the problem is the bad single parent environments tend to be much worse than bad two parent household...
Even on the flip side... the best single parent household isn't anywhere near the best two parent household
better to be raised in a toxic environment with two parents...
than an equally toxic environment with one parent....
her argument doesn’t support the the notion that a single parent home is ideal or as good as a good 2 parent household but just that in some cases that a decent single parent household may be healthier than a toxic 2 parent household.
It’s also a matter that you yourself shouldn’t be concerned with—if you value a traditional two parent household with a woman who loves you and is selfless, you can seek such a woman (provided you aren’t already with such a woman) and marry her and provide that environment for your child. Find a woman who values what you value.
While many Brehs are in here saying there are many women like me, I don’t necessarily agree. Sure a lot of people are selfish and put themselves first. But arguably the act of having a child itself is considered selfish by many—children dont ask to be born, we choose to have them because we want them—whether it’s to continue our legacy or for whatever reason we choose to become parents.
That being said we live in a patriarchal society where marriage is still valued and desired by the majority of women. So my stance is not held by the majority of women.
I do agree that single parent households, especially in cases where there is no involvement from the father or a male role model in the child’s life, is detrimental to the development of children. I’ll never argue otherwise. I also do believe that it is optimal for a child to have both parents in the house, provided it is a healthy loving marriage—as that provides a model for the children to follow. And there are certain dynamics that both parents provide when they live together and work together to raise the children that is absolutely beneficial(provided it’s a healthy marriage/living environment). For that reason I do think it’s important even for those who co-parent and aren’t together to work together as best as they can to raise the child and even engage in platonic family outings.
children do need both parents, whether the parents are married, divorced and sharing custody, unmarried and cohabitating or unmarried and sharing custody.
Are y'all upset because she already has a child and you can't call her a cat lady and say the CNA will beat her?
