Men abandon their own children, and women are to blame.
Men contribute next to nothing in the raising of their own children, and again, women are to blame.
Men undermine black love, black families and the respect people have for blacks, and again, women are to blame.
This bro-code that has so many of you excusing the destructive behaviors of bros, and deflecting blame on to the backs of women - who are already bearing the double-load of irresponsible, neglectful, absentee co-parents - is counter productive.
The excuses and deflection do nothing but block a solution.
Instead of telling black women to be wizards, capable of prophesying the actions of others and the future, and instead of expecting black women to be heros who do everything, for everybody, all on their own (including not needing or requesting financial support from absentee co parents), simply tell black men to be fathers.
Tell black men to value the families they create for a change. Tell black men to behave like adult males and take care of responsibilities for a change.