Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Newzz]

Just tried to have a sit down brehs.. and for what? it ended in her being so fcukin wild and outta control as usual screaming at the top of her lungs and breakin a ceramic thing on the table.. now she upstairs stompin around slammin shyt every which way see, this the type of volatility im talkin bout that i dont need in my life.. idc whats bein said, nobody should be takin things to extreme levels, i learned to control that shyt a while back, why shouldnt she? Cant even just sit down and talk like a couple of human beings man, ish is so i cant guys.. i just dont think i can and it hurts.. i guess the only advice im gonna need is recovery shortly.. although i think i may have that under control, but you never know..

Yall might need to take a break for a while like Malta said. Let it cool down, see if divorce is what yall want to do.

From the way you're describing the situation, it sounds like that's what is in the best interest of both of you.

What happened though? What did you say to her or what happened that made her go off like that instead of handling it like an adult?

 

[kevm3]

Yep, allowing her to take a vacation will give you both some time to think about where you really want to take it. I say take a vacation because you don't ever want to do the 'let's have time apart' ordeal where she thinks you are separated for a little while, because it will either give her the green light to cheat or have her thinking you are cheating.

Ya'll need some time apart because you never want to make decisions in the midst of emotion, especially anger. When the emotion has been out of the room for a while, your thinking will be much clearer, allowing you to make a decision that you can live with with much less regrets.

 

[Smashley]

Just tried to have a sit down brehs.. and for what? it ended in her being so fcukin wild and outta control as usual screaming at the top of her lungs and breakin a ceramic thing on the table.. now she upstairs stompin around slammin shyt every which way see, this the type of volatility im talkin bout that i dont need in my life.. idc whats bein said, nobody should be takin things to extreme levels, i learned to control that shyt a while back, why shouldnt she? Cant even just sit down and talk like a couple of human beings man, ish is so i cant guys.. i just dont think i can and it hurts.. i guess the only advice im gonna need is recovery shortly.. although i think i may have that under control, but you never know..

This is why my ex is still my ex... bytch couldn't sit down with me and get into a serious discussion without raising her voice and acting like a big child. I just wish I left sooner.

 

[kevm3]

Something you WILL have to realize if you get that divorce is that the make-up of your home will be completely different. As annoying as your woman may be now, are you ready to come home to a completely empty house? Your son isn't there any longer because he's with your wife. Something else to realize is are you comfortable with your child not having your influence day to day during his most critical years, when he is young? Having some time away will help you make a much better decision.

 

[winb83]

People that are married always go that extra mile to try to resuscitate a dead relationship. The love might be gone or the respect might be gone but they still allow themselves to be held prisoner to what in hindsight was a poor decision.

 

[MikelArteta]

I wasnt that young, I just thought that she was going to be smart about hers like I was showing her I was about mine. I had my ex at a distance too, but I never mixed the two or saw one while I was fukking with the other. so I kept it low key, but I saw the drive and the hard work she put down. she did cook, clean, go to school, do real estate, start up her own business, and she was a friend. she looked out for real though. made sure I was always cool or satisfied when we were around each other. even helped me cheat on one of my finals in school.

but when mr whats his name called her, that was it. she was out for the winter.


and if thats what it is, then Im not the one. see when she told me about him, it was that he was out of state, had another baby mother after her, and never was about shyt, Im like, okay so youre not with him. I get it. and youre here in school making something of yourself.

you know like he was dead out the picture. but that was not the case. no

men we need to look at it like, that man that she had a child/children with was her first choice, and most likely he still sits pretty high at the top for her. they dont like to admit failure, so chances are she will try to work it out again for him. basically shes not going to give him up unless he gives her up. regardless of what she says about him, chances are good that woman will always fukk with him.


I learned its good to just go find someone on my level. no kids, no crazy entitlement issues, nothing. just fair is fair. we need to be on close to equal grounds and have a strong understanding. I need a woman from a good family who values respect and her word.

Yup, if your a guy with kids by all means do that blended family thing and deal with baby moms and baby dads

Relationships are already hard, and most don't last why make it harder on yourself?

There is a reason why online Dating sites are littered with females with children who can't find anyone

 

[MikelArteta]

Remember

"Whores belong to no one and everyone"

 

[Ohene]

Honestly guys, hearing some people say they are lucky snatching their girl at a young age and all that kinda stuff is tempting me to talk to the Nigerian. I feel like I know this girl is good (just a little spoiled/naiive), and that the situation can be resolved. Outside of those two things there is nothing I'd want to change about her. Being a 91 baby I know how hard a good girl is to comeby. And hearing some of yall comments reinforces the idea that much more.

 

[Ohene]

Mann you ain't lying. The pasture be looking extra green on the other side, but that's only because some broad done spilled some neon paint on a patch of withered grass.

It might look like it will be fun getting out here in the paint and chopping it up with all these women, but when you try to deal with them on some serious level, it will blow your mind the nonsense they are capable of.

Definitely.

I'm lucky to have snatched my chick up when she was 20. She was still rough around the edges, still have a little more coaching to do with her now at 26, but compared to what's out here..........she's

These women out here are out here for a reason...especially those about to hit 30. They dont bring nothing to the table but sex and expectations.

It's hard to find a good woman out here, so when you do, you gotta cuff em.

Do you want to be with her or do you not?

TBH, I said the same thing...I was done. But you know what, after leaving my house for 4 weeks and seeing what type of women are available (there are some good ones, but the ratio is like 2 out of 10 lol), and thinking about my wife....I went back home.

I went back, because these chicks out here dont care about me. If I'm sick. If my son eats or not. If I got gas money to get to work in between pay days. That I like to just chill and watch sports most days. Dont mind eating at Benihana's or Applebees or McDonald's lol.

These chicks out here want everything from us and want to give as little effort as possible. That's why this thread is here.

These chicks are crazy. If you gotta a good one, with a little attitude, remember...she's still young breh. She still has to be coached up by you. You have to continue to mold her into YOUR woman. Scratch that, your WIFE.

BUT, you know her better than I do. If its time for the bushes then by all means,

Comments like these are what I'm referring to

 

[kevm3]

Real talk mane, no matter what female you deal with, it's going to be some kind of problem. It's all about finding the one that has the problems you can deal with. You catch the wrong broad mane, she'll have your soul twisted up... Acting a little spoiled may be annoying, but think about some of the things a broad can pull like doming some negro up at the club and coming home to kiss you or wearing short shorts when your boys are over and spreading her legs in their direction... thangs like that.

 

[Ohene]

Real talk mane, no matter what female you deal with, it's going to be some kind of problem. It's all about finding the one that has the problems you can deal with. You catch the wrong broad mane, she'll have your soul twisted up... Acting a little spoiled may be annoying, but think about some of the things a broad can pull like doming some negro up at the club and coming home to kiss you or wearing short shorts when your boys are over and spreading her legs in their direction... thangs like that.

I'm looking at that cape in the closet like

 

[kevm3]

lol mane you ain't gotta cape for baby, but you might have to hit baby with some lattimore

 

[kevm3]

Man I wish I could rewind time to them days were women were innocent angels in my mind... going back to the 6th grade where I would see this one girl and just think babygirl was perfect.... back in those days where I'd be mad nervous over a girl. The feeling was beautiful.

Remember them days when writing notes was what it was about? Now these lil kids sending each other nude pics on their iphones.

I used to have that heart full of warmth and them loving feelings in my younger days, but that done disappeared over time replaced by a sort of nondescript calmness which comes from a mixture of nonchalance and apathy. It's a trip how a deep friendship and love for each other can turn into intense dislike and complete coldness ain't it?

It's too bad that this culture which promotes whorishness and no loyalty has destroyed that ability to love deeply, which is 10,000 times more powerful than a few moments of lust.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lu1glrMvsPo"]2Pac - Do For Love - YouTube[/ame]

 

[winb83]

Comments like these are what I'm referring to

fukk all that these chicks out here ain't shyt talk. Never take a woman cause you think she's the best you can do or the best you're gonna get. Only accept a woman because She's what you want. As a man your concern shouldn't be getting the best you can get it should be getting exactly what you want.

The man that leaves his chick and goes back to her because of what's out there or thinking that's the best he can get and the man who has no chick at all have one thing in common. Neither has what he really wants deep down. The main difference is one of those two still has a legit shot at getting what he wants an the other has his hands full of something he doesn't really want but felt forced to take by circumstance.

 

[RickyGQ]

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6


Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved

Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of.

In the same respect that women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make in order to facilitate their imperatives, women can’t actualize how a man would have himself loved by her. It is not the natural state of women, and the moment he attempts to explain his ideal love, that’s the point at which his idealization becomes her obligation. Our girlfriends, our wives, daughters and even our mothers are all incapable of this idealized love. As nice as it would be to relax, trust and be vulnerable, upfront, rational and open, the great abyss is still the lack of an ability for women to love Men as Men would like them to."

Read more: https://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/

this is interesting... cause i've started to come to this realization and it seems like as a man, being in love is a losing game... every married man i talk to about this tells me shyt like, "thats just how it is"...