Kingshango
Veteran
Congrats and good luck.
Jack Trippa 3z company ho
Superstar
No social media. Don't be controlling. Respect each other's space and understand that you don't have to do EVERYTHING together. A random night out with the fellas is ok every once in a while, but should be really limited. Same with her.
Dated my girl for 10+ years.....then got married and been married for 5 years now 
Don't do it...not really worth it. People get lazy as shyt once they get that title
my homie got his girl on the 'we can just be together forever and not worry about marriage' tip.....that's the best thing you can do 
Do whatever works for you....don't have her stop working tho, that'll bite you in the ass
Don't do it...not really worth it. People get lazy as shyt once they get that title
my homie got his girl on the 'we can just be together forever and not worry about marriage' tip.....that's the best thing you can do Do whatever works for you....don't have her stop working tho, that'll bite you in the ass
1. You already know this, but keep God first in all you do.
2. It may seem weird at first, but surround yourself with married couples at least 5 to 10 years older than you, maybe even hang around older married black men and women in their 50's - 60"s who have weathered the storms of what a lot marriages go through.
3. STAY OUT OF DEBT AS IF YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON IT. STATISTICS HAVE SHOWN THAT THE NUMBER ONE CAUSE OF DIVORCE OTHER THAN THE DEATH OF A CHILD IS DEBT. #DEBTFREESQUAD
4. Communicate about your sexual needs and desires, don't assume what you think will satisfy your spouse. ALSO DO NOT BASE YOUR MARRIAGE ON SEX.
5. NYKKA DIDN'T YOU JUST HEAR ME SAY STAY OUT OF DEBT!!!
6. Do not spend more than 10K on your entire wedding including her dress, and her wedding ring. KEEP IN MIND, UNLESS HER DAD PAYING FOR THAT SHIII, THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY, AND RECEPTION IS ABOUT YA'LL ENTERTAINING YOUR GUESTS, DON'T GIVE THEM GREEDY HUNGRY NEGROES, AND NEGRESSES MORE THAN THEY CAN EAT CAUSE YOU GONE BE LEFT TO PAY INTEREST ON THAT BILL.
7. Always set aside time through the week to manage your household bills and budget. Plan for goals to achieve together every month.
8. ON YOUR WEDDING NIGHT EAT HER COOTA BOX LIKE A POPEYES TWO PIECE SNACK WITH EXTRA BUTTER ON THE BISCUITS
Happily married to a black queen, oh yea, and she high yella!!! #teamlightskin
Thx breh
DatNkkaCutty
Veteran
1. Throwaway phone
2. POF acct (outta state zip)
3. Undisclosed line of credit
4. Flexible work schedule
5. Hobby/activity (shooting pool/basketball) (plausible deniability)
Be vigilant
2. POF acct (outta state zip)
3. Undisclosed line of credit
4. Flexible work schedule
5. Hobby/activity (shooting pool/basketball) (plausible deniability)
Be vigilant
THE MACHINE
night owl
Living habits are pretty crucial though. Those 6 years might not cover everything
Anyways, make sure you plan more for the marriage than the wedding.
Kids?...How many?
Frequency of sex? (don't plan for sex lol but make sure you both are good with how much you are having)
PUT YOUR MONEY TOGETHER!!! Each get a checking and have a joint savings
Lifestyle? City or Burbs? Single family or condo
Business plans that involve each other or other people?
Plan on taking care of elderly in-laws down the road.
Good luck and congrats!!!
1. Throwaway phone
2. POF acct (outta state zip)
3. Undisclosed line of credit
4. Flexible work schedule
5. Hobby/activity (shooting pool/basketball) (plausible deniability)
Be vigilant
Reginald Noble
Banned
Since you've already decided to play the game on hard mode.....
1) Prenuptial agreement. Better to pay $1.5k (legal zoom) now and have a 25% chance it's thrown out then get rich later and have to pay insane spousal support while she drags out the divorce indefinitely and fukks some other nikka on the side.
2) #HOH - Threatening to leave (half joking manner) if she gains too much weight. Period.
3) Family support. No way you gonna stay married if you don't have peoples. Especially if kids are in the plan.
4) Don't do it if she has too many ratchet friends and never had a male role model growing up. Just don't. Also don't do it if her daddy spoiled her too much and she has princess syndrome. Lastly do not do it if she hasnt held you down during hard times or has ever initiated any "breaks"
5) Most important: DO NOT GET MARRIED IN CALIFORNIA, GEORGIA OR ANY "COMMUNITY PROPERTY" STATES. PREFERABLY GET MARRIED IN THE STATE OF NY. IT HAS THE MOST PROGRESSIVE JUDGES AND REASONABLE POLICIES TOWARDS MARRIED MEN.
1) Prenuptial agreement. Better to pay $1.5k (legal zoom) now and have a 25% chance it's thrown out then get rich later and have to pay insane spousal support while she drags out the divorce indefinitely and fukks some other nikka on the side.
2) #HOH - Threatening to leave (half joking manner) if she gains too much weight. Period.
3) Family support. No way you gonna stay married if you don't have peoples. Especially if kids are in the plan.
4) Don't do it if she has too many ratchet friends and never had a male role model growing up. Just don't. Also don't do it if her daddy spoiled her too much and she has princess syndrome. Lastly do not do it if she hasnt held you down during hard times or has ever initiated any "breaks"
5) Most important: DO NOT GET MARRIED IN CALIFORNIA, GEORGIA OR ANY "COMMUNITY PROPERTY" STATES. PREFERABLY GET MARRIED IN THE STATE OF NY. IT HAS THE MOST PROGRESSIVE JUDGES AND REASONABLE POLICIES TOWARDS MARRIED MEN.
Just pray you chose the right woman for you. As long as there's sincere love between the two of you, and both of you want/continue to work on shared goals eg family you'll be alright.... if not, you'll be singing that #gmb tune in no time.
Edit: Congrats breh!
Edit: Congrats breh!
YaThreadFloppedB!
The Patron Saint of Threads
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
nikka, you the Preacher. Put us up on game 
Illified infinitely
Banned
Don't have a kid unless you ready to give up all your freedoms. If you not gonna be a deadbeat dad. Get all that fun out of you because kids change everything!
the bossman
Superstar
Spoken like a real veteran to the game. props1. You already know this, but keep God first in all you do.
2. It may seem weird at first, but surround yourself with married couples at least 5 to 10 years older than you, maybe even hang around older married black men and women in their 50's - 60"s who have weathered the storms of what a lot marriages go through.
3. STAY OUT OF DEBT AS IF YOUR LIFE DEPENDED ON IT. STATISTICS HAVE SHOWN THAT THE NUMBER ONE CAUSE OF DIVORCE OTHER THAN THE DEATH OF A CHILD IS DEBT. #DEBTFREESQUAD
4. Communicate about your sexual needs and desires, don't assume what you think will satisfy your spouse. ALSO DO NOT BASE YOUR MARRIAGE ON SEX.
5. NYKKA DIDN'T YOU JUST HEAR ME SAY STAY OUT OF DEBT!!!
6. Do not spend more than 10K on your entire wedding including her dress, and her wedding ring. KEEP IN MIND, UNLESS HER DAD PAYING FOR THAT SHIII, THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY, AND RECEPTION IS ABOUT YA'LL ENTERTAINING YOUR GUESTS, DON'T GIVE THEM GREEDY HUNGRY NEGROES, AND NEGRESSES MORE THAN THEY CAN EAT CAUSE YOU GONE BE LEFT TO PAY INTEREST ON THAT BILL.
7. Always set aside time through the week to manage your household bills and budget. Plan for goals to achieve together every month.
8. ON YOUR WEDDING NIGHT EAT HER COOTA BOX LIKE A POPEYES TWO PIECE SNACK WITH EXTRA BUTTER ON THE BISCUITS
This is BIG. I used to be on that fairy tale "na you just stay home and take care of our kids and our home bae" steez. But I done seen A LOT of my partnas get burned BAD by that shyt when things fall apart and end up in court. If your exwife got 0 income, that judge will show you no mercy.Do whatever works for you....don't have her stop working tho, that'll bite you in the ass
THIS is great advice. Have all these crucial discussions BEFORE so that everybody on the same page.
If you Christian and she's muslim, how will the kids be raised? church or na?
Whos house yall going for holidays?
How yall plan to discipline the kids?
etc.
you'd be surprised how most folks just shrug and assume they'll figure it out along the way as these major things come up. Then she wants to do this while he wants to do that, can lead to fighting, cheating, divorce, etc.
