Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I'm on Storrs campus right now and these eastern European women will have you shaking your head at the girl you with. They got ridiculous cakes. That's why we can't settle for these thots or get too broken up over them. There's always another option around the corner

 

[Womb Raider]

It's somewhat crazy to me that in your late teens/early twenties your expected to go to school and basically decide what you want to do for the rest of life. And then your early to mid twenties start your career, be saddled with a 25 year mortgage and "settle down" in terms of marriage and kids. If you shun society norms ala not following the script and checking off the pc checkpoints in a certain timeframe people will think your lost, selfish and even damaged.

In general I've noticed in life that people want you to live the life they are living and many times that's a life of settling and living in a stagnant daily routine. I'm 29 but at this moment in my life I have never felt in such total control of my existence in the here and now. I follow my passions rigorously and my whole world has been flipped on its axis in such an remarkable way, finally living a life I did not think was ever possible. Right now, I know myself more that I have ever did, I know my head, I know my heart and most of all I know what I desire.

So especially for you younger folks, be patient and always be kind to yourself. We all only have one life, people will test you, screw you over, judge you and gloat when you are in the muck however whenever you are knocked down use that time to ponder, heal, grow wiser and focus on yourself.

Because desperation of any form breeds unhappiness and unfulfillment, trust me everything happens at the right moment, not before and not after.
Stop putting too much stock into whatever anyone else's perception of how you should be living is...it doesn't matter.

dude, thanks for this post so fukking much.

I have been struggling with school and family issues since I graduated from high school and everything you have just said resonates with what I've been going through. Not even my folks really understand because from their viewpoint it's like I'm bullshytting in school and becoming a pothead when in reality going to school and working while trying to be as productive as possible is fukking hard. I fukk up a lot but best believe I'm doing the best I can right now.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

dude, thanks for this post so fukking much.

I have been struggling with school and family issues since I graduated from high school and everything you have just said resonates with what I've been going through. Not even my folks really understand because from their viewpoint it's like I'm bullshytting in school and becoming a pothead when in reality going to school and working while trying to be as productive as possible is fukking hard. I fukk up a lot but best believe I'm doing the best I can right now.

You'll be all right my man.


The next few years are gonna be crucial for you; learning, living... and if its in your stock --- loving.


This thread will help you soooo much.


Acquire the info, dissect it and let it marinate in your cerebrum. And once it has permeated and fully registered...



APPLY IT!


Can't stress that enough.


God speedsteins, my breaigham.


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[Arithmetic]

One of the keys to life is just focusing and finding joy in those things that are in your control and learning to do without those things that aren't. I can choose what I study in my freetime. I can fill my day with activities I enjoy. I can choose the thoughts I allow in my head. The culmination of these activities will largely determine my mental state.

On the other hand, I CAN'T control what a woman is going to do or whether she is going to be loyal. So it would be foolish to build the foundation of your happiness on something that is so completely out of your control. At most, you can screen women and hope they turn out well, but it's always best to look at women as something on the side to whatever you are doing. It's very easy to get out of your zone and start 'chasing chicks', when you should really be chasing your mission or passions and letting the women who are attracted to that make themselves available to you. That's not to say to not approach or to talk to women. It's more to say to lower your priority and expectations of them and never wake up and have the pursuit of women as the sole expression in your mind. Why? You can't control their comings and goings, and as soon as they leave, they take all the benefits they brought with them.

That's why PUA is an utterly disastrous lifestyle. Those dudes are sitting around spending all of this time and effort, but as soon as that woman decides to leave, they have NOTHING to show for it.

 

[MikelArteta]

dude, thanks for this post so fukking much.

I have been struggling with school and family issues since I graduated from high school and everything you have just said resonates with what I've been going through. Not even my folks really understand because from their viewpoint it's like I'm bullshytting in school and becoming a pothead when in reality going to school and working while trying to be as productive as possible is fukking hard. I fukk up a lot but best believe I'm doing the best I can right now.

No one walks in your shoes but yourself breh just remember that
and remember that no one is perfect everyone and i mean everyone makes mistakes.

I'm 29 and I've made every mistake in teh book just now in this year have I reached a plateau of peace after being in the wildernesss so long

 

[MikelArteta]

http://www.tmz.com/2015/04/01/damon-dash-rachel-roy-abuse-domestic-violence-kids/

but but get your status up, get your money up

 

[Arithmetic]

That's what's so backwards about it all. Women constantly complain about guys only looking at them for sex and yet they actively reward guys who only look for sex from them. They'd rather have a player that they are trying to actively change but are unable to than a decent, loyal dude. In other words, they are simply attracted to dudes who leave them in a perpetual cycle of dysfunction. Dude beats her up, cheats on her, etc., and she always goes back. On the other hand, you try to keep things smooth and drama free and then she gets bored and starts looking for options on the side.

That's why if you find that rare woman that can operate in a drama-free zone, keep her. Otherwise, simply don't step into the drama zone with these women. Let them get used by their players until they eventually turn into cat ladies, because you get tangled up with them and they'll use you for a little while before disappearing into their zone of dysfunction.

 

[MikelArteta]

Always remember that relationships take more than just love and feelings to succeed.
It takes honest open communication.It takes you and her respecting each other. As well it takes two people that completely trust each other. But most importantly it takes a commitment made by two people. Not one.

I can't communicate with a "independent" feminist nagging chick so I can't be in a relationship with her.
I can't respect a promiscious women thus I can't be in a relationship with her.
I can't trust a woman who has oodles of male friends and seeks validation through countless men why I can't be in a relationship with her.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Been dealing with this nice Kenyan girl for the past few months that I've been here in Qatar. She is completely different from women that I've been with in the past. Everything between us is easy man. Had a little turbulence in the beginning because she didn't understand that my work schedule was continuously changing and so was my availability. Had to just let her know that this is what it is and if you can't roll with it I fully understand. That just made her want to stick with me more. After that, smooth sailing. She doesn't like to party much and has the traits of a great mother. I'm taking it slow but I think I found a gem.

Told a female friend about her and the first thing out of her mouth was I bet she's looking for US citizenship. All I could do was laugh. The topic has literally never even come up in conversation before. She actually wants to save her money to buy land back in Kenya. It has been said time and time again, TRAVEL. Get your money right and get out there. I'm not so jaded that I don't think you can find great women stateside. However, you won't have to deal with as much trash to find what you're looking for. Gentlemen.

 

[MikelArteta]

Been dealing with this nice Kenyan girl for the past few months that I've been here in Qatar. She is completely different from women that I've been with in the past. Everything between us is easy man. Had a little turbulence in the beginning because she didn't understand that my work schedule was continuously changing and so was my availability. Had to just let her know that this is what it is and if you can't roll with it I fully understand. That just made her want to stick with me more. After that, smooth sailing. She doesn't like to party much and has the traits of a great mother. I'm taking it slow but I think I found a gem.

Told a female friend about her and the first thing out of her mouth was I bet she's looking for US citizenship. All I could do was laugh. The topic has literally never even come up in conversation before. She actually wants to save her money to buy land back in Kenya. It has been said time and time again, TRAVEL. Get your money right and get out there. I'm not so jaded that I don't think you can find great women stateside. However, you won't have to deal with as much trash to find what you're looking for. Gentlemen.

1st bold - it's always a beautiful thing when you meet a woman who truly is "not like them other girls". And that's the way it should be EASY.All this running through hoops, spending money, trying to impress is not needed. When a woman is into you and views you as valuable and wants to be with you, it's easy!!!!.


2nd bold - "Reward her for her work— let her actions result in public praise"

3rd bold - some chicks just hate seeing brehs eating especially overseas

4th bold - , yep like I always advise men get your passport and see the world its amazing how receptive women are all across the world, family values and morals. I'm not saying north american women are trash just that finding a gem of a woman here is hard.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Well you're fortunate to have experienced that, most men NEVER know what it's like to have a woman by their side regardless of what they have(status, money) or who they are(Tall, muscular, handsome). Most of us have to put in major work to get to a point that an attractive woman will give us a chance, and then women wonder why men dog them out. You can bet your ass when I get to a place of having "options" i'm going to do that shyt. fukk love it don't exist, and fukk them, they are only a means to an end as far as I'm concerned.

I have said this many times in this thread. I have NEVER been the guy that can sit down some were and woman just approach me. Ive ALWAYS had to work in one way or another. One of the things ive learned now that im 30 and will be 31 next month is once i started to studie the relationship between men and woman i changed my mindset. What i mean by that is all i care about is improving who i am for. I can admint im a reserved guy i stay to my self but i like for people to have a smile on they face when around me and i like to crack jokes. What i learned is that im take what i have internally good and bad and make myself better...for me. What this do to women is it causes them to respect you because your comfortable in YOUR skin, and the women who dont respect it get rid of them. I remember i was kinda shy in college but i begin to study malcom x interveiws on youtube and the confidence in which malcom spoke was just amazing plus you know he was intellectual with everything. So to tthis day i made a list of the men in history that i admire and i take small things from them that can make me better and at the sametime my personality can fully embrace it.

so yeah i feel you woman dont understand how hard men work to be there best just to get shytted on by some broad so i can see why men dog women. Women really dont work as hard if she pretty hell all she has to do is sit there and guy will approach. I myself dont know what that is like ...and probaly never will. In the meantime why not better myself?

 

[The Embellished Bell Hair]

Been dealing with this nice Kenyan girl for the past few months that I've been here in Qatar. She is completely different from women that I've been with in the past. Everything between us is easy man. Had a little turbulence in the beginning because she didn't understand that my work schedule was continuously changing and so was my availability. Had to just let her know that this is what it is and if you can't roll with it I fully understand. That just made her want to stick with me more. After that, smooth sailing. She doesn't like to party much and has the traits of a great mother. I'm taking it slow but I think I found a gem.

Told a female friend about her and the first thing out of her mouth was I bet she's looking for US citizenship. All I could do was laugh. The topic has literally never even come up in conversation before. She actually wants to save her money to buy land back in Kenya. It has been said time and time again, TRAVEL. Get your money right and get out there. I'm not so jaded that I don't think you can find great women stateside. However, you won't have to deal with as much trash to find what you're looking for. Gentlemen.

What work do you do in Qatar, if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Turbulent]

I really need some help on dealing with a situation...

I been dating my girl for about 5 months...

Problem is it seems like at least once or twice a week my girl catches an attitude for the whooole day...

Now I work with her so I kinda gotta interact with her..


What's the best way to deal with a crabby azz gf lol

does the attitude come out of nowhere? is there a pattern?
ext time she does it, ask her if something is bothering her. ask her if there's a particular reason she has an attitude. if she gets defensive, just tell her you don't need that shyt in your life and if she has a problem with you to speak up so that y'all can solve it. if she says the problem isn't with you then tell her that either you can help her out or she can stop the attitude when she's with you cause you don't need that shyt in your life. if she tries to start a huge fight or guilt you into apologizing for making her feel bad, this is a major red flag that your girl might be a crazy.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't live this lifestyle any more but its just what i was telling you when a woman likes you, you dont have to do anything.

Like I said i've only made the first move once and i've still "ate" quite well.

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@FLYINHAWAIIAN

 

[MikelArteta]

I have said this many times in this thread. I have NEVER been the guy that can sit down some were and woman just approach me. Ive ALWAYS had to work in one way or another. One of the things ive learned now that im 30 and will be 31 next month is once i started to studie the relationship between men and woman i changed my mindset. What i mean by that is all i care about is improving who i am for. I can admint im a reserved guy i stay to my self but i like for people to have a smile on they face when around me and i like to crack jokes. What i learned is that im take what i have internally good and bad and make myself better...for me. What this do to women is it causes them to respect you because your comfortable in YOUR skin, and the women who dont respect it get rid of them. I remember i was kinda shy in college but i begin to study malcom x interveiws on youtube and the confidence in which malcom spoke was just amazing plus you know he was intellectual with everything. So to tthis day i made a list of the men in history that i admire and i take small things from them that can make me better and at the sametime my personality can fully embrace it.

so yeah i feel you woman dont understand how hard men work to be there best just to get shytted on by some broad so i can see why men dog women. Women really dont work as hard if she pretty hell all she has to do is sit there and guy will approach. I myself dont know what that is like ...and probaly never will. In the meantime why not better myself?

Make life easy, a woman will like you or not.