Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[411AM]

How fukking old is the chick writin this message?

The key is to make a woman feel comfortable. Woman will tell u or do anything in the bed with you as long as she's comfortable with you.

Facebook message I got from a girl other day:
"i jus feel like why wudd u say u have feelings for me and shyt & then make me think we gonna be something wen really it was jus a game to u, bt thts wht i get for openin up to u , shyt tht i neva told nobody u kno . hmmp thanks thoo"

 

[NerdNash]

I think when we were young, television really messed up our minds and gave us this unrealistic expectation of what a relationship is, and when we went out in real life, we found out that they are nothing like what we expected.

One thing I think most of us are finding it hard to find when dealing with women is peace of mind, because you always get the impression that most of the women we are dealing with are stockpiling options and are privy to leave at any moment. The reality is that many women simply have numerous options and they end up rotating them. You will know this when there are certain days that you can never access her because she is 'busy.'

Enjoy the company of women, but do not make them a serious fixture in your life, because as soon as she leaves, all the benefits she brought leaves with her. The only way a woman is a serious fixture in your life is if SHE makes herself one. For me, that means she believes in Jesus, she's extremely loyal, she holds me down, she has morals, we can have conversations about more than typical things, etc.

What I found is that I cannot ever force a woman to do something. I can't change her inherent nature. Either she is or she isn't. Either she wants to be around or she doesn't. A lot of guys mess up trying to force women who aren't feeling them into dealing with them. Dealing with cold women will simply result in a waste of time.

Past that, a man needs to focus on his MISSION, not women. The right woman is the one that understands your mission and helps you accomplish it. Your mission is NOT to catch some particular woman. You, as a man, are a leader, and you are always doing something and you INVITE the right woman in your life to participate you and aid you in your ventures. She is not the leader, you are. Men need to seek inner stability without women BEFORE seriously dealing with them.

Women do NOT make you a man, and if you depend on them to make you one, you're going to be mentally unbalanced, because how quickly they can leave you. The more you have things together though, the more women will simply want to deal with you, but it will be up to you to filter them and find the one that is truly honest about being with you and helping you complete your mission.

If you don't kind ima tweet this from
The @CoolTableTweets account on Twitter.

 

[kevm3]

If you don't kind ima tweet this from
The @CoolTableTweets account on Twitter.

yeah man that's fine

 

[NerdNash]

yeah man that's fine

Done. Salute.

 

[bigmac]

I think when we were young, television really messed up our minds and gave us this unrealistic expectation of what a relationship is, and when we went out in real life, we found out that they are nothing like what we expected.

One thing I think most of us are finding it hard to find when dealing with women is peace of mind, because you always get the impression that most of the women we are dealing with are stockpiling options and are privy to leave at any moment. The reality is that many women simply have numerous options and they end up rotating them. You will know this when there are certain days that you can never access her because she is 'busy.'

Enjoy the company of women, but do not make them a serious fixture in your life, because as soon as she leaves, all the benefits she brought leaves with her. The only way a woman is a serious fixture in your life is if SHE makes herself one. For me, that means she believes in Jesus, she's extremely loyal, she holds me down, she has morals, we can have conversations about more than typical things, etc.

What I found is that I cannot ever force a woman to do something. I can't change her inherent nature. Either she is or she isn't. Either she wants to be around or she doesn't. A lot of guys mess up trying to force women who aren't feeling them into dealing with them. Dealing with cold women will simply result in a waste of time.

Past that, a man needs to focus on his MISSION, not women. The right woman is the one that understands your mission and helps you accomplish it. Your mission is NOT to catch some particular woman. You, as a man, are a leader, and you are always doing something and you INVITE the right woman in your life to participate you and aid you in your ventures. She is not the leader, you are. Men need to seek inner stability without women BEFORE seriously dealing with them.

Women do NOT make you a man, and if you depend on them to make you one, you're going to be mentally unbalanced, because how quickly they can leave you. The more you have things together though, the more women will simply want to deal with you, but it will be up to you to filter them and find the one that is truly honest about being with you and helping you complete your mission.

I been on this forum over two years and I ain't ever been in this thread. This the first post I see

Think I'm about to be in here more often.

 

[Gus Money]

I posted about my specific situation in the random thoughts thread but I wanted to get some input from the guys in here as well. Let's pretend the woman/man you're dating is strongly opposed to long-distance relationships, but you have a potential job offer in another city. Would you choose to leave town and end the relationship in order to pursue the better job opportunity?

To add another element, what if this relationship has already been on rocky ground for a while? I know most people would suggest taking the job if the relationship is on rocky ground, and I couldn't argue against them, but I'm curious to see what you guys think about this situation.

 

[Pyrexcup]

I posted about my specific situation in the random thoughts thread but I wanted to get some input from the guys in here as well. Let's pretend the woman/man you're dating is strongly opposed to long-distance relationships, but you have a potential job offer in another city. Would you choose to leave town and end the relationship in order to pursue the better job opportunity?

To add another element, what if this relationship has already been on rocky ground for a while? I know most people would suggest taking the job if the relationship is on rocky ground, and I couldn't argue against them, but I'm curious to see what you guys think about this situation.

take the job people come and go noone is irreplaceable. You will regret not taking the job in the future

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I would take the job, regardless of the current stability in the relationship. You have to do what's best for you. If she doesn't like long distance, so be it. In my opinion you shouldn't ever let a woman who isn't your wife influence decisions you make for your livelihood.

 

[MikelArteta]

I posted about my specific situation in the random thoughts thread but I wanted to get some input from the guys in here as well. Let's pretend the woman/man you're dating is strongly opposed to long-distance relationships, but you have a potential job offer in another city. Would you choose to leave town and end the relationship in order to pursue the better job opportunity?

To add another element, what if this relationship has already been on rocky ground for a while? I know most people would suggest taking the job if the relationship is on rocky ground, and I couldn't argue against them, but I'm curious to see what you guys think about this situation.

I don't mean to be harsh but I'll say something but few women out there will rarely sacrifice for you.

The sad thing say you don't take this job in another city, if in a few months she would get a job offer in another city, or apply for school in another state or something I guarantee she would be gone. The sad thing is you stay then she breaks up with you, and you'll be like but but I sacrificed staying for you, women don't care what you sacrifice for them. To me if she is the RIGHT woman for you, she will encourage you to do what's best for you. Tom Leykis says that before you get serious in relationships make sure you accomplish your dreams, as well that women are dream killers.

To me I would end the relationship and go, women come and go. And I live by the adage if someone is meant to be in your life they will be.


I wouldn't care if the relationship was on rocky ground or stable and fulfilling, if your not married, engaged or have kids, you have to do what's best for you and to better your life. If she really loves you and down for you, she'd be looking to join you up there on some matt saracen julie from friday night lights type tip.

 

[MikelArteta]

@BonitaChelz if you were dating a dude and you could see a future with him, everyone checked out hes not like them other guys, but he got offered a job in another city hundred or thousands of miles away what would you do?

 

[kevm3]

Take the job. Every time I made some sacrifice for a woman, it ended up not playing too well. I know that more times than not, a woman is going to jet if she had a better opportunity. If she was really about you, she'd accept you leaving and would even consider going with you.

 

[MikelArteta]

If she was really about you, she'd accept you leaving and would even consider going with you.

I've mentioned this before I have a friend who met a guy on a resort in jamaica fell in love and gave up her cozy life up here and moved down there because he could not get papers to move up here.

 

[The ADD]

I posted about my specific situation in the random thoughts thread but I wanted to get some input from the guys in here as well. Let's pretend the woman/man you're dating is strongly opposed to long-distance relationships, but you have a potential job offer in another city. Would you choose to leave town and end the relationship in order to pursue the better job opportunity?

To add another element, what if this relationship has already been on rocky ground for a while? I know most people would suggest taking the job if the relationship is on rocky ground, and I couldn't argue against them, but I'm curious to see what you guys think about this situation.

The fact you are debating it (on a forum) means take the job.

 

[alybaba]

The older I get, the less I think about "dealing with women" and I just try to be genuine in my thoughts, feelings and actions. Works pretty decently for me.

 

[MikelArteta]

The older I get, the less I think about "dealing with women" and I just try to be genuine in my thoughts, feelings and actions. Works pretty decently for me.

the goat alybaba, hope all is well
how old are you?