Parents Keep It 100 In Son's Obituary

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

How can y’all blame the parents in this? Even by the way the letter is written you can tell they tried but the son was hard headed.

as a good parent you do your best for your kids try and give them all the tools to succeed but for some kids nothing is more enticing than the streets. You try and pull them back but they gotta learn on their own. Hopefully they make it thru without disgracing the family.

I’m speaking as one of those kids that made it thru. I look at my past life and just smh.

Again, there are parents who are lazy and incompetent yet try to portray otherwise. I know there’s a lot of oldheads on here who don’t wanna hear this but it’s not like our community has a long track record of competent parenting to be giving benefits of the doubts....

The parents could have been lazy/incompetent. It could have gone the other way too, don’t get me wrong but the point is we don’t know enough to spectjlste

 

[ThaEruditious]

I'm left with the impression that their image is and was always more important than what their son was going through.

I caught that too. A lot of that obit was self-serving as fukk

 

[Amerikan Melanin]

Disagree. Very easy to stay home and play xbox and eat junk food.

That’s lame shyt. I wasn’t built like that. I was outside, I wanted to be around bytches clubs and money. I stopped that video game shyt soon as I graduated high school. Then we hit the road and was visiting other hoods.

People are born different. Some are introvert some are extroverts.

I also didn’t have a clear goal in life at the time. I wasted a lot of years and money. I’m thankful I made it thru and was able to change into a better man.

my family even my extended family is on some huxtable shyt and I ventured out. My older brother got caught up and lost everything.

YOU CANT blame parents if they give the kids all the tools and the kids fumble the ball.

 

[Black Hans]

Robert Wells, III was born in St. Bernard Parish, October 9, 1997 to Robert Wells, Jr. and Deborah Wells. He spent the years after hurricane Katrina in the St. Charles Parish area until his murder on Sunday, February 16, 2020. As loving parents, we were not prepared for the untimely, tragic death of our young son He was a wonderful, funny, intelligent, talented and compassionate young man until the false desires of fast money and instant gratification lured him away from the morals and ethics instilled in him from a young age. Tough Love did not deter his mindset to stay involved in the streets. We always hoped that one day his parents' Love and commitment to him would prevail and he would abandon that life. It did not. His life ended almost instantly at 22 years old, alone in a car under a barrage of gunfire. All the fast money, cars and "things" that seemingly were of importance to him, meant nothing at his crossing. We hope and pray that Robert never bestowed this kind of senseless violence upon anyone else's child, and if this obituary can offer the opportunity for another young person to realize the streets offer nothing but heartache, pain, and ultimately death, Robert's life will not have been in vain. His pained soul is now set free from all worldly desires. Dear God, please take our son, the most precious gift you could bestow upon us at his birth, back once again as your Heavenly son. Lord, keep him in your loving arms for eternity and, forgive us. Robert was predeceased by his grandparents Robert and Bertha Wells, Sr. and George H. Dupard, Sr., Ingeborg Thurston (Richard). He leaves behind a brother, Antonio, girlfriend Hailey, and many loving aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews and cousins. There will be no service for Robert. Instead we kindly ask you to make a small donation in his name to any at-risk youth programs. Until we meet again Son, you'll forever be in our hearts.

Obituary: Parents Bid Farewell to Son Who Chose the Wrong Path

Nothing but respect for this. Especially the bolded.

Don't let demonic nikkaz try to persuade you all that this is wrong. This is THEIR son and they can speak on him how they want. This isn't the "pound cake" speech or any other condescending like that. They kept it real and hoped that his death can lead others to repentance. I do too.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Came in here to say this.

If the enviroment is having that much of an effect on him, change the enviroment.

You can’t gangbang when there is nothing but cows around.

You can take the breh out the hood, but you cant take the hood out the breh..

Too many times people move out the hood and bring the hood with them..

You must tell dusty nikkas to bounce when you leave the hood.

Stay in that shyt if you cant leave it behind..

 

[Tom Foolery]

That’s lame shyt. I wasn’t built like that. I was outside, I wanted to be around bytches clubs and money. I stopped that video game shyt soon as I graduated high school. Then we hit the road and was visiting other hoods.

People are born different. Some are introvert some are extroverts.

I also didn’t have a clear goal in life at the time. I wasted a lot of years and money. I’m thankful I made it thru and was able to change into a better man.

my family even my extended family is on some huxtable shyt and I ventured out. My older brother got caught up and lost everything.

YOU CANT blame parents if they give the kids all the tools and the kids fumble the ball.

I try to explain that it's mental, he can't help what he's doing. But my father just couldn't grasp what I was saying.

Extra love won't fix anything. Their head is wired differently and you need better approaches.

 

[Booker T Garvey]

Nothing but respect for this. Especially the bolded.

Don't let demonic nikkaz try to persuade you all that this is wrong. This is THEIR son and they can speak on him how they want. This isn't the "pound cake" speech or any other condescending like that. They kept it real and hoped that his death can lead others to repentance. I do too.

There's also nothing wrong with letting it be known to the world that you didn't condone nor promote the lifestyle that led to his death

More people need to do this if this is how they truly feel

 

[richaveli83]

I can't knock it. We need more preachers to start telling the truth at these funerals as well.

 

[invalid]

You can take the breh out the hood, but you cant take the hood out the breh..

Too many times people move out the hood and bring the hood with them..

You must tell dusty nikkas to bounce when you leave the hood.

Stay in that shyt if you cant leave it behind..

That is true.

But I’ve also seen rough dudes leave K-Town and move to DeKalb or Plainfield and do a complete 180.

Guess it just depends on the person.

 

[Foxtrot]

Nah I can’t respect that.

I had a cousin involved in street shyt and everybody in the family knew it. One day he got shot up and left for dead after leaving the barbershop. Luckily someone called the paramedics and he ended up surviving. But if he died and my aunt and uncle said some shyt like this in their obituary, everybody in the family would give them the

This.

In my life nobody could get away with that

I remember typing up one for my uncle when he passed so I had a few obits to go line for line because he really didn’t do shyt in life. To beautify his life was difficult but that’s how it’s done

I understand it but it’s tacky to ask to donate money to even charity

This.

"Our 22nd year old child just died, I know what we should do, grandstand in the newspaper to let everyone know how great we were as parents and he was just a bad seed, ain't shyt nikka"

This.

Not cool. Even if that's how they felt they should've kept that to themselves.

And this.

 

[Black Steph Curry]

This is the most naive shyt I have seen today, and it usually comes from people with no children. For some reason people think that kids that grow into adults are merely robots who act out only what their parents program them to do. And as long as the parent carefully and properly programs the child, said child will execute the correct actions and parameters 100% of the time in adulthood post age 16.

The ONLY people who can truly think this are the inexperienced. Individuals have agency, and they can make decisions for themselves outside of their upbringing. And if you are still green enough to think otherwise, go ask your local pimp about how many daughters of pastors he has turned out.

Upbringing only helps the odds. It doesn't guarantee a result. You have no fukking idea what his upbringing was like. And the only thing that obituary tells you about these people is that they don't like to like or sugarcoat things under any circumstances; even the circumstances where it hurts the most.

Thats all...

If you think being a pastor automatically = good parent then that shows your ignorance right there.

This was grandstanding and nothing more. If dude turned out to be a success story they wouldn't be talking about personal responsibility and he made his own choices. They would be taking all tha credit in tha world for raising him right. That shyt goes both ways.

 

[MoneyTron]

I respect it. Hopefully someone got the message.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Respect it and understand. Took me being a parent to understand that you can do everything to set your kids right, but ultimately though they are their own person, and once they leave the house as adults if they repeatedly stray from the path you put them on, what can you do? My son is truly his own person, I learn that more and more, I can guide and instill values into him, and put in him in favorable situations, and I can support him in every area where he needs it, but he is going to make his own decisions in the end.

I saw it within my fam. My brother was bad asf early on, my parents did everything they could. He constantly was brought up home by police, suspended and kicked out of school. Sent him to the military and he was kicked out/discharged. From fighting teachers to being a class clown, disrespectful as fukk, a womanizer, and a narcissist. He wasn’t a follower, actually a leader who was extremely popular, everyone knew his name everywhere we went. He had an incredibly high IQ, and was a top athlete all his life, but fukked up repeatedly, no matter how much my parents cleaned it up and set him straight. He could have been great but In the end he has 5 kids, 3 baby mamas, a record, and is deadbeat.

My parents did their best with me, my dad was cock blocking like a mf, they tried every punishment, every tutor, everything and I can admit I was hard headed and rebellious. In the end I did eventually get it together and now I’m doing very well, but I can’t blame my parents for my decision to stray off path, inevitably becoming a single mom.

On the other end are my two younger sisters. One went to Harvard for undergrad, she was an attorney at Skadden in Manhattan. My other sister went to Northwestern. Both are successful and didn’t stray off the path my parents set. Some kids, no matter what you do, will choose fukked up paths. If you’ve done everything you could as a GOOD parent, it does no good to blame yourself and internalize their shortcomings.

The reality is that they probably really did what they could for their son, but he chose the streets. Hard to hate on them admitting that his death is the result of his choices and not what they instilled in him.

 

[Wildhundreds]

That is true.

But I’ve also seen rough dudes leave K-Town and move to DeKalb or Plainfield and do a complete 180.

Guess it just depends on the person.

No doubt.. there are no absolutes in life, only odds..

But the media tend to focus more on the bad outcomes vs positive..

Always keep that in mind..

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

If you think being a pastor automatically = good parent then that shows your ignorance right there.

This was grandstanding and nothing more. If dude turned out to be a success story they wouldn't be talking about personal responsibility and he made his own choices. They would be taking all tha credit in tha world for raising him right. That shyt goes both ways.

They’re gonna avoid this point like the plague