My kid is bytchy and moody like her mother...what can I do as a dad?
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Mrhateeverything
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Crayola Coyote
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get a new kid…but real talk.. you are the dad you are suppose to lead her in the direction that will not mess her up in the future.
This. Don't expect to influence any kid that you don't put the time in to raise.
If you do put in the time, the best thing is to just be positive and be an example of enjoying life. Kids don't take well to constantly being corrected, if you just berate her for her behavior then she'll rebel by doing the opposite. But if you find the best in situations and genuinely have a good time, if you find ways to turn subpar situations into better ones, then over time she'll figure out on her own that living life that way is better than being a downer all the time and she'll shift.
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@Dog Based Gremlin
At the end of the day, bro, do you want to listen to us or do you want to take this matter to professionals? How many hours of reading on child rearing do you think anyone on here has averaged? It's probably less than 10 minutes, if even that, there are people that literally dedicate their lives to these matters. I would say get a professional opinion on the matter.
No offense, but it's a bit insane to think anyone's opinion here should hold any weight on the matter, insane. lol And people thinking therapy is overkill, who the fukk are they to come to that conclusion? Think about it, insane. Personally, I think your head is in the right place to pursue that avenue, just look into various related professional settings for these issues, good luck.
At the end of the day, bro, do you want to listen to us or do you want to take this matter to professionals? How many hours of reading on child rearing do you think anyone on here has averaged? It's probably less than 10 minutes, if even that, there are people that literally dedicate their lives to these matters. I would say get a professional opinion on the matter.
No offense, but it's a bit insane to think anyone's opinion here should hold any weight on the matter, insane. lol And people thinking therapy is overkill, who the fukk are they to come to that conclusion? Think about it, insane. Personally, I think your head is in the right place to pursue that avenue, just look into various related professional settings for these issues, good luck.
OP..
You have to be patient! Your kid is a kid, so she will mature as time goes on.
Also, you may wanna see if you and your ex can be on better terms. Your attitude towards her may rub off in your kid or like you said, if your ex is on some weird shyt, then that could also affect your child.
If your child get out of pocket, then as a parent, you can check her. Just explain why her actions isn't acceptable and let her know that discipline may come about, if necessary.
Other than that, be patient and go from there..
You have to be patient! Your kid is a kid, so she will mature as time goes on.
Also, you may wanna see if you and your ex can be on better terms. Your attitude towards her may rub off in your kid or like you said, if your ex is on some weird shyt, then that could also affect your child.
If your child get out of pocket, then as a parent, you can check her. Just explain why her actions isn't acceptable and let her know that discipline may come about, if necessary.
Other than that, be patient and go from there..
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Dog Based Gremlin
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Everytime I reprimand her, my ex undermines my parenting then we end up arguing.
It's toxic.
She never lets me discipline my child much
You may need to have that heart to heart talk with your ex. You are a co-parent. Let her know that you have just as much right to discipline your child as her. Now, I didn't mention how to discipline your child. But, any child under your roof HAVE to abide by your rules!
So, you definitely have a right to ground your child or take away things and so forth. It's no different when your ex disciplines y'all daughter. Different toilet, but same shyt! *shrugs*
Point is..
Until your child becomes a legal adult, then you and your ex need to figure out how to raise your child as co-parents. Y'all need to cone to a mutual agreement on how to raise your child. It have to be done! There is no such thing as one parent having more rights or supreme rights over the other. This is for the best interest of your child.
Dog Based Gremlin
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U wouldn't believe me but my ex is a terrible disciplinary. My daughter runs their house
She is Hella spoiled and rude to her mom so when I try to tell her about it, my bytch ass ex takes up for all the ugly. It's a vicious cycle
Think of them as pitiful as Mama June and Honey Boo Boo
That's why you gotta do it! You are the father! You have to teach your child right from wrong. If you don't, then she will get disciplined by them folks(you known what I mean..).
Dog Based Gremlin
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Its difficult because she doesn't really listen
People tell me to let life hit them both in the ass and find a new situation similar to what Bobby Brown did
I hear ya man..
I don't wanna get too deep into your situation because I don't know you nor your child and co-parenting situation. Just do what you feel is best! Maybe your folks can provide advice or maybe your ex folks? Someone you trust could help, but you definitely need to put your foot down and let your ex know that you wanna make sure the child is properly home trained.
Speaking Womanese
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Take her to fun places and be the authoritarian the best way you can with the situation at hand.
Not having the mother share the same values as yourself means you’re going to have to reinforce respect every time you see your daughter so she knows not to play with you.
Not having the mother share the same values as yourself means you’re going to have to reinforce respect every time you see your daughter so she knows not to play with you.
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Put her in a martial art