"I've heard that like 5 times before. Hopefully it's true this time."
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save that shyt for my son and have em look it at this as a life long lesson he can learn

"I've heard that like 5 times before. Hopefully it's true this time."
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I think it's beautiful when both parties understand the true commitment involved, maturity necessary, and the importance of effective communication, and also the importance of regulating ones own emotions (taking responsibility for how you feel and not blaming another person for it).
I think most marriages fail (outside of missing fundamental elements) because people are either selfish, have unrealistic expectations, and are immature and want things their way without compromise and/or sacrifice. I do not believe in a person having to sacrifice who they are, their dignity, integrity, self respect, etc just to be with another. And if those things are ever being called into question, that person needs to value themselves more than their spouse.
Also, marriage cannot be the same for each couple, and people need to figure out what they want and expect from it so they don't go in thinking some off the wall shyt that may not work or be the best fit.
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I just try to learn from my mistakes and truly understand relationships from a mature place.first lady of the coli![]()

I just try to learn from my mistakes and truly understand relationships from a mature place.
No room for ego in the shyt.


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I just try to learn from my mistakes and truly understand relationships from a mature place.
No room for ego in the shyt.
shes cool been in this thread for years
one of the few good coli female posters

Of course. I don't listen to women regarding men stuff. They are just as clueless as I am lolI do wanna add the best way to understand on how to keep a man is FROM a man ...just my 2 cents .
The key is to make a woman feel comfortable. Woman will tell u or do anything in the bed with you as long as she's comfortable with you.
Facebook message I got from a girl other day:
"i jus feel like why wudd u say u have feelings for me and shyt & then make me think we gonna be something wen really it was jus a game to u, bt thts wht i get for openin up to u , shyt tht i neva told nobody u kno . hmmp thanks thoo"
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I think when we were young, television really messed up our minds and gave us this unrealistic expectation of what a relationship is, and when we went out in real life, we found out that they are nothing like what we expected.
One thing I think most of us are finding it hard to find when dealing with women is peace of mind, because you always get the impression that most of the women we are dealing with are stockpiling options and are privy to leave at any moment. The reality is that many women simply have numerous options and they end up rotating them. You will know this when there are certain days that you can never access her because she is 'busy.'
Enjoy the company of women, but do not make them a serious fixture in your life, because as soon as she leaves, all the benefits she brought leaves with her. The only way a woman is a serious fixture in your life is if SHE makes herself one. For me, that means she believes in Jesus, she's extremely loyal, she holds me down, she has morals, we can have conversations about more than typical things, etc.
What I found is that I cannot ever force a woman to do something. I can't change her inherent nature. Either she is or she isn't. Either she wants to be around or she doesn't. A lot of guys mess up trying to force women who aren't feeling them into dealing with them. Dealing with cold women will simply result in a waste of time.
Past that, a man needs to focus on his MISSION, not women. The right woman is the one that understands your mission and helps you accomplish it. Your mission is NOT to catch some particular woman. You, as a man, are a leader, and you are always doing something and you INVITE the right woman in your life to participate you and aid you in your ventures. She is not the leader, you are. Men need to seek inner stability without women BEFORE seriously dealing with them.
Women do NOT make you a man, and if you depend on them to make you one, you're going to be mentally unbalanced, because how quickly they can leave you. The more you have things together though, the more women will simply want to deal with you, but it will be up to you to filter them and find the one that is truly honest about being with you and helping you complete your mission.