im not disputing that , all im saying it can be done simply. as well as being married that name automatically goes on the birth certificate, no need to sign it.
her post is basically saying, "it's her day so make her happy and if you can't afford it, do your best to try and convince her for a more reasonable budget because your happiness depends on her happiness".
i wasnt talking bout the spouse, i was talking bout the children
But, My post clearly stated if you plan on being with the mother of you kids and raising your children. It makes NO sense to not get married.
i know
That not what I'm saying at all. I SAID find a budget that the BOTH of them are comfortable with because women cherish their wedding day. Within reason give her what she wants. I feel one of the duties that comes with marriage is making your spouse happy, making them smile and happy they you chose them and vice versus. I got married at city hall and then went to Hawaii for our honeymoon. So I understand the logical part of spending less money on a all outs wedding but if he can come up with a number they are both comfortable with that gives her everything she wants her special day (I say her special day cause most men don't care) then why not do that? d
but what happens if they can't find an amount they're both happy with?
Its like 10K for even a small mediocre wedding
I only got married because my wife's family and my parents paid for everything
i understand what you're saying but that's not the problem. the problem is us. The problem is that most of us are scared to tell our women "no". we're scare of drama. scared of her feeling resentment. scraed of arguing your point and standing your ground. so we buy the peace for now (and in that case it costs you thousands) thinking it's worth it if you're gonna be at peace. but instead you should have taken the time to teach her right then and there. now you've just help make her sense of entitlement even bigger and will have to deal with it later down the line (and even worse).
