Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

While you have a point, this leads back to the dude who said that it's easier for a woman to find a dude to fukk, but it's easier for a man to find a woman that's wife able. While a woman may have a football roster of dudes, she didn't recruit any of them, nikkas made the team just by showing up. That's where women get fukked up, thinking they have game like men do, but 50 dudes you don't really know and have no control over isn't better than a dude who has 12 players that he's fully scouted, knows they're strengths and weaknesses and knows where to put them on the rotation. A woman plays a nikka at quarterback, hoping he can throw a spiral or read coverage, while a dude knows who's his point guard, who's his best shooter, who's coming off the bench and knows when he wants what.

You right. Thats why girls who get around are sluts and men are good coaches. I was telling my nikka the same thing bout a year ago. Girl like to use our sports analogies but they know nothing about sports or what goes into general managing. Told him damn near the exact shyt you were saying

Girls do have it hard in the sense that they really have to try and determine whether or not somebody really likes them or just wanna smash and dash.

My issue with that thought is girls always...and I do mean always reject guys who really are out for them..to go for the guy who is flashy or who has most girls on his dikk etc. Girls have 3 types of dudes. I have probably zero girl "friends" but there are some girls i have a great deal of respect for. These are basically only girls I know at school who are ambitious, classy and respectful to me because they know me well though and vice versa. They are going for their Chartered Accountant (CPA in USA) or Chartered Financial Analyst designations. Cute. Studious. etc. Sadly theyre as dumb as the average hoe which is why I dont even care about a girls occupation or none of that. As long as she making legal money and it aint as no cashier/burgerflipper I'm good. Thats why the traits i mentioned earlier are really all thats important.

THeres this one who in particular works for PricewaterhouseCoopers right now as a summer intern and also had a youte when she was 16 but has been able to persevere due to diligence and parental help. Now this is also the kind of girl we allllllll know outside of class. PEEP THIS

But anyways here are the 2 of the types

You know the kinda girl who be having mad waste nikkas inboxing them on facebook trying to spit game or on BBM. Guys that they dont even know? Only to laugh at them, munch their phone screen at some of the shyt they say...OR EVEN COMPLAIN about the guy thats messaging them when they can easily delete the fukking friend request or PIN? Then they turn around and complain about how they cant find any dude at all. Big turnoff and thats the #1... dude in this new era of simpage.

#1 - The guy who is there to feed a girls ego and boost her esteem. This is the guy who has virtually no shot of bagging the girl yet the girl will still lead the guy on for entertainment or psychological reasons. Theyll complain about him, show friends about him and even laugh at him when most of the time they dont even know dude. I mean how can you defend talking to a dude you dont even know...reading his bullshyt messages and still allowing him to continue. Attention whoring at its finest and all girls do it. This is why if a girl has over X facebook friends she's a red flag. Reincar will tell you.

The second guy is me. And he gets left in the cloud where girls dont even know how to classify him because of the #1 kind of nikka who they figure is just trying to fukk. The girl has difficulty recognizing whether or not he's just simping or simply wants to maybe get to know the girl after meeting them already/approaching them.

#2 - The guy who they should really be fukking with...but theyre just too stupid to realize it. I dont give a shyt about sex all that much because I know that as soon as I hit...I'm gonna at the girl and want her to get the fufck outta my crib. Id much rather have a girl i can vibe with on the next level and wanna cuddle with and all that. I fukks with cuddling brehs. But because of the #1 dude these girls assume any guys intention is to fukk and they create a self fulfilling prophecy. Like the PwC girl I mentioned always tells me ...they cant find men and all that shyt.

But I told this girl numerous times. If You want a guy you have to let your guard down or either do some fukking recruiting by ya damn self!!! Now every girl that I know deeply knows I'm that nikka . Period. At first they may think i'm some lame, or shy, or sometimes obnoxious dude. But all it takes is a couple hours of quality time with me and they fall victim to the prowess and love me. So I tell this girl something along the lines of, "I have talked to bytches, and I have been bagged/rejected by the best of them...and the worst of them. Now you and I both know that I am that nikka, but if I were to approach you on the train or at a party you would immediately have your guard up, act funny if i got the number and we would get nowhere. Anytime a nikka appraoch you think of how many "me's" you are passing up because they do exist. It's just the way yall react to men that forces them to switch up the steeze and fulfill a different kind of persona. " They still dont wanna listen though...so I have no remorse or sympathy.

 

[winb83]

if i could teach one thing about all of this to get people to understand the one thing i had to learn the hardest it would be this:

Probably the hardest thing to learn is not to internalize anything that happens to you when it comes to women. If things don't work out its not because something is wrong with you its just general incompatibility. You're going to want to make everything be about you but truthfully you'll never know what really went wrong in a lot of cases. so don't assign the failure to yourself.

Because society tricks you into thinking women are our most valuable resourse if things go bad its only natural to assume its because of you or that you're inferior. You must NEVER do this. It can lead down a path of feeling shame in yourself because of who you are. This will lead to the natural conclusion that you should simp to raise your value to compensate. once you fall into that the more you simp the worst things go for you and the harder you simp to compensate. its a cycle of failure that most men never escape from or even realize they're in it. deep into it a ran down ex bustdown comes along after she's been used up and she picks a guy like that up and he wifes her just accepting what he can get. she always likely cheats on him and is generally unfulfilled but keeps him around because he's reliable and safe and trapped.

I know this personally I fell into this trap as a teen and I spent those years through the majority of my 20s in the cycle. Worse yet the psychological damage it causes can linger even after you intellectually understand what happened to you. to this day i still struggle with the damage that shyt did to me. the roots are now so deep its partially ingrained in to my personality. that's the real reason any man that simps does it. to try to raise his perceived value because he believes who he is alone isn't enough.

 

[Ohene]

And what I just wrote is something that changed my whole outlook on women. I mentioned in another thread how once my girl told me nice guys dont finish last because in the end they get the fine women and live a good life etc.

But who wants leftovers?

Once upon a time I had the idea that smart, educated, good looking, well-mannered gentlemen like me deserve to have beautiful womenu.. The media is kinda what forces it on you but then you think for yourself. Cause that idea means you must think that beautiful women deserve smart, educated gentleman . And how ass backwards is that?

One problem with "nerds" so to speak is they think they're entitled to the finer things but in reality we are all humans and we are all equal. That mindset sends the wrong message. If a girl is a dime and decides to fukk with J'Shawn down the block who's always into some shyt...then so be it. That is what she deserves. There is absolutely no reason to be bitter or mad about it. A pretty girl doesnt deserve the best simply because she is pretty. If she's dumb enough to go for dudes that aint worth shyt...then thats what she deserves to ultimately be with. Get that into your subconscious and you wont be bitter breh.

 

[MikelArteta]

:mynikka: You right.

Girls do have it hard in the sense that they really have to try and determine whether or not somebody really likes them or just wanna smash and dash.

My issue with that thought is girls always...and I do mean always reject guys who really are out for them..to go for the guy who is flashy or who has most girls on his dikk etc. Girls have 3 types of dudes. I have probably zero girl "friends" but there are some girls i have a great deal of respect for. These are basically only girls I know at school who are ambitious, classy and respectful to me because they know me well though and vice versa. They are going for their Chartered Accountant (CPA in USA) or Chartered Financial Analyst designations. Cute. Studious. etc. Sadly theyre as dumb as the average hoe which is why I dont even care about a girls occupation or none of that. As long as she making legal money and it aint as no cashier/burgerflipper I'm good. Thats why the traits i mentioned earlier are really all thats important.

THeres this one who in particular works for PricewaterhouseCoopers right now as a summer intern and also had a youte when she was 16 but has been able to persevere due to diligence and parental help. Now this is also the kind of girl we allllllll know outside of class. PEEP THIS

But anyways here are the 2 of the types

You know the kinda girl who be having mad waste nikkas inboxing them on facebook trying to spit game or on BBM. Guys that they dont even know? Only to laugh at them, munch their phone screen at some of the shyt they say...OR EVEN COMPLAIN about the guy thats messaging them when they can easily delete the fukking friend request or PIN? Then they turn around and complain about how they cant find any dude at all. Big turnoff and thats the #1... dude in this new era of simpage.

#1 - The guy who is there to feed a girls ego and boost her esteem. This is the guy who has virtually no shot of bagging the girl yet the girl will still lead the guy on for entertainment or psychological reasons. Theyll complain about him, show friends about him and even laugh at him when most of the time they dont even know dude. I mean how can you defend talking to a dude you dont even know...reading his bullshyt messages and still allowing him to continue. Attention whoring at its finest and all girls do it. This is why if a girl has over X facebook friends she's a red flag. Reincar will tell you.

The second guy is me. And he gets left in the cloud where girls dont even know how to classify him because of the #1 kind of nikka who they figure is just trying to fukk. The girl has difficulty recognizing whether or not he's just simping or simply wants to maybe get to know the girl after meeting them already/approaching them.

#2 - The guy who they should really be fukking with...but theyre just too stupid to realize it. I dont give a shyt about sex all that much because I know that as soon as I hit...I'm gonna at the girl and want her to get the fufck outta my crib. Id much rather have a girl i can vibe with on the next level and wanna cuddle with and all that. I fukks with cuddling brehs. But because of the #1 dude these girls assume any guys intention is to fukk and they create a self fulfilling prophecy. Like the PwC girl I mentioned always tells me ...they cant find men and all that shyt.

But I told this girl numerous times. If You want a guy you have to let your guard down or either do some fukking recruiting by ya damn self!!! Now every girl that I know deeply knows I'm that nikka . Period. At first they may think i'm some lame, or shy, or sometimes obnoxious dude. But all it takes is a couple hours of quality time with me and they fall victim to the prowess and love me. So I tell this girl something along the lines of, "I have talked to bytches, and I have been rejected by the best of them...and the worst of them. Now you and I both know that I am that nikka, but if I were to approach you on the train or at a party you would immediately have your guard up, act funny if i got the number and we would get nowhere. Anytime a nikka appraoch you think of how many "me's" you are passing up because they do exist. It's just the way yall react to men that forces them to switch up the steeze and fulfill a different kind of persona. " They still dont wanna listen though...so I have no remorse or sympathy.

Daps

And that's another thing, women do know who is good for them and who is bad for them but just like a Dude who keeps going back to prison over and over again they keep making the same mistake over and over again .

Ive been that nice everything together guy who respected and adored his girl, no doormat no simpage but who was then spit out for the abusive ex.

 

[MikelArteta]

And what I just wrote is something that changed my whole outlook on women. I mentioned in another thread how once my girl told me nice guys finish last because in the end they get the fine women and live a good life etc.

But who wants leftovers?

Once upon a time I had the idea that smart, educated, good looking, well-mannered gentlemen like me deserve to have beautiful womenu.. The media is kinda what forces it on you but then you think for yourself. Cause that idea means you must think that beautiful women deserve smart, educated gentleman . And how ass backwards is that?

One problem with "nerds" so to speak is they think they're entitled to the finer things but in reality we are all humans and we are all equal. That mindset sends the wrong message. If a girl is a dime and decides to fukk with J'Shawn down the block who's always into some shyt...then so be it. That is what she deserves. There is absolutely no reason to be bitter or mad about it. A pretty girl doesnt deserve the best because she is simply pretty. If she's dumb enough to go for dudes that aint worth shyt...then thats what she deserves to ultimately be with

the sad thing women don't realize is that men are waking up, marriage rates are at a all time low, men are realizing they don't have to commit to get sex and all that, and the internet has been a gold mine, back in the day hell just 20 years ago if you did not know the game you would continue to fail time and time again, now a quick google search and you have a wealth of information at your disposal.

I was indoctrinated like many men are how women are princesses, how I got a good one, the whole fairytales of lies etc. , you watch tv, watch the movies women are always right, cheating in movies like the notebook and titanic are romatic movies that every girl loves, leaving your love at the altar to be with your true love is perfectly ok. I've been engaged 4 months from marriage, i've been cheated on and played. I've been the nice guy, i've been the a$$hole, now i'm just a man with rules that will not be broken.


I agree with who wants leftovers, this seems to be the song and dance women take get their first nice bf at 18 dump him about 2-3 years as they want to have fun and space, then whore around from like 21-25 maybe end up with a kid or a few, always crying for a nice guy but ending up with the worse of the worse. take a break from dating then at 27-30 they look for a nice guy whose stable to save them.

just look at dating sites the amount of women age 27-32 for example who want long term, who have had their fun (whoring around) but want to settle down, as a man the older you get as you are single you realize you don't need a chick you are fine coming home to the peace and tranquility of your home, with the furniture that you like, doing what you want to do.



In comes the sob story "all the guys treated me horribly in the past" while you sit there "wow i can't believe i got a girl like this", think of all the sob stories women tell you, yet they stayed with dude

"my last bf hit me"

yet you stayed with him for years

"my last bf always cheated"

yet you stayed iwth him for years

I always tell men just wait, just be patient and if you don't believe me, throw your picture on a online dating site but put your age at 30 and you will see, just continue working hard, paying off your bills and living for yourself, aging like a bottle of wine while women age like milk.

 

[MikelArteta]

didn't write this but i thought i would share

I must start with first saying, "Stand up and be a man!" Women can only control a man who allows himself to be controlled. Love does not mean giving up your friends or only talking to the friends she chooses for you to talk to.

It also doesn't mean she gets to make all of the decisions in your life. If you are a man being controlled and you can't see that, you most likely need some serious help.

Women who control their men are in a much larger power struggle within themselves than they are with the men they control. The man is not the issue and what he does right or wrong, assuming he does anything right, is also not the issue. She has problems that need to be dealt with and controlling her man certainly doesn't need to be a part of it. Again, as the man being controlled, you are allowing it. Stop already!

If you are a man in this type of relationship and you think for one moment you're going to change her, you're sadly mistaken. She is the only one that can change her. That is one decision she most certainly must make for herself. You will not find some magic potion to suddenly make her share the decision making with you. The problem is much, much deeper.

Typically, controlling women break down a man's confidence in himself little by little until the man begins to believe he is nothing without her. Controlling women are manipulative and intimidating. They are often so good at this; they make the man feel he is the one responsible for making her angry or upset. She may often accuse him of be uncaring or insensitive to her feelings. Often, the man begins to feel it was indeed all his fault. Many men with low self-esteem will continue to allow this to happen. Often, he will change his behavior to "keep the peace" or simply to escape the circumstance causing the current episode. Along with this, his self-esteem plummets even further.

Controlling relationships tend to come in phases. Did she take your breath away? Did she sweep you off of your feet? Many times, this is how it all begins.

Then she finds small ways to be manipulative and break down self-confidence. She can turn every conversation into something he has done, such as being uncaring or hurting her feelings.

Suddenly, he finds himself completely in love with this control freak and wants to believe the woman that swept him off of his feet will return. Sadly enough, without some serious intervention, that most likely will never happen.

In all relationships, there are leaders and there are followers. For the most part, that's quite healthy. However, when the woman spends most of her energy trying to control her man, she needs to look deep within herself and find out where this issue comes from. These women must learn to understand that you can't gain control of your own life by controlling others. You can only gain control on your own life by controlling yourself.

Until the controlling woman faces this fact and deals with it, she will not change. She will continue to prey upon those men with low enough self-esteem to suck them into her controlling way of life and she will continue to feed on these men for as long as they will allow it

 

[Nintendough]

A man shouldn't tolerate any mistakes from his woman during the first full year of a relationship. She should be in first impression mode during the first 12 months.

 

[Ohene]

A man shouldn't tolerate any mistakes from his woman during the first full year of a relationship. She should be in first impression mode during the first 12 months.

For me it's 6 months but I hear you. I call my probationary period the road to the draft. You could be a Cam Newton level prospect but you bet your ass the bytch should still have to do all the pre-draft workouts, combines and interviews. Even the Senior Bowl if need be. For me a relationship doesnt even begin until after that 6 month period of us saying it has begun now. I'm damn near liable to cheat during that probation period if I want to...until the girl has proven she is here for the long haul. Thats not to say after 6 months she'll get slaps on the wrist...the discipline will always remain. Only that I wont simply cut her ass of my big board or release her.

Only scout one player in a draft class just cause they seem as if they're the obvious and you finna end up with Greg Oden.

I'll take Durant anyday

 

[MikelArteta]

A man shouldn't tolerate any mistakes from his woman during the first full year of a relationship. She should be in first impression mode during the first 12 months.

a man shouldn't tolerate any mistakes period without consequences, life is short and filled with to much women for me to tolerate any without leveling consequences.

the thing with women is, if you tell them one thing and you break that they always remember, if a chick you are exclusive with goes out clubbing and you see pictures of her grinding up on some dude, and she comes out with the im sorry, i didn't mean to mess up, it was just rachels party she invited me you said I could go. And you ignore her and then like 2 days later you are on some i just overreacted i don't like you grinding up on a next dude, then from now on she will know the routine anyhing she does you will be mad for a few days before you come scurrying back.

Remember think of women just like big children and if you don't discipline children you know what happens.

like mentioned by others and by me make your word be your word.

And stand strong on your morals, if im done with a chick i'm done, i don't care if she's throwing sex, money at me it's done over. Alot of men kick chicks to the curb then keep going back because its a easy lay

 

[Sharp]

A man shouldn't tolerate any mistakes from his woman during the first full year of a relationship. She should be in first impression mode during the first 12 months.

Let me build with you on this one. Many women think they can do what they want while they're only dating you. She can date other people, have groups of male friends, and do other shyt that they know wouldn't be tolerated if they were in a relationship. What you allow her to do in the dating phase, sets a tone for the relationship phase. Don't expect her to switch up and turn into a good housewife. Let that bytch now through actions, not words, that what she does while you guys are dating will determine whether you will reward her with a relationship. A woman that wants to be with you will make all of the necessary adjustments and go out of her way to prove that she is worthy of being your woman. She won't have ******s lingering. She will put everything into place to let you know she is serious. If you have a woman that can't be faithful , that's a liability on so many levels. Learn to "clean cut" these chicks, and never look back. It sends a message that your time is valuable and your standards are higher then the average dude.

 

[Ohene]

yup...because girls will let one thing cover a broad range of situations for better or for worse. Usually worse because theyre fairweather.

Have you ever done something small or heard of someone who made a small mistake to only have the girl make some hyperbolic assumption about the dudes character.

"shyt Sherise...that nikka didnt wanna go to your friend's baby shower with you? Wait til your ass get pregnant ...he aint gonna change no diapers or bring you no food when you craving. HES A DEADBEAT waiting to happen Sherise!!! "

This is actually how they think believe it or not. Probably even seen one of the broads here say some shyt like that.

Compromise your morals once, and it will happen forever.

 

[Nintendough]

For me it's 6 months but I hear you. I call my probationary period the road to the draft. You could be a Cam Newton level prospect but you bet your ass the bytch should still have to do all the pre-draft workouts, combines and interviews. Even the Senior Bowl if need be. For me a relationship doesnt even begin until after that 6 month period of us saying it has begun now. I'm damn near liable to cheat during that probation period if I want to...until the girl has proven she is here for the long haul.

Only scout one player in a draft class just cause they seem as if they're the obvious and you finna end up with Greg Oden.

I'll take Durant anyday

Exactly, you have to make women earn the position.

 

[Nintendough]

a man shouldn't tolerate any mistakes period without consequences, life is short and filled with to much women for me to tolerate any without leveling consequences.

the thing with women is, if you tell them one thing and you break that they always remember, if a chick you are exclusive with goes out clubbing and you see pictures of her grinding up on some dude, and she comes out with the im sorry, i didn't mean to mess up, it was just rachels party she invited me you said I could go. And you ignore her and then like 2 days later you are on some i just overreacted i don't like you grinding up on a next dude, then from now on she will know the routine anyhing she does you will be mad for a few days before you come scurrying back.
Remember think of women just like big children and if you don't discipline children you know what happens.

like mentioned by others and by me make your word be your word.

And stand strong on your morals, if im done with a chick i'm done, i don't care if she's throwing sex, money at me it's done over. Alot of men kick chicks to the curb then keep going back because its a easy lay

True words....

This is why men have to learn have principles and throw lust in the bushes.

 

[Nintendough]

Let me build with you on this one. Many women think they can do what they want while they're only dating you. She can date other people, have groups of male friends, and do other shyt that they know wouldn't be tolerated if they were in a relationship. What you allow her to do in the dating phase, sets a tone for the relationship phase. Don't expect her to switch up and turn into a good housewife. Let that bytch now through actions, not words, that what she does while you guys are dating will determine whether you will reward her with a relationship. A woman that wants to be with you will make all of the necessary adjustments and go out of her way to prove that she is worthy of being your woman. She won't have ******s lingering. She will put everything into place to let you know she is serious. If you have a woman that can't be faithful , that's a liability on so many levels. Learn to "clean cut" these chicks, and never look back. It sends a message that your time is valuable and your standards are higher then the average dude.

When i'm dating a woman, she has to respect me as if I was her man already.

 

[MikelArteta]

Also brehs if you are angry, jealous etc. never show you be non chalant, you may want to msg that chick like f you little etc. etc., but be calm,

anger shows weakness