Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[beezy]

I'm married too breh.

You cant be "crying wolf", because now it seems like you really werent ready for the "fukk you I'm done" and she's calling your bluff on it. You only have 2 options now, take it back or let her leave.

If you want her back, tell her you want to talk to her husband to wife before making this type of decision. That you dont want her to leave, but that you cant take this type of actions from her. That you dont like when she drinks and that, MORE importantly, you guys have a son together. You are not gonna let her disrespect her infront of your son to make your son believe that this is how men are supposed to be treated by their women.

Tell her, "NO! I aint your dad.....I'm your husband, and you need to respect me as The Man I am as I respect you as my wife. I'm not tolerating you disrespecting me at all anymore, talking down ON me or to me...especially in front of my son! Now, I want us to be together, but if you dont think you can do that...then maybe we may need to go seperate ways, because I'm tired of being treated as or talked to as less than the man I am."

Let her know how you feel breh, trust me. I went thru this from July - October of this year and it changed EVERYTHING. It's like my wife realized that she cant pull that shyt no more, because I'm gone and when I leave, it's over.
Be like "You dont wanna be treated like less than a wife and Im not gonna be treated like less than a husband and more importantly as a man."

Talk to her asap and see if you can talk some sense into her, since it doesnt seem like you are ready for her to leave or the marriage to end.







And dont be the boy who cried wolf again

Dont ever tell a woman "fukk you....I'm Done!" and not mean it, because she will take anything you say after that as "whatever", knowing you dont really mean what you say. Only say what you mean, and mean what you say when you talking to your wife.

I hope I helped you from 1 married man to the next. Oh, I'm 28...wife 26. We've been together since I was 23 and she was 20.

I feel you breh, but the problem is that at the time, i DID feel like that lol.. and if you read my posts from before, it WAS somethin already on my mind, i just didnt have a reason to yet.. i guess its just the speed at which its all happening and just the fact that im only human, i cant just detach from something ive built on for 4 years so easily without second thoughts and without certain fears of regretting things in the future.. the thing is, that like you, i also put my foot down a few months back. i told her the deal, and that i wasnt tolerating no disrepect no more.. AND SHE DID IT AGAIN. wtf. so if im truly a man of my word and mean what i say, at this point it should be bushes for her, but its just not that easy when it comes down to it.. lets be real here.. when things are good, its dumb easy to say yea, one slip up and your gone, and talk about how easy it is to leave.. but when the time comes to commit.. emotions can be a mother fukker..

 

[Newzz]

damn, thankfully you're online right now lol. but yea man, sounds sketch dont it? i confronted her about it and said the same thing, but na, we were good up until the argument escalated like that. and shes all about keepin us together, and has always said she would never want it to happen and didnt even want it to be an option. i mean, she has nothing. wtf she gonna do now? move in with her parents and start from scratch. this is like the last resort and its really her pride it seems. shes very prideful and if i tell her fukk off, shes the type that WILL. just to prove a point. to add on, i know shes homesick, bored here, and misses her family thats goin thru a rough time as well. her own parents are splittin up and its been tearin her up. i know she wanted to be home for the holidays for that cuz her moms trippin talkin bout leavin to puerto rico next month. anyway, its a combination of things. i could also say shes tired of goin thru it with me too. we argue alot and she dont want us to keep doin it like this in front of our son. we been stressin eachother, addin on to the already tons of stress we got. this isnt even the fisrt time ive sent her packin. i did it 2 years ago and told her i didnt love her no more. a few weeks later i took it back pretty much.. it was another rough patch we had hit. i guess she thinks by goin all the way ASAP we can avoid any future confusion/playin games with eachother. i guess shes tired of my constant on and off love for her tbh.. shes been more committed and loving for a long time now.. and i dont feel i can blame myself cuz feelings isnt somethin i got control over. and btw, yea, i let up on the drinking thing and said its cool to have a glass of wine, or a lil somethin if we go out on social occasions.. but na, this bytch went and bought a bottle of vodka. knowing were in the thick of arguing. girls are so irrational when upset man. and that kind of volatility is just somethin idk if i should put up with. my son is the hardest thing in the world for me to let go, and truth be told, if it werent for him i dont think we woulda lasted this long.. i dont want him away from me, i dont want other nikkas in his life, and i dont want him learning from his mom and her family and not me. but ima be leavin next summer to live in the DC area where i will be 2 hours away and can come get him every other weekend or whatever.. sucks man, but idk.. i also been thinkin that maybe the sooner we get this over with the better, in terms of less time married and limited assets to divide.. better now than later when i got more to lose right?

You're married.

You are not dating this woman and she's the mother of your child. It was something about her that made you marry her....find it.

Dont throw her in the bushes just yet if all yall are doing is arguing and she aint cheating/talking to other men. She's young and will eventually LEARN as she goes. The funny thing about it is.........she learns from YOU!

You have to teach her what can and cannot be said to her man. How she can and cannot act towards you. She doesnt know, she's young, and you aint taught her (going by you saying she constantly was disrespecting you, hitting you, etc.)

Let her know that aint gonna fly with you AT ALL under no circumstances. You will NOT allow her to talk to you anyway she wants and she will not touch you. She will behave like the wife she claimed she was gonna be when she married you and if NOT, then you will have to go seperate ways because you are tired of settling for less than what you were promised by her.

You gotta set the rules in your marriage and because she married you, she is looking for that guidance breh.

Anyone that knows me in real life, knows that my little "quote" is: "People only do what YOU allow them to do". She's only doing what you are allowing her to do to you breh.

Stop allowing it. Let her know that she is your wife, you want to be with her and what treatment will and what will not be accepted by you anymore if she wants to make this marriage work.

 

[Malta]

damn, thankfully you're online right now lol. but yea man, sounds sketch dont it? i confronted her about it and said the same thing, but na, we were good up until the argument escalated like that. and shes all about keepin us together, and has always said she would never want it to happen and didnt even want it to be an option. i mean, she has nothing. wtf she gonna do now? move in with her parents and start from scratch. this is like the last resort and its really her pride it seems. shes very prideful and if i tell her fukk off, shes the type that WILL. just to prove a point. to add on, i know shes homesick, bored here, and misses her family thats goin thru a rough time as well. her own parents are splittin up and its been tearin her up. i know she wanted to be home for the holidays for that cuz her moms trippin talkin bout leavin to puerto rico next month. anyway, its a combination of things. i could also say shes tired of goin thru it with me too. we argue alot and she dont want us to keep doin it like this in front of our son. we been stressin eachother, addin on to the already tons of stress we got. this isnt even the fisrt time ive sent her packin. i did it 2 years ago and told her i didnt love her no more. a few weeks later i took it back pretty much.. it was another rough patch we had hit. i guess she thinks by goin all the way ASAP we can avoid any future confusion/playin games with eachother. i guess shes tired of my constant on and off love for her tbh.. shes been more committed and loving for a long time now.. and i dont feel i can blame myself cuz feelings isnt somethin i got control over. and btw, yea, i let up on the drinking thing and said its cool to have a glass of wine, or a lil somethin if we go out on social occasions.. but na, this bytch went and bought a bottle of vodka. knowing were in the thick of arguing. girls are so irrational when upset man. and that kind of volatility is just somethin idk if i should put up with. my son is the hardest thing in the world for me to let go, and truth be told, if it werent for him i dont think we woulda lasted this long.. i dont want him away from me, i dont want other nikkas in his life, and i dont want him learning from his mom and her family and not me. but ima be leavin next summer to live in the DC area where i will be 2 hours away and can come get him every other weekend or whatever.. sucks man, but idk.. i also been thinkin that maybe the sooner we get this over with the better, in terms of less time married and limited assets to divide.. better now than later when i got more to lose right?

I feel you but even being 2 hours away from your son will feel like a lot more, and if she decides to get even she can make it difficult for you to see him. I would tell her to separate, see how you two honestly like living without one another, and then go from there. If it's a stressful situation and could jeopardize your career then it might be best to end it for the time being, hold off on the divorce a bit and let things cool down again. It's obvious yall can't live with one another right now, seems you both resent the other, you resent her cause you can't travel & live a little more like you want and she resents you for going out, past shyt and for being away from her mom.

That's not a healthy situation for either of yall. You might feel badly in the morning, and if she does leave that first, second and third month could be hell, even if you end up getting some other females.

 

[kevm3]

You're going to have to sit babygirl down and explain to her in a real way... you have to give her that understanding of what it is as opposed to just telling her not to do this or that... on some

"Look babygirl we were both emotional, but I'm going to have to be real with you. A lot is at stake here and as your husband I tell you to do things for a REASON. I'm trying to create a situation that is the best for not only us, but for our son as well, and there are some clearly unhealthy things going on in our relationship. I don't want us to be apart, because I still do love you, but there's certain things that I clearly cannot tolerate. We have two choices here. We can be weak and give up and affect not only our love, but we can drastically affect our son's life, or we can handle this how a husband and wife is supposed to and use this situation to make us stronger. To be honest, I don't want you to leave. I want to work this out with you, but you have to have that same desire."

On the real, NEVER do the on and off love thing with a female. You say one wrong thing to a woman and she will hold it against you forever. You tell her you're out of love with her and she'll hold on to it with a slight resentment that slowly builds. Watching what you say to a woman is critical because they always remember what you say.

 

[Wild self]

It's kind of sad, and nobody is really telling these females this because they are simped out negroes afraid of saying the real because they think they might lose out on the cuts.... but women need to realize how much of a premium men put on looks. Yo butt MAY be able to pull off that nonsense you pulling off right now when you young and pretty, but once you gain some weight and lose those looks, you're going to find that those men who were putting up with you before have moved on to chasing the next pretty girl. That's why these 30 year old single girls hate the 20 year old ones, because they seen that attention evaporate. What a woman needs to understand is she needs to start looking for the one that she can be with over the long term when shes around 24... and not no negro that is selling drugs and being a bad boy.

When those looks fell off and you're still out in the jungles looking for a man, you better start mashing hard with other skills because ain't no man putting up with that entitlement complex anymore. You rose to the top real fast, but you fell off just as fast. If a woman finds a decent man, she better cut the nonsense around and lock that negro up because the supply of men treating women well is drying up real quick, especially with the internet and men chopping it up on how they were taken to the cleaners by sneaky women.

I have this weird feeling that simping as we know it is gonna be done in the next 10 years due to the rampant amount of information floating around the net. Too many men are reading up on info that tells them that women treating men like shyt is wrong, on top of threads like these, on top of radio shows on youtube that is schooling dudes how to recognize bullshyt. May seems small now, but a lot of dudes are finally tired of that 90s feminist crap and finally decide to take control.

The "nice guy" is on the verge of extinction. Chivalry is dead and women indeed killed it.

 

[Newzz]

I feel you breh, but the problem is that at the time, i DID feel like that lol.. and if you read my posts from before, it WAS somethin already on my mind, i just didnt have a reason to yet.. i guess its just the speed at which its all happening and just the fact that im only human, i cant just detach from something ive built on for 4 years so easily without second thoughts and without certain fears of regretting things in the future.. the thing is, that like you, i also put my foot down a few months back. i told her the deal, and that i wasnt tolerating no disrepect no more.. AND SHE DID IT AGAIN. wtf. so if im truly a man of my word and mean what i say, at this point it should be bushes for her, but its just not that easy when it comes down to it.. lets be real here.. when things are good, its dumb easy to say yea, one slip up and your gone, and talk about how easy it is to leave.. but when the time comes to commit.. emotions can be a mother fukker..

Do you want to be with her or do you not?

TBH, I said the same thing...I was done. But you know what, after leaving my house for 4 weeks and seeing what type of women are available (there are some good ones, but the ratio is like 2 out of 10 lol), and thinking about my wife....I went back home.

I went back, because these chicks out here dont care about me. If I'm sick. If my son eats or not. If I got gas money to get to work in between pay days. That I like to just chill and watch sports most days. Dont mind eating at Benihana's or Applebees or McDonald's lol.

These chicks out here want everything from us and want to give as little effort as possible. That's why this thread is here.

These chicks are crazy. If you gotta a good one, with a little attitude, remember...she's still young breh. She still has to be coached up by you. You have to continue to mold her into YOUR woman. Scratch that, your WIFE.

BUT, you know her better than I do. If its time for the bushes then by all means,

 

[Malta]

Do you want to be with her or do you not?

TBH, I said the same thing...I was done. But you know what, after leaving my house for 4 weeks and seeing what type of women are available (there are some good ones, but the ratio is like 2 out of 10 lol), and thinking about my wife....I went back home.

I went back, because these chicks out here dont care about me. If I'm sick. If my son eats or not. If I got gas money to get to work in between pay days. That I like to just chill and watch sports most days. Dont mind eating at Benihana's or Applebees or McDonald's lol.

These chicks out here want everything from us and want to give as little effort as possible. That's why this thread is here.

These chicks are crazy. If you gotta a good one, with a little attitude, remember...she's still young breh. She still has to be coached up by you. You have to continue to mold her into YOUR woman. Scratch that, your WIFE.

BUT, you know her better than I do. If its time for the bushes then by all means,

His previous posts from a couple days back, he said he feels he should be living more, so I think he actually does want to be done with it.

I think he's been with her since he was 19, and only stayed with her cause she got pregnant.

 

[beezy]

You're married.

You are not dating this woman and she's the mother of your child. It was something about her that made you marry her....find it.

Dont throw her in the bushes just yet if all yall are doing is arguing and she aint cheating/talking to other men. She's young and will eventually LEARN as she goes. The funny thing about it is.........she learns from YOU!

You have to teach her what can and cannot be said to her man. How she can and cannot act towards you. She doesnt know, she's young, and you aint taught her (going by you saying she constantly was disrespecting you, hitting you, etc.)

Let her know that aint gonna fly with you AT ALL under no circumstances. You will NOT allow her to talk to you anyway she wants and she will not touch you. She will behave like the wife she claimed she was gonna be when she married you and if NOT, then you will have to go seperate ways because you are tired of settling for less than what you were promised by her.

You gotta set the rules in your marriage and because she married you, she is looking for that guidance breh.

Anyone that knows me in real life, knows that my little "quote" is: "People only do what YOU allow them to do". She's only doing what you are allowing her to do to you breh.

Stop allowing it. Let her know that she is your wife, you want to be with her and what treatment will and what will not be accepted by you anymore if she wants to make this marriage work.

Breh, but I ALREADY DID like how many times am i gonna have to say the same damn things to get her to act right!? how many times am i gonna have to fold on my word and lettin things slide? doesnt there have to be a line drawn somewhere? i dont want the straw that breaks the camel's back to be some REAL OD situation where i feel like i shoulda never let this get that far.. ima talk to her about what she did and why im so adamant about this.. but idk if i can bring myself to be like, "ok, i know i said the next time you disrespected me we're done, but THIS time i REALLY mean it" part 5.

 

[Sinnerman]

Have you guys ever been in love with a girl that was a slut and no good for you?

I'm in that situation now probably because she's one of the only girls that's ever shown me any sort of attention she ain't even interested in me either, but she flirts alot.

anyone else?

 

[beezy]

You're going to have to sit babygirl down and explain to her in a real way... you have to give her that understanding of what it is as opposed to just telling her not to do this or that... on some

"Look babygirl we were both emotional, but I'm going to have to be real with you. A lot is at stake here and as your husband I tell you to do things for a REASON. I'm trying to create a situation that is the best for not only us, but for our son as well, and there are some clearly unhealthy things going on in our relationship. I don't want us to be apart, because I still do love you, but there's certain things that I clearly cannot tolerate. We have two choices here. We can be weak and give up and affect not only our love, but we can drastically affect our son's life, or we can handle this how a husband and wife is supposed to and use this situation to make us stronger. To be honest, I don't want you to leave. I want to work this out with you, but you have to have that same desire."

On the real, NEVER do the on and off love thing with a female. You say one wrong thing to a woman and she will hold it against you forever. You tell her you're out of love with her and she'll hold on to it with a slight resentment that slowly builds. Watching what you say to a woman is critical because they always remember what you say.

Breh, i know that i COULD say all that and win her back, its not the issue. i just dont know if i should or want to.. it wouldnt be real of me to say things like that if i dont feel it.

 

[Malta]

Have you guys ever been in love with a girl that was a slut and no good for you?

I'm in that situation now probably because she's one of the only girls that's ever shown me any sort of attention she ain't even interested in me either, but she flirts alot.

anyone else?

I wasn't in love, but I was feeling this big booty Puerto Rican chick, she presented herself as respectable though and tried to hide her slutty ways from me. That is, until a chick I knew told me she was topping nikkas off in cabs, normally I wouldn't have believed it but the chick that told me had a cousin that described this chicks naked body. After that I got hip, checked her phone and seen that some dude was complaining about her fukking some other nikka and how he fukked her raw and could have gotten her pregnant.

I played it cool and acted like I didn't know, got her to do all sorts of nasty shyt that she claimed she "Don't do this often" then left her in the wind.

 

[Newzz]

His previous posts from a couple days back, he said he feels he should be living more, so I think he actually does want to be done with it.

I think he's been with her since he was 19, and only stayed with her cause she got pregnant.

If that's the case, he gonna have to let her go then dont string her along.

Positives are you are free/can come and go when you please/smash as many chicks as you want with no repurcussions/no nagging or attitude/etc

Negatives are you will miss your son (no matter how much time you spend with him, it will still seem like not enough)/you will have random thoughts about the good times/your wife getting pounded down by some random nikka/etc

Like I said, I stayed and it seems I made the best decision for me, because these hoes out here aint shyt for real and I already married one of the good ones at a young age lol

She just needed the "Zen" philosophy from a LWO member to straighten her out

 

[beezy]

Have you guys ever been in love with a girl that was a slut and no good for you?

I'm in that situation now probably because she's one of the only girls that's ever shown me any sort of attention she ain't even interested in me either, but she flirts alot.

anyone else?

not tryna be funny or play you, but sure, i was in this situation when i was 14.. over my first girlfriend that seems like one of the first life lessons a guy should learn.. it might even be the thing that drives them to bein a player

"So heartbreakin, like lovin a whore
might hurt ya once, but never no more" -Clipse

 

[Sinnerman]

I really wouldn't say I was in love with this slut, just curious

 

[Malta]

If that's the case, he gonna have to let her go then dont string her along.

Positives are you are free/can come and go when you please/smash as many chicks as you want with no repurcussions/no nagging or attitude/etc

Negatives are you will miss your son (no matter how much time you spend with him, it will still seem like not enough)/you will have random thoughts about the good times/your wife getting pounded down by some random nikka/etc

Like I said, I stayed and it seems I made the best decision for me, because these hoes out here aint shyt for real and I already married one of the good ones at a young age lol

She just needed the "Zen" philosophy from a LWO member to straighten her out

He got married really young though, both of them are going to grow so much that things like this in our society are inevitable. I could see if we were living in some small village/rural town where everyone gotta carry their weight, but that shyt doesn't fly in populated American cities.

Is it because she said that dude from Akron was better than the guy from Lower Merion