Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Idk I'd be cool except some variation of this seems to happen to me every semester. I meet a girl who looks great and I genuinely find interesting and really like and she likes me back and I get caught up, but she's taken. I mean there's always other girls I'm "talking" to but I don't really like 'em like that.
Dont fukk with women in a relationahip at best your a ego boost at worst shes with some possessive nikka who is going to rightfully want to fukk you up. Flirt with em, gdt cool with hwr friends or w/e stop running in circles for unavailable women
 

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Dont fukk with women in a relationahip at best your a ego boost at worst shes with some possessive nikka who is going to rightfully want to fukk you up. Flirt with em, gdt cool with hwr friends or w/e stop running in circles for unavailable women

Yep, lesson learned on that
 

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Say bruhs on a scale of 1-10 how badly did I fukk up and how big of an L is this :mjlol:

Girl is into me, we talk, hang out, exchange #'s, yada yada I ask her out, she says her boyfriend wouldn't be ok with that. So ok, I knew this from looking at your IG you were taken but I had to try anyways. So I slide into friend territory, we develop a pretty great/fun/semi-flirty casual friendship, so then I'm just like fukk it and ask her out again a couple weeks later. She says no again because she's taken, and then some bullshyt happens where she misinterprets my words/actions and thinks I got mad and was disrespecting her. Ignores me for a week before I hit her up and we go into this debate where I try to explain to her the miscommunications. At this point, I'm totally cool with just being friends - she's fun to talk to, a solid friend, and I enjoy her company. Platonic or not, I was just intent on being cool with her so there's no bad blood. That's 100% truth (although if sometime down the line she was single again Idk what I would do)

But shyt goes south after this debate. It ended ok, but then I basically tell her you're being a lil unfair and, in her words, told her to "fukk off". I also annoyed her a little bit with overtexting, but I didn't expect her to owe me a response to any of them because they were just jokes I was sending to try to break the tension lol. Anyways, we talk face-to-face and that ends fine and I thought things were patched up. But a week passes, and I run into her after class coincidentally near her train stop, so she thought I was following her, and then curses me out and told me to leave her the fukk alone, so I'm like ok and I apologized for everything and then left her alone. I guess she thought I was still trying to get her but I explained to her I just wanna be friends. She then says ok, but "I still need space so since you can "pretend I never existed w ease (quoting something I said to her)" then please do so". Now I have to take alternate routes from my class so I don't run into her, which is causing inconveniences. I text + message her to let her know that if she sees me I'm not creeping I'm just tryna go where I need to go, but then she unfollows me on IG, blocks me on Facebook, and I can't confirm it but she prob blocked my # too. Smh. I tried respecting her boundaries, apologizing, letting her know I'm just cool w being friends, respected her wishes, but still ate an L and lost a friend in the process :francis:
This was a hard read breh :snoop:

-soon as she told you she had a boyfriend, you should have left it alone. (the fact she gave you her number but has a bf is telling by the way.)
-soon as she "misinterpreted" your words and started acting bytchy, you should have left her alone. the fact you didn't and kept trying to explain yourself and make things ok, made her realize how p*ssy you are and how much you need her to not dislike you which dried her p*ssy up.
-sending jokes to break the tension? that's what a lot of dudes don't get. sometimes what you run away from is what you should embrace and vice-versa. if there was tension or awkwardness and you showed her it doesn't make you sweat, she would have seen that you're solid. The tension is actually an opportunity in disguise to show her that you don't need her approval. All she saw is that if she wanted to have her way with you, all she has to do is start a bullshyt argument with you and you'd plead with her.
-you apologizing for running into her? the bytch doesn't own the train stop breh. You better check between your legs to make sure your balls are still there. I'm being harsh with you cause you need to realize how pathetic your behavior is breh.
-then on top of that you still texting the bytch to preemptively apologize in case she bumps into you??? :what:keep in mind this is a bytch you should have left alone from jump. stop conducting yourself like a loser breh.
 

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This was a hard read breh :snoop:

-soon as she told you she had a boyfriend, you should have left it alone. (the fact she gave you her number but has a bf is telling by the way.)
-soon as she "misinterpreted" your words and started acting bytchy, you should have left her alone. the fact you didn't and kept trying to explain yourself and make things ok, made her realize how p*ssy you are and how much you need her to not dislike you which dried her p*ssy up.
-sending jokes to break the tension? that's what a lot of dudes don't get. sometimes what you run away from is what you should embrace and vice-versa. if there was tension or awkwardness and you showed her it doesn't make you sweat, she would have seen that you're solid. The tension is actually an opportunity in disguise to show her that you don't need her approval. All she saw is that if she wanted to have her way with you, all she has to do is start a bullshyt argument with you and you'd plead with her.
-you apologizing for running into her? the bytch doesn't own the train stop breh. You better check between your legs to make sure your balls are still there. I'm being harsh with you cause you need to realize how pathetic your behavior is breh.
-then on top of that you still texting the bytch to preemptively apologize in case she bumps into you??? :what:keep in mind this is a bytch you should have left alone from jump. stop conducting yourself like a loser breh.

Yeah I realized I did some ill-advised shyt. But again, after she rejected me the 2nd time I was really just content with staying friends so I wasn't concerned with whether I was coming across weak or firm or whatever anymore :yeshrug:
And unfortunately I'm not trying to get hit with an misconduct/harassment charge so I really did have to try to clear things up. She really did seem uncomfortable when I bumped into her
 

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Say bruhs on a scale of 1-10 how badly did I fukk up and how big of an L is this :mjlol:

Girl is into me, we talk, hang out, exchange #'s, yada yada I ask her out, she says her boyfriend wouldn't be ok with that. So ok, I knew this from looking at your IG you were taken but I had to try anyways. So I slide into friend territory, we develop a pretty great/fun/semi-flirty casual friendship, so then I'm just like fukk it and ask her out again a couple weeks later. She says no again because she's taken, and then some bullshyt happens where she misinterprets my words/actions and thinks I got mad and was disrespecting her. Ignores me for a week before I hit her up and we go into this debate where I try to explain to her the miscommunications. At this point, I'm totally cool with just being friends - she's fun to talk to, a solid friend, and I enjoy her company. Platonic or not, I was just intent on being cool with her so there's no bad blood. That's 100% truth (although if sometime down the line she was single again Idk what I would do)

But shyt goes south after this debate. It ended ok, but then I basically tell her you're being a lil unfair and, in her words, told her to "fukk off". I also annoyed her a little bit with overtexting, but I didn't expect her to owe me a response to any of them because they were just jokes I was sending to try to break the tension lol. Anyways, we talk face-to-face and that ends fine and I thought things were patched up. But a week passes, and I run into her after class coincidentally near her train stop, so she thought I was following her, and then curses me out and told me to leave her the fukk alone, so I'm like ok and I apologized for everything and then left her alone. I guess she thought I was still trying to get her but I explained to her I just wanna be friends. She then says ok, but "I still need space so since you can "pretend I never existed w ease (quoting something I said to her)" then please do so". Now I have to take alternate routes from my class so I don't run into her, which is causing inconveniences. I text + message her to let her know that if she sees me I'm not creeping I'm just tryna go where I need to go, but then she unfollows me on IG, blocks me on Facebook, and I can't confirm it but she prob blocked my # too. Smh. I tried respecting her boundaries, apologizing, letting her know I'm just cool w being friends, respected her wishes, but still ate an L and lost a friend in the process :francis:
Cmon breh
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Yeah I realized I did some ill-advised shyt. But again, after she rejected me the 2nd time I was really just content with staying friends so I wasn't concerned with whether I was coming across weak or firm or whatever anymore :yeshrug:
And unfortunately I'm not trying to get hit with an misconduct/harassment charge so I really did have to try to clear things up. She really did seem uncomfortable when I bumped into her
i understand why you felt that way. but you need to realize that trying to contact her to apologize makes it seem even more like you're harassing her. when you bumped into her and she told you to leave her alone, your whole attitude should have been ":childplease: bytch? no one is worried about you!" you should have made her feel like she played herself for trying to make it seem like you were stalking her. to the point where she would doubt anyone would believe her. She would have seen how arrogant she is coming off. like i said, the bytch doesn't own the public train stop. fukk her discomfort. but instead, you bought into her version of reality and acted accordingly. so in her mind, you seem even more like a stalker. see you apologizing makes it even more likely that you get caught up with an harassment charge. it's not even about getting the bytch. it's about respecting yourself.
 

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i understand why you felt that way. but you need to realize that trying to contact her to apologize makes it seem even more like you're harassing her. when you bumped into her and she told you to leave her alone, your whole attitude should have been ":childplease: bytch? no one is worried about you!" you should have made her feel like she played herself for trying to make it seem like you were stalking her. to the point where she would doubt anyone would believe her. She would have seen how arrogant she is coming off. like i said, the bytch doesn't own the public train stop. fukk her discomfort. but instead, you bought into her version of reality and acted accordingly. so in her mind, you seem even more like a stalker. see you apologizing makes it even more likely that you get caught up with an harassment charge. it's not even about getting the bytch. it's about respecting yourself.

I kid you not, that was my exact reaction. I told her "you deadass thought I was following you?" and laughed it off. I never apologized for none of that, I did apologize to her for stuff like guilt tripping her into thinking she did me foul (which she kinda did but whatever). I only texted her again later to let her know if she see me around the train station, I'm just going where I need to go, and that's when she blocked me.

Idk, I just wanted to talk about it a lil and get it off my chest, I just wanna be over it. Honestly this is a lil too embarrassing to share non-anonymously :mjlol:
 

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I kid you not, that was my exact reaction. I told her "you deadass thought I was following you?" and laughed it off. I never apologized for none of that, I did apologize to her for stuff like guilt tripping her into thinking she did me foul (which she kinda did but whatever). I only texted her again later to let her know if she see me around the train station, I'm just going where I need to go, and that's when she blocked me.

Idk, I just wanted to talk about it a lil and get it off my chest, I just wanna be over it. Honestly this is a lil too embarrassing to share non-anonymously :mjlol:
as long as you learned your lesson breh.
 

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This was a hard read breh :snoop:

-soon as she told you she had a boyfriend, you should have left it alone. (the fact she gave you her number but has a bf is telling by the way.)
-soon as she "misinterpreted" your words and started acting bytchy, you should have left her alone. the fact you didn't and kept trying to explain yourself and make things ok, made her realize how p*ssy you are and how much you need her to not dislike you which dried her p*ssy up.
-sending jokes to break the tension? that's what a lot of dudes don't get. sometimes what you run away from is what you should embrace and vice-versa. if there was tension or awkwardness and you showed her it doesn't make you sweat, she would have seen that you're solid. The tension is actually an opportunity in disguise to show her that you don't need her approval. All she saw is that if she wanted to have her way with you, all she has to do is start a bullshyt argument with you and you'd plead with her.
-you apologizing for running into her? the bytch doesn't own the train stop breh. You better check between your legs to make sure your balls are still there. I'm being harsh with you cause you need to realize how pathetic your behavior is breh.
-then on top of that you still texting the bytch to preemptively apologize in case she bumps into you??? :what:keep in mind this is a bytch you should have left alone from jump. stop conducting yourself like a loser breh.

i read ol boy's post and couldnt really decide on how to respond because he was so, so, far gone. what u said here is basically what i would have said, but far more obliterating.

yes, ol boy made himself look heavily pathetic, similar to the texts posted by Rice n Beckford and that other dude YG something. cant remember their names.

but, to ol boy who u quoted, ill tell you this:

1. that girl sees you as a creep
2. avoid her at all cost, yes, even if that means going to a different train stop or avoiding the times shes usually at a train station. u did this to yourself.
yes, she doesnt own the train stop. but u basically fuccked things up so bad now she has legit reason to fear for her safety when she sees u. ur a guy and shes a woman. u can can overpower her and have ur way with her and ur actions so far has shown ur likely to be a guy capable of such things.

the sad thing here is, im afraid no amount of advice is going to save you.
 

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i read ol boy's post and couldnt really decide on how to respond because he was so, so, far gone. what u said here is basically what i would have said, but far more obliterating.

yes, ol boy made himself look heavily pathetic, similar to the texts posted by Rice n Beckford and that other dude YG something. cant remember their names.

but, to ol boy who u quoted, ill tell you this:

1. that girl sees you as a creep
2. avoid her at all cost, yes, even if that means going to a different train stop or avoiding the times shes usually at a train station. u did this to yourself.
yes, she doesnt own the train stop. but u basically fuccked things up so bad now she has legit reason to fear for her safety when she sees u. ur a guy and shes a woman. u can can overpower her and have ur way with her and ur actions so far has shown ur likely to be a guy capable of such things.

the sad thing here is, im afraid no amount of advice is going to save you.
very good points. so many fukk ups it's like dude is already labeled.
 

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Say bruhs on a scale of 1-10 how badly did I fukk up and how big of an L is this :mjlol:

Girl is into me, we talk, hang out, exchange #'s, yada yada I ask her out, she says her boyfriend wouldn't be ok with that. So ok, I knew this from looking at your IG you were taken but I had to try anyways. So I slide into friend territory, we develop a pretty great/fun/semi-flirty casual friendship, so then I'm just like fukk it and ask her out again a couple weeks later. She says no again because she's taken, and then some bullshyt happens where she misinterprets my words/actions and thinks I got mad and was disrespecting her. Ignores me for a week before I hit her up and we go into this debate where I try to explain to her the miscommunications. At this point, I'm totally cool with just being friends - she's fun to talk to, a solid friend, and I enjoy her company. Platonic or not, I was just intent on being cool with her so there's no bad blood. That's 100% truth (although if sometime down the line she was single again Idk what I would do)

But shyt goes south after this debate. It ended ok, but then I basically tell her you're being a lil unfair and, in her words, told her to "fukk off". I also annoyed her a little bit with overtexting, but I didn't expect her to owe me a response to any of them because they were just jokes I was sending to try to break the tension lol. Anyways, we talk face-to-face and that ends fine and I thought things were patched up. But a week passes, and I run into her after class coincidentally near her train stop, so she thought I was following her, and then curses me out and told me to leave her the fukk alone, so I'm like ok and I apologized for everything and then left her alone. I guess she thought I was still trying to get her but I explained to her I just wanna be friends. She then says ok, but "I still need space so since you can "pretend I never existed w ease (quoting something I said to her)" then please do so". Now I have to take alternate routes from my class so I don't run into her, which is causing inconveniences. I text + message her to let her know that if she sees me I'm not creeping I'm just tryna go where I need to go, but then she unfollows me on IG, blocks me on Facebook, and I can't confirm it but she prob blocked my # too. Smh. I tried respecting her boundaries, apologizing, letting her know I'm just cool w being friends, respected her wishes, but still ate an L and lost a friend in the process :francis:

That’s a MASSIVE L with a Bold Sharpie
I’m sorry breh the shyt u did was SIMPING GONE TO FAR and lack of common sense

What my brehs @TRUEST @Turbulent said is correct
 

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That’s a MASSIVE L with a Bold Sharpie
I’m sorry breh the shyt u did was SIMPING GONE TO FAR and lack of common sense

What my brehs @TRUEST @Turbulent said is correct

I don't care if I came across as a simp; I made my intentions clear I was only interested in being friends :yeshrug: The sting just comes from the fact that I keep getting myself involved in these type of situations and now I lose out on someone who was a pretty good friend
 

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I don't care if I came across as a simp; I made my intentions clear I was only interested in being friends :yeshrug: The sting just comes from the fact that I keep getting myself involved in these type of situations and now I lose out on someone who was a pretty good friend

I don’t think simping is bad if done properly and for the right person
U should care if u do come across cuz of how this situation ended tho breh
U should care if u come across as a simp Period to women it causes wrong signals and heartbreak
If ur gonna simp u gotta do it right and at the right time and the right person
 

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I don't care if I came across as a simp; I made my intentions clear I was only interested in being friends :yeshrug: The sting just comes from the fact that I keep getting myself involved in these type of situations and now I lose out on someone who was a pretty good friend
If this girl threw you the puss you wouldnt deny because youre friends. Stop bullshytting yourself.
 

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If this girl threw you the puss you wouldnt deny because youre friends. Stop bullshytting yourself.

Not while she's in a relationship or even any short time after that though. If we're both single for a significant amount of time and she was interested in some sort of relationship then yeah, I can say I'd prolly take on that opportunity. Besides that scenario, I only see her as a friend at this point. It's a moot discussion altogether though 'cause I'm likely never gonna talk to her again
 
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