higher standards now. Anyways, so i had him bring me to my car, thanked him for taking me out and we split ways..
and texted him a couple hours ago, wishing him a nice day at work. no response, before we hung out, he was the one texting me, getting no responses, kinda not taken seriously given my ex situation etc..
am i overthinking this? or over complicating it?
i was really into him. someone who had to convince me to even go out, but i really ended up enjoying my time with so if he dubs me i’ll be disappointed
i’ll let him pursue me. if he’s interested in seeing me again he’ll show it but it’s hard to not wonder what i did wrong or maybe i’m just being insecure or anxious
Why not just read it? Unless your scared that your pickup line didn’t work the way you wanted it to, I don’t see why you wouldn’t just see what she said? You’re funny.
& trash.
