Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I have not wanted kids since I was 19 ...does this make me a bad person. I'm just need some opinions cause when I say this in all honesty to people they look at me like I have ...eaten babies or something :snoop:


if youre not hurting people or taking from others, why would you be a bad person? you know how many people get caught up in a life they didnt want just because they thought that was what theyre "supposed to do?" be your own man and be proud of what you stand for - other peoples opinions are constantly just echoes of someone elses ideals. it doesnt have to be your opinion or life. many parents say that children are the best thing that happened to them, but if they could do it over again, theyd do things differently. that right there should tell you a lot
 

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whats the point of commitment and even relationships nowadays?

the amount of people who cheat, who leave at the first chance of boredom, who casual date, who like stringing along folks, the divorce rates, the amount of horrible women, i really dont understand why people keep doing it

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whats the point of commitment and even relationships nowadays?

the amount of people who cheat, who leave at the first chance of boredom, who casual date, who like stringing along folks, the divorce rates, the amount of horrible women, i really dont understand why people keep doing it

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I sometimes wonder if there is a such thing as unconditional love?.Love seems like an illusion...and this is coming from a man who has never been in love and im(29). People often say that there is something wrong with me...but I just dont like the idea of how people just give it away cause they wont it sooo bad. Any women im with is going to have to earn my love. I feel women are pretty much the kings in our society. They(women) run everything society ,laws and the goverment are their greatest PR firms. In all honesty I havent had a women in almost 3yrs ...I just havent had the desire to. I know nikkas gon neg but oh well. I just wanna focus on me and getting out of this bad space im in as a man . I listen to patrices show the black phillip show ...and I didnt always agree with everything he said but im starting to. I see why he was the way he was women. At 29 Im starting to understand the psychological side of the game is whats really hard to deal with...I see why patrice said dont let these women psychologically abuse you. I believe patrice longest relationship was ten years with his girl/wife von oneal... but I could be wrong I read some were that he didnt believe in relationships til von . I think thats sad and crazy
 

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I sometimes wonder if there is a such thing as unconditional love?.Love seems like an illusion...and this is coming from a man who has never been in love and im(29). People often say that there is something wrong with me...but I just dont like the idea of how people just give it away cause they wont it sooo bad. Any women im with is going to have to earn my love. I feel women are pretty much the kings in our society. They(women) run everything society ,laws and the goverment are their greatest PR firms. In all honesty I havent had a women in almost 3yrs ...I just havent had the desire to. I know nikkas gon neg but oh well. I just wanna focus on me and getting out of this bad space im in as a man . I listen to patrices show the black phillip show ...and I didnt always agree with everything he said but im starting to. I see why he was the way he was women. At 29 Im starting to understand the psychological side of the game is whats really hard to deal with...I see why patrice said dont let these women psychologically abuse you. I believe patrice longest relationship was ten years with his girl/wife von oneal... but I could be wrong I read some were that he didnt believe in relationships til von . I think thats sad and crazy

not going to neg at all. IF you read malcolms x book dude gave up and didnt care about women till he met betty.

When i was young I was all about finding women, i envisioned being married and having kids, but as I got older yeah right. The thing is I can be faithful , I can be loving I can be content. But most women nowadays?

To me its not even worth it , i'll casually date if i feel like watching a movie etc., but to get into a relationship with the trash that is out there nowadays yeah right. Love I've only been in love twice in my life and to this day I still love those women, but i';ve had like 10-15 women in my lifetime tell me they love me, to a woman its just a word it seems nowadays.
 

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I have not wanted kids since I was 19 ...does this make me a bad person. I'm just need some opinions cause when I say this in all honesty to people they look at me like I have ...eaten babies or something :snoop:
Tbh, funny you bring this up. I sexed a Brazilian that was in her 30's and she said she didn't want kids. shyt bothered me so much that I wrote her an email a few days asking why, even though it's been a month since I've been in Germany.

So no, but I'd like to understand it more
 

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Tbh, funny you bring this up. I sexed a Brazilian that was in her 30's and she said she didn't want kids. shyt bothered me so much that I wrote her an email a few days asking why, even though it's been a month since I've been in Germany.

So no, but I'd like to understand it more

why?

kids are such a hinderance, and a drain on your bank account.

If you get your dream job and they want you to live in hawaii and you start in two weeks, not having a child you can just get up an dgo.
 

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why?

kids are such a hinderance, and a drain on your bank account.

If you get your dream job and they want you to live in hawaii and you start in two weeks, not having a child you can just get up an dgo.
Because its not all about money or dream jobs. At least for me, and the way this woman seemed I doubt it was about money or a dream job. Perhaps she hadnt found the right man that she felt comfortable having kids with.

Oh well, hopefully she responds to my email. If she does I'll post a bit of it
 

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I have not wanted kids since I was 19 ...does this make me a bad person. I'm just need some opinions cause when I say this in all honesty to people they look at me like I have ...eaten babies or something :snoop:

People need to mind their own business, that's what they need to do.

When folks wanna tell me what I "should" be doing in terms of relationships/family, I tell them if or when I feel the time is right, then I will do what is right for me. Ain't no one paying my bills and besides, when me and my wife had just separated, a lot of those same people weren't around or offered me the support I needed at the time, so why the fukk should I care what they have to say now? You mention words like celibacy or anything else that implies you want to have time for yourself and get your shyt together, they look at you like you sprouted another head. fukk 'em. Their opinion means shyt.

My favourite movie of all time is Ghost Dog: Way of The Samurai and Forest Whittakers character is spiritual and in tune with himself without a female or children in sight.
 
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I have not wanted kids since I was 19 ...does this make me a bad person. I'm just need some opinions cause when I say this in all honesty to people they look at me like I have ...eaten babies or something :snoop:
Because its not all about money or dream jobs. At least for me, and the way this woman seemed I doubt it was about money or a dream job. Perhaps she hadnt found the right man that she felt comfortable having kids with.

Oh well, hopefully she responds to my email. If she does I'll post a bit of it
some people just have no desire to have kids with no deeper reason behind it.
 

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There's a reason behind everything.

I don't want to have children because I dont want to be saddled down, i like to be free.

as in if i want to go to work come home and just lie in my bed i can, if i want to take a week off and just take a last minute trip to cuba i can, if i want to throw all my money on a new tv, new clothes i can without worrying about diapers and all that,
 

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I don't want to have children because I dont want to be saddled down, i like to be free.

as in if i want to go to work come home and just lie in my bed i can, if i want to take a week off and just take a last minute trip to cuba i can, if i want to throw all my money on a new tv, new clothes i can without worrying about diapers and all that,
Is this a real answer or your rationalization to avoid possible heartbreak and a failed marriage?
 

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Is this a real answer or your rationalization to avoid possible heartbreak and a failed marriage?

a real answer, even if i were to get married I would not want children.

I see it within my own family my sister and her huband have two kids and one on the way. Zero free time, paying amost 2k a month in daycare, i love my nieces but to me kids aint worth it.
 

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a real answer, even if i were to get married I would not want children.

I see it within my own family my sister and her huband have two kids and one on the way. Zero free time, paying amost 2k a month in daycare, i love my nieces but to me kids aint worth it.
So money is worth more than family to you?
 
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