Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

I'm not defending women, but there are just as many guys messing up the relationship game. Lets start with the ones that don't state their intention when they first meet a chick. If you're too scared to tell her off rip that you want to smash or potentially date her then what is she supposed to do? Too many guys sit around being friends with chicks never making a move so in turn the guy gets friend zoned.

Friend zoned guys are some of the most destructive people to other men. They're usually bitter when any other guy talks to their imaginary girlfriends and often end up being cockblockers. I have dealt with my fair share of these beta males. In addition to their bitterness to other males, beta friend zone guys will gas up a chick by doing anything they tell them to do. This creates the spoiled girl syndrome that many of you have mentioned when dealing with dimes. A female will only do to a male what he lets her.

I don't know about your guys experience growing up, but I specifically remember girls being much more aggressive at an earlier age. The issue is the guys that generally recognize this first are the "bad boys". Once the bad boy gets used to have multiple women, it's nothing for him to approach a new female without any kind of fear. He will often get comfortable lying to females pretending he wants to be in a long term relationship. This leads to women calling all men liars, when in reality many of them are just talking about the bad boy archetype they're attracted to.

Don't get me wrong, women play an equal part in the BS of current relationships but its important to recognize the male side. If anything else, in this day in age I think it's just as important to stay away from these destructive males as friends as it is to stay away from destructive females. A destructive male friend can sabotage your path on personal growth just as much if not more than a destructive female you're dating.

yup, women have no problem with keeping guys around who pander and worship them

 

[MikelArteta]

He's there with his girlfriend that's he's
been with for only about nine months . Unlike my homegirl, his posts from his trip look more like a honeymoon . Sunset dinners on a boat? Five star arrangements ?

Its bad enough you're taking trips with someone you barely know in a relationship but if you set the bar so high in the beginning, what do you have left down the road?

the sad thing to me is that we have come to a point where say doing this "early" has you looking like a sap and will probably be taking advantage of.

I miss my innocence a time where I could give a girl a piggyback, surprise her at work with flowers, pick her up after a long day of work and take her to niagara falls for the weekend, just pick up a card and write how much I feel about her.

but we all know how that ends with many women in this generation

 

[MikelArteta]

A blogger I follow wrote this

There's women out there who get it

In this life of fast cars, fast food and fast money things that take time tend to take a backseat. We are so used to instant gratification that it is an almost-alien concept to nurture and grow something for more than a few minutes. If our seeds don’t propagate, reach maturity and bloom in the space of two minutes we ditch gardening all together and do what any self-respecting Gen-Y should do: move on. I don’t like to fuel Gen Y biases but I feel as though were born at the tail end of a revolution and our concept of success, hard work and even love are shaped by the rapidly changing world we grew up in. I’ve spoken before about my propensity to cash in phones (iLove You, iLove You Not… iDunno) the same way I cash in relationships: yearly. This is because like you, I have been raised to feel the like obsolesce is inevitable and that anything I have is temporary until the next big thing comes along.

Lately I’ve been feeling pretty disheartened by the transient nature of friendships, jobs and love. This eternal optimist has had her flame for life dampened by the idea that, in fact, nothing does last forever. I wistfully recall the glorious lyrics from Pooh’s Grand Adventure, where the two odd buddies cheerfully quarreled about how long their friendship would last. The highly cynical Christopher Robin sceptically advised “Forever and ever is a very long time, Pooh.” To which the charmingly overweight, binge eating, dependent-wreck Pooh replied: “forever isn’t long at all, when I’m with you.” For a long time I thought I was Pooh (I’ve also thought I was shyt at times too) but recently I’ve been taught by the school of Chris Rob. Turns out poor Pooh was just a stepping stone on the path to the next best thing. He knew that in the big wide world there was going to be more for him than an engorged stuffed animal with stupendous charm. He was already plotting his next move long before old Pooh Bear realised he was the last man standing in a three-legged race to forever.

For the last twelve months I’ve been wildly optimistic about love, friendships, careers and life. But as the optimism fades, like a general anaesthetic, I am left wounded and bemused as I hurtle back to reality. Life was so much simpler when forever and ever didn’t seem like such a long time. But these days, a month feels like a lifetime. Life is full of Fast Moving Consumer Goods (FMCGs) and more and more I’m starting to feel like one of them. FMCGs, as the name suggests are products that are sold quickly and at a relatively low-cost. They are items like chocolate bars that generally have a short shelf life, either because customer demand is high or because product deterioration is rapid. It’s a low-margin business that demands trade in high volumes in order to reap a significant profit. Well, that sounds like modern life right there: always scrambling to upgrade to a newest version before we have truly extracted worth from the first.

We keep churning through life’s offerings so quickly that we perpetuate this FMCG cycle and become a part of it by default. I’ve been busy investing in myself, pouring my heart and soul into my friends and relationships and searching relentlessly for a fulfilling career for an end goal of securing a life of slowly-maturing, stable investments that yield hefty returns. But how wrong was I? I’ve been treating people like property (The Dating Game) and they’ve been treating me like ice-cream (We Can Dish It Out, But We Can’t Take It). I’ve been paying my way through life with fat stacks of cash but accepting dividends paid out in Monopoly money. I’ve been trying to in vain to build an empire, because lord knows Rome wasn’t built in a day, but when I look around all I can see is young upstarts bragging about how fast they got Park Lane with four houses (hotel coming soon), whilst getting ready to sell up big and move onto the next thing before the game is even finished. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

We’re all aware of this easy come, easy go attitude because we are its greatest advocates. Routinely we ask ourselves: why should we bother trying to repair something when it will cost just as much to replace it? Sure that might be the case when it comes to laptops or vacuum cleaners but not relationships and careers. These things should be regularly serviced and patched-up. They are not a tub of yogurt that’s gone a bit sour, more often than not they are a car that just needs a bit of oil. We are constantly abandoning opportunities that just need a little bit of TLC in order to keep reaping returns. But alas: try and fix a four-year friendship? Nah. I’ve got 3000 friends on Facebook, I don’t need that bytch. Ride out a rough patch a work? Damn, have you seen how many jobs there are on Seek? Then there’s the old “Hey, its been ages! We should catch-up ” (aka “do you still think I’m cute?!”) messages that start popping up in your inbox when someone is preparing to exit a relationship and looking for a soft place to land.

A new boyfriend every week, a new best friend every month and a new job every year. Keep. ‘Em. Coming. Companies wonder why young talent won’t stay when they’ve been contracted, probationed and treated like visitors in an organisation that wants them to feel at home. Friendships these days seem to go out of style faster than most reality TV contestants and don’t even get me started on long-term relationships (apparently a terrifying prospect for FMCG fans). Love and romance now inevitably die like cut flowers because everyone wants a bouquet of roses but no-one wants to take care of the plant. Quite honestly, I’m sick to death of being someone’s impulse purchase that gets picked up and dropped like a packet of Mentos. Don’t buy into FMCG life choices and don’t ever let someone treat you like one. In life, although they might be part of your appeal, you should never be chosen solely for your affordable price, convenient location or cuter-than-most aesthetics.
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[semtex]

This chick keeps texting me first and then not replying she always was a weird ass bytch. It'll be like:

Her: "hey whats up"

Me: "what's up" or some other shyt

And then it ends there

 

[Ohene]

This chick keeps texting me first and then not replying she always was a weird ass bytch. It'll be like:

Her: "hey whats up"

Me: "what's up" or some other shyt

And then it ends there

women

 

[MikelArteta]

This chick keeps texting me first and then not replying she always was a weird ass bytch. It'll be like:

Her: "hey whats up"

Me: "what's up" or some other shyt

And then it ends there

ol lemme see if i still got hooks in this nikka

 

[semtex]

women

It's weird cause in real life she has great conversational skills

 

[Jesus]

This chick keeps texting me first and then not replying she always was a weird ass bytch. It'll be like:

Her: "hey whats up"

Me: "what's up" or some other shyt

And then it ends there

Delete the bytch's number ASAP...had that type b4.

 

[semtex]

Delete the bytch's number ASAP...had that type b4.

she does other weird shyt too like deactivating and reactivating her facebook multiple times a week. Randomly deleting all her pics and changing her name seemingly with no rhyme or reason. I've never seen anyone behave in such a strange way

 

[MikelArteta]

Although it requires some action on your part regardless of the situation you find yourself in, no matter how dire it may seem as long as there is life there is hope. Hope for a better tomorrow, hope for love, hope for change, hope for whatever your heart desires to come to pass.

One of my favourite phrases that is embedded in my mind is that life can change in an instant. Dark and gloomy days can turn into sunshine, you can come across a book that changes your whole outlook on life, you can get a new job that can change your financial situation ten folds. You can meet someone that will have such a poignant impact on your life and motivate you and push you forward into your destiny.

Sometimes it just feels so impossible and the pain/sticky situation you are dealing with/ find yourself in seems like it will never end, but the truth is one day it will just be a minute blip on the colossal screen of your life.

 

[Jesus]

she does other weird shyt too like deactivating and reactivating her facebook multiple times a week. Randomly deleting all her pics and changing her name seemingly with no rhyme or reason. I've never seen anyone behave in such a strange way

Doesn't FB alert people when a friend of yours "comes" back....? Sounds like a trite bytch with no hobbies and too much time on her hands. Seems like she loves the attention as well...safe to say no father figure in her life.

 

[Womb Raider]

some fb messages from a convo I had with my asian shawty last week. shawty was getting worked up over me "not being a gentlemen" and not walking one block to see her when it was cold and raining outside and I was only wearing a t-shirt after getting off of work:

her:
just know... im tired of being reminded and im tired of opening up and being reminded so from now on expect passive aggression. if its any other situation where u need help from a friend i got u. but im really tired and im feeling the same. dont give me affection or chilvary. im over it im trying to find someone that understands me now at my worse so they can have me later at my best. and thats impossible to find now a days and a lot to ask for but i deserve it. i know i do. and if u cant understand then thats fine. just dont expect much from me anymore. im just really tired and i dont wanna be anymore

me:
I've understood all the shyt you've been talking about and everything you been through and never once made you do something you didn't want to like open up or rushed you into something so it doesn't make sense that you keep saying you need someone to understand, it's like I give you what you want when you want it and a second later you flip that shyt and immediately want something else and that also makes no sense. And you keep saying I remind you of shyt. Honestly I know it might be hard but you CANNOT continue to let what happened to you control you. And even farther project that shyt on to me. What happened in your past doesn't make you who you are period. All I'm saying is that you need to mean what you say and say what you mean...so passive aggression is stupid because its basically lying, I can't know if you want me to walk with you if you say NO it's cool. So this whole thing is stupid and being blown out of proportion and passive aggression will get you no where in no relationship ever, that's not how life work...but whatever I guess nothin I say matter so do you

her:
Like I said. Everything I do I have explained to u before. If u dnt remember its cool. If u dont wanna be a gentlemen cool but dnt expect me to be nice. I have a weird list of demands but after everything I deserve it and if no one can do it then it is what it is. I wnt be in a relationship And dnt worry. If I keep doing what ive been doing I wont be reminded anymore. I know what to do

me:

I been nothing but a gentleman from the beginning. If you don't see that then you must be blind. You keep avoiding the problem. It's not about me being a gentlemen, it's you giving me a reason to be. Being passive aggressive will literally push every good nikka you meet.

You mean to tell me you left a relationship to do what you hated to someone else? Open your eyes, read what I'm saying

her:
I havent even gotten close to what he used to do me to u


me:
You're treating me like shyt. He treated you like shyt.

her:
U mean shyt as calling u a fukking a$$hole because u refuse to be a gentleman? Me not give u a reason? nikka I take care of your ass and I dont give u a reason. If u know some of my past then u should be stepping ur game up to prove to me that u r wirth it but u havent u been what u r....not a gentleman and your actions remind me. I can give u examples of why I do the things I do I have fukking explained this all to u

me;
It doesn't fukking matter why you do it

her: Then fukking leave

me:
If that was the reason (her ex) was treating you like shyt would it be okay?

her:
Yeah because thats why I stayed for the first two years

me:
Then you should understand that passive aggression leads to a toxic relationship
If you don't want that then why the fukk would you do it

You just defeated your own argument

her:

I proved to him that I understood him and I showed it U dont understand u show it

me:
You proved that it didn't fukking matter because he did what did right? You did all that shyt for someone who wasn't even worth it. Don't fukking make me suffer for it

her:
Get my words. If u aint 100% to my gentlemen level or go the extra mile for me now u will never later

me:
How do I know you'll go 100 for me when you aren't doing it now?

her:
Emotionally I dnt. And u know I cant But I cook I clean anything u want I see if I can do it

me:
I ignored the fact that you fukk with all these nikkas
fukked them
Kissed them on cam
I do my fukking hardest
And it doesn't matter? Because I fukking told you how I feel about you. And you really are sitting here tellin me that I'm not enough?

her:
DONT U DARE MAKE ME FEEL BAD U KNOW WHY I NEED TO DO THIS I fukkING EXPLAINED IT AND IF U CANT fukkING WALK AN EXTRA BLOCK IN A CHILL OR fukkING HOLD MY BAG OR CLEAN YOUR shyt THEN IM NOT TAKING A CHANCE TO DO MORE I WANT U. I LIKE U. IM fukkIMG FALLING FOR U BUT I REFUSE TO DEAL WITH THIS shyt SO IF U AINT GONNA GO THE EXTRA MILE FOR ME NOW then im not the girl for u

me:
I keep telling you that I can do that. Again you are not fukking reading. The problem is you have to treat me with some fukking respect.

her:

If im the source of this problem then it just furthers my point where im just not ready and if we r togrther it would be the worse thingAnd this is just not aomething I can get up and get over Like u want me to

 

[Womb Raider]

I think y'all can get the gist from those messages. I didn't post all of them cuz 1) I'm not about to read all that bullshyt and 2) all of them aren't needed. At the moment we are all good, I'm just working on my exit strategy. But this bytch is fukked in the head, straight up. The p*ssy is good and she's a cool friend but sometimes she just be outta touch with reality. Sadly, a lotta bytches my age are somewhere in this realm of bitterness.

 

[MikelArteta]

she does other weird shyt too like deactivating and reactivating her facebook multiple times a week. Randomly deleting all her pics and changing her name seemingly with no rhyme or reason. I've never seen anyone behave in such a strange way

bipolar, but why are you so into her that you noticing all of this, cut that ish off, cut her out of life.

I'm happy I reached a place where at teh first sign of anything I just eject, ain't stressing myself over no chicks

 

[MikelArteta]

I think y'all can get the gist from those messages. I didn't post all of them cuz 1) I'm not about to read all that bullshyt and 2) all of them aren't needed. At the moment we are all good, I'm just working on my exit strategy. But this bytch is fukked in the head, straight up. The p*ssy is good and she's a cool friend but sometimes she just be outta touch with reality. Sadly, a lotta bytches my age are somewhere in this realm of bitterness.

lemme help you out

EJECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and never argue with a woman as well, arguments and confrontations are their battlefields, they love that back and forth. Sometimes yo'll be lucky to get more than 5 words from a chick, but in that argument your getting long ass paragraphs. Women like these are unstable as hell prob got daddy issues or still stuck on her ex.

save yourself the future heartache and leave now!!!