Men of The Coli, How Do You Feel About Women Asking You...

[Abstract83]

Out on a date. A first date? Or approaching you first? Making the first move?



Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance?

Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why?

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out?

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened?

Answer my questions please


Just wanted to add that I consider giving you hints from across the room first, and coming up to you to talk to you first as approaching or making the first move as well.

I think thats how most women do it. A lot of questions there lol. I wouldnt mind it if a chick asked me out. I wouldnt think of her any other way. I think its cool cause Im not good at hints. U gotta be staring at me like a deer in headlights for me to notice. Thats how I got my current girl. Plus im the shy type so it wouldnt bother me. Chicks im not that attracted to use to be the boldest when it comes to approaching.

 

[VFib]

No, it's not the same. In many cases, I don't know whether her looking my way is a hint that she's interested in me or whether she's looking at something else. I've been in situations where I misread the hints broad, and ended up making an ass of myself.

When men approach, we are straightforward about our interests from the very beginning. All cards on the table. It's a "I'm interested in you, are you interested in me?" situation. There is no guessing game or confusion about that, it's simply yes or no.

And girls always do that quick glance, quick look away thing where I can't tell what the hell they're doing or looking at.

If you as a female insist on doing that, let me offer some advice: Make sure you make eye contact with the dude. Lock eyes with him for a good 3-5 seconds. Make sure you smile, no you don't have to do a huge cheesy smile, a nice little playful smirk will do. Playing with your hair when doing this can also help, but it's not required. If the guy doesn't get it the first time, do it again. By the second time, he more than likely has gotten the hint.

You have to make it obvious that you're interested, the same way we do.

The bolded: I'm guilty of this. Especially if he is very handsome.

The underlined: What if he is staring, but not smiling himself? I find men hard to read as well.

 

[Maximus]

The bolded: I'm guilty of this. Especially if he is very handsome.

The underlined: What if he is staring, but not smiling himself? I find men hard to read as well.

Him staring likely means he's already checked you out and likes what he sees. Men won't look at a woman for more than two seconds if we're not interested.

 

[VFib]

Him staring likely means he's already checked you out and likes what he sees. Men won't look at a woman for more than two seconds if we're not interested.

Interesting...Thanks.

 

[DaRealness]

Nothing wrong with it. I don't see why any chick would feel a way about it or why a dude would look down on her for it. I actually respect women who bite the bullet rather than chicks who feel it's the "man's job" to do everything. To me, nothing is worse than a female who expects dudes to be mind readers or plays those silly games and then wonder why dude is oblivious. If you're a grown ass woman, TALK.

 

[Spectre]

I've gotten used to it lol. The first time was weird....me: "wait what?..oh um...I mean yeah..I just didn't think u were into me...wait seriously?...um but why?" lol
After a while women give u their phone and say "whats ur number?" expecting u to put it in and they run game from there.
It's not all the time but it happens like I'd say like once or 2x a month lol. All my relationships are initiated by strong women. I'm more of the show em the best side of u make em feel great n then fall back, let her come to her decision #nothirstoverhere.

I like em but it never lasts long..then we go to being fwb. It's nice tho and very well appreciated aka I make her feel that she made the right decision n shoulda done it sooner.
I approve and encourage this behavior ALWAYS

 

[GetInTheTruck]

Na. I have to be the pursuer. I have to be in control, otherwise I lose interest fast.

 

[LadySimone]

I may be a bit slow here but I am not sure if you are agreeing or disagreeing with my point....

The reason though I tell some of my female buddies to not be afraid to put their bid in because to be honest when they think they are sending signals of interest to dudes....some dudes will not pick up on it...some will..

Now one might say it is up to grown men to be able to pick up signals but to me that is flawed thinking because individuals operate on different wavelengths .

Sometimes a more direct approach can be useful

I may also be out of the loop.....but I would never assume that a woman approaching me or asking me out means that I have her in the bag....that is a level of arrogance that I dont have but again that is just my perspective

I was agreeing with you. The bolded was a general consensus at lsa.

 

[RealAssanova]

its happened in the past and in every case had me like

in a woman's mind, very rarely do they approach you directly with their intentions for fear of rejection. Its always in a roundabout way. Like, starting up a random conversation about something hoping you get the hint or hitting on you but not being smooth about it.

i remember this stacked 18 year old run game on me last year in front of my mom my mom peeped homegirls game and hit me with a talmbout i better not go near that girl.

she couldn't take rejection and hit my cuzzin up asking why i never asked for her number, how she doesn't approach guys but instead they approach her, asked if i was shy, yada yada....

another time i was like cuz it was a girl i wanted and was surprised when my cuzzin told me she wanted my number. Shyt was till i guess she wanted more from our situation and i didn't.

 

[Aufheben]

it's cool if she's not a weirdo or stalker type i've had a lot of european and other foriegn women do this to me. i guess there is less of a stigma there
some women think they slick though they'll try to get your # on some unrelated shyt to make it look harmless

talking some i might need to call you in case i need help with such and such oh ight

 

[Bunchy Carter]

Why would you do that? So you're basically saying they were irght and women shouldn't approach men or ask them out. Got it.

OH, so you think women who approach you are trying to run game on you? Why would you think that.

It's usually the women who signal you first then do the little "i'm going to make you work for me, ignore your calls, play hard to get" tricks who are playing games.


What happened with her? She didn't like you after the date? You didn't like her?

I have no problem with women approaching men; women will throw signals, but some men may not notice them because they probably have other things on their mind ie. family, mom, bills, job and money. One of my older homies married a girl that he went to high school with; they ran into each other at a mutual friends birthday party and she told him she always like him since high school. They been married for more than 10 years; the funny part is that my homie liked his wife's older sister; but he said he dodged a bullet because the older sister turned out to be a bum lol.

No I don't think a woman is trying to run game on me; I can tell if a woman is, but I have not came into contact with all the game. I'm not knocking a woman that's a hustler; you have to get in where you fit in. If a chick gives me signals and tries to make me work; I guess you say play games, I'll cut her loose. Games are for the playground and I'm not a kid; there are too many women in LA.

Oh the girl that took me to the movies; she liked me, she did pay lol. After the movies she introduced me to her mom and dad; I was not expecting that and the next day I hit. But we did not date because I left for school. When I was at school we still talked and while at school I lost my phone and lost her number; that was back when phone companies did not keep track of numbers. Kinda sucks; but that was 9 years ago.

 

[Kidd Dibiase]

I appreciate the assertiveness.

Means she saw something she wanted and went for it.

 

[b_priest9mm]

If I were attractive enough to approach in the first place, I'd have no problem with it.

#teamugly
#looksmatter

 

[SadimirPutin]

the main takeway from this is that even if women dont approach more they should at least be more demonstrative or vocal about their potential interest

I hate to hear my female friends say some shyt like the type of guys they are interested in never approach or notice them

Im like

Open your damn mouth....say hello....do something

a short skirt and a 3 second glance aint the solution to your problems

 

[At30wecashout]

Out on a date. A first date? Or approaching you first? Making the first move?



Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance?

Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why?

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out?

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened?

Answer my questions please


Just wanted to add that I consider giving you hints from across the room first, and coming up to you to talk to you first as approaching or making the first move as well.

I was asked out on a date back in October. Unfortunately I never got back to the chick (she fukked up by asking me for a discount where I worked) so I didn't
see it through.

-I've been asked out by a few female "friends", and informally invited to a few events by strangers I've met while out and about.

-I would treat her better than a woman I asked out, as she has proven to have more courage than the average chick. I have a face and intimidate grown men who
are bigger than me. For a lady to get over that is a huge plus to me.

-I usually decide who I will ask out by sheer impulse. It's been almost 6 years since I've had a proper date, but when I was out and about, I would usually check a ladies
quirks for a bit and decide if I like her vibe. This could be with or without a conversation prior, as I go with my gut.

-When I was last asked out, it started with a date at Quiznos (rip) and some pool at Waveland Bowl in Chicago, and led to a FWB situation that lasted for 2 months.
She was a dope chick and I am glad to have known her.