Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Coli brothers i need to let yall know about a situation.

Me and my girl be together for about 9months. We are both n our early 30's. She has two kids. I dont have any.. I told her im will be ready to have kids in the next year. She told me she wouldn't be ready. And i should not try to rush or pressure her into the situation. I told her if she's not ready were wasting each other time. I love her and the girls to death, and i planned on marriage. But i can't be with someone that is not vewing the future the same as i.

This shyt is really bothering today because it's Easter. I haven't talked to them since Tuesday.

What yall think?
Somethings can't be worked around. She isn't wrong and neither are you. Just not compatible.
 

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Coli brothers i need to let yall know about a situation.

Me and my girl be together for about 9months. We are both n our early 30's. She has two kids. I dont have any.. I told her im will be ready to have kids in the next year. She told me she wouldn't be ready. And i should not try to rush or pressure her into the situation. I told her if she's not ready were wasting each other time. I love her and the girls to death, and i planned on marriage. But i can't be with someone that is not vewing the future the same as i.

This shyt is really bothering today because it's Easter. I haven't talked to them since Tuesday.

What yall think?
If you're ready and she's not, than no need to waste any more time with her.
 

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you gotta sit down together and talk about your goals. if neither of you will budge and your goals don't align, then thats not the person you should be with.


Why should i budge? She has kids i don't. I feel its selfish not to have children with me in the next year. I'm tired of talking to her about the same thing
 

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Why should i budge? She has kids i don't. I feel its selfish not to have children with me in the next year. I'm tired of talking to her about the same thing

Neither of you have to budge. Kids are a serious discussion and if your ideas don't match up you have to leave or you won't be happy.
 

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So dont go to her daughter play tomorrow?
At the end of the day,she's not your daughter, and she's not cooperating with your wishes and aspirations,, even after you treated her own kids as your own. Its a bit selfish, so don't make it harder on yourself by still being their for her kids and showing up to their plays and events when you know where you stand with the mother.
 

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Cats harp on me when I say if you don't have kids don't deal with single mothers.

Its a losing situation most of the time. She already has two kids and that's good enough for her, while you have none and would like a child of your own.

I could not be with a woman who did not want to have my child yet she had two for a dude who is no longer around? It touches your ego as a man.

As well this should have been talked about long ago.

I would bounce, no need to waste more time on a woman who doesn't want to take the same path as you
 

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I swear Everytime shiit is going good with a new chick im dealing with, an ex pops up out the blue trying to be friendly. I haven't heard from you in months and here you go:comeon:

they know
women can tell when your drifting away and sometimes pops up inside of them.
 
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