Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Malta]

By the way, you live in Hawaii fam, take her on dates on some high school shyt. It's easy to ignite a spark in your woman with simple things, especially romantic things that they like. You take her on a picnic, make lover to her on the beach at night, and you'll wake up the next morning with her looking at you like you just invented the cure for everything. It buys you more stress free time.

That said, if you're truly unhappy then you should just call it quits, but not to smash random hoes. If you need to find yourself, then I can understand, but if you're ending it to fukk sluts, then I can't.

 

[beezy]

I don't know what to say in that event, I don't necessarily lust after my girl, but I still find her very attractive and what we have is based around being friends as well as lovers. I think you might have gotten locked up too young, you've been with her since you were 19, and essentially been a husband role since then. I think it may be hard for you to appreciate what you have to be honest.




I like traveling with my girl as much as I do traveling by myself, I've had long term experiences of traveling by myself and while I love it, sharing experiences with someone you love is great as well. It sounds like you've already kind of made up your mind to be honest, sounds like you want us to talk you out of something you know you're going to do.

You're right though, im sure the issue is that I did this too young, and havent lived enough to really see the other side of things..

Believe me, my mind is not made up on what im doing, ive been really thinkin hard. I just keep arguing my position to get more info and feedback from your end. The whole point of my posting in here was because i genuinely didnt know what i would hear back from OGs.. or maybe if someone had a similar experience.. i just want opinions and perspectives so that i dont do something stupid out of ignorance.

 

[beezy]

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+rep tbh good look guys this puts things a bit in perspective at least for now.

 

[CrossBones]

one way to put the battery in a womans back, is to step your game up again. almost like youre about to step out and upgrade. get that pep back in your step, dress flyer, go out to some real functions. be about yourself

your girl needs to look up to you like "That man"

your girl needs to feel like she can BRAG about you. you want cooperation? step it up. everything. because if she wont, she knows that now others will.

 

[kevm3]

Yeah you young and you got married early and kind of have the impression that you're missing out, but you're really not. As your kid starts to get older, there will be a lot of fly things you can do with your kid. Take your kid hunting, fishing, playing ball, etc. Having a strong family environment is way better than associating with a whole bunch of hoes who you don't know what they are doing from day to day or if they will be there, which they won't.

Deal with the wrong woman man, and it'll blow your mind how bad things can get. There is a lot of fly stuff you can do within the confines of that marriage.

 

[CrossBones]

Yeah you young and you got married early and kind of have the impression that you're missing out, but you're really not. As your kid starts to get older, there will be a lot of fly things you can do with your kid. Take your kid hunting, fishing, playing ball, etc. Having a strong family environment is way better than associating with a whole bunch of hoes who you don't know what they are doing from day to day or if they will be there, which they won't.

Deal with the wrong woman man, and it'll blow your mind how bad things can get. There is a lot of fly stuff you can do within the confines of that marriage.

matter of fact, a good home is shyt that throughout time men will kill for. fly overseas, spend their money on, search everyday for, change themselves, move away to another city for, dedicate their lives to ...

I wouldnt throw it away just for going out to get new ass

 

[kevm3]

Just going back and catching up on stuff in this GOAT Coli thread (next to the boxing one) and this statement triggered something that's happened in recent times. I have 2 homegirls both I met in my undergrad days in college. Both are college educated, got multiple degrees, have good jobs ,the whole nine. But gotdamn they have some filthy ass mouths and minds that they have no problem expressing to me. One homegirl has 2 kids with 2 different nikkas. Stays complaining that only dudes only want her for sex but in random text convos to me has no problem telling me that she's horny all the time, fukks these nikkas with no protection, and even had an abortion. She had no shame telling me all this. It was so vulgar brehs , The other homegirl has no kids, a fitness nut, religious, and has been celibate for the past 3 years. In conversations she has flat out told me she has been part of 3 somes before (MFF variety) and she dreams of getting eaten out damn near every night. Also has a knack of turning the minor things into wild descriptive sexual innuendos but she won't give it up again until she gets into another relationship.

Plus they both know i'm in a relationship so this is like teasing me when they tell me all this dirty shyt. It's so demonic

lol babygirl sounds textbook about the kind of woman we're talking about in this thread. she wasnts to ho up until she blows up, but soon she will be looking for some sucka simp to help take care of those kids by other dudes.

The other one got her boogie on and found out those guys hit it and quit it and now she wants to play by those steve harvey rules... withholding sex to try and find some sucker into thinking she's a good girl. Joint is crazy to me. Back then I would've fell for the deception.

 

[Ohene]

the god might be single...do i fight or leave it in the bushes is the only question

 

[Malta]

the god might be single...do i fight or leave it in the bushes is the only question

What happened?

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Approaching a new woman every day for a month, Day 8:

So I am finding this to be easier and easier every day that I do this. It's like getting used to playing a sport or performing music for people. It's just a performance or a game with a one-person audience.

One thing that I am absolutely sure of (and knew going into this) is to disregard lots of what women say when they talk about how to get girls. This includes them wanting a "nice guy" (although you wouldn't think they'd ever asked for one, ever online these days), wanting a guy who will simp on them, always tell them they're beautiful, etc. I remember years ago when I was listening to the radio the host said that the number one awesome pickup line to use on girls was, "Hi." I knew from there that it was total bullshyt because it failed to address the following factors:

• Context: Is this a situation where a girl wants to be approached by anyone at all, let alone a stranger?
• Are you good looking enough for her to want you to say hi?
• WHAT THE fukk DO I SAY NEXT?

Even then my awkward ass knew that women, especially beautiful women, are approached every day by guys fumbling to introduce themselves. I would always get mad at myself every time a beautiful woman would be nearby and my brain would short out and I would find myself lacking anything to say. It wasn't hard to say hi, it was knowing what to follow up with that killed me. Going up and saying, "Hi" without anything else that was relevant would turn me into the goofy centerpiece of a mildly amusing story that she would tell her friends later when she met up with her friends for cocktails later on.

Now when I talk to women, I like to have a reason to make sure and establish solid relevance for myself early on. That way she has a reason to talk to me and she can feel safer knowing that I'm not just some guy who's going to just waste her time. If a girl feels like a guy is picking up on her, her guard goes up. Well, at least in my experience.

This is what I did today.

I was headed to class but the previous class hadn't left the room, yet. I was in the hallway and saw a girl that I had the next class with. Tall, great legs, pretty face. She sits in front of me, so I recognized her, but I'm not sure that she recognized me.

"You've got Professor Thompson next, too, huh?" I asked.

She smiled excitedly at me. "Yeah! I can't stand when professors take forever to leave!"

We chatted for a bit. I didn't expect it to go so well so fast. This is where I kinda screwed up. I pointed out that we turned really chatty to each other in a really short amount of time. In retrospect, I should have played it off calmly like it was something that happened all the time.

Turns out that she was a globe-trotting accomplished singer and that she was in law school just to have something to fall back on. Impressive and hot. She seemed ready to gush about herself and her accomplishments. She was actually easy to listen to, fortunately, because she was a really interesting person.

Anyway, by the end of the conversation she gave me her phone number without me asking and told me to call her. So it wasn't all bad, but I don't want to keep doing this without self-critique, otherwise I'll never improve.

tl;dr: I learned to establish relevance to keep a girl's guard down, don't get too outwardly excited when the conversation is going really well.

 

[Ohene]

What happened?

I guess I'll try to gather whats happened and post it here. I know I wont be judged.

Bear with my as i put it together I'll be concise. It comes down to differences in mindsets as to what relationships should be about though...and what one should look for from their partners.

One moment.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

lol babygirl sounds textbook about the kind of woman we're talking about in this thread. she wasnts to ho up until she blows up, but soon she will be looking for some sucka simp to help take care of those kids by other dudes.

The other one got her boogie on and found out those guys hit it and quit it and now she wants to play by those steve harvey rules... withholding sex to try and find some sucker into thinking she's a good girl. Joint is crazy to me. Back then I would've fell for the deception.

Sounds like you learned before it was too late.

 

[Ohene]

So I was on the bus home from Toronto and we were talking on the phone. She said she had plans for Saturday earlier in the week but no longer and I mentioned how I wish she woulda told me so I could set something up and she said its okay dont worry about it. Cool. Truth is I often dont have the ability to take her out because she lives downtown now for school and I'm in a suburb with no whip. Times we went out in the past she was living in my neighbourhood and I would drive her infiniti that her parents/brother passed down (she doesnt have her canadian license --> shes an immigrant). But I digress.


I feel bad about not being able to take her out enough as I'd want to because of what i just said and me paying for tuition (done in a week) it limited my possibilities and reach. Still, I mentioned then how I was gonna grab Raptors tickets for a game within the next two weeks anyways. We already discussed this and she was excited about it...but now all of a sudden she seemed like she didnt care to go. Between this and her not wanting to go out this weekend I felt like she was kinda distancing herself...perhaps to prepare to just dump me you know? Like these are how the signs begin and I gotta nip it or pick up on it now. I say this because she was acting a little bit timid or standoffish after some dumb little disagreement we had yesterday (details upon request lol).

So I sensed the bad vibe and asked her why she's acting this way. Dont remember what I said but thats the gist. She started going on about how she just has been getting frustrated and how she doesnt ask me for much (relates to ysterdays disagreement) but overall...she is just not used to guys like me. She's spoiled and high maintenance to be frank whether I want to come to terms with that or not. She is limiting it for me though I must say. But if thats who she naturally is...how long can she last?

Anyway, our mentalities are different and although she has been adapting and trying to understand me which I see. Maybe this thread and my experience has corrupted me. I dunno. I just feel like I was raised a certain way first and foremost. We were discussing the differences somewhat to a point where she just asked me to stop. I guess she didnt wanna hear it.

I exit the bus...and I am saying how although we are different I still feel like we can ultimately reach a compromise gradually as we grow with one another and learn from one another. My whole thing is that I am 21 years old and I have become who I am through years of my parents raising me and instilling values...and years of experiences i've had regarding ANYTHING in life which ends up creating general mindsets and values for any human being. (Note that I'm a psych minor and i know quite a bit about personalitiess coming from genetics vs. nonshared or shared experience concluded by twins blah blah). Anyways...i just feel like I can make the effort to change and I gradually will...but she has to be patient. It's only been two months after all.


She basically says she really doubts it can happen so at that point I'm like . If you dont think it can happen then why bother. You cannot have doubt and then expect things to work out like its some sort of sport where youre a fan of the underdog. It just sends a bad omen if you ask me. If you dont think itll work, what motivation do you have to make it work. I tell her that she knows she is a free human being and she can do as she wishes so just to remember that. Not even as a threat but hey...I aint holding you hostage.

A little more talk mayve ensued and then i told her that what she must realize is I can play the part and do whats necessary to make her happy...yet still turn around and be a snake behind her back. She said her exboyfriend was nice, used to also buy her gifts and do nice things for her, he was a good guy or whatever but he then cheated. My point was that I could do the same thing...but is that whats good for her? It isnt.

But with me she knows she has a loyal dude who is willing to put in the work and effort to somehow succeed against the odds. That should be whats more important. I guess she doesnt see it or doesnt care though. She always says she feels like I aint trying and I treat her like a regular girl instead of a girlfriend . I'm trying though brehs. It aint easy with me being a very honest and abrasive guy but I am trying. It's only been two months brehs

What she got out of that though, was I think she just wants a guy who can spend money on her or whatever. She started laughing over the phone asking if I think her family is poor or some shyt and how if that was the case why would she be with me. Totally interpreted my point wrong and wouldnt let me clarify . They never do. She said she was tired and wouldnt let me explain so I just said okay if you wanna break up then bye. We then hung up. And some other stuff ensued but just read that and I'll continue after some commentary.

Its a shame because I know where she's coming from. She doesnt ask for too much and she just thinks I'm an a$$hole because of my brash nature. I havent been the best boyfriend I can be but there are circumstances hindering that. She just needs to be patient. I dont like feeling like I'm boring her. For her to bring that whole family being rich thing up is foolish too. Like is that something to be proud of? Your dad is rich, he is the hardworking one and you are merely a beneficiary. My dad is a Civil Engineer for SNC-Lavalin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. He is no slouch but he always promoted a do it yourself/self-made mentality. It's just how Ghanaians are. I'm trying to get her to see the picture...but all it takes is a couple of clouds for her to forget what it looks like. Too impulsive man.

 

[Ohene]

Usually i'd be more eloquent with my stories but it's been a long day. I'm going to shower and go to bed soon.

The last part that I'll add later may be important too.

 

[ManMade]

say brehs are these good morning text im sending really working or is it a waste of time...she always responds back and start convo but i dont know if its really doing something or not

peep story though...been knowing this chick past 4 years thru undergrad, shes one year older and currently in grad school this is my last year and we'll be in the same city for a few more years at least, but she always liked me and showed interest so age aint nothin but a number...anyway at least once a year for the past few years we'll take like a month and try "talkin" to each other but it cant seem to get over that hump to go to the next step , but she stay flirting and when shes drunk thats when she cant control herself around me and be all in her feeling but when she sober she wont let them feeling out ...help me out brehs I know this a good one and worth the fight only chick worth the simp effort in my opinion