Parents Keep It 100 In Son's Obituary

[LauderdaleBoss]

What does love have to do with honesty bruh?

Because if you truly love someone, you'll use a more tactful approach when speaking about them, especially if their dead. If this was written about your brother or any relative in your family that was a fukk up and made bad choices, would you be cool with that?

Besides, we don't know if their being honest or not because nobody knows his parents. We just supposed to believe someone is a good parent now just because they say so. What the fukk. Where's the critical thinking in that. This the internet, where nikkas try to make themselves look good all the time.

I would be embarrassed to be in that family if that obituary came out about one of the relatives. You can't throw that much dirt on someone, without getting a lil dirt on yourself.

Just saying.

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

So they raised a fukk up? Should have been better parents

Exactly, but instead they bragging about it.

 

[philmonroe]

I respect their choice, i don’t respect their execution, it’s no need to say all that to the public, you were better off saying nothing at all.

Nah you one of those cats that like being lied to just to save face. Ole say it to me in private but still do what you want ass dude.

 

[Booker T Garvey]

How do you have a two parent household and still live in the ghetto?

My parents refused to live on the “white” side of town in the 80’s

We lived in one of the biggest houses in our neighborhood too, however this was a decision they regretted over time

 

[DropTopDoc]

Nah you one of those cats that like being lied to just to save face. Ole say it to me in private but still do what you want ass dude.

and i see you are a man of assumptions

i believe in keeping family matters between family, you should never try to embarrass a family member publicly or go against family in public, that’s it, at no point did i say do what you want, that’s a hell of a conclusion to draw from me saying the parents prove nothing by airing their kid out, no one is saying make it seem like he helped old ladies across the street. And again no one is jumping in the game like “what’s the worst that can happen someone tells me no i can’t do that”

 

[philmonroe]

people can't hold your hand forever

and the stuff you listed doesn't sound like mental health issues, they sound like choices made

he can't help what he's doing?
man,please !

Yeah dudes need to stop all the coddling.

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

Nicca had TWO LOVING PARENTS and still ran them streets. A lotta dudes I grew up with lived in single parent homes. But when I learned how many niccas had 2 loving, working parents I realized a lotta dudes are ungrateful as hell

How do you know they were LOVING?

Blaming the parents is strong in here

a lot of entitled bratty children out here don't like the concept of personal responsibility.

If the parents were shytty they should be blamed. We really don’t know what happened here. Thread is filled with oldheads with a clear bias

My parents refused to live on the “white” side of town in the 80’s

We lived in one of the biggest houses in our neighborhood too, however this was a decision they regretted over time

I don’t blame them. Especially in the 80s.

STOP IT

THERES TOO MANY KIDS WHO
WERE RAISED IN GOOD ENVIROMENTS
WHO DECIDED TO GET ON SOME STREET shyt
THAT WAS NEVER APART OF THEIR UPBRINGING.

THE COLI IS FULL OF TOO MANY
GROWN ASS MEN WHO DONT WANT ACCOUNTABILITY FOR NOTHING.





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Fair enough just keep this same energy in threads about crime

 

[philmonroe]

and i see you are a man of assumptions

i believe in keeping family matters between family, you should never try to embarrass a family member publicly or go against family in public, that’s it, at no point did i say do what you want, that’s a hell of a conclusion to draw from me saying the parents prove nothing by airing their kid out, no one is saying make it seem like he helped old ladies across the street. And again no one is jumping in the game like “what’s the worst that can happen someone tells me no i can’t do that”

Nah I’m a man of truth but if you saying I’m into assumptions that are really the truth makes you feel better so be it. I’ve ran into your types many times and y’all all the same.

nikka you act like this family business is out of the public eye stop it nikka. Family business is not this. This is shyt anybody with eyes could see not some shyt that people wouldn’t know unless you’re actually family. You coddleing dudes need to stop it. Family business should be kept quiet but a known wild dude isn’t family business smh

 

[philmonroe]

Also if this what y’all believe I hope to never see another dap fishing “so and so father/parents failed them” post because y’all love those

Unless those people are the same and you have proof of that you’re posting emotional hoe babble. There are many different people on here so again unless you have proof ofndouble talking you’re just spitting hoe babble.

 

[DropTopDoc]

Nah I’m a man of truth but if you saying I’m into assumptions that are really the truth makes you feel better so be it. I’ve ran into your types many times and y’all all the same.

nikka you act like this family business is out of the public eye stop it nikka. Family business is not this. This is shyt anybody with eyes could see not some shyt that people wouldn’t know unless you’re actually family. You coddleing dudes need to stop it. Family business should be kept quiet but a known wild dude isn’t family business smh

you’ve ran into my types.....nikka you don’t know me, and to assume you know me based off an opinion on a topic that we both disagree on is not a basis for saying you know me or my type, let’s just agree to disagree and keep it moving

 

[philmonroe]

It is amused me that so many of the talking points in this thread echo white people's talking points on black communities.

There are good kids, raised in good environments, who turn out to be rotten. That isn't up for dispute.

What I'm questioning is whether the young brother falls into that category. My feeling is that the answer is no. A wayward youth is one red flag for poor parenting. The next red flag is the grandstanding as it shows they're more concerned about their image. You can throw in not having a service for good measures.

The problem that we face as black men is not being judged as individuals. Every time an allegation is thrown at us, people want to believe the story so that they can pin their pent up frustrations on a source.

The coli bullshyt white talking points hoe babble. nikka if a white person said water is wet would you disagree because they’re white? Foh with that lazy shyt. If people saying something you agree with it doesn’t matter what they are because guess what agreeing with one thing doesn’t equate to agreeing with that person on everything smfh. The logic people use is sooo silly at times.

 

[TheNig]

Because if you truly love someone, you'll use a more tactful approach when speaking about them, especially if their dead. If this was written about your brother or any relative in your family that was a fukk up and made bad choices, would you be cool with that?

Besides, we don't know if their being honest or not because nobody knows his parents. We just supposed to believe someone is a good parent now just because they say so. What the fukk. Where's the critical thinking in that. This the internet, where nikkas try to make themselves look good all the time.

I would be embarrassed to be in that family if that obituary came out about one of the relatives. You can't throw that much dirt on someone, without getting a lil dirt on yourself.

Just saying.

I'm not saying you're wrong but for them to be this open about their son could only mean that it was no secret that he was into that life. And it could go either way as far as family goes. Some may think that they did everything they could to keep him out of that life. Others might think that they didn't try hard enough. The truth is somewhere in there.

All I'm saying is I can't really be mad at the parents for "exposing" something that clearly everyone knew.

 

[philmonroe]

you’ve ran into my types.....nikka you don’t know me, and to assume you know me based off an opinion on a topic that we both disagree on is not a basis for saying you know me or my type, let’s just agree to disagree and keep it moving

I don’t know you but on this issue I do. Spare me all the you’re sooooo different talk. Like I said I know your type regarding this issue but that doesn’t mean I know everything about you. I didn’t think I had to break that down but when folks get emo they fail to get simple stuff like that. If you just wanted to keep it moving you could’ve just not responded back sir but you felt compelled to for some strange reason. I know we disagree and always agree to disagree but I just wanted to comment on your post. If you responded or not it was cool with me.

 

[philmonroe]

nah, they kept this 100. and they aint trash him either

You know to some people if you’re not kissing their ass you’re trashing them smdh

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

I'm not saying you're wrong but for them to be this open about their son could only mean that it was no secret that he was into that life. And it could go either way as far as family goes. Some may think that they did everything they could to keep him out of that life. Others might think that they didn't try hard enough. The truth is somewhere in there.

All I'm saying is I can't really be mad at the parents for "exposing" something that clearly everyone knew.

You didn't answer my question tho. Would you want this written about your brother, nephew, or any fukk up in your family?

That answer will let me know how you really evaluated that obituary.