Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Kartel13]

i do


well i've mentioned before I have a godson, he's almost 3 years old. I may rail against single moms and all that and would never raise another mans child, but i treat my godson like he is my own. Anyways like 2 years ago his mom got a job, the day shse was suppose to start there was a bus strike and she lived like 2 hours away by bus, the bus strike went on for like 3 months, so for those 3 months i allowed her and my godson to live at my place rent free since i have 6 extra room sand i twas just like ten min away from her work, so for thsoe 3 months I drove her to work every day, drove my godson to daycare picked them both up etc. etc. never got a sent never got heres a 20 for gas, or hers a 20 for groceries nada.

Anyways she finally got her own place 3 months later, but she needed first and last and could only come up with half of it, so like a idiot i lent her half saying i needed the money back next month, o fcourse i never got the money back, she got her new place, i see her buying furniture, a new tv etc. and im like what about the 950 you owe me? . so anyways she thinks she is all that now, im still driving my godson to daycare etc., anyways this january she basically gets fired, for the past 8 months for unemployment she gets 1,200 a month and then 300 for baby bonus, her rent is 1000 a month, so shes left with basically nothing. I go over to see my godson alot and i noticed hes always crying for milk and theres barely any food, so for like the past 6 months i go out of my way buying diapers, these children milk supplements, granola bars, toys etc for my godson, and hell even sometimes groceries.

Anyways she tells me that is depressed and saw a shrink and is on pills, so i took my godson for like a weekend a few weeks ago because i was scared she might hurt him, her ei was running out at the end of the month, so im like screw it give me your resume, its filled with spelling mistakes and written horribly, so i spend like 4 hours on a saturday writing her resume from scratch, writing a cover letter, and then applying for jobs here and there. IN TWO WEEKS i ogt her like 8 interviews, after her having one for the past 8 months. She got a job actually making more than me , thanks to what I did but i didn't even get a thanks, her first paycheck she dropped of my godson asking if i could watch him because of a wedding she has to go, then i find out she went clubbing, then i find out she spent like 200 bucks on a tattoo, so i was livid, and im like did you forget you owed me money? did you forget who got you this job and didnt even get a thanks?


and then she hits me back with its my money im not your girlfriend you cant tell me what to spend it on, and im like your right dont contact me again unless its to due with my godson, and then shes like fine your going to lose a great friend

and im like lose what? did you take me in when no one else did? did you look after my child as a godmother? did you lend me money when no one else did? did you drive me to work becase i had no way to get there? when my child was hungry did you feed him?

so yeah this is my story on why to not do favours, and no im not interested in her, all i care about is my gdoson.

I don't condone hitting women but got damn, that bytch needs an ass beating.

 

[karim]

anyone?

stay away. she is attention whoring. if you are intend on trying to hit, don't reply or communicate with her at all until you are in cali. then send her a short text telling her to meet up.

 

[Astroslik]

stay away. she is attention whoring. if you are intend on trying to hit, don't reply or communicate with her at all until you are in cali. then send her a short text telling her to meet up.

real talk, im throwing her to the bushes if i get any indication of no progress after my final text of lets meetup when i touch back down

should i be like lets meetup at a bar or do something else? im not really trying to wine and dine this bytch especially since we have already made out several times. I know the sexual chemistry is there

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

co sign everything

 

[MikelArteta]

Wrote some more stuff today for my blog

 

[Turbulent]

my question is if a chick flakes how are you supposed to play it without coming off as bitter but also not seeming like a simp?... the worst flakes are the ones that come 2 hours before the supposed plan after a whole day of building up time to chill...obviously if you get mad you come off as bitter but if you dont say anything it may seem like you are a pushover, so what would you say is the best way to play a situation like this?

Number one rule, stop catering to what a broad thinks and stop caring. Who cares if she thinks you are bitter? The broad did something foul, so you got every right to be mad. Instead of yelling and screaming at her, treat her as how she's treating you -- as low value... and put her butt way in the background and get to popping at a new woman who is way more respectful. You see,in this day and age, men keep on catering to these broads and their emotions, letting these broads get away with all kinds of foul behavior because they don't want to lose the cooch. Let me tell you something, self-respect is way more important than some cooch. You can't lose what you don't have, and you can never own her cooch, so stop spending effort to 'keep something' you'll never own. Your respect is way more important. If these broads are cutting out plans 2 hours before it's time to go, it shows what she really thinks... that you are a peon who she doesn't have to honor commitments to. If Drake or TI said be here at 5, do you think she'll be like, "Uhhh I can't make it?" She'll be doing somersaults and backflips to make her butt on down there. So why aren't you deserving of that same kind of respect from a woman that you have any semblence of taking seriously unless you mentally believe you are a low tier dude not worthy of basic respect and cordiality? Broads that be flaking on you at the last moment... in reality, dont' get mad, get better. Get you a better woman that you are doing better things and watch how that old disrespectful woman mysteriously pops up on some, "Why don't you hit me up anymore??" Because you didn't take the opportunity when you had it. A lot of women want this here. You don't get with it, the next woman will. You got to have that attitude man or these females will invite all kinds of nonsense to your life.

kev broke it down. fukk what she thinks. you're rying to portray "not too much of this, not too much of that" you're still trying to be what she wants. fukk all that, feel how you feel, be conscious of how you feel and control the reaction of your feelings with logic. like kev said, she's acting that way, she's low-value so treat her as such, not in a devious masterplan to appear non-chalant in order to win her back, no. rather, you should do it because she simply isn't worth effort or energy anymore (not until she takes the initiative on her own to find a way to make things right again).

ok you read my post but you obviously didn't comprehend it. I don't care if she's messing with other dudes, thats her choice, i know where we stand so that wouldnt' make me feel differently about her. I'm talking about her trying to pass this dude of as just a brother like i'm dumb enough to not see whats really going on. Had she been like "a friend who i've had sex with a time or 2 back in college needs a place to crash", i would have just been like ok cool, that lets me know that we need to just fukk at my house from now on cause i'm not bout to be smashin you wit a dude you smashed sleepin on the couch. I'm strictly talking about that fact that she tried to hide their sexual history by passing him off as a "brother". I don't care if she got a friend stayin wit her, but i think its my right to decide whether or not i wanna be in her crib wit a nicca she's already smashed, and she tried to hide that. Aint nothin hypocritical about it, she gone do what she gone do, all i ask is she keep it 100 wit me like i do wit her. I'm pretty sure she would feel some type of way if i had her up in my crib while a female friend was staying there and i was hiding our sexual history

where are yall gettin this salty business from? Like i said in the first post, she's shown alot of signs that she isn't messin wit anyone else which is why i dont think she is, but if she is she is free to do that, just like im free to do me, reguardless of our emotional connection. I'll take it a step further, I really don't even care if she still wants to let this dude hit, what i'm saying is i don't like deception. Let me choose whether or not i wanna be around some other dude that also hit, because if we gone be there at the same time then naturally theres gonna be some interaction, if he smokes then of course imma offer to pass him the blunt if i'm over there smokin, let me decide whether or not i feel comfortable sharing blunts wit a nicca thats already hit the chick i'm bout to be cuddled up wit, dont have me and this man chillin and shyt while i'm thinkin he's just a friend and he's lookin at me thinkin "you dont even know it"

I feel what you,re saying and i agree. she tried to play you and pull the wool over your eyes. You keep it real with her about her chicks and she knows about them, meanwhile she wanted attention from both of you while being sneaky about it because she didnt want to risk losing your affection. And the funny thing is, i can tell you probably would have hurt a little (slightly) if she would have kept it trill and told you what it was without trying to style on you but just out of respect tell you. the reason it would sting a little is because if she would have done it that way (the right way) instead, you could not have hated on her. she would have left you no choice but to respect it or be a bytch nikka.

 

[kevm3]

When it comes down to, the treatment from a woman you get is predicated on how much you give her those 'feelies'. The problem is that women are hardly raised to ever be accountable and very few were raised being taught any kind of principles. Growing up, you heard 10,000 different variations of 'treat her like a lady,' but do you think women were taught 'treat him like a gentleman'? Men were taught how to cater and treat women like queens, but were women taught to treat men like kings? More than likely, they were taught by their mom and the feminist society at large how bad they had it and how to use their wiles to manipulate men to get ahead. Instead of looking for a decent guy with morals, mom probably taught them, "Ooooh girl, get you a guy with money who will take care of you!"

Let's be real, you even heard it in school. You probably grew up hearing that women are sugar and spice and everything nice, and boys are puppy's dog tails and all bad rhyme... I know I did... as well as constantly hearing how girls are so much mature and grow up faster for that age... Basically you never hear women being held accountable for their actions and you wonder why they act like they do. They've been babied their whole life and spoiled, so they don't have any reasonable idea of how to act. That's why they just flake and act up. Think about how some of those rich men act in the middle east, when they've essentially been spoiled and pampered and have a free pass in society to act how they want. They act like monsters. You can't pamper people and not hold them responsible and expect them to come with decent behavior. that's why, as a man, you have to learn how to hold a woman accountable. Tell her what she did wrong and if she keeps on doing it, cut her off. Our society isn't holding them responsible, so you have to, or else you will get that flat out garbage treatment.

 

[MikelArteta]

Brehs I never knew a women could get me this pissed but I'm legit angry.

 

[Kartel13]

Brehs I never knew a women could get me this pissed but I'm legit angry.

You need to slap the shyt out of that broad. I'd even report her ass to child services. That shyt gets me angry and I don't even know her.

 

[Tres Leches]

Brehs I never knew a women could get me this pissed but I'm legit angry.

tell us why you're mad breh

 

[Odyssey]

http://www.tenmagnet.com/2013/08/what-real-estate-marketers-can-teach-you-about-women/

 

[DaRealness]

http://www.dailystar.co.uk/just-jane/332495/Sudden-end-to-our-love

I wasn’t planning to leave him at all. I went on a mini-break with my friends and suddenly decided on the way back I wanted to be on my own.

I booked into a hotel, rang my mother to explain that I was fine, but needed some space, and sobbed for a week.

Eventually I emerged and asked a pal if I could rent her spare room. I’ve been here ever since.

I know that my partner must be terribly upset, but I have no desire to see or hear from him ever again.

He’s not a bad man, he’s never done anything to hurt or upset me, but I’m through with him.

My family are being very supportive but I can tell that they think I’ve lost the plot.

Am I the most selfish woman in the world?



But people wanna knock us when we don't want to get emotionally attached?

 

[Turbulent]

nah youre right, because I dont want to be saying I love you to any woman whos keeping those kinds of secrets from me and out right try to pull a fast one like that. hell nah. that was real, and all I can say is that if a woman feels like she needed to keep a secret/fact like that from you, then she knows that she doing wrong. what kind of good excuse is there for her to lie and make it look like this dude is all innocent when you already have an open relationship? and after I see that, I just know its going to get worse and worse. it was the deception that kilt it. you lost respect for her, and to keep it real, she disrespected you with that move. that shyt aint 100, and thats the problem. this whole thing is now compromised and Id be looking somewhere else. lying about some guy moving in with her, "with stacks" and is "her brother" but it turns out that she been fukking him "once OR twice", is foul as fukk



shes more than likely open off that kid and didnt want you to know. she wants you to think boys some kind of loser on occassion (wtf) and hes really more like a brother to her. women make up half way stories like that all the time, it just takes a poke and prod here n there to get to what she really feels. or you just have to look at it and see what makes sense and what doesnt.

I feel like if she thinks she had try and decieve you, then theres more to it. and if theres more to it, then later on theres a good chance that theres going to be even more deception given to you. one lie always turns into more lies and it all becomes a joke. really at that point anything goes. shyt gets out of control until you realized you had to trust your gut



girls always keep an extra dude at arms reach and tell you like its harmless, yet KNOWING damn well that he will fukk her as soon as she opens the gates for him. so this "harmless" relationship women try to sell you on obviously aint mutual. its open for a "mistake" to happen at any time. see as soon as the time is right for a woman, shes always has the option to just let it go down. in the meantime she gets favors and time from him. its scandalous and its common today. male friends for women are generally a joke. women use those men for gifts and as safety nets, so she can fall and bounce up in a new york minute. once she has a change of heart she has that duck lined up. I dont trust it

plus imagine if he wouldnt have asked and the other dude knows. So now they're all three hanging out at her place all willy nilly and the other dude is looking at Dreadhead like a true sucker/village-idiot cause he doesn't even know he's "sharing that girl" or whatever. old boy could is thinking "i was at this bytch's place with her new nikka and he didn't even know...". She would have let it go that route eventhough it's not a good look for DreadheadP because she's just selfish like that...

 

[CrossBones]

plus imagine if he wouldnt have asked and the other dude knows. So now they're all three hanging out at her place all willy nilly and the other dude is looking at Dreadhead like a true sucker/village-idiot cause he doesn't even know he's "sharing that girl" or whatever. old boy could is thinking "i was at this bytch's place with her new nikka and he didn't even know...:KRS:". She would have let it go that route eventhough it's not a good look for DreadheadP because she's just selfish like that...

thats the kind of shyt that gets people in trouble. sooner or later that guy is gonna say something to somebody, she might, and their friends get to talking, now everybody knows about some things you dont. thats what everybody likes to do, gossip, and talk shyt.

even if it was quiet as kept, its extra disrespectful and shows that they wanted to keep things on the low and under his nose. fukk all that.

 

[DaRealness]

Not looking for someone right now, but I could have chatted up this chick earlier today who works in a travel agents I popped into today. Ah well.