Your situation sounds like mine and in the end she broke up with me when I least expected it. I molded her as well and hate starting over as well but once a woman loses feeling for you it's over. She was cold as you can be too.
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Your situation sounds like mine and in the end she broke up with me when I least expected it. I molded her as well and hate starting over as well but once a woman loses feeling for you it's over. She was cold as you can be too.
Nope don't be her backup plan you're better than just being her safety net. If my ex called me and told me she wanted to het back together I'd have to say no regardless of how I feel. She's been with another and thought she can to better do not stand for that.
Exactly like me. There was a 1 month period before we broke up when I kept asking her if we were still good she said yes and that she loved me....then a month later we got into an small argument and she hit me with the Hogan big boot and leg drop.
i agree with everything except the ultimatum. i just don't like giving ultimatums in general. if it were me i'd just do exactly like you said, sncerely apologize but tell her that i just cant continue apologizing forever. i heard this term recently, it's like dude is doomed to "live an apology" if he continues on that path. so me, i'd just apologize one last time and tell her now it's up to her if she wants to move on and be happy wih me or if she just can't deal with it. (just not clearly say "either you..." cause saying it like that puts her on the defensive and you don't gain much from it). If she brings it up one more time THEN i tell her "Listen i love you but as i told you i can't be happy living like this so i think it's best if we just part ways, blablabla...) and then not answer any of her texts, calls unless it's about her winning me back. If i even smell a guilt trip, i don't reply, cut the convo off. and if she shows she wants me back, she's not coming back with the same title. she has to go back to regular soldier with the other new recruits for a time and during that time you still gotta find replacements for her...having been in a a similar situation, i would say you try and turn the tables. women for the most part want you to take charge but they still wanna feel like they got the power(its our job to make em believe they do).
tell her you understand how she feels but you dont wanna go on forever paying for the past.give her a sincere apology and give her an ultimatum, either she learns to let things go or you cant be together.
she'll respect you for putting your foot down but be prepared to really walk away breh. if shes moved on then fukk it at least you went out with some dignity and didnt have togrovel for the rest of the relationship.
ah the retroactive redefinition of the relationship. its funny cause i got hit with a relationship retcon before too. chick knows damn well yall were exclusive but nobody technically came out and said it directly even if it was implied and she does you dirty then tries to redefine what was obviously going on at the time.
the thing about woman and i think i said this before is they have to justify or rationalize their shytty behavior. a woman can't do a man dirty just cause she's a shytty person at least in her own mind. she has to find some logical escape for her shytty behavior so she's go over and over what she's doing till she finds a logical crack she can squeak through then when she's confronted about it she'll fall back on that.
most of these situations are just them bullshytting themselves so they can feel ok about what they do even if it is wrong.
Yep, once a woman gets distant and goes cold, it's pretty much over. Best thing you can do is keep it pushing. If she rushes to you and makes the effort to try and make it work upon hearing the news, then maybe it'll work. If she's like cool, she's ejected and is gone.
“Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished.”
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Smh. We textin now. She saying she just wants to see
That I really am goin to change this time.....
so now your whole relationship is based on you proving something to her and she gets to decide the benchmarks. if you accept that sucker-deal "in the name of love" she'll basically own you forever.
Even if things go well for the next couple months women never forget and store it all so they can use it on you oneday. It could be 5 years from now when she snaps or it could be tomorrow the point is when you've done a woman wrong too many times you're on borrowed time. You might be better off finding a new woman and using the knowledge you've gained from your mistakes.
Smh well I guess I just need to figure out how to get over her.