Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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what do you want from her? you're fukking other woman, so there is no reason to be salty about her "brother". unless you stop banging those other chicks, you're a hypocrit for getting mad at her. and as much as you act as if you didn't care and that it was just about her "sliding him in", you are salty that she is fukking somebody else. as you said, she has the right to do what ever she wants, and that includes sliding brothers in. so if you are feeling her to the point of telling her that you lover her and getting jealous, maybe you should reevaluate what it is that you want from this relationship and if you really need to fukk other woman.

ok you read my post but you obviously didn't comprehend it. I don't care if she's messing with other dudes, thats her choice, i know where we stand so that wouldnt' make me feel differently about her. I'm talking about her trying to pass this dude of as just a brother like i'm dumb enough to not see whats really going on. Had she been like "a friend who i've had sex with a time or 2 back in college needs a place to crash", i would have just been like ok cool, that lets me know that we need to just fukk at my house from now on cause i'm not bout to be smashin you wit a dude you smashed sleepin on the couch. I'm strictly talking about that fact that she tried to hide their sexual history by passing him off as a "brother". I don't care if she got a friend stayin wit her, but i think its my right to decide whether or not i wanna be in her crib wit a nicca she's already smashed, and she tried to hide that. Aint nothin hypocritical about it, she gone do what she gone do, all i ask is she keep it 100 wit me like i do wit her. I'm pretty sure she would feel some type of way if i had her up in my crib while a female friend was staying there and i was hiding our sexual history
 
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ok you read my post but you obviously didn't comprehend it. I don't care if she's messing with other dudes, thats her choice, i know where we stand so that wouldnt' make me feel differently about her. I'm talking about her trying to pass this dude of as just a brother like i'm dumb enough to not see whats really going on. Had she been like "a friend who i've had sex with a time or 2 back in college needs a place to crash", i would have just been like ok cool, that lets me know that we need to just fukk at my house from now on cause i'm not bout to be smashin you wit a dude you smashed sleepin on the couch. I'm strictly talking about that fact that she tried to hide their sexual history by passing him off as a "brother". I don't care if she got a friend stayin wit her, but i think its my right to decide whether or not i wanna be in her crib wit a nicca she's already smashed, and she tried to hide that. Aint nothin hypocritical about it, she gone do what she gone do, all i ask is she keep it 100 wit me like i do wit her. I'm pretty sure she would feel some type of way if i had her up in my crib while a female friend was staying there and i was hiding our sexual history

nah,I agree with @karim. Don't act salty about it. The one thing you can take out of it is that she told you the truth about it. She could have easily denied it but decided to keep it real with you.
She tried to the bend the truth like most of us do but when it came to it, she told you straight out. Honesty goes a long way, breh.
 

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I'd rather tell her I'm disappointed and you don't tolerate people wasting your time and tell her in the most respectful way that you can't talk to people who aren't serious. :yeshrug: i'd rather she know I don't play that rather than she knows I'm a pushover. The key here is to say it in a tone that conveys you're not the doormat type.

I agree, I see nothing wrong with letting them know you don't take shyt like that.
 

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nah,I agree with @karim. Don't act salty about it. The one thing you can take out of it is that she told you the truth about it. She could have easily denied it but decided to keep it real with you.
She tried to the bend the truth like most of us do but when it came to it, she told you straight out. Honesty goes a long way, breh.
I don't he is acting saltly personally. Y'all could be analyzing this too much. The thing is she DIDN'T tell the truth she tried to cover it up and if he didn't flat out ask I doubt she would have disclosed that info. And she didn't tried to continue denying after he said something because it was too obvious. That's what I'm getting out of it.
 

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nah,I agree with @karim. Don't act salty about it. The one thing you can take out of it is that she told you the truth about it. She could have easily denied it but decided to keep it real with you.
She tried to the bend the truth like most of us do but when it came to it, she told you straight out. Honesty goes a long way, breh.

where are yall gettin this salty business from? Like i said in the first post, she's shown alot of signs that she isn't messin wit anyone else which is why i dont think she is, but if she is she is free to do that, just like im free to do me, reguardless of our emotional connection. I'll take it a step further, I really don't even care if she still wants to let this dude hit, what i'm saying is i don't like deception. Let me choose whether or not i wanna be around some other dude that also hit, because if we gone be there at the same time then naturally theres gonna be some interaction, if he smokes then of course imma offer to pass him the blunt if i'm over there smokin, let me decide whether or not i feel comfortable sharing blunts wit a nicca thats already hit the chick i'm bout to be cuddled up wit, dont have me and this man chillin and shyt while i'm thinkin he's just a friend and he's lookin at me thinkin "you dont even know it"
 

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this hispanic chick whose like 6 years older than me who is now a elementary teacher that I made out with during my sophomore year (best kisser so far:ehh:) (She started school late) finally broke up with her boyfriend might be lowkey teasing me brehs. I told her that when i get back to cali around the 22nd we should kick it she agreed, i told her this like a month ago. I sent her another text in for small talk in which i got no reply (big mistake, shouldve deaded the convo until i was in cali). Recently i liked her instagram pic because it was :blessed: then she commented with a flirtatious emoji and comment, i sent her a bland comment back without her thinking she has leverage. Now she sent me a text this morning talmbout good morning have a great day i responded (same to you), she rarely does this unless we are in contact, it isnt like she does it everyday. I actually believe she mass text that shyt to all her friends and included me in it. should i throw her to the bushes or hit her up when i get back to cali and see whats good with meeting up? i think she wants that ego boost but i'll give it a try shes like 26 and im only 21 so I'm thinking we should go get some drinks or some shyt? she likes to party and has the mindset of a 20 year old yet she's a teacher :wow:

if she plays games or ignores my part about meeting up I think ima finally throw her to the bushes. bytch has been teasing since my sophomore year but I ALMOST hit in her dorm one time until her fat ass roommate cock blocked me. I've also messed around with her close friend but I'm not sure if she knows :ohhh:, her actions make it appear like she doesnt or maybe she doesnt give a fukk? or maybe she does know and thats why she's playing games for an ego boost?:ehh:

what should i do brehs?
 

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Good points, I need some more time to evaluate where her head is at so I might set something up today if I have time.

There you go brah thats the spirit,
Wasnt much more said about it after that but I can't help but to feel like I've lost a lil respect for her because of that, how would you brehs feel about that situation?

I never met a girl who didn't do shyt like that so honestly i'm never surprised when i hear it, i just make a little mental note in my head and keep it moving. I usually don't even like pointing shyt like that out because it tells me a lil bit more about who this person is that they probably would not have willingly wanted to tell me
 

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You brehs ever really really been into a chick then she says or does something that isnt big enough to leave her alone but it still causes you to lose a lil respect for her?

Me and this chick been gettin down for close to a year and a half now, shyts gotten pretty serious (we say "i love you" to each other every now and then) but at the same time out of the 3 females i've been dealin wit this whole time (2 now since my bottom jumped ship) she's been the most realistic about it, she'll let me know that even though we're pretty deep in feelings if I'm not givin her exclusive dikk then she's still single and has the right to do whatever she wants. I'm cool wit that seein as how she knows about the other females, but she also gives me signs that she's not messin wit anybody else so I honestly don't know if she is or isnt but I don't think she is, and I don't really care enough to ask.

This weekend she was house sittin for her moms, she has a nice as house wit a pool and shyt. She asked me to come over thursday night and I ended up stayin 4 days. At some point during the 4 days she starts talking about her "brother", I knew she had to mean frat brother cause she doesnt have any real brothers. She started talkin about how he's a rich bum, one week he can have 10 stacks in his pockets, next week he beggin people to crash on their couch. Then she starts talkin about how he's asking if he can crash at her crib cause he aint got nowhere to go and he'll put in on the bills and thats money she could really use. From what she told me he's from an island and he goes back and forth on work visas, whenever he's here its a constant struggle for him to keep a roof over his head.

At some point during her talking about this dude I thought about all the posts I had read about women refering to dudes as their "brother" and how that dude usually ends up being some nicca they fuccin. Not that I even cared about the fact that she was bout to be havin some dude stayin wit her but i just decided to straight up ask her "have you fukked him", and she said ":manny: it happened a time or 2". So now I'm like ":rudy: but this is your "brother" right?" then I turned around and said "you realize you just proved a stereotype about women who referring to a non relative as her "brother" to be true right?". She said yeah lookin all sad then tried to tell me its not like that between them anymore, I told her I don't care if it is, but i'm not feelin how you tried to slide him in there as your "brother" like I don't know the game, i've been a bytch's "brother" before so i know how it go.

Wasnt much more said about it after that but I can't help but to feel like I've lost a lil respect for her because of that, how would you brehs feel about that situation?

Any time a woman lets a man stay at her place, ride her whip, etc., he either is knocking that thang to the moon or he's about to in the near future. It's funny how women paint all these guys like losers, but still let them push their whip, mooch off them or whatever. With that admission she made, I wouldn't even think about taking her seriously. Let's be 500 with it. If you talked about you are moving your homegirl in that you knocked down a few times in the past, do you think she'd be trying to take you serious or would she be kicking up dust? And really mane, what you look like telling a woman you love her, but she got another dude living up in the crib, bodyslamming her booty, eating all the snacks up in the crib and pushing her whip? You already know what's going to happen, because that's what these mooching type dudes do. They get their foot in the door and escalate. Live rent free, then beg to ride in the car, end up pushing the whip, etc.

She might be doing this as some kind of attention ploy to show you what it feels like when exclusivity ain't met, but I just really have to wonder where she got the idea that it would be coo to move another man in and you'd be fine with that. The real problem is that she tried to run some game on you... have some in house pipe but then get at you like baby I love you. Sounds like what a playa would tell a female. He is just a 'brother' to her when she mentions him to you... but what are you when she's going to mention you to him? A buddy? Or 'oh he's nobody. He's a guy I'm cool with."?
 

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my question is if a chick flakes how are you supposed to play it without coming off as bitter but also not seeming like a simp?... the worst flakes are the ones that come 2 hours before the supposed plan after a whole day of building up time to chill...obviously if you get mad you come off as bitter but if you dont say anything it may seem like you are a pushover, so what would you say is the best way to play a situation like this?

Number one rule, stop catering to what a broad thinks and stop caring. Who cares if she thinks you are bitter? The broad did something foul, so you got every right to be mad. Instead of yelling and screaming at her, treat her as how she's treating you -- as low value... and put her butt way in the background and get to popping at a new woman who is way more respectful. You see,in this day and age, men keep on catering to these broads and their emotions, letting these broads get away with all kinds of foul behavior because they don't want to lose the cooch. Let me tell you something, self-respect is way more important than some cooch. You can't lose what you don't have, and you can never own her cooch, so stop spending effort to 'keep something' you'll never own. Your respect is way more important. If these broads are cutting out plans 2 hours before it's time to go, it shows what she really thinks... that you are a peon who she doesn't have to honor commitments to. If Drake or TI said be here at 5, do you think she'll be like, "Uhhh I can't make it?" She'll be doing somersaults and backflips to make her butt on down there. So why aren't you deserving of that same kind of respect from a woman that you have any semblence of taking seriously unless you mentally believe you are a low tier dude not worthy of basic respect and cordiality? Broads that be flaking on you at the last moment... in reality, dont' get mad, get better. Get you a better woman that you are doing better things and watch how that old disrespectful woman mysteriously pops up on some, "Why don't you hit me up anymore??" Because you didn't take the opportunity when you had it. A lot of women want this here. You don't get with it, the next woman will. You got to have that attitude man or these females will invite all kinds of nonsense to your life.
 

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So I posted about this girl at my job that has a bf but flirts with me all the time a while back (Let's call her "M") and I still don't understand her intent. Today she was talking to a co-worker in my dept, asking her where I lived and something else in Spanish (I couldn't make it out but I know she said my name). After they finished talking, M walked over to me smiling and asked if I lived at the store because I'm there all the time lol I guess trying to play it off. I made a joke, we laughed then she went on her way. After she left my co-worker came over and said "Hey, I think she likes you, she was asking me where you live. You should ask her to lunch or a movie, she's very pretty." I wanted to tell her that she has a bf but I want to see if M will end up mentioning him even though she hasn't so far.

It's weird though because every time I see her she's always smiling at me, I mean literally every time. She also doesn't know that I'm her friend on FB (I added her as a friend when she first started working at the store) so I was going to post on her page "Hey I didn't know we're friends on here" but she updated her status "Having an early breakfast with (BF's name) feeling loved :o" so I decided not to because it seemed weird, plus her bf might see it and wonder who I was then shyt happens. I might send her a message today since only she can see it and see what happens :manny: Like I said before, I really don't understand her intentions, any help?

So brehs the chick broke up with her bf :ohhh:
 

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You brehs ever really really been into a chick then she says or does something that isnt big enough to leave her alone but it still causes you to lose a lil respect for her?

Me and this chick been gettin down for close to a year and a half now, shyts gotten pretty serious (we say "i love you" to each other every now and then) but at the same time out of the 3 females i've been dealin wit this whole time (2 now since my bottom jumped ship) she's been the most realistic about it, she'll let me know that even though we're pretty deep in feelings if I'm not givin her exclusive dikk then she's still single and has the right to do whatever she wants. I'm cool wit that seein as how she knows about the other females, but she also gives me signs that she's not messin wit anybody else so I honestly don't know if she is or isnt but I don't think she is, and I don't really care enough to ask.

This weekend she was house sittin for her moms, she has a nice as house wit a pool and shyt. She asked me to come over thursday night and I ended up stayin 4 days. At some point during the 4 days she starts talking about her "brother", I knew she had to mean frat brother cause she doesnt have any real brothers. She started talkin about how he's a rich bum, one week he can have 10 stacks in his pockets, next week he beggin people to crash on their couch. Then she starts talkin about how he's asking if he can crash at her crib cause he aint got nowhere to go and he'll put in on the bills and thats money she could really use. From what she told me he's from an island and he goes back and forth on work visas, whenever he's here its a constant struggle for him to keep a roof over his head.

At some point during her talking about this dude I thought about all the posts I had read about women refering to dudes as their "brother" and how that dude usually ends up being some nicca they fuccin. Not that I even cared about the fact that she was bout to be havin some dude stayin wit her but i just decided to straight up ask her "have you fukked him", and she said ":manny: it happened a time or 2". So now I'm like ":rudy: but this is your "brother" right?" then I turned around and said "you realize you just proved a stereotype about women who referring to a non relative as her "brother" to be true right?". She said yeah lookin all sad then tried to tell me its not like that between them anymore, I told her I don't care if it is, but i'm not feelin how you tried to slide him in there as your "brother" like I don't know the game, i've been a bytch's "brother" before so i know how it go.

Wasnt much more said about it after that but I can't help but to feel like I've lost a lil respect for her because of that, how would you brehs feel about that situation?

nikkas really misreading and not understanding my Man P post??? I feel where you coming from P but that's how women are she felt she had to give dude some type of "title" to help better explain why she was basically letting some stranger nikka in her momma crib. She couldn't call him her man(because she saving that title for you) and couldn't say "oh some nikka I used to fukk" because that would make her sound slutty and women hate that no matter what they tell you. so her rationale made her say "brother". I wouldn't feel some type of way but then again I never dealt with women on a open relationship type status before so i'm not too sure. But just know she let dude hit again if he staying at her crib and don't get caught slipping and wrap it up and be careful :salute:
 
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