My best friend is in his last phase of his Divorce, my other best friend is in the beginning phase....

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

$180k/yr isn't rich

nikka you live at home
What the fukk do you know about being own your own and not beating your meat quietly so your moms and pops don’t kick you out
The average male salary is no more than $45k
If a man is making $180k he may not be rich but he is above average and standing on nikkas shoulders
Seeing $180k taken away from you in a divorce will crush a man
And nikkas in here talking that vet shyt
Look a woman can present her best self all the way until she either
Gets the ring
Has a baby
You will never truly know the person you are with and this comes from experience from watching my first wife switch all the way the fukk up after having my daughter
There are no guarantees in this life but death
There is nothing wrong with marrying for love but you have to understand that shyt is fleeting without a foundation
And most of you nikkas really don’t need a legacy with some of the ideals yall post on this site

 

[beenz]

Met my dog working IT in DC in 2007. Cool , hardworking Bmore dude. Works IT and has a union job at the Baltimore Harbor. Just one of them good dudes that tried to do things the right way. College, good career, wife, house, kids. In the early days I could see things weren't right. I've posted about him on her before, but he would work 12 hours a day and would come home to an unemployed wife with no meal prepared. On top of that she was rationing out sex. To me, that's major disrespect. He help get her a Top Secret clearance and Lifestyle poly. They're banking, but she just keep getting worse. Fast forward to 2023, after years of complaining, his wife finally drops the divorce papers on him. He already pays for most of everything. Mortgage and 2 kids in private school. My boy making around 180k a year. He moves back in with his parents, gets a lawyer (5k retainer) + a few thousands every other month. After the lawyers do a financial colonoscopy on both of them. He finds out she's been saving (30k+) while his spending all his money on the kids and trips and upgrading their home. After a year an a half of depression and misery ( suicidal a one point). Plus kids shytting on him. It was settled.

1.Wife gets the house (she has to refinance and give him the equity out of the home) He has to pay her closing cost and tax.
Got the house for 315k in 2017, now it's work 450k. Says some how he's only getting about 20k.


2. Plus pay 1700$ monthly child support and pay the kids private school I think is around 6k a year.



My other boy i met in 3rd grade, been cool since. I was in his wedding in 2017. He's in Dallas. Wife always rubbed me the wrong way and she doesnt like me. Bcuz she known my ex, who's finer and 14 years young than us. I've never said anything to him bcuz he doesn't speak much on his marriage to me. His wife is a successful career woman, makes more than him. He recently opened up about how they're deciding if they want to stay together or not. He doesnt seem to want to talk much but he called her a b:tch...

I can believe this. these hoes will take you to the cleaners.

I been thru something similar. when I went thru it, I had to pay child support for 2 kids, however, one is grown, so that's dead now.

I retained the house, but I paid her the equity in straight cash, and I did refinance the house again in 2021 to 3%. thank god my kids aren't in private school. as it sits now, I got 3 years of one kid on child support, and then I'm washing my hands of this for good

this happened in 2019, so since then, my house has appreciated 40%, so I won in the end, and I made all the money back I gave her initially two-fold, while she out in these cold streets down bad with these nikkas

my ex lives in texas and I saw her last weekend for a funeral. she mad cuz I'm not down bad, I'm making money, and my broad looks better than her and my kids like her a lot

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Plus kids shytting on him. It was settled.

He doesnt seem to want to talk much but he called her a b:tch...

 

[LiveFromLondon]

my house has appreciated 40%, so I won in the end, and I made all the money back I gave her initially two-fold, while she out in these cold streets down bad with these nikkas

Hope the kids stay with you breh

 

[Abstract83]

Good stuff and best of luck to you. Counseling is smart, life got in the way and we didn’t do it but over the course of the relationship we did a lot of trial and error on how we deal with conflict. I also took time to do some therapy along the way.

Thanks breh. I understand. I had therapy some yrs back. But I'm thinking about doing it again. It really helped me in the past.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

nikka you live at home
What the fukk do you know about being own your own and not beating your meat quietly so your moms and pops don’t kick you out
The average male salary is no more than $45k
If a man is making $180k he may not be rich but he is above average and standing on nikkas shoulders
Seeing $180k taken away from you in a divorce will crush a man
And nikkas in here talking that vet shyt
Look a woman can present her best self all the way until she either
Gets the ring
Has a baby
You will never truly know the person you are with and this comes from experience from watching my first wife switch all the way the fukk up after having my daughter
There are no guarantees in this life but death
There is nothing wrong with marrying for love but you have to understand that shyt is fleeting without a foundation
And most of you nikkas really don’t need a legacy with some of the ideals yall post on this site

Where are you getting these wild takes from?

Where did I say a man making $180k shouldn't be mad about divorce?

What do you mean I still live at home?

 

[ExodusNirvana]

Facts 100%.

I think most people's biggest mistake....is they simply don't date long enough.

They will be in that "honeymoon" phase of fukking 4x/day, full of lust, chatty patty on the phone etc. You have to get to the point where you know each others likes & dislikes. You know what the other person values....how they want to raise kids, spend money etc.

A lot of folks get married without knowing if they agree on basic shyt.

This is all I'm saying

Yeah people change as they get older, that goes without saying.

But some drastic shyt like...all of a sudden your girl is hypermaterialistic or wants to go out all the time

That ain't new, that was always there and you probably looked past it.

There are warning signs on who this person is going to be long term within the first 90 Days you're with them and that shyt WILL reveal itself.

 

[Shadow]

$180k/yr isn't rich

On the coli? No.

 

[Shadow King]

Facts 100%.

I think most people's biggest mistake....is they simply don't date long enough.

They will be in that "honeymoon" phase of fukking 4x/day, full of lust, chatty patty on the phone etc. You have to get to the point where you know each others likes & dislikes. You know what the other person values....how they want to raise kids, spend money etc.

A lot of folks get married without knowing if they agree on basic shyt.

You got cats (on here) fuçking up the game talking bout "a man knows in 2 weeks/6 months".

Like we ain't a few long naps away from 6 months ago.

 

[TRUEST]

There is also the trade of that person helping you work through non-relationship stress. This past week I had minor meltdowns about two different things and my fiancé helped me through each.

Be careful about this.

Men who are experienced will tell you to never, ever depend on your woman in your moments of weakness. You may think she consoled you out of pure love. But, there is a cost to that. You lose your aura of masculinity. And she’ll be liable to be drawn to men who remain mysterious and stoic about issues of life.

A few years ago. A woman on this forum said the only time she ever saw her husband cry is when their baby was born. And she expressed concern about hopefully that being the last time he does that.

Think about that for a second.

 

[The ADD]

Be careful about this.

Men who are experienced will tell you to never, ever depend on your woman in your moments of weakness. You may think she consoled you out of pure love. But, there is a cost to that. You lose your aura of masculinity. And she’ll be liable to be drawn to men who remain mysterious and stoic about issues of life.

A few years ago. A woman on this forum said the only time she ever saw her husband cry is when their baby was born. And she expressed concern about hopefully that being the last time he does that.

Think about that for a second.

You have to know your partner. In my case she doesn’t think that way.

 

[etrofllenrod504]

nikka you live at home
What the fukk do you know about being own your own and not beating your meat quietly so your moms and pops don’t kick you out
The average male salary is no more than $45k
If a man is making $180k he may not be rich but he is above average and standing on nikkas shoulders
Seeing $180k taken away from you in a divorce will crush a man
And nikkas in here talking that vet shyt
Look a woman can present her best self all the way until she either
Gets the ring
Has a baby
You will never truly know the person you are with and this comes from experience from watching my first wife switch all the way the fukk up after having my daughter
There are no guarantees in this life but death
There is nothing wrong with marrying for love but you have to understand that shyt is fleeting without a foundation
And most of you nikkas really don’t need a legacy with some of the ideals yall post on this site

Realest shyt ever wrote! I’m 44 now. I rather a woman live in her shyt and I live my shyt and I keep getting the representative version of her(once the real version shows herself) I decide if it’s worth my best interest or not. You can sleep over even have toothbrush at the crib but, no further. It’s not just about the money. I’ve consistently seen, experienced, and have conversations with brehs. Once that title gets attached for whatever reason(not all the time) both sides switch up. Not seeing a person every day or having extra responsibility of them on daily for some reason can keep shyt fresh.

 

[TRUEST]

You have to know your partner. In my case she doesn’t think that way.

So all those divorced couples didn’t know their partners?

You gotta understand, not every thought is stated. Continue like this and you’ll see what happens.

 

[The ADD]

So all those divorced couples didn’t know their partners?

You gotta understand, not every thought is stated. Continue like this and you’ll see what happens.

Well are we talking about those divorced couples or the situation you proposed?

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

You have to know your partner. In my case she doesn’t think that way.

Agree.

Obviously a woman doesn't want a man that's emotional all the time.....but if she can't handle a breh having the occasional weak moment, that means she's a selfish bytch and CANNOT be trusted. She will expect the man to accept all her baggage and bullshyt but wants a stoic wall of ice....and then will complain that's he's uncaring

We're fortunate to have good women frfr. A lot of dudes be out here with attractive psychopathic hypocrites.