Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Was at a car convention in LV last week and got a couple stories i want to share with y'all.
Real good reads... But been so busy.
Don't worry, a fella ain't forgot about y'all at the "gems" thread.
Best place on the internet. Hopefully we have all learned from each other and live vicariously through one another's faults and mishaps.
The game is tough. I had to learn it through my own eyes, almost all my tribulations and situations. My father being a first generation immigrant, there was a cultural barrier off the bat. Having your only sibling being an older sister somewhat helped (it showed me what kind of women to avoid, and her types are one of them - divorced and i'm sorry to call my own blood this, somewhat a floozie).
By the end of the day, it was my experiences that help engineer my game today (and with a reassuring mother who just says, "Find a girl you love" - that's it).
Love ain't easy to find.
Sometimes, it's a lot like a soccer game... sometimes you win, sometimes you don't... sometimes - it's just a tie. Neutral. No win. No Loss. Nothing. Empty.
A lot of us have been burned by our past encounters. We're jaded. Yes. But we're still standing today. Dishing out proverbial assists in a thread that has become a sanctuary of e-solace for many.
I apologize for not contributing much lately, but i've been doing a lot of living, learning (and a little loving, but i'll reserve that for a rainy day)...
And fortunately for y'all... it's supposedly gonna rain all week in Seattle.
I'll title this one... To Sema with Love.
Stay tuned, fam.
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Real good reads... But been so busy.
Don't worry, a fella ain't forgot about y'all at the "gems" thread.
Best place on the internet. Hopefully we have all learned from each other and live vicariously through one another's faults and mishaps.
The game is tough. I had to learn it through my own eyes, almost all my tribulations and situations. My father being a first generation immigrant, there was a cultural barrier off the bat. Having your only sibling being an older sister somewhat helped (it showed me what kind of women to avoid, and her types are one of them - divorced and i'm sorry to call my own blood this, somewhat a floozie).
By the end of the day, it was my experiences that help engineer my game today (and with a reassuring mother who just says, "Find a girl you love" - that's it).
Love ain't easy to find.
Sometimes, it's a lot like a soccer game... sometimes you win, sometimes you don't... sometimes - it's just a tie. Neutral. No win. No Loss. Nothing. Empty.
A lot of us have been burned by our past encounters. We're jaded. Yes. But we're still standing today. Dishing out proverbial assists in a thread that has become a sanctuary of e-solace for many.
I apologize for not contributing much lately, but i've been doing a lot of living, learning (and a little loving, but i'll reserve that for a rainy day)...
And fortunately for y'all... it's supposedly gonna rain all week in Seattle.
I'll title this one... To Sema with Love.
Stay tuned, fam.
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Ok brehs.... So me and my girl still aren't clicking. Her whole vibe is different. I'm trying to love her and fall back from my bs but I think she's just still stuck on the old sh!t I did. I can just sense that she isn't feeling me anymore or maybe I'm just paranoid cuz I know I been a horrible boyfriend in the past.
Last night no sex again and I told her I didn't care if we didn't and that I was done with pressing her for sex. Her reply "well if we both don't care that's not a good thing" . I told her i can't keep trying to defend old stuff I did. Her reply was "it's not about that its about fixing things". That's bs to me because even if I live 100% right she wil still bring up old shyt. It's just how it is.
Can't front ... Don't know what to do. I love her and I can actually see myself being with her but its kinda like she has me by the balls. I feel like I need to do something to get my manhood back lol. Either that or just cut her off but to keep it all the way real...I'm horrible at attemping to cut her off. I always end up texting her and being right back.
The perfect scenario would be for me to just cut off all communication phone and text and just kinda vanish. Out of nowhere. No reply no nothing. She'll either come crawling or be done and move on to some next guy (if she hasn't already)
Smh I feel like a sucka.
I need y'all to be brutally honest and also suggest what I should do...
(I honestly think she is screwing someone else but I can't prove it. She use to always want to f*ck now she's either tired or she says all she can think about is the foul stuff I did and it kinda turns her off. I don't think it's that deep i think some guy is bangin her out or at least giving her attention)
Last night no sex again and I told her I didn't care if we didn't and that I was done with pressing her for sex. Her reply "well if we both don't care that's not a good thing" . I told her i can't keep trying to defend old stuff I did. Her reply was "it's not about that its about fixing things". That's bs to me because even if I live 100% right she wil still bring up old shyt. It's just how it is.
Can't front ... Don't know what to do. I love her and I can actually see myself being with her but its kinda like she has me by the balls. I feel like I need to do something to get my manhood back lol. Either that or just cut her off but to keep it all the way real...I'm horrible at attemping to cut her off. I always end up texting her and being right back.
The perfect scenario would be for me to just cut off all communication phone and text and just kinda vanish. Out of nowhere. No reply no nothing. She'll either come crawling or be done and move on to some next guy (if she hasn't already)
Smh I feel like a sucka.
I need y'all to be brutally honest and also suggest what I should do...
(I honestly think she is screwing someone else but I can't prove it. She use to always want to f*ck now she's either tired or she says all she can think about is the foul stuff I did and it kinda turns her off. I don't think it's that deep i think some guy is bangin her out or at least giving her attention)
Its over man. She will always hold the shyt in the past against you. Do you want to be a emotional slave in this situation with your girl? Let go and learn your lesson from this when you find another girl that you like and vice versa.
I feel you but damn we been together a while and I kinda molded her. I hate that whole starting over sh1t. I feel you tho breh.
Everything that has a beginning has an end. You are at the end of your situation with your chic. Just accept the harsh reality of your relationship and let go if you really care for her.
You believe in the "let it go and if it comes back its yours theory?" ... Should I just vanish cold turkey and see if she puts in effort to be in my life?
someone had a ssimilar problem yesterday and my reply to him kind of applies to your situation as well. hope this helps...
EDIT: but you have to truly believe it. it has to be sincere. not saying it couldn't work as a tactic. but if you're bluffing she might sense it. and if she calls your bluff you'll be even more crushed and she'll own your soul...
Shameonyou
All Star
dump her llike the damn trash on sunday evening brotha
No, you just may have to let her go so she can find someone who is a better fit for her. She may come back just because she can't find anyone else, but do you want to be the 2nd or 3rd option? Plus if she does come back, you past issues is still going to be on the back of her mind no matter what. Let her go so she can find someone who can make her happy, even if it not you.
blackwaterpark
Pro
having been in a a similar situation, i would say you try and turn the tables. women for the most part want you to take charge but they still wanna feel like they got the power(its our job to make em believe they do).
tell her you understand how she feels but you dont wanna go on forever paying for the past.give her a sincere apology and give her an ultimatum, either she learns to let things go or you cant be together.
she'll respect you for putting your foot down but be prepared to really walk away breh. if shes moved on then fukk it at least you went out with some dignity and didnt have to
grovel for the rest of the relationship.It kind of slowly built over time. I been fukking up for a while now. But now it's just starting to really get to me. I can really sense it. What confuses me is she swears she loves but she just wants me to change. Told her I'm done but I'm still getting the cold shoulder at times. Which I can understand kinda.... I don't know yo... I just love this girl and the foul sh1t I did is coming back to haunt me.
