Parents Keep It 100 In Son's Obituary

[Cynical Thoughts]

Parents vs strangers breh.... totaly different worlds apart. I respect a parents grief and opinion a billion fold over a stranger.

Not saying parents are always right... mine aint. But a newspaper obit is a totally different league than a stranger talking internet shyt for clout

I don’t quite get what you mean.

I’m saying keep the same energy. If parents can speak on their son who had a negative impact. Why can’t a stranger speak on someone honestly who lives and promoted negative images ? By speak on, I mean simply stating the obvious. Not even being malicious.

 

[Black Steph Curry]

Then that would make them hypocrites, but we don't know. The point flew over your head nikka. You don't know shyt about these people nor their son. And nothing you said even challenges the facts I laid out

You should stop talking like you do know then. All that bullshyt about they're not sugarcoating anything, they're telling like it is. All they're doing is speaking from their perspective. Which is inherently flawed because they're human.

They honestly may not even be aware of tha ways they've failed to keep their son on tha right path and feel earnest in their belief that they did good in raising him. They may feel a nagging guilt from a subconscious belief that they didn't do what needed to be done and publishing this obituary is their way of easing that guilt (which i feel is more likely). It ultimately doesn't matter why they chose to make that kind of obituary. Tha point is spinning tha narrative as a cut and dry "he was raised in a good household but was a knucklehead that wanted to do bad and paid tha price for it, don't be like him" type of ordeal is a lazy and dismissive way of looking at things and is indicative of someone who is complacent with tha way things are. Looking to justify things instead of questioning why things are. That is why some people in here have a problem with what his parents wrote and are taking their claim of raising that boy right into question. Life is more complex than that.

Dude wasn't a demon, he was human like everybody else. Barring mental illness he had opportunity to do good with his life like anybody else, given tha appropriate set of conditions. Same way everybody on this earth has tha capacity to be a fukknikka if they were raised in an environment and around influences apt to bring that bullshyt out of them. Which means something was missing or negatively influencing his life that he needed to be kept on a good path. Something his parents may or may not have been able to provide or protect him from. But it seems as if tha coli has a problem with these parents being held to any kind of responsibility for tha way their son turned out because tha coli is easily impressed by words. It's okay to admit they failed in raising their son tha same way it's okay to say dude failed himself for trying to be a street nikka. No one is infallible.

 

[Gold]

My brother died over street shyt. In and out of jail. We had a funeral and it destroyed our family for years. The older I get however the more frustrated I get with him because he chose that path. He chose to live a fukked up life that left his mom crying and his son without a dad. I wouldn’t have not had a funeral but I can see why the parents could be upset.

My brother was the exact same way. He turned it around but if he had died before he could.... i would feel the same.

People in here havent experienced it. My oldest brother was destroying our family. Invovled with a gang, arrested, almost deported, always fukking around. Doing nothing with his life.

If he died before fixing that... i promise my parents would have felt the same as these parents. And none of it would have been grand standing.


Yall just be happy youve never had to experience family issues like this up close.

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

Son had to be some sort of next level street demon for the rest of his family to to be cool with what his parents wrote

I for one would not want my folks to write that about my siblings cuz it's still a partial reflection of me. They would have do some extreme fukked up shyt like burning down a house full of kids, pistol whipping a relative, raping someone, owing large debts to family and friends, etc....for me to even be like fukk that nikka.

Coli different tho so

 

[Gold]

I don’t quite get what you mean.

I’m saying keep the same energy. If parents can speak on their son who had a negative impact. Why can’t a stranger speak on someone honestly who lives and promoted negative images ? By speak on, I mean simply stating the obvious. Not even being malicious.

What?

If parents can why cant strangers? U srs?

Anyone can speak on it, but what do u think holds more weight and stands up to scrutiny more?

 

[MoveForward]

All the fast money, cars and "things" that seemingly were of importance to him, meant nothing at his crossing. We hope and pray that Robert never bestowed this kind of senseless violence upon anyone else's child, and if this obituary can offer the opportunity for another young person to realize the streets offer nothing but heartache, pain, and ultimately death, Robert's life will not have been in vain. His pained soul is now set free from all worldly desires

 

[Hawaiian Punch]

And on the pedestal these words appear:
'My name is Ozymandias, king of kings:
Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair!'
Nothing beside remains. Round the decay
Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.



Even the pharaohs tried to bring their gold to the afterlife. Never seemed to work out.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

What?

If parents can why cant strangers? U srs?

Anyone can speak on it, but what do u think holds more weight and stands up to scrutiny more?

I wasn’t really giving my opinion but more so speaking on the hypocrisy.

you have it backwards. The parents are well within their right todo what they want. Im asking why aren’t you upset with the parents in this junction?

But if I simply point out he rapped and promoted this life so in essence he got what he deserved instead of saying RIP, I’m the bad guy?

Respect the dead or don’t. Pick one.

 

[88m3]

1997

 

[Atsym Sknyfs]

to those blaming the parents .. they made their peace. they said what they had to say, apologized to families he may have hurt..

and they acknowledge their own failure as a parent. what more do y'all want.
"Dear God, please take our son, the most precious gift you could bestow upon us at his birth, back once again as your Heavenly son. Lord, keep him in your loving arms for eternity and, forgive us.

what the hell y'all want he was a straight A student at 5 . played ball at 7 .. did not wrong. I dont know why he was in that car. dont know what he was doing. it has to be mistaken identity. we a proud family. we raised our son the right way. hope his killers rot in hell.

 

[FTBS]

Everytime I am sitting in a service for a person who I know wasn't shyt and I am hearing how great they were I am like . Death doesn't change who you were. If you were a selfish, destructive, abusive etc. ass what is the point of acting like you weren't just because you died...especially if those negative qualities led directly to your death?

There there's this

I don't respect that.

Things like that stand out as red flags to me. When a kid is messed up, the first thing I will do is look at the parents so it doesn't sit right when their port of call is to demonstrate that they did their job when dealing with the demise of their son.

I'm left with the impression that their image is and was always more important than what their son was going through.

Although I rock with the idea of keeping it 100, I did get a little bit of this too. The part about going against what his parents taught him and basically putting everything on him like they didn't raise his ass. It did seem like they were trying to distance themselves from any culpability. And as parents what purpose does it realy serve to go in on him like that? I am all for not acting like he was some saint and even not doing the service but to basically turn his obit into "Hey we were good parents. We don't know what we did to deserve such a shytty kid. May the Lord bless him though." was a bit much. I mean it's one thing if it's peers or kids or pretty much anyone that didn't raise the person doing this. But you are right, this doesn't sound right coming from parents.

 

[Atsym Sknyfs]

So let's do a poll ..

how many of us are on our parents path.
when we went out and smoked weed its our parents fault even though they dont smoke. 'Us being baby fathers and mothers is our parents fault although they been married 30 years.

kane and Able was adam and Eve's fault?

 

[FukyourFort]

You should stop talking like you do know then. All that bullshyt about they're not sugarcoating anything, they're telling like it is. All they're doing is speaking from their perspective. Which is inherently flawed because they're human.

They honestly may not even be aware of tha ways they've failed to keep their son on tha right path and feel earnest in their belief that they did good in raising him. They may feel a nagging guilt from a subconscious belief that they didn't do what needed to be done and publishing this obituary is their way of easing that guilt (which i feel is more likely). It ultimately doesn't matter why they chose to make that kind of obituary. Tha point is spinning tha narrative as a cut and dry "he was raised in a good household but was a knucklehead that wanted to do bad and paid tha price for it, don't be like him" type of ordeal is a lazy and dismissive way of looking at things and is indicative of someone who is complacent with tha way things are. Looking to justify things instead of questioning why things are. That is why some people in here have a problem with what his parents wrote and are taking their claim of raising that boy right into question. Life is more complex than that.

Dude wasn't a demon, he was human like everybody else. Barring mental illness he had opportunity to do good with his life like anybody else, given tha appropriate set of conditions. Same way everybody on this earth has tha capacity to be a fukknikka if they were raised in an environment and around influences apt to bring that bullshyt out of them. Which means something was missing or negatively influencing his life that he needed to be kept on a good path. Something his parents may or may not have been able to provide or protect him from. But it seems as if tha coli has a problem with these parents being held to any kind of responsibility for tha way their son turned out because tha coli is easily impressed by words. It's okay to admit they failed in raising their son tha same way it's okay to say dude failed himself for trying to be a street nikka. No one is infallible.

How the fuk do you know?

 

[Art Barr]

there is a dialectic here.

that i can't vouch for.

yet i understand.
simply because those were the facts they had.
as they did not know anything else about their son.
which is a redflag.
yet if someone never allows.
or creates a forum for understanding.

plus that is all you know.

you may have to face this reality.


yet i am not sure.
you should express this reality publically.
regardless of the facts.


art barr



open the forum for understanding.
continue to leave open the door for the dialogue.
yet if someone will never appease that forum.
to reach a dialogue and later understanding.
this is the type of level of knowing.
that you will be left with.
the vague unknown....
which at that point...i am not sure in the case of this situation is the right thing to do.


although i understand.

 

[Art Barr]

So let's do a poll ..

how many of us are on our parents path.
when we went out and smoked weed its our parents fault even though they dont smoke. 'Us being baby fathers and mothers is our parents fault although they been married 30 years.

kane and Able was adam and Eve's fault?

eve went with and was fooled by the devil taking the imagery of god's wisest creature the snake.
that is all we know.

as the devil is a thief and a liar.
not to mention in the case of kane.
the greatest trick the devil pulled.
was making it as if the devil never existed.


art barr