i'm more internal focused- i manipulate my environment to make the best of things
personally i don't wait around taking cues from other people
story #1
my siblings would sleep or blow it off..
but i can remember 8, 9, 10 years old being the first up every morning to catch the early bus
to make sure i had a seat for the breakfast program
i didn't know the importance of nutrition in developing children
but i found myself (and saw kids do it) falling asleep at 10am
even if my stomach wasn't growling,, i was like "that's not normal"
so i took action
story #2
years later.. i was on full scholarship at an out-of-state university
and my new school actually made me take THEIR state's GED exam
because my jr high + h.s were viewed as shaky (failing test scores)
so even if you "earned" the diploma, no one else considered it legit
i could have felt insulted or demotivated- that they "didn't believe in me"
instead, i took it as a warning- and did all those extra free "how to study" "time management" "be organized" classes my university offered
"oh, so that's how you take notes during a lecture"
point being- i took action
story #3 (last one)
for all her other faults, my mother was a reader --
nothing highbrow or fancy but she always had reading material nearby and would use it for gap time
and my father had a notebook system-
he'd make a note to himself anytime he heard or came across something he didn't know (and figure it out later)
no one ever suggested emulating those habits was a good idea
all of my siblings had the same exposure
yet i was the only one who took action
and continue both of these habits to the present day
if i think about it, being internally focused is usually what gets me favored status from other people (the point of the article in post #1)
they can plainly see i'm doing what i can for myself
..so when they put in effort on my behalf
people are assuming it won't go to waste
even altruistic people want to feel their efforts mattered