Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Cause people don't really post in forums like that when they're happy...they go to vent when they're heartbroken or hurt (so that they don't feel like they're the only ones going through it)...when they're happy and together, they communicate to each other and not to everyone else...so you probably only see the negative side of things. I don't see my parents on fb talking about "omg we are so happily married blah blah" lol they keep their personal business off the net.

:ehh:

i think people are more honest anonymously. I know many married couples who put on great fronts whether it be at church, or just anywhere. But get them one on one and the dirt starts to spill.
 

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So, long story short I met this chick for the first time 2 years ago. She's my homegirl's best friend and room mate. We been flirting on and off since that time. We rarely see each other but when we do we always have a good time together. We've laid up together watching movies and what not but nothing sexual has happened. Last time I saw her was February because our schedules have been so busy.

Over this summer she texted me and told me she really liked me.

This woman is ideal for me. Tall, smart, beautiful, conscious Black woman with a Biology degree. I could easily see myself locking her down.

I see her for the first time since February this Friday and I'm contemplating telling her how I feel about her. Is that a bad idea brehs? I don't want to play it overly cool and I dont want to spill my guts. I'm not sure which way to go with this. I want to cuff her, pickings are slim out here these days when you're looking for a certain kind of Black woman.


Maybe ill just read this thread to see if any ideas catch my eye, but any advice would be helpful.

you've already put her on a pedestal, only qualities you listed about her is physical and her so called smartness. You know really nothing about her, see when you barely see someone you'll always see them at their best there will be no off day so they look better and sweeter than they really are.

It's like if my house is always messy but i know you'll be over once in awhile, ill clean my house on those days and give off like this is how it's always kept when in reality its not. The same with women you rarely see, everything is perfect, she hasn't confided in you yet. You haven't seen her at her worst, at her bytchiness.


Never tell a woman how you feel about them right off the bet, again don't give the power, as crossbones wrote you are such a eager young pup ready to commit and give your all even though you know nothing about her.

PATIENCE is the key, PATIENCE. I've been there in my younger days, thinking a girl is all that and ready to give up my commitment right away without truly getting to know her.
 

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I had sex with my ex last night, brehs. Might've just heaved myself into another realm of fukkery.

can't spell sex without the ex :heh:, only once in my life have I had sex with an ex and she ended up getting pregnant (but miscarried). I wouldn't recommend it. You reopen old wounds.
 
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can't spell sex without the ex :heh:, only once in my life have I had sex with an ex and she ended up getting pregnant (but miscarried). I wouldn't recommend it. You reopen old wounds.

I feel ya, breh. Some true words. Hung out with her for the first time, and there was hardly no attention paid to the now, lots of talk referencing what happened in the past. Was weird as shyt

the latter. you fukked, that through. what else is there to consider?

I, myself, don't really have anything to consider. I'm numb to a lot, and I don't think about shyt, at least I don't try to. My fukkery comment was in regards to the fact that she's in an open relationship with someone, who has a tendency of popping up without calling first, and she made it seem like there may be a moment when I'm about to smash, and that guy pulls up. Plus, I just have a strong sense that it won't just be a casual thing. Too much mushy, sentimental shyt arose in her sentences. Bleh, I dunno.
 

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I feel ya, breh. Some true words. Hung out with her for the first time, and there was hardly no attention paid to the now, lots of talk referencing what happened in the past. Was weird as shyt



I, myself, don't really have anything to consider. I'm numb to a lot, and I don't think about shyt, at least I don't try to. My fukkery comment was in regards to the fact that she's in an open relationship with someone, who has a tendency of popping up without calling first, and she made it seem like there may be a moment when I'm about to smash, and that guy pulls up. Plus, I just have a strong sense that it won't just be a casual thing. Too much mushy, sentimental shyt arose in her sentences. Bleh, I dunno.
:ufdup:You neglected to mention that this was going to be a recurring event - you smashing her. And she's got someone who's prone to popping up outta nowhere?!:what: Get out now and save yourself more than an awkward conversation breh.
 

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you've already put her on a pedestal, only qualities you listed about her is physical and her so called smartness. You know really nothing about her, see when you barely see someone you'll always see them at their best there will be no off day so they look better and sweeter than they really are.

It's like if my house is always messy but i know you'll be over once in awhile, ill clean my house on those days and give off like this is how it's always kept when in reality its not. The same with women you rarely see, everything is perfect, she hasn't confided in you yet. You haven't seen her at her worst, at her bytchiness.


Never tell a woman how you feel about them right off the bet, again don't give the power, as crossbones wrote you are such a eager young pup ready to commit and give your all even though you know nothing about her.

PATIENCE is the key, PATIENCE. I've been there in my younger days, thinking a girl is all that and ready to give up my commitment right away without truly getting to know her.


This is also very good advice.

I was thinking of hitting her with something along the lines of "I think you're a smart interesting woman and I want to get to know you better" or some shyt
 

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Yall dont ever have them days where yall want somebody to come home to??? A women that would put Your mind at ease as soon as you walk in the door after a long stessful day, somebody that'll hold down be there for you a 100%.???

Idk mabey its just the old simp in me....
 

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^^^ we do want that but we also know that thats rare in these times. breh i recently had my soul ethered by a chick and wish i ain't move so fast. focus on yourself breh. trust the brothers in here they know what they're falling about.
 

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^^^ we do want that but we also know that thats rare in these times. breh i recently had my soul ethered by a chick and wish i ain't move so fast. focus on yourself breh. trust the brothers in here they know what they're falling about.

Thats another thing to breh, just like women most of ys make that mistake on moving to fast or "falling to fast" so we end up getting hurt in the process
 

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In the documentary The Last Days of Left Eye, TLC member Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes said she was 100% against the release of "Creep" as a single, and threatened to wear black tape over her mouth in the music video. She thought that when a girl finds out that her man is cheating on her, the girl better leave rather than cheat back.

:salute: :salute: :salute: :salute:


:comeon: didn't she burn down dude house for cheating? And after that they still were together for a minute
 

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Sometimes, then I wake uo

Yall dont ever have them days where yall want somebody to come home to??? A women that would put Your mind at ease as soon as you walk in the door after a long stessful day, somebody that'll hold down be there for you a 100%.???

Idk mabey its just the old simp in me....
 

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Yall dont ever have them days where yall want somebody to come home to??? A women that would put Your mind at ease as soon as you walk in the door after a long stessful day, somebody that'll hold down be there for you a 100%.???

Idk mabey its just the old simp in me....

That's not simping. That's what most men want. Simping is throwing away all of your dignity to obtain a woman's affection and constantly excusing their bad behavior.

The problem is, there are few women that will deliver on what you're asking without you having to look over your shoulder and wonder what she is doing. We live in a culture that promotes promiscuity and actively tells women to act based on her emotions. Combine that with countless options that allow her to interact with members of the opposite sex who are very thirsty, and you have what we have today... Its tough finding a decent woman, which is why I keep telling cats when you have one, you better hold on.
 
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