Married brehs..Wifey told me its 11 racks to tie the knot.

[Luchini]

11k actually sounds pretty inexpensive and congratulations on your marriage!

 

[Steve Piffler]

this is where I got married 10 years ago. destination wedding in Negril Jamaica. 3 racks for the wedding and 1 week in Jamaica.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

We went to the JOP, had a small reception then went on an extended cruise (2+ weeks). For our 10-year anniversary we're hoping to be in a position where we can take a world cruise (I know a few people that have been on one and they absolutely loved it).

Having a big wedding wasn't something I dreamed about as a little girl, I didn't wan't to be a "princess" and getting married was about my husband and I, not other folks.

 

[Prodyson]

What was your main reason for not doing the bolded? Considering her pops was all for it?

She always dreamed of a big wedding... I wanted my family to be there.

In retrospect you realize... A big wedding takes big planning and can cause big stress. And you don't even get to really interact with all those people at your wedding anyway. So all that doesn't really matter. Of course we didn't know that before hand so...

 

[mcdivit85]

basically. sure, figuring out ways to cut costs is good but dude needs to first get his future wife's mind right and get her to subscribe to his program. This is a GREAT opportunity to establish leadership. Type of problems that are actually a blessing in disguise if you handle them right.

If he's being led around by his fiance, it would be too late to establish leadership and her mind right at this point. That should've been done way before the ring was given.

According to the OP, he's been with his lady for years...even three years as his fiance and has two kids with her. If he isn't the leader at this point, then he never will be. You finish how you start.

I'm not saying that's his issue. Just responding to the quote.

Peace

 

[Captain Crunch]

Spend a quarter of your yearly income on weddings brehs

 

[FreddyCalhoun]

You been with you

We been engaged for a minute. (3 years )I been holding out as long as I could, but I feel the time is now.I let her know to get me a total and we would take it from there.She comes home today and tell me 11 and that's not with the rings,clothes and honeymoon.



We trying to do this within the next year.Either before Nov/12 or early April/13.

11 got a nikka like I told her 7 at the most She was like

We been down for almost 9 years,we got 2 kids and thinking about having another.I want to do it,but 11 racks just to feed a gang of people really ain't whats popping.

Sohh anyone got some cost cutting ideas for ya boy?

You been down 9 years breh...you can't act surprise that she wanted to spend this much money on a wedding.

Expensive taste don't just show up over night. You can try talking her down...But I think you gonna eat the L

 

[unit321]

We been engaged for a minute. (3 years )I been holding out as long as I could, but I feel the time is now.I let her know to get me a total and we would take it from there.She comes home today and tell me 11 and that's not with the rings,clothes and honeymoon.



We trying to do this within the next year.Either before Nov/12 or early April/13.

11 got a nikka like I told her 7 at the most She was like

We been down for almost 9 years,we got 2 kids and thinking about having another.I want to do it,but 11 racks just to feed a gang of people really ain't whats popping.

Sohh anyone got some cost cutting ideas for ya boy?

Yeah, wedding costs are crazy. Who really wins? The businesses. Florist, bakers, dress companies, tuxedo rental places, limo businesses, caterers, DJ or live band, hotels/conference centers.

I kept mind to below $9K. Wife wasn't happy with some things, but it's like I saved money for her parents, literally. She would have been okay with blowing the $1500+ on other wedding costs to make the day perfect. Her parents are rich either.


What's crazier are the people who spend more than $50,000 on a wedding.

 

[Hersh]

my wedding was 30k-- no idea how we did it lmao--fukk

 

[flusterose]

i understand what you're saying but that's not the problem. the problem is us. The problem is that most of us are scared to tell our women "no". we're scare of drama. scared of her feeling resentment. scraed of arguing your point and standing your ground. so we buy the peace for now (and in that case it costs you thousands) thinking it's worth it if you're gonna be at peace. but instead you should have taken the time to teach her right then and there. now you've just help make her sense of entitlement even bigger and will have to deal with it later down the line (and even worse).

women will do what women will do. they are not the problem. our cowardliness is the problem.

but it's the bride's family's responsibility to pay for the wedding. why are yall worrying about this?

 

[Steve Piffler]

but it's the bride's family's responsibility to pay for the wedding. why are yall worrying about this?

i don't know ANYBODY who got married and the wife's family paid for it. and i know first hand. i was a wedding photographer/videographer at one time....i did about 50 weddings and ALL of them were paid for by the groom or the groom and bride together. never the brides parents.

 

[Nintendough]

Justice of the Peace, a weekend in Atlantic City and some of the best pipe you ever had. Your welcome, lets spend our life together.

 

[Sad Bunny]

My wedding list is 150 to 200 if we have plus-ones

Imma have to talk my girl into eloping or a destination weeding with close friends and family

 

[Sad Bunny]

Man... you're lucky at only 11K. When I got married just over a year ago, our wedding cost about 21-22K. Mind you, her father paid for most of it though, and he is a retired colonel. We ended up dropping like 3K out of our own pockets. And consider this... my wife only paid $500 for her dress (plus alterations and a few additions), We had our wedding on a miltary base, so the reception hall was free after we spent a like $2500, and our food was only like $12 a plate (Thank God for military discounts). But we had a partially open bar(open until the money we paid ran out) and we had like 300 guests (I'm Guyanese so I have rediculous amount of family). And we did like 95% of the decorating ourselves. The only flowers we bought were two centerpieces for the actual ceremony, bouquets, corsages, and boutonnieres, and we still spent like $1K

The worst part is we barely remember the wedding cause there was just so much stuff going on. I remember bits and pieces and flashes of the whole day. We both came to the conclusion that we should have had a tiny/destination wedding and pocketed the rest of the money like her dad said we could do.

On the other hand, we got over 10K in wedding money. We told our guests we'd prefer monetary gifts as we had all the furniture and appliances we needed. We used that to pay for our honeymoon and to pay down our debt. So it wasn't all bad.

My suggestion. Make your wedding tiny. Brothers, sisters, parents, grandparents and your closest friends (Like the CLOSEST, not people you talk to 2-3 times a year). When you start ordering stuff, don't tell them it's for a wedding unless they have to know. Some places jack up the prices just because it's a wedding. Pocket the rest and KIM... spending 5K on a destination wedding and pocketing the other 15K is looking real nice right about now...

yeah i have many friends but imma have to just cut it down to

parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles.
and my closest friends and that's it TBH
plus-ones are too expesive, man.
i think a destination wedding is the way to go tbh

 

[bangedher_wholesquad]

20 k looks budget as fukk.

I hope you dudes ain't popping bottles at clubs but can't on your wedding day.

Even that show four brides wedding thing. Lowest budget I seen was the one op stated

I guess big fat weddings isn't your thing? Or is it cuz Coli just cheap?