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MEN, how do you do it? [relationships]
- Thread starter Matt504
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how does that even begin to make sense? if BW believe "nikkas aint shyt" and "there's no good BM", what does that have to do w/how BM feel about themselves?
you can attribute it to the racist infastructure, gang culture, high unemployment -- but its definitely NOT black women placing greater value on financial security
these chicks get pregnant by bums and dont even realize the ramifications until its too late.it could also be BM getting brutalized by cacs for centuries, it could be because todd signs their checks. either way, i've seen enough examples to know BW rarely take their attitude across the fence.
i did not deem BM valueless, i said BW often perceive black men as valueless.
and i know women will not submit to men they view as worthless, that's my entire point.
On the other hand, women like to be treated dirt. I ain't tryin' to diss women, but...
"A woman would rather be with a guy that beats her to death than one that bores her to death."
"A woman would rather be with a guy that beats her to death than one that bores her to death."
TheFemalePerspective
All Star
Learn the game, that's it. Capitalize on how the world works and use that knowledge to get the best possible partner. A lot of people spend more time DISCUSSING dating than actually dating, once you've been doing it for a while its not nearly as complicated as some of you make it seem
I wish posters like @kevm3 and @Turbulent posted more, they would shut down all these dating threads with a quickness
But you must remember that the knowledge you possess might be new territory for some. Yes, it may seem repetitive to you because you are at that stage in life whereby you understand social dynamics and this is all regurgitated info; nonetheless, if you can benefit someone, then it's always worth sharing it again. Every emotion perceivable to you has already been felt by another human being. That shouldn't stop people from sharing their story/knowledge. With each new generation, the same trials and tribulations are replayed a million times. However, the stories, no matter how similar are forever told from a new angle... to keep the tales alive and to school the younger generation; in hopes that they won't make similar mistakes, but the tune remains melancholic as heartbreaks just remain a part of life. Either way, we should encourage people to always talk about topics such as this... life lessons are never boring!
Sista, girl
TheFemalePerspective
All Star
how does that even begin to make sense? if BW believe "nikkas aint shyt" and "there's no good BM", what does that have to do w/how BM feel about themselves?
you can attribute it to the racist infastructure, gang culture, high unemployment -- but its definitely NOT black women placing greater value on financial security
it could also be BM getting brutalized by cacs for centuries, it could be because todd signs their checks. either way, i've seen enough examples to know BW rarely take their attitude across the fence.
Do you know how stereotypes are formed? As human beings we like, no let me change that to love, we love to put people into boxes. It's how our brains work to categorize everything. We create schemas (a cognitive framework) to collect information of the world. However, problems occur when NEW information that doesn't coincide with our previous schema is collected. Instead of CHANGING our previous info, we make countless excuses (call them exceptions to the rule) before accepting that our previous schema was incorrect. Do you catch my drift? This is how racists and prejudice people operate. You, my friend, have created a hideous schema about black women. It's very difficult to have a debate with you since you present your stereotypes as facts. I'm a black woman. @Teedot is a black woman. There are black women here who have countless times tried to tell you we do not put white men on a pedestal. You refuse to take us seriously because that would require some mental effort to change your beliefs, I understand. Whenever you're ready to do that, I'll be here. Until then... carry on. I just hope no-one on here is taking you seriously.
i'm not here to play the "we're not all like that" game
you're not even from the states, i dont know why you interject yourself in these convos
TheFemalePerspective
All Star
i'm not here to play the "we're not all like that" game
You sound like Hannity from FOX news. So what if I'm not from the states? I speak English, right? And I watch Hollywood movies here and there, so I'm clearly qualified to speak on your culture.
That was British humour in case you missed it
I'm all up for debates but since we're all adults (I'm presuming) let's stop with placing each other in boxes to fuel our own hidden agenda. If you're serious about finding solutions to the problems you speak of, then you're going about it the wrong way. Selective reading and sweeping generalizations never solved anything!
:tf:That was British humour in case you missed it
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:chloey:nah, i dont care about the exceptions. we have to generalize for the sake of argument. we all understand its not fair to place everyone into a boxed stereotype.
Kenny West
Veteran
my mom does this
same way a BW will turn on her "polite" voice for a white man on the phone, same way y'all act in relationships with them
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
will styles got some competition i see lol
GiGi
Slaying Bed Bucks™ since 1981
i did not deem BM valueless, i said BW often perceive black men as valueless.
and i know women will not submit to men they view as worthless, that's my entire point.
Kenny West
Veteran
fake like the second one aint true if you want to
GiGi
Slaying Bed Bucks™ since 1981
how does that even begin to make sense? if BW believe "nikkas aint shyt" and "there's no good BM", what does that have to do w/how BM feel about themselves?
you can attribute it to the racist infastructure, gang culture, high unemployment -- but its definitely NOT black women placing greater value on financial security
it could also be BM getting brutalized by cacs for centuries, it could be because todd signs their checks. either way, i've seen enough examples to know BW rarely take their attitude across the fence.
WTF are you talking about? Todd is signing Tyrone's check too.
Black women worked right along side black men on the same plantations in the same cotton fields. Black women were also lynched. Black women were raped and forced to serve dinner every night to their rapists so stop with the one-sided revisionist history. Black men seem to conveniently forget that black women were on the same journey of dehumanization during slavery. Yet when it comes time to fluckk a PAWG these same black men not only forget black women's struggles but they also forget that their Becky could've had them lynched for just looking at them just 50 years ago.