My best friend is in his last phase of his Divorce, my other best friend is in the beginning phase....

[Bigen King]

Yo boys got ate up in divorce court. Men take blunt of the blame during divorce as the head of house you’re supposed to keep your household in order and that means your wife following your lead. When she initiates the divorce that means your failing as leader in the eye of the court and suffer the consequences which means belt to ass unfortunately when it’s all said and done.

 

[Born Rich]

All that to show us that you didn't comprehend what I wrote. It's a message board, it's damn near all gossip of that's your take.

no shyt…

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Met my dog working IT in DC in 2007. Cool , hardworking Bmore dude. Works IT and has a union job at the Baltimore Harbor. Just one of them good dudes that tried to do things the right way. College, good career, wife, house, kids. In the early days I could see things weren't right. I've posted about him on her before, but he would work 12 hours a day and would come home to an unemployed wife with no meal prepared. On top of that she was rationing out sex. To me, that's major disrespect. He help get her a Top Secret clearance and Lifestyle poly. They're banking, but she just keep getting worse. Fast forward to 2023, after years of complaining, his wife finally drops the divorce papers on him. He already pays for most of everything. Mortgage and 2 kids in private school. My boy making around 180k a year. He moves back in with his parents, gets a lawyer (5k retainer) + a few thousands every other month. After the lawyers do a financial colonoscopy on both of them. He finds out she's been saving (30k+) while his spending all his money on the kids and trips and upgrading their home. After a year an a half of depression and misery ( suicidal a one point). Plus kids shytting on him. It was settled.

1.Wife gets the house (she has to refinance and give him the equity out of the home) He has to pay her closing cost and tax.
Got the house for 315k in 2017, now it's work 450k. Says some how he's only getting about 20k.


2. Plus pay 1700$ monthly child support and pay the kids private school I think is around 6k a year.



My other boy i met in 3rd grade, been cool since. I was in his wedding in 2017. He's in Dallas. Wife always rubbed me the wrong way and she doesnt like me. Bcuz she known my ex, who's finer and 14 years young than us. I've never said anything to him bcuz he doesn't speak much on his marriage to me. His wife is a successful career woman, makes more than him. He recently opened up about how they're deciding if they want to stay together or not. He doesnt seem to want to talk much but he called her a b:tch...

Did these men see red flags in these women BEFORE marriage? You’re supposed to discuss your expectations BEFORE you get married. How the hell is she going to not work, and still not cook? One of my friends had the same issue, but at least she worked. He wanted to budget, and not splurge, she kept spending. If you share the house finances, you have to be on the same page. She never cooked or cleaned, and once they had a baby, it got worse. He was doing everything by himself, and she STILl cheated. He was going to stay for the kid, and was trying to get something going on the side, but she filed for divorce, and took the son.

He got a lawyer because he wanted primary custody. Luckily, he was smart, and the house was in his parents’ name, so he got to keep it. He got 50/50, so he didn’t have to pay child support.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

We were talking about Chris Rock, and would you say that he’s rich?



A rich man talking about “You don:t want to get divorced”.

As I originally said about your statement that Chris said, he lied.

You got my words confused breh

Rich: Can afford divorce. Do they have a right to be mad? Hell yeah they lose millions. Jeff bezos lost a billion and he had to be pissed. But they not broke and starving

Average: Can't afford divorce. This can really fuk your life up, hence the op

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Yo boys got ate up in divorce court. Men take blunt of the blame during divorce as the head of house you’re supposed to keep your household in order and that means your wife following your lead. When she initiates the divorce that means your failing as leader in the eye of the court and suffer the consequences which means belt to ass unfortunately when it’s all said and done.

This is stupid bullshyt.

Courts dont care. The attorneys tryna get paid, nothing to do with the man not being leader

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Did these men see red flags in these women BEFORE marriage? You’re supposed to discuss your expectations BEFORE you get married. How the hell is she going to not work, and still not cook? One of my friends had the same issue, but at least she worked. He wanted to budget, and not splurge, she kept spending. If you share the house finances, you have to be on the same page. She never cooked or cleaned, and once they had a baby, it got worse. He was doing everything by himself, and she STILl cheated. He was going to stay for the kid, and was trying to get something going on the side, but she filed for divorce, and took the son.

He got a lawyer because he wanted primary custody. Luckily, he was smart, and the house was in his parents’ name, so he got to keep it. He got 50/50, so he didn’t have to pay child support.

Yeah this is why dudes go 50/50 less chance of rape.

Also the 1st wife in the op doesn't make sense. If she was making good money and all that disposable income, no way dude she be paying so much.

I have no sympathy for him though

 

[Mugenight]

I know this is gonna sound arrogant as shyt but I would rather die before I ever let some shyt like this happen to me hell nah.

 

[levitate]

IG of the wives.

 

[Xyrax]

After the lawyers do a financial colonoscopy on both of them. He finds out she's been saving (30k+) while his spending all his money on the kids and trips and upgrading their home.

Been plotting to drop them papers on that boy for years then.... Underestimated how comprehensive the deep dive on the finances would be. Hard to hide money like that, and if she isn't intelligent she stood no chance at pulling that off.

Wild how foul some people are though. Poisoned the kids against him too it sounds like. I'm sure she was working on that over the years as well. Just making sure all those dominos landed in her favor when she pulled the pin on the marriage.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I know this is gonna sound arrogant as shyt but I would rather die before I ever let some shyt like this happen to me hell nah.

I wonder how do you avoid shyt like that?

Write everything in ya momma name or put it under a llc

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

I had to leave a few relationships like this in my 30s. I was so used to me and a chick going our seperate ways in our 20s when we got tired of each other that I was baffled when I got to my 30s and found women my age that will continue to be in a relationship they ain't feeling.

They making the Triple H face at you whole time . No sex, no romance, just frigidness, no cooking, no quality time, just anger and misery.

But then you try and give her key back so you can go your seperate ways `and now shes like

them type hoes be in relationships for their friends and family's validation. they don't wanna be the woman that can't keep a man.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

Mya did Corey the EXACT same way with her daughter she came with.

 

[knickscrusaderm]

Just made 5 years of marriage and it’s crazy the stories I see here compared to real life. How tf are nikkas picking they wives

 

[Amo Husserl]

he would work 12 hours a day and would come home to an unemployed wife with no meal prepared.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

them type hoes be in relationships for their friends and family's validation. they don't wanna be the woman that can't keep a man.

Nah, its just that no woman wants to be single. Even gold diggers want a soul mate.

A lot of them nba baby mommas think they got it made, wait till the hit 40. Being single aint it.