Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CrossBones]

So I was on the bus home from Toronto and we were talking on the phone. She said she had plans for Saturday earlier in the week but no longer and I mentioned how I wish she woulda told me so I could set something up and she said its okay dont worry about it. Cool. Truth is I often dont have the ability to take her out because she lives downtown now for school and I'm in a suburb with no whip. Times we went out in the past she was living in my neighbourhood and I would drive her infiniti that her parents/brother passed down (she doesnt have her canadian license --> shes an immigrant). But I digress.


I feel bad about not being able to take her out enough as I'd want to because of what i just said and me paying for tuition (done in a week) it limited my possibilities and reach. Still, I mentioned then how I was gonna grab Raptors tickets for a game within the next two weeks anyways. We already discussed this and she was excited about it...but now all of a sudden she seemed like she didnt care to go. Between this and her not wanting to go out this weekend I felt like she was kinda distancing herself...perhaps to prepare to just dump me you know? Like these are how the signs begin and I gotta nip it or pick up on it now. I say this because she was acting a little bit timid or standoffish after some dumb little disagreement we had yesterday (details upon request lol).

So I sensed the bad vibe and asked her why she's acting this way. Dont remember what I said but thats the gist. She started going on about how she just has been getting frustrated and how she doesnt ask me for much (relates to ysterdays disagreement) but overall...she is just not used to guys like me. She's spoiled and high maintenance to be frank whether I want to come to terms with that or not. She is limiting it for me though I must say. But if thats who she naturally is...how long can she last?

Anyway, our mentalities are different and although she has been adapting and trying to understand me which I see. Maybe this thread and my experience has corrupted me. I dunno. I just feel like I was raised a certain way first and foremost. We were discussing the differences somewhat to a point where she just asked me to stop. I guess she didnt wanna hear it.

I exit the bus...and I am saying how although we are different I still feel like we can ultimately reach a compromise gradually as we grow with one another and learn from one another. My whole thing is that I am 21 years old and I have become who I am through years of my parents raising me and instilling values...and years of experiences i've had regarding ANYTHING in life which ends up creating general mindsets and values for any human being. (Note that I'm a psych minor and i know quite a bit about personalitiess coming from genetics vs. nonshared or shared experience concluded by twins blah blah). Anyways...i just feel like I can make the effort to change and I gradually will...but she has to be patient. It's only been two months after all.


She basically says she really doubts it can happen so at that point I'm like . If you dont think it can happen then why bother. You cannot have doubt and then expect things to work out like its some sort of sport where youre a fan of the underdog. It just sends a bad omen if you ask me. If you dont think itll work, what motivation do you have to make it work. I tell her that she knows she is a free human being and she can do as she wishes so just to remember that. Not even as a threat but hey...I aint holding you hostage.

A little more talk mayve ensued and then i told her that what she must realize is I can play the part and do whats necessary to make her happy...yet still turn around and be a snake behind her back. She said her exboyfriend was nice, used to also buy her gifts and do nice things for her, he was a good guy or whatever but he then cheated. My point was that I could do the same thing...but is that whats good for her? It isnt.

But with me she knows she has a loyal dude who is willing to put in the work and effort to somehow succeed against the odds. That should be whats more important. I guess she doesnt see it or doesnt care though. She always says she feels like I aint trying and I treat her like a regular girl instead of a girlfriend . I'm trying though brehs. It aint easy with me being a very honest and abrasive guy but I am trying. It's only been two months brehs

What she got out of that though, was I think she just wants a guy who can spend money on her or whatever. She started laughing over the phone asking if I think her family is poor or some shyt and how if that was the case why would she be with me. Totally interpreted my point wrong and wouldnt let me clarify . They never do. She said she was tired and wouldnt let me explain so I just said okay if you wanna break up then bye. We then hung up. And some other stuff ensued but just read that and I'll continue after some commentary.

Its a shame because I know where she's coming from. She doesnt ask for too much and she just thinks I'm an a$$hole because of my brash nature. I havent been the best boyfriend I can be but there are circumstances hindering that. She just needs to be patient. I dont like feeling like I'm boring her. For her to bring that whole family being rich thing up is foolish too. Like is that something to be proud of? Your dad is rich, he is the hardworking one and you are merely a beneficiary. My dad is a Civil Engineer for SNC-Lavalin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. He is no slouch but he always promoted a do it yourself/self-made mentality. It's just how Ghanaians are. I'm trying to get her to see the picture...but all it takes is a couple of clouds for her to forget what it looks like. Too impulsive man.

quick question: what is SHE doing for the relationship? is she working with you for real? she put in the effort and understanding, or is it all about her? does she try to go all out like you do?



you know girls love that competitive shyt. comparing what shes got with what she can get. eyes all wide at the prospects of something "better." not saying thats the case, but you need to be aware that women do this everyday, b. if she cant appreciate the shyt that you do like its not enough, are you willing to (is it even worth it for you) to do it?

I say this just so you can get a clearer view at what shes doing and what youre doing. just be fair. and sometimes, I would say maybe be a little less brash - but remain forthcoming. bring up what bothers you but no need to be brash all the time. just state your point and stand by it.

good luck!

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Breh none of this shyt matters if you ain't hit

Seeing her Tuesday, breh.

I won't let you down.

 

[CrossBones]

say brehs are these good morning text im sending really working or is it a waste of time...she always responds back and start convo but i dont know if its really doing something or not

peep story though...been knowing this chick past 4 years thru undergrad, shes one year older and currently in grad school this is my last year and we'll be in the same city for a few more years at least, but she always liked me and showed interest so age aint nothin but a number...anyway at least once a year for the past few years we'll take like a month and try "talkin" to each other but it cant seem to get over that hump to go to the next step , but she stay flirting and when shes drunk thats when she cant control herself around me and be all in her feeling but when she sober she wont let them feeling out ...help me out brehs I know this a good one and worth the fight only chick worth the simp effort in my opinion

shes got you in a holding pattern. youre her emergency "break in case of dikk" back up.

she obviously thinks only enough of you to keep on a close leash and to be there in convenience of her. what the fukk. girls do that today more than ever.

my man, if she wanted you like for real, she would have been on it. this is just a game for her. if you set up a way to hit that, then do that and bounce.

but since she is only asking you for shyt, texting you all the time and its not to hook up, shes basically making you a ho for her time. drop it. get someone who WILL jump at the chance to chill with you and fukk with you. be busy. do YOUR thing. she will get the message, and either step up or step off. this is a game for her, dont take her serious and dont waste your time. get something out of it or just leave it

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Seeing her Tuesday, breh.

I won't let you down.

If you don't, there's a bush with your name on it breh

 

[CrossBones]

Approaching a new woman every day for a month, Day 8:

So I am finding this to be easier and easier every day that I do this. It's like getting used to playing a sport or performing music for people. It's just a performance or a game with a one-person audience.

tl;dr: I learned to establish relevance to keep a girl's guard down, don't get too outwardly excited when the conversation is going really well.

for real thats ill. you got your confidence and youre getting technique down. keep doing your thing

 

[CrossBones]

I think wit is such an important factor. in life and with women. if you can deal with a brand new situation in any manner of time and with what you have or can find, youre good money. you can open people up, catch them off guard, kick real genuine game. the only trick is to make it relevant enough that both of you can care about it enough to set up the next play. its almost trickery where theyre looking at one thing, while youre doing or setting up another.

 

[philmonroe]

Throw in Rich Dad, Poor Dad too.

Assets vs Liabilities....Income vs Debt. shyt will have you like

I've read the first book but it was when I was younger I need to read it again. I'm assuming your talking about the first one since its so many now.

 

[ManMade]

Women always be on some bs breh lol

BUT, they like to be "put in their place" and told what to do. They love "men" breh. You gotta TELL her yall going out, not ask....Ya know?

Girl: Hello?
ManMade: How you doing?
Girl: I'm fine, how are you?
ManMade: I'm good. What are you doing later on this evening?
Girl: Later? Hmmm, nothing....why?
ManMade: Good. I'm taking you out for some drinks. So we can just relax and chill or whatever.
Girl: Where we going and what time are you talking about?
ManMade: About 8 or 9pm....most likely 9pm. And I taking you to the hood bars lol Just a nice lil spot downtown.
Girl: Okay
ManMade: Alright. Well I'ma be there to get you at 8:30, so dont take all day in front of the mirror getting all sexy for me, hahahaha (gotta make these chicks laugh lol)
Girl: Hahaha you silly (she eating it up breh). Okay, I'ma be ready.
ManMade: Alright, bye
Girl: Bye



Easy breh....Im telling you.:shake:

 

[ManMade]

shes got you in a holding pattern. youre her emergency "break in case of dikk" back up.

she obviously thinks only enough of you to keep on a close leash and to be there in convenience of her. what the fukk. girls do that today more than ever.

my man, if she wanted you like for real, she would have been on it. this is just a game for her. if you set up a way to hit that, then do that and bounce.

but since she is only asking you for shyt, texting you all the time and its not to hook up, shes basically making you a ho for her time. drop it. get someone who WILL jump at the chance to chill with you and fukk with you. be busy. do YOUR thing. she will get the message, and either step up or step off. this is a game for her, dont take her serious and dont waste your time. get something out of it or just leave it

 

[CrossBones]

its do or die time for her, shes either with the program or not. aint no in between this shyt! shes willing or youre not able.

 

[Newzz]

its do or die time for her, shes either with the program or not. aint no in between this shyt! shes willing or youre not able.

And stop responding to her texts all the time if she aint giving you what you want. See her text, look at your phone, if she aint talking about meeting up...don't respond back. Dont be on HER time. Let her feel like if she wanna deal with you, she gotta be bringing something to the table to keep YOU interested in her.

Chicks will do that. Knowing you wanna fukk, she will call you talk to you for HOURS about nothing really because she has no one else to talk to, fukk the next dude that night.....and call you in the morning asking how was your evening lol

A woman will use you for emotional comfort and another for physical comfort if you let them.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

So I was on the bus home from Toronto and we were talking on the phone. She said she had plans for Saturday earlier in the week but no longer and I mentioned how I wish she woulda told me so I could set something up and she said its okay dont worry about it. Cool. Truth is I often dont have the ability to take her out because she lives downtown now for school and I'm in a suburb with no whip. Times we went out in the past she was living in my neighbourhood and I would drive her infiniti that her parents/brother passed down (she doesnt have her canadian license --> shes an immigrant). But I digress.


I feel bad about not being able to take her out enough as I'd want to because of what i just said and me paying for tuition (done in a week) it limited my possibilities and reach. Still, I mentioned then how I was gonna grab Raptors tickets for a game within the next two weeks anyways. We already discussed this and she was excited about it...but now all of a sudden she seemed like she didnt care to go. Between this and her not wanting to go out this weekend I felt like she was kinda distancing herself...perhaps to prepare to just dump me you know? Like these are how the signs begin and I gotta nip it or pick up on it now. I say this because she was acting a little bit timid or standoffish after some dumb little disagreement we had yesterday (details upon request lol).

So I sensed the bad vibe and asked her why she's acting this way. Dont remember what I said but thats the gist. She started going on about how she just has been getting frustrated and how she doesnt ask me for much (relates to ysterdays disagreement) but overall...she is just not used to guys like me. She's spoiled and high maintenance to be frank whether I want to come to terms with that or not. She is limiting it for me though I must say. But if thats who she naturally is...how long can she last?

Anyway, our mentalities are different and although she has been adapting and trying to understand me which I see. Maybe this thread and my experience has corrupted me. I dunno. I just feel like I was raised a certain way first and foremost. We were discussing the differences somewhat to a point where she just asked me to stop. I guess she didnt wanna hear it.

I exit the bus...and I am saying how although we are different I still feel like we can ultimately reach a compromise gradually as we grow with one another and learn from one another. My whole thing is that I am 21 years old and I have become who I am through years of my parents raising me and instilling values...and years of experiences i've had regarding ANYTHING in life which ends up creating general mindsets and values for any human being. (Note that I'm a psych minor and i know quite a bit about personalitiess coming from genetics vs. nonshared or shared experience concluded by twins blah blah). Anyways...i just feel like I can make the effort to change and I gradually will...but she has to be patient. It's only been two months after all.


She basically says she really doubts it can happen so at that point I'm like . If you dont think it can happen then why bother. You cannot have doubt and then expect things to work out like its some sort of sport where youre a fan of the underdog. It just sends a bad omen if you ask me. If you dont think itll work, what motivation do you have to make it work. I tell her that she knows she is a free human being and she can do as she wishes so just to remember that. Not even as a threat but hey...I aint holding you hostage.

A little more talk mayve ensued and then i told her that what she must realize is I can play the part and do whats necessary to make her happy...yet still turn around and be a snake behind her back. She said her exboyfriend was nice, used to also buy her gifts and do nice things for her, he was a good guy or whatever but he then cheated. My point was that I could do the same thing...but is that whats good for her? It isnt.

But with me she knows she has a loyal dude who is willing to put in the work and effort to somehow succeed against the odds. That should be whats more important. I guess she doesnt see it or doesnt care though. She always says she feels like I aint trying and I treat her like a regular girl instead of a girlfriend . I'm trying though brehs. It aint easy with me being a very honest and abrasive guy but I am trying. It's only been two months brehs

What she got out of that though, was I think she just wants a guy who can spend money on her or whatever. She started laughing over the phone asking if I think her family is poor or some shyt and how if that was the case why would she be with me. Totally interpreted my point wrong and wouldnt let me clarify . They never do. She said she was tired and wouldnt let me explain so I just said okay if you wanna break up then bye. We then hung up. And some other stuff ensued but just read that and I'll continue after some commentary.

Its a shame because I know where she's coming from. She doesnt ask for too much and she just thinks I'm an a$$hole because of my brash nature. I havent been the best boyfriend I can be but there are circumstances hindering that. She just needs to be patient. I dont like feeling like I'm boring her. For her to bring that whole family being rich thing up is foolish too. Like is that something to be proud of? Your dad is rich, he is the hardworking one and you are merely a beneficiary. My dad is a Civil Engineer for SNC-Lavalin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. He is no slouch but he always promoted a do it yourself/self-made mentality. It's just how Ghanaians are. I'm trying to get her to see the picture...but all it takes is a couple of clouds for her to forget what it looks like. Too impulsive man.

wait shes the 18 year old female?

bushes bro..your 21 akhi
live your life

 

[Ohene]

wait shes the 18 year old female?

bushes bro..your 21 akhi
live your life

basically. @Malta and @CrossBones thanks for your opinions but I ain't even in an analyitical mood. I know I can get her back to her senses but fact is shes checking out and I dont see the point if she doesnt have the faith that we can make it happen. This is the 2nd time some shyt like this has happened. Last time I gave her a week and she came back same night...this time ill give her to the end of the weekend to come to her sense (doubt she will)...bushes otherwise Erica, Kavel, and Melanie on deck . To to the nikkas who know me in real life...ignore this .

Not even gonna go to her crib to get one of my Brooks Bros dress shirts...or Dr Dre CD. A damn good shirt but at least thats all I left.

at me being all red

 

[sixsixtwo]

"Esther Vilar argues that the freedom men think they have in selecting a wife and being head of the household is actually slavery, and that working the same job for forty years to support a woman is no different than a child repeatedly playing the same board game. The Manipulated Man is one of those books that reframes your world view (even if you were already on a red pill bent), making you question what value women offer besides their vaginas.

While men pick a career and work 40 years nonstop because they have to, today’s woman treats her career more as a temporary adventure. She’s ultra-serious about it in her 20s but then tosses it overboard for children upon landing a successful husband. I find that Vilar nails the more traditional societies which still exist today in Eastern Europe, particularly Ukraine, and how those crafty women enslave a man through marriage in exchange for popping out a kid and doing a couple hours of housework per day. Keep in mind this book written in the early 70s and referred to a time when the nuclear family was still intact, so she did not predict the degree that Western women would soon enslave themselves in the rat race."

Read more: The Manipulated Man

 

[Ohene]

"Esther Vilar argues that the freedom men think they have in selecting a wife and being head of the household is actually slavery, and that working the same job for forty years to support a woman is no different than a child repeatedly playing the same board game. The Manipulated Man is one of those books that reframes your world view (even if you were already on a red pill bent), making you question what value women offer besides their vaginas.

While men pick a career and work 40 years nonstop because they have to, today’s woman treats her career more as a temporary adventure. She’s ultra-serious about it in her 20s but then tosses it overboard for children upon landing a successful husband. I find that Vilar nails the more traditional societies which still exist today in Eastern Europe, particularly Ukraine, and how those crafty women enslave a man through marriage in exchange for popping out a kid and doing a couple hours of housework per day. Keep in mind this book written in the early 70s and referred to a time when the nuclear family was still intact, so she did not predict the degree that Western women would soon enslave themselves in the rat race."

Read more: The Manipulated Man

My nikka 662 packin mad rep points.

Pretty stupid how one rep can turn you full red or green nowadays ... i oughtta turn this ish off