I don't see a problem with it. Honestly, I wish more women were upfront, it would minimize a lot of headache.
Men of The Coli, How Do You Feel About Women Asking You...
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richaveli83
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I've only been approached by women I worked with or went to school with so we already had some type of relationship. I'm pretty traditional/conservative when it comes to male/female relationships but I don't mind a woman that approaches me once in awhile. Saves me a lot of unnecessary nonsense.
VFib
All Star
Probably gonna treat the one that comes for me better than the one I have to chase. If I got the feeling I'm wanted like that, I'll go out my way to show the appreciation.
Yeah, you seem like you're the type that's not going to find someone you actually like until someone makes you chase them.
lol
BedRoomI'z
All Money In
Got my eye on this lil valet driver at the Madison.
Something about the way a man handles a whip that gets the juice flowing.
Something about the way a man handles a whip that gets the juice flowing.
Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance? slightly. the surprise would catch me off guard.
Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why? not really. i treat everyone the same.
How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out? if theres no actual compatibility. if the whole interaction isnt interesting at all.
Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened? it was someone i was an acquaintance with. i was just on my phone and she just said, will you go out with me?
i literally did this in this exact order.
Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why? not really. i treat everyone the same.
How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out? if theres no actual compatibility. if the whole interaction isnt interesting at all.
Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened? it was someone i was an acquaintance with. i was just on my phone and she just said, will you go out with me?
i literally did this in this exact order.
I don't think women should just start stepping to men over all. But if you like the way someone is handling themselves and for whatever reason they dont get the point then women should 100 percent introduce herself.
Like @bmack21 said, I'm like to go out my way focus on someone that's focusing on me.
Like @bmack21 said, I'm like to go out my way focus on someone that's focusing on me.
Drake is God
Sweeterman
I get approached by women all the time I had a couple of them insist on putting their number in my phone.
The first girl who I ever really was in love with, like at 19 or so, was a really brief fling, we spent days together, flirting and drinking... but she had to just walk up and starting kissing me,"come to my bedroom" more like to just help me along then treating me like a piece of meat lol....so theres one, we are still cool, though rarely see each other or talk... truthfully I still am in love with her.
The clearest example of asking out on an actual date....none ended in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, but that wasn't based on me 'devaluing' her, based on those actions...She and I knew each other for a year or so, always flirting, and she finally starts saying "i am single now, we should hang out' and I just kind of ignored or didn't act, and after a few weeks she just texted 'hey lets have lunch, if you're free', and we did. Invited me to her house a few times. We always went back and forth after that, never really dated, just hung out here and there, though, still cool with her today. We have good chemistry, yet she's 5 years younger and seems to only seriously end up with the kind of 'nerd' types.
None of those dynamics matter to me, in the least, character and the person is what I am concerned with, not circumstances.
No. I don't mind.
Yes. For the simple fact that I would automatically be more comfortable around an acquaintance versus a stranger. But with that said, I wouldn't take offense if a stranger approached, as long as she's not ugly.
No. Why would I?
Three factors:
1. Her looks.
2. Is she alone? If she's with a crowd of people, I won't approach; if she's alone, I go for it.
3. Her overall vibe. I usually watch from afar long enough to get a sense of what kind of personality I'm dealing with.
Yes, several times. The broads I was attracted to, I accepted and we went from there. The one's that didn't attract me, I tried to let down easily. But looking back, I probably was a bit cold when I dealt with them. I didn't say anything bad about them(to their face at least), but I made up frivolous lies/excuses as to why I wouldn't date them, keeping future convos brief if I knew them beforehand.
In most cases I wasn't attracted to the broads that approached me. The pretty ones just give little subtle hints and expect me to read them. I wish they were more straightforward. In any case, I still go for what I want regardless.
Answer my questions please
Hope that answers your questions.
Why would you do that? So you're basically saying they were irght and women shouldn't approach men or ask them out. Got it.
OH, so you think women who approach you are trying to run game on you? Why would you think that.
It's usually the women who signal you first then do the little "i'm going to make you work for me, ignore your calls, play hard to get" tricks who are playing games.
I've been asked out on a date first and approached also
Both a stranger and a friend/acquaintance have asked
No I didn't treat them differently the fukk for that's disrespectful imo takes coruage just to do both Ithem
I usually decide depending on where this encounter is coming from if its online depends on the profile and how the convo goes
If it's in random places it depends on how she catches my eyes it's usually the smile and eyes that does the trick especially if she gives off the confident appeal too me once that's decide I just approach say excuse me and smile and make eye contact constantly so she knows I'm serious but also calm about it and introduce myself ask her name how she is doing carry brief convo and then ask her out pretty basic but works real well for me
As for what happened when I've been approached
This one time always stands out to me the most compared to the others
I was in club chillin dancing with a girl I use to talk too enjoying that night then we stopped as I was drinking my drink this one girl comes in the club I can't front she was bad ass helland she looked over where I was with my boy and the girl I use to talk too granted I was single at that time so chillin wit her was coo and having fun anyways girl walks over I tell my boy she coming over for you brace urself and she walks by him and she sees the girl next too me looks at her briefly goes too me drops it like its hott on ya boy then grabs my hand and takes me away from my boy and oh girl to another area of the club I was like
and then
When she took me to diff part of club she said she goes for what she wants even if it means rejection
Told her how u know that wasn't my girl
Said cuz she saw her bout a week ago kissing another dude plus we were just dancing and talking no affection from what she saw that warranted a couple then she told me since I'm assuming ur single stay with me the rest of the night in the club see if i like what I see and how the convo goes
At the end of the night she gave me her number and asked me out on a date
What happened with her? She didn't like you after the date? You didn't like her?
Why?
How?
Are you thirsty when you approach women?
i hate it when women approach me
they're rarely up to my standards, and when i reject them there's resentment and i gotta worry about payback and all kinds of sabotague
then there's the cagey women making a value bet
like those who would help me out when i was down
that's more like an uneasy truce than a great situation
so yeah, they get treated like a half-girlfriend and more transactional
every now and then you get a woman approachig on some..
"people don't know, but i'm really actually available"
"some people think i'm a lesbian- i'm not!"
but even that is a waste of their time
because if i was interested in them, i would have made my move already regardless
but whatever, it's cold outside so i'll let the other people tell it
they're rarely up to my standards, and when i reject them there's resentment and i gotta worry about payback and all kinds of sabotague
then there's the cagey women making a value bet
like those who would help me out when i was down
that's more like an uneasy truce than a great situation
so yeah, they get treated like a half-girlfriend and more transactional
every now and then you get a woman approachig on some..
"people don't know, but i'm really actually available"
"some people think i'm a lesbian- i'm not!"
but even that is a waste of their time
because if i was interested in them, i would have made my move already regardless
but whatever, it's cold outside so i'll let the other people tell it
Kenny West
Veteran
doesn't really matter to me.
the real problem with it is the chicks that do it are rarely attractive. the baddies are gonna want you to make the first move 90% of the time and the most proactive they'll be is trying to get your attention
the real problem with it is the chicks that do it are rarely attractive. the baddies are gonna want you to make the first move 90% of the time and the most proactive they'll be is trying to get your attention