If your child was a girl, I think it would be difficult for you to get custody of her.We only have one together. With my son me and his mother share custody. Ive been making copies of all the school work and shyt parents are supposed to sign off on and Im the only one who has. Also been emailing back n forth with her teacher all year . I got all my ducks in a row. I wouldn't mind sharing custody so neither one of us has to pay child support but Im afraid she wont be a good mother again till she ends her affair
You still have to pay child support even if you have joint custody. If your son is school aged, he's going to have to stay at one place during the week so he can go to school everyday. The one who he doesn't stay with for school will have to pay child support.
& just because you have seperate accounts, doesn't mean that you two don't have to split the money.
You should ask your lawyer these questions.
Have you spoken to a lawyer yet?