Men of The Coli, How Do You Feel About Women Asking You...

[Lady.Libra.]

...Feminine energy taking on Masculine energy...
Upsets natural balance.
Mess.

 

[-DMP-]

doesn't really matter to me.

the real problem with it is the chicks that do it are rarely attractive. the baddies are gonna want you to make the first move 90% of the time and the most proactive they'll be is trying to get your attention

@Giselle

This is why i see it as thirsty, cuz the chicks that do it are usually the ones hard pressed. The chicks with shyt going for themselves, usually, dont have to approach a man, dont have to set up dates and dont have to propose to a man.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

No problems with it.

It probably will never happen to me, but If we hangout a lot (whether at work, off work, gym, etc) and you feeling the guy why not try.

Attraction has to be there by both parties though. Like I said, it probably won't happen for me.

And I don't have the patience anymore to ask a female out at the moment (even though I've been on a few "dates" recently). I've thought me and a chick was cool enough for me to ask her out and turned out I was completely wrong. I was just friendzoned and wasn't sure about it until after I asked.

I mean, you miss every shot you don't take, but I don't see why it wouldn't apply to women as well.

It's actually a lot easier for women than it is for us. 9/10 the guy won't say no or friend zone you. If a dude is smiling in your face all day he probably likes you.

It's rare for women to ask though because:

Afraid of rejection

Insecure

Got enough guys chasing them to not take a risk

Defensive

Etc.

 

[Giselle]

Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance? slightly. the surprise would catch me off guard.
Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why? not really. i treat everyone the same.

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out? if theres no actual compatibility. if the whole interaction isnt interesting at all.

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened? it was someone i was an acquaintance with. i was just on my phone and she just said, will you go out with me?
i literally did this in this exact order.

Did you go out with the girl who asked you out?

No. I don't mind.


Yes. For the simple fact that I would automatically be more comfortable around an acquaintance versus a stranger. But with that said, I wouldn't take offense if a stranger approached, as long as she's not ugly.




No. Why would I?



Three factors:

1. Her looks.
2. Is she alone? If she's with a crowd of people, I won't approach; if she's alone, I go for it.
3. Her overall vibe. I usually watch from afar long enough to get a sense of what kind of personality I'm dealing with.



Yes, several times. The broads I was attracted to, I accepted and we went from there. The one's that didn't attract me, I tried to let down easily. But looking back, I probably was a bit cold when I dealt with them. I didn't say anything bad about them(to their face at least), but I made up frivolous lies/excuses as to why I wouldn't date them, keeping future convos brief if I knew them beforehand.

In most cases I wasn't attracted to the broads that approached me. The pretty ones just give little subtle hints and expect me to read them. I wish they were more straightforward. In any case, I still go for what I want regardless.



Hope that answers your questions.

They were looking at you and giving you "hints" first, right? Do you consider that the similar to asking a guy out first or approaching a guy first or making the first move?

Someone said giving hints first isn't the same thing, I think it is. You're still making the first move and he can ignore/reject your hints.

& if she was giving you hints from across the room then you already know when you get over there she's going to say yes, so that is "having her in the bag" @The Maverick

...Feminine energy taking on Masculine energy...
Upsets natural balance.
Mess.

So what do you think about women being promiscuous?

@Giselle

This is why i see it as thirsty, cuz the chicks that do it are usually the ones hard pressed. The chicks with shyt going for themselves, usually, dont have to approach a man, dont have to set up dates and dont have to propose to a man.

I didn't say anything about proposing.


I consider looking at you first, giving you hints from across the room first, and coming up to you to talk to you first as approaching or making the first move as well. Is your answer still the same?

 

[twan83]

What happened with her? She didn't like you after the date? You didn't like her?

Date was
She ran her own make up business don't know if was a small or a big one didn't ask cuz don't wanna seem like oh if it's big I want her money type thing cuz last female that had money had a lot granted I never came across too her that way but she would tell me how guys granted thought she was attractive but were more for her family money than being with her for the right reasons that's another story for another day
But umm we ended up talking for couple weeks I did like her just didn't make it serious cuz I was real careful after last serious one so I took my time like I did with most didn't care if it took time but I wanted to make sure they worth Gf material and I was 100% sure myself
A certain Incident happened that made me her
The time we had sex my condom broke and I was like fukk cuz I had already got mine way later than hers so she was more than satisfied but what transpired had me like

Me: fukk it broke and I already busted
Her:
Me: why u smiling I ain't trying to have kids
Her: it's ok if it's with they are gonna be so damn beautiful I already know what names and I have the twin gene too
Me:
Her: u should be excited I have a good job ur in the army it's gonna be great and we're gonna be happy
Me:Fml

Thinking back broad seemed like girl off wedding crashers and shyt
Luckily she didn't get preggo
I ended up deading that shyt cuz she kept up with it days later
After I did heard she got with another military guy engaged
Then I ran into her later on after hearing that she wanted me too still hit and even told me raw hit her with the cuz I was like I don't care how sexy u are shyt is all kinds of fukked up cuz u engaged and I stopped messing with u for that reason alone for Christ sake

 

[Lo-Co]

Did you go out with the girl who asked you out?



They were looking at you and giving you "hints" first, right? Do you consider that the similar to asking a guy out first or approaching a guy first or making the first move?

Someone said giving hints first isn't the same thing, I think it is. You're still making the first move and he can ignore/reject your hints.

& if she was giving you hints from across the room then you already know when you get over there she's going to say yes, so that is "having her in the bag" @The Maverick



So what do you think about women being promiscuous?

I didn't say anything about proposing.


I consider looking at you first, giving you hints from across the room first, and coming up to you to talk to you first as approaching or making the first move as well. Is your answer still the same?

for a few months. it wasnt bad.

 

[Blackout]

Probably gonna treat the one that comes for me better than the one I have to chase. If I got the feeling I'm wanted like that, I'll go out my way to show the appreciation.

True

If a lady approach me like that Id try to out simp her.

We gonna see who can simp each other the most.

 

[-DMP-]

Did you go out with the girl who asked you out?



They were looking at you and giving you "hints" first, right? Do you consider that the similar to asking a guy out first or approaching a guy first or making the first move?

Someone said giving hints first isn't the same thing, I think it is. You're still making the first move and he can ignore/reject your hints.
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& if she was giving you hints from across the room then you already know when you get over there she's going to say yes, so that is "having her in the bag" @The Maverick



So what do you think about women being promiscuous?

I didn't say anything about proposing.


I consider looking at you first, giving you hints from across the room first, and coming up to you to talk to you first as approaching or making the first move as well. Is your answer still the same?

I know, was being hyperbolic.

I think your first two are what most women do, starting a conversation is cool as well. Shows your interested, but not pressed. But if the chick is asking for your number or trying to set something up, constantly gassing you up, etc its annoying and looks desperate quite frankly.

 

[Giselle]

I know, was being hyperbolic.

I think your first two are what most women do, starting a conversation is cool as well. Shows your interested, but not pressed. But if the chick is asking for your number or trying to set something up, constantly gassing you up, etc its annoying and looks desperate quite frankly.

I didn't say anything about being clingy annoying desperate "simping" kissing ass . Starting a conversation and showing interest first is considered making the first move and so is asking for numbers first or trying to set up a date. Not all at once.

 

[ottorocket]

Weird as fukk.

And no offense, but 80% of the posters in here didn't get any p*ssy last year and are afraid to approach women so of course they have no problem with it.

 

[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

Do you guys agree with this?

First and foremost, I am a woman. Secondly, I do agree with this 100%. You are what you attract. Even if a women were to attract multiple men but, example, the men you date seemed to always disrespect or treat you like shyt then you are doing something that brings that out. Because every man can't have the same issue. Anyone, male or female, will only do what you allow. That just proves you are what you attract.

 

[Mowgli]

She's definitely a future x

 

[Maximus]

They were looking at you and giving you "hints" first, right? Do you consider that the similar to asking a guy out first or approaching a guy first or making the first move?

Someone said giving hints first isn't the same thing, I think it is. You're still making the first move and he can ignore/reject your hints.

& if she was giving you hints from across the room then you already know when you get over there she's going to say yes, so that is "having her in the bag" @The Maverick

No, it's not the same. In many cases, I don't know whether her looking my way is a hint that she's interested in me or whether she's looking at something else. I've been in situations where I misread the hints broad, and ended up making an ass of myself.

When men approach, we are straightforward about our interests from the very beginning. All cards on the table. It's a "I'm interested in you, are you interested in me?" situation. There is no guessing game or confusion about that, it's simply yes or no.

And girls always do that quick glance, quick look away thing where I can't tell what the hell they're doing or looking at.

If you as a female insist on doing that, let me offer some advice: Make sure you make eye contact with the dude. Lock eyes with him for a good 3-5 seconds. Make sure you smile, no you don't have to do a huge cheesy smile, a nice little playful smirk will do. Playing with your hair when doing this can also help, but it's not required. If the guy doesn't get it the first time, do it again. By the second time, he more than likely has gotten the hint.

You have to make it obvious that you're interested, the same way we do.

 

[-DMP-]

I didn't say anything about being clingy annoying desperate "simping" kissing ass . Starting a conversation and showing interest first is considered making the first move and so is asking for numbers first or trying to set up a date. Not all at once.

ok

 

[EffYou]

Out on a date. A first date? Or approaching you first? Making the first move?



Would it be different if a female stranger asks vs. a female friend/acquaintance?

Would you treat her worse than a woman you asked out? How/why?

How do you usually decide who you will/won't ask out?

Have you ever been asked out by a woman? What happened?

Answer my questions please


Just wanted to add that I consider giving you hints from across the room first, and coming up to you to talk to you first as approaching or making the first move as well.

She would get treated a lot better than the hoes I have to approach first