My kid is bytchy and moody like her mother...what can I do as a dad?

[SadimirPutin]

Got to make the effort to connect...

It may be hard..tiresome...fustrating....even thankless...

But this is your kid....and what is the alternative?

This could be a phase.....it could be a symptom of a deeper problem......

Go for walks with your daughter......even if she sulks and says nothing on them......still go....

Your presence and persistence says things that you might have trouble saying verbally

 

[Taadow]

So let me see if I got it - a child..is behaving…just like…one of their parents?

Is that right?




This is what children do - they are reflections of their parents, for better or worse.





SIDEBAR: BTW, for anybody who may read this at any point -
this is why if you’re (let’s say) “in a relationship” with someone and things aren’t really progressing
the way you would like, it’s not a great idea to make children with them. They’re going to remind you
of the other person. Blessings.

 

[Easy-E]

Genetics and she lives with her. It might be a wrap, breh.

Hate to say it

But, i agree

And you're BM seems like a shytty co-parent

 

[The ADD]

Scrap it and get a new one

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Got to make the effort to connect...

It may be hard..tiresome...fustrating....even thankless...

But this is your kid....and what is the alternative?

This could be a phase.....it could be a symptom of a deeper problem......

Go for walks with your daughter......even if she sulks and says nothing on them......still go....

Your presence and persistence says things that you might have trouble saying verbally

I like how you added that

It really is tiresome and depressing because I really have an out to just leave this situation. Im not physically in the house and I could just walk away from it all but my mind won't let me at night. I feel like I always left something behind that I have to comeback and save

 

[tater]

Well we definitely used to argue quite a bit (me and my ex) but it's stopped for like 2 years now since covid had us separate by force. Also, yes her behavior is pretty immature and bad at home. she walks over her mom everyday. My kid is Ike and my ex is Tina and my ex is enabling the abuse for sure.

My kid just likes to eat and sit at home lol just to be blunt. Definitely a couch potato kid with attitude.

Her mom is similar. She works and basically sits at home except to occasionally visit a relative or go grocery shopping

I used to be like that till I startedt tryin to take my health more serious and alittle more active outdoors for physical and mental health

Well, I would enroll her in some activities. Nip that lazy couch potato shyt in the bud asap. Maybe she'll enjoy it, maybe she won't. But she wouldn't be sitting around on the couch all the time with me.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Got to make the effort to connect...

It may be hard..tiresome...fustrating....even thankless...

But this is your kid....and what is the alternative?

This could be a phase.....it could be a symptom of a deeper problem......

Go for walks with your daughter......even if she sulks and says nothing on them......still go....

Your presence and persistence says things that you might have trouble saying verbally

When I do have her, she sneaks off away to text her mom little emojis and shyt like she tryin to keep tabs on her when she away from her when my ex might simply simply at home or grocery shopping. It's like she feels she has to be watchdog

She definitely picked up some attachment issues being stuck with her mom for covid.

 

[cheek100]

11

Par for the coarse. Hang in there she’s gonna turn on her mom in about 2-3 years and that’s your time to shine.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Par for the coarse. Hang in there she’s gonna turn on her mom in about 2-3 years and that’s your time to shine.

What u mean by turn on her mom?

Sorry if if should know

Go deeper

For the record, she already acts out alot with my ex. They bicker like an old bitter couple a few times a week

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

1) most teens are angsty and emotional in general. there's a concept called "teenage angst" for a reason so to blame it on the other sounds typical ex-spouse animosity that your child doesn't benefit from.
2) if you don't like how the mother is raising her, get custody. see if anything changes that way

 

[TRUEST]

OP, try this. Next time u take her out, just do fun things. Don’t ask her about her mom. Take her to her favorite place to eat. Buy her things. When u drop her off tell her u love her.

Sounds very simplistic but it seems she has attributed unhappiness to u, based on her mom bad mouthing u. So as a girl,her guard is up and she just wants the experience of hanging out with u over as quickly as possible.

When u take her out and u see she gets happy or smiles because of something u did, say to her, see, am not as bad as they say. You’re my baby girl. I’ll do anything for ur well being.

Do this every time u hang with her. And next thing u know she’ll be anticipating your visits.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

sports

 

[OliviaTwist]

she’s 11? No offense but she’s not a baby no more and may not want to always be up under her dad. Those puberty hormones are kicking in and honestly the bytchy attitude is about to get worse

 

[Easy-E]

I like how you added that

It really is tiresome and depressing because I really have an out to just leave this situation. Im not physically in the house and I could just walk away from it all but my mind won't let me at night. I feel like I always left something behind that I have to comeback and save

Think about gettin your daughter a therapy session

She may be dealing with a lot of stress, herself, and don't know how to communicate it

 

[cheek100]

What u mean by turn on her mom?

Sorry if if should know

Go deeper

For the record, she already acts out alot with my ex. They bicker like an old bitter couple a few times a week

Thats bc she allows it. Draw a distinct line on how u handle shyt from her moms. Girls mature quicker than boys. She’ll learn to respect u IN SPITE of what her mammy says. If u allow her to do what her mom allows u will lose.
All women turn on eachother even mothers n daughters.